Emotional Intelligence: Using the Laws of Attraction | D. Ivan Young | TEDxLSCTomball

[Applause] uh it's really good to be here and I want to First acknowledge these students because this is not easy when you're a student it's not even easy when you're a professional so can we give these guys a hand thank you I'm here to talk to you about two things that you would think just do not together those two things are emotional intelligence and the laws of attraction uh I was talking to Dr Thomas the other day when I came for the rehearsal and he said well doc emotional intelligence isn't that uh being aware and

having clarity about your feelings and the feelings of other people when you're in the midst of a set of circumstances or a situation with them and I say yeah that is definitely a definition for that and a very accurate definition for that but the truth about emotional intelligence goes far beyond having just clarity about people it's clarity about situations circumstances why are you there when you stop and think about I'm in this situation I'm in the midst of something now what is that something and more than likely that something is a set of circumstances or

a a dilemma you may even encountered that you attracted into your life and that's where the laws of attraction come to meet emotional intelligence like attracts like these things that you expect come to you what we believe is that if we say some affirmations if we take a moment and visualize something do a vision board or something of that nature that's what's going to happen but not true as a matter of fact if I say right now do not think of a chimpanzee wearing a red tie and a blue and white penstripe suit whatever you

do do not picture this chimpanzee wearing this red bow tie and this blue pinstriped suit what do you keep thinking of the very thing that I told you don't think about because that is where you are putting your emotion that energy plus motion and the more emotion you pour into anything the more of that thing you receive in other words you can say one thing and do another and as we well know many of us typically say all the right things but do we do them if you don't believe me go to somebody's house and

look at all the dusty workout equipment look at all the diets that they tried go to a gym and look at the people that signed up that are no longer coming because what we have done is we've taken the laws of attraction and misapplied them we don't take Serious the things that we feel we deserve enough in order for them to manifest into our lives and how do you stop that real simple monitor what you feel what you constantly think about that is exactly what you get if you keep thinking I'm I'm my luck is

never I everybody gets it but me I'll never have that I'll never live in that house you know that's for them whoever them or those people are when you constantly think about how much bills are what do you end up with more pink slips more bills when you constantly think about I don't want to gain any more weight or I don't I need to lose uh you know lose some of these bad habits that I have I want to stop smoking I'm not going to smoke what do you do the minute the pressure hits you

go get a cigarette and you smoke again you get frustrated and you eat again and as you continue to do these things your thoughts and your feelings equal the manifestations that you get in your life here's the million dooll solution to that first monitor what you think about your mind and and you know there's a lot of uh theories around this concept but I'm going to tell you this everything that is seen comes from that which was not seen that chair you're sitting in the clothes you have on right now with somebody's I did one

time somebody figured I don't know a long time ago guys should wear a tie you know we figured somehow that you know going on horses wasn't enough maybe if I can build this contraption I could fly like a bird everything that we do started out in the Unseen and someone call those things that are not as though they are and brought them into manifestation but here's the catch for you and the solution you must understand that conscious thinking is not your solution conscious thinking is typically reacting to some set of circumstances it's typically paying attention

to that which is before you that subconscious thinking you will associate that with stuff like have you ever driven home from work and you don't even remember driving home because something was just on your mind or you automatically get in the car and you just check for something without even paying attention to what you're doing your subconscious mind is the part of you that drives the outcomes in your life as you learn to master being uh sensitive to circumstances paying particular attention to the nucal things as we call it the little things if you stop

worrying about what happened in the past and feeling guilty or being anxious about what may or may not happen in the future and operate in right now you will train your subconscious mind to begin manifesting the things that you truly desire and a short way of putting this is everything in your life happens for a reason your responsibility is to look at these things in your life and ask this question why now why is this person getting on my last nerve well they're probably getting on your nerves because there's some part of your character that

is being reflected back to you through them that you need to work on we get frustrated and angered and almost just discombobulated by that which we do not understand you have to be willing to take the time in every moment every situation in your life and examine it for its meaning you have to examine it for its purpose you have to examine it to see what is this supposed to teach me right now in my practice something that I constantly tell people that I'm either speaking to in lectures like this or even in my office

is to stop being so reactive and become proactive don't don't wait to talk truly listen don't just see things look at them you know when you hear something you're perceiving it at the expense of all the white noise of the debris that surrounds it when you look at something you are deliberately ignoring things that otherwise could distract you it takes effort to be successful but the greatest effort is mastering how do you use your mind as we evolve and I'm not getting into some religious stuff so there will be no offering you don't have to

panic but we came from somewhere we received of a greater source and conceived when our parents decided to confirm that but my belief is before we get here we made a decision why we were coming and we came to experience the contrast and the challenge that everyday life presents to us see your creator which you are a co-participant in that creation is smarter than you think as a matter of fact you can figure out exactly what everything means in your life by asking one question one word why and it's okay you know even in dating

ladies it's good to look at a guy and say well why are you here what is it that you are supposed to teach me and not thinking he will probably tell you the truth the same thing is true about the things that you're trying to court in your day-to-day life in your career ask yourself why am I doing this what is motivating me to do this why do I feel the way that I feel about what I'm doing and you know you do not have to wait for an answer you can get an answer if

you shut everything down get in a quiet space and simply meditate and I don't mean Lotus position going um what I do mean is taking the time to be quiet to be still to allow your circumstances to speak to you in such a way that it resonates at the core you remember I said emotion it's kind of like that guer counter when you you're looking around for a metal object and the further away you get the further away the church get but the closer you get the closer those chirps get and the way that you

can parallel that to your spirit speaking to you is the better you feel about it the more you should do it and if it doesn't make sense to anyone but you all the better accept the facts but never ever confuse the facts with the truth seek the greater truth you know anything that anyone has ever done that has required more caused that individual to confront themselves they confronted their fears they confronted other people they confronted culture and had to make a decision that you know what you said I can't the system says I can't but

something inside me says what I can and when you seek the greater truth you get into direct alignment for that very moment that very reason that purpose that causes your emotional intelligence and the laws of attraction to become one as they become one you will find this sense of passion resonating causing and stirring up something inside of you as that passion is stirred up your purpose then beg just comes forth you know there's this thing if you ever watch a football game you don't see the guy sit there and wait on the ball to come

and you don't see the quarterback throw it after the gu's downfield right when snaps the ball and that receiver takes off that ball is in the air sometimes you have to run on faith you have to run not seeing the outcome but just knowing that there will be the result that you desire and as you feel as you believe you will receive because after all that which you seek ladies and gentlemen that which you desire that which you long for is equally seeking you have a great [Applause] day