[FULL STORY] I’m getting married, and my family is trying to get my golden child sister to walk...

I'm getting married and my family is trying to get my Golden Child sister to walk down the aisle in white I'm going to get my revenge here I am writing this long Tale in my honeymoon but it does feel cathartic to finally type it out and my husband is more excited about this than the resort drinks anyway this is a throwa away because I don't have a Reddit account and my husband the Reddit fanatic said he doesn't want this associated with his M as to why the Reddit guy isn't the one writing this it's because

he said since it's my family I should be the one with the honor of posting the story but he over my shoulder to help out I'm not a lawyer so I don't know if this works but I do not give permission for this to be reposted anywhere else so I think first it's necessary to give some background to explain how this Behavior reached this level and why our responses were as they were it's a long read I apologize so ever since I could remember my parents loved my sister more I don't mean in subtle ways

either if my sister accused me of something they'd believe it and punish me if I accused her they wouldn't believe even if there was undeniable proof they'd still give her a lesser punishment and try to find a way to scold me in tandem my birthday cake had to be a flavor she wanted hers did not and my parents always denied knowing I didn't like that type of cake they always bought her a bit more than for me we went to where she wanted even if it was an event that should be about me my sister

grew up spoiled and didn't like me just used me as a punching back but At first she mostly ignored me but then it got really bad when we were young teens I'm not sure what the cause and effect are but she found herself with no friends and her behavior got worse did her friends move did they ditch her because she was mean I don't know know because we were never close and my parents love to boast about her achievements but never ever mentioned any issues whereas with me they love to bring out any flaws of

mine constantly as teasing material I only knew she had none because we went to the same school and I noticed her no longer walking around with people anyway she had no friends I did I used to be decently popular my sister realized that and suddenly I stopped being the occasional punching bag to a hated person she needed to take down at all times she started accusing me of more stuff she accused my friends of more stuff my parents stopped allowing me to hang out with anyone the excuses ranging from they're not good people according to

your sister to why are you trying to leave us why can't you be like your sister and enjoy family time what saved me from complete isolation was extended family most of my family lived in the same Hometown and I got along with my cousins despite some age difference at one Gathering they invited me over to something I don't remember what and I sadly replied I'm not allowed to go anywhere when asked why my kid self with no filter replied that it was because I wasn't allowed to have friends since my sister didn't have any well

that reached the adults who apparently tore my parents apart later I was scolded for lying and grounded as if I had anywhere to go for a month but after that they allowed me some leeway so it was worth it and my sister changed schools I guess the humiliation of extended family knowing her social status was bad and she demanded to be changed and my parents immediately obliged even though it cost them more since the school was further away but she made friends on the new school however she never went back to the previous status quo

of mostly ignoring me I guess having felt the power of how badly she could screw with me and anger that I told family she had no friends she never let me go my life was still bad her friends would come over and Bully me and my parents called it light teasing I never called friends over because my parents were awful host to them or my sister would accuse them of taking stuff and they'd believe it I did become close to my cousins though since my parents never dared do any of that to family and then

I got my first boyfriend I didn't want to bring him home at all but my parents insisted well at one point we were separated and he came to find me to tell me my sister was flirting with him by which she meant she came over with skimpy clothing batting her eyelashes really badly and started telling him how bad I was and how good she was he was irked and ran off to find me of course my sister told my parents a different tale that my BF had instead tried to flirt with her but she naturally

refused since how could she do that to me guess who my parents believed now my BF wasn't perfect but I immediately believed him for a mean reason but remember that back then I was a teen and suffering from the unfair bad treatment I was very resentful and Moody and now hated my sister as much as she hated me with that disclaimer out of the way let's talk about looks I hadn't mentioned them yet because they weren't relevant my parents were are overweight and since they liked showing love via food giving you more food buying treats

Etc my sister was is also overweight whereas I was am not in fact I've always been kind of skinny because punishment often included no treats or snacks obviously weight isn't what matters personality is but my sister even then was already rude and spoiled even her flirting attempts were bad because she never learned to work for anything since she could demand and my parents would deliver added to that the fact that she didn't look like some sexy model even my self-conscious teen self didn't believe my BF would try and cheat on me with her anyway my

parents prohibited me from dating such a horrible boy I did try to keep going in secret but it was hard and the relationship ended I did get another but again my sister accused him of flirting with her when he refused her advances again my parents believed her I tried pointing out how this happened again but they decided that meant I was incapable of making good choices and kept picking bad boyfriends the relationship couldn't handle the Romeo Juliet situation and fizzled out again I would eventually get called a in high school as I was fine with

making out with boys and such but refused to have relationships thankfully it never got back to my sister or parents no my sister did bring one boyfriend home during all this time he was paraded with pride and my parents spent every second telling me how good he was and why couldn't I be like my sister and find myself someone like that until he stopped showing up and suddenly he was conniving bastard that tricked my sister oh well and the unequal treatment continued at this time she had more spending money her curfews were much better than

mine she was free to go anywhere at any time while I couldn't if I pointed it out my parents would say it's because she's older but when I reached that age I still didn't have the same treatment she had and when pointed out they deny they ever said that or claim it was because I couldn't be trusted like she was using my sister's accusations against my BF and friends as proof of my bad judgment time goes by and it's time for my sister to graduate she was accepted into a college not a very well-regarded one

and she had no scholarship or anything again because only her achievements were told to me I don't know which colleges she even tried for so I can't say how badly she was rejected I do know her grades were bad in school though because whenever she got a be we would celebrate I would usually get good grades but my parents refus to celebrate claiming since I always got those what was there to celebrate my parents naturally made a lot of fanfare and told her they'd pay for everything I was relieved she'd be going away not that

it made my life any easier she'd always come home every other weekend and somehow stuff kept missing from her room or some other issue she'd think of to make my life miserable my curfews were still strict Etc eventually my mom came to talk to me about my impending graduation I'm only a year younger than my sister she told me since they were paying for my sister's College they had no money to pay for mine so it would be better for me to start working immediately after graduation and waiting until my sister finished uni to see

if they could afford something for me oh and if I decided to stay at home I'd have to pay for all my stuff part of the bills and rent I pointed out I could get student loans mom said Yes except no that is because they were so caring towards me and I had such bad judgment they would decide if a college was worth my getting in debt or not I'm not sure how they'd stop me from getting loans but I didn't ask scholarships weren't mentioned they had no idea what my grades were anymore and never

believed in my capabilities anyway I didn't bat an eyelid I simply said okay my mom clearly didn't expect that and kept pushing maybe she hoped I'd throw a tantrum so they'd have an excuse to not ever pay for my college but I said nothing except I understood their position thanked them for caring Ing and that was that my dad later tried the same but I also refused to be emotional you see after a whole lifetime of their terrible parenting I never had any expectations towards my education I knew they would find an excuse to not

pay for mine and make my life miserable I never believed they would eventually pay it if I worked and waited for my sister to graduate I had been preparing for college for a long time I could barely go out my friendships were Slim So I had a lot of time to study and study I did because I saw College as my only chance to be free well the time came and I worked my ass off and got scholarship not to anywhere like eeve Leu or anything like law or medical school but it was a good

enough course in a decent college with a full scholarship knowing my sister would hate it and try to stop me via parents I put my achievement in social media at the same time I told them even forced myself to thank them in the post now they couldn't forbid me from going as they'd have to explain to family why not initially they were even a little proud and boasting about it and then I guess my sister got to them and they changed gears and even asked me if I was sure I wanted to go they let

slip my sister wasn't doing well in college and since she was smarter and had better judgment than me I'd suffer worse I obviously stuck to my guns they weren't happy but couldn't do anything College was my savior I started being happy I still contacted my parents and visited on holidays and such but since they refused to pay for anything I could excuse not going a lot due to money during this time I avoided introducing any man to them and my sister stopped going to college I know she didn't graduate because again they'd have made a

Fanfare about it moved back home paying no bills or rent but it's different my parents said and started working at the same company as my mom obviously thanks to my mom pulling strings this was all sold to me as a source of Pride oh well almost there I promise I met my husband around this time you know those people that say that if I was in X situation I'd have done something my husband is the type that really does I'm the person that is Meek and a doormat in any situation and then can't sleep at

night wishing I had done something had thought of something witty to say Etc I'm the person that can't help but cry when I'm angry my husband is the guy that claps back immediately he loves drama and that he loves to resolve it he's the guy that if he doesn't immediately reply to a slight you better start worrying because he won't forgive and forget he's just doing something worse for Revenge he's the one that wanted me to post here and wanted to post on a nuclear Revenge board too but decided what we did wasn't nuclear people

were baffled I got together with him but just because I was incapable thanks to my upbringing probably of acting like him it didn't mean I didn't like it I love that my husband does what I can't and he treats people well as long as they do the same to him when we discussed marriage we decided we didn't care much about the ceremony due to to our budget as we'd rather spend on a dream trip to Europe for our honeymoon as for where to do it since his family was spread out and mine was still mostly

concentrated in my hometown we decided to do it there we weren't living too far off either so we could take some long trips during the weekends to manage stuff plus there was some work flexibility so we could stay in my hometown for a bit too if needed we sent out the engagement announcement and the save the date for a few months later well at this point my parents naturally demanded they meet my man I wanted to grow a spine and refuse but was having a hard time the distance had made me think maybe my parents

weren't so bad well my husband looked like I canceled Christmas when I told him I would at least ensure they were never alone with him see he had been getting ready for this he even bought a highquality recorder he could hide in a pocket to record it all he was stoked thinking of all the ways he could refuse my sister's advances insult her and then spread the recording of her attempts to my family so off he went alone and excited to meet them and came back later euphoric babe babe you won't believe the awful they

wanted babe we can them over so bad there's so many possibilities I was confused and wanted to hear the recording but he smartly told me it was better to listen to him first or else I'd misunderstand him well he went there and instead of the flirting my parents and my sister sat him down after some grumbling about not being okay with him my judgment Etc they proclaimed they were willing to pay for my wedding on one condition my sister would walk down the aisle on my wedding first in a wedding dress their excuses were that

it wasn't okay for a younger sister to marry first so it was only fair if my sister had at least the experience of it on my venue with pictures being taken and the dress and she'd have a cake later too Etc my husband will now type his part hey vengeful husband here Hell hath no fury like a pro Revenge Instant Karma nuclear Revenge lurker when his beloved is scorned that said as much as my wife T she's my wife now paints me as this quick witted dude I admit my neurons all but short circuited when

those folks legit suggested that like some sort of great gift even Troy would rather take in the horse a second time me think alas after my brain rebooted I did have a whole ass catalog of insults about to spew out but something in my soul whispered in my ear like the devil string these along so I said I needed to think see how my wife back then fiance would react and then ran out of there before I could give away my nefarious plans back to me the wife so my husband sincerely recounted how my parents

wanted even my wedding to be about my sister with a grin on his face and had the recording to prove it I was shocked the distance had sof how bad they treated me and I thought even they wouldn't go so far thankfully my husband insisting on the angle of Revenge helped me not go to a bad head space we had a blast thinking of ways to screw them over this from ridiculously outlandish to what we thought was feasible we then called his much more level-headed brother when we decided on a plan it involved having two

venue addresses giving them the wrong one Etc well level-headed brother scolded us for it while he acknowledged he would never be able to convince us from retaliation he at least showed us something like that would be hard to pull off some of our other ideas were also at danger of getting sued so we eventually settled for the most benign plan act like we agreed but then hire security and don't let her in obviously if that was all it wouldn't be Pro Revenge the rest is all mostly my husband by he wants me to do the

honors so here goes just important to mention everything he did was previously discussed with me and were our mutual ideas he went back to my parents said he probed and thought I wouldn't be down with it however he didn't see the issue and not wanting family to fall apart would be down to helping them do it he pointed out I don't like conflict so if I was surprised with it I might not throw a tantrum in front of all the people on the other hand marriage is a big thing so who knew if I'd lash

out thus he suggested a compromise they'd help pay for stuff this way I would feel even more pressure to not say anything as Not only would we be public well with our families there but I'd be grateful to the help they gave and that would mify me he said my parents looked surprised by my grown sister starting skipping with joy literally so like a kid so was accepted important my husband also claimed that due to some bad judgment in boyfriends in the past these words were all my idea and I'm so so proud of using

their words against then lol I was distrustful and controlling and liked to check his phone and stuff to ensure he wasn't cheating on me as such it was imperative that nothing of this plan was ever put in any writing for any discussion pertaining to my sister walking down the aisle before me he'd go over to their house to talk and so began the months of deception where my parents and sister thought they were tricking me and my husband and I were milking them how well rather than pay for the wedding than lay low of course

my parents wanted input in everything some stuff that meant a lot to me the songs and color palette my husband would convince them to let it go to keep me in line but since we never really cared for the ceremony to begin with everything else was game or so they thought what we did was thus we'd go say to check the drink and menu options we'd then accept the lowest or second lowest priced option my husband would then secretly take my sister there to also try it out then sigh and say it's a Pity we

don't want to abuse my parents Goodwill so we wouldn't get the best options cue my sister demanding my parents pay for the best my parents would then tell me not to worry and they'd pay for the most expensive same was done with photographer flowers my husband handed my sister a bouquet of the flowers we wanted then sadly expressed how I wanted some other tasteless flowers CU my parents telling me they wanted us to go with said flowers and they'd pay for it wedding dress we hit a minor snag here my parents wanted me to use

a hideous dress okay not outright hideous but it wasn't my style and wouldn't look that good on me we had planned on saying yes then simply not using it but my mom sent me a message about it so there'd be proof I said okay we had to go with me refusing in text and standing my ground my husband went over there and said he'd see what he could do my sister suggested ruining my desired dress so I'd be forced to wear the other one he pretended to agree during all this time they really kept Communications

outside any text we made sure that it happen by when my sister tried messaging my husband have me reply to here this solidified the I'm controlling and neurotic claims my husband was making so they believed it and never risked anything in writing and maybe some people might not like the thought of their partner going around and talking badly about them to family but I'm such a doormat that the thought of being painting as this controlling and dangerous is extremely funny to me and I egged him on to do it I guess I have a warped

sense of humor lol oh and my sister did try to flirt with him but he acted conflicted also to really sell that he was with them my husband would pretend to tell them things without my knowledge but he never told them we hired security it was really funny my husband and I who had sincerely considered a courthouse wedding to focus cost on our honeymoon having this extravagant expensive wedding and barely spending a dime we called it backpay for emotional damages from my parents LOL I think my husband okay he just confirmed I'm right lol was

enjoying the whole tricking them more than planning our wedding LEL I didn't think it was possible to witness a guy beaming at the thought of wasting his whole Saturday doing a car trip to discuss wedding details with his in-laws but here we are soon the day came the plan my parents sister husband had come up with was wait until everyone was seated since the bride always comes out late they'd have my sister arrive at that precise time to avoid me seeing her and trying to stop it and walked down the aisle by the time I

heard what happened it' be too late to do anything as for my dress we saved some of the leftover fabric from my dress alterations and my husband took that to my parents place sister still lives with them even now and showed them as proof he'd ruined the dress then said he had to go back to me as I was raging and he needed to calm me down he'd see them at the wedding we made sure to keep our actual security hidden at first as the guests and my parents arrived all they could see was a

woman with a list of names to check only after my parents arrived and sat down did we bring out security a guy that looked like a bodyguard we told him to not allow anyone my sister in and even agreed on paying a handsome tip if he didn't reveal we told him that soon the time arrived my parents got a text my sister was less than 5 minutes away so my dad went and told people to start my bridesmaids had been told to follow his lead beforehand so they obeyed without checking with me after after they

all went down and took their places my dad stood up at the entrance as if waiting for me during this a friend not in the wedding party texted me to get ready this because if my husband or bridesmaids Etc took out a phone and started texting people might notice this friend was in on the plan she's my husband's friend as willing to help stir drama as he is and didn't care about being a bridesmaid or anything well as soon as my dad took his position the bridal song started playing the doors open and I come

in my dad looked aast at me being there he tried glancing behind me but you can't see the venue entrance from where we were so he couldn't see what happened to my sister and then his phone rang I saw the caller ID and it was her he just left me there with a mumbled something came up there were gasps and confusion all around the friend in on it loudly asked what happened I lied and in a teary voice said he told me it wasn't supposed to be me there it's not what he said but my

husband and I agreed that if he dared leave me I should say that to make him look the worst possible as for the tears I wish I could say it was just my stellar acting but no despite everything a part of me didn't think he'd go as far as abandon me there that the sister thing wasn't true but an elaborate joke I don't know I was hurt still am so I was sincerely trying not to cry the friend then loudly went what did he mean by it shouldn't be you so that as many people as

possible could hear and spread it then went I will go in check and ran off we decided to do this to make her create hell with the security and stop my dad from coming back and stopping the ceremony or something at some point my mom also left at this point my husband's dad quickly ran over and took my arm he'd been for warned he might need to watching him run desperately to me helped me smile I walked down the aisle to Whispers as people discussed what happened some apparently left to check too when I reached

my husband though all was well he made me feel better joking my sad face was so real I deserved an Oscar and don't worry he'd rake them over the coals for what they did LOL we got married without a hitch my parents didn't come back I did notice a lot of people leaving then coming back during the party but no one dared tell me what was happening someone did come and whisper in my husband's ear and he went out he came back after a while with a thunderous expression but whispered in my ear he needed

to go hide somewhere before he broke character and started smiling L well what happened is it worked the following is the summed account from friends family the security guy and my husband that I received afterwards my sister did arrive in a wedding dress the security refused to let her in per our agreement he claimed she must be in the wrong venue because there was already a bride and yes we tipped him really well as promised my dad went there and tried threatening him with police claiming he never heard of him so couldn't be working there

the security agreed to the police since he was hired by us and doing his job my dad realized by then it would be too late and tried to demand he let my sister in at this point the friend came over started shouting and insulting my sister and asking what was going on basically stalling my mom soon came and eventually other people at this point the wedding plan was bust all my parents could do now is damage control as everyone that learned about it was a gast they'd try and pull it and screaming and berating them

the three naturally said it wasn't a secret and threw my husband under the bus at this point my husband was summoned when he came over he put on his best look of confusion and denied denied denied to quote him Gaslight gatekeep girl boss L he denied having ever agreed to something so ridiculous when they insisted he did he demanded proof and of course they couldn't produce any all text exchanges they could produce were about normal wedding decisions my sister was scream crying and apparently sat on the floor kicking her legs like a kid my dad

looked like he'd beat my husband but security and other people held him back of course they said they had no proof because my husband told them not to text my husband laughed and said wow how convenient huh then again repeated why would he ever agree to something so up tore them a new one about being awful parents then said he wasn't going to let their stupid plans and lying get in the way of his wedding and went back to me no one believed them the venue had cameras but they refused to show me the recording

as that was only for security purposes but some people filmed parts of it watching my parents and sister get ripped apart by any and everyone that came out to check the drama was delicious after years and years of being accused of stuff and not believe to watch them have a taste was one of the best wedding gifts my mother was crying my dad kept changing from purple to White my sister was still on the floor crying and screaming they kept insisting on that my husband was in on it but people kept asking why would my

husband agree why was there no proof why did they want my sister to do this to my wedding and they had no good answer to any of it eventually they were told to leave and had no choice but to do so my dad apparently had to drag my sister up as she refused to leave the ground again people said nothing to me all night I guess they wanted to spare me and maybe it's because I was the bride and not just a guest for once but it did feel like everyone was making extra effort to

be nice positive and excited about everything my husband says all the expensive they were eating drinking certainly helps LOL we had a blast my husband maintained the forced angry face for only a short while before breaking out in smiles again after that we went to the hotel to catch some sleep before going to our honeymoon speaking of which my parents did try to pay for our plane tickets but we thought that was risky as they could try and cancel them or something so we refused of course since that whole thing the three have tried to

contact me I've refused calls because my husband insisted on keeping a paper trail I smart thing because my sister did eventually message me I won't repeat it as it was very unhinged and didn't make much sense but the important part was that she blamed me for her humiliation called my husband a two-faced snake that fooled them for months he wants to print and put that on our wall lol and hoped but was also certain it had happen that I'd get cheated on by him she did also suggest he was cheating on me with her actually

my husband took my phone screenshot the call logs screenshot my sister's message screenshot some messages of my parents demanding I pick up the phone and sent it all to my family group chat and sent screenshots of messages to him where they called him names and threatened him but he kept up theou delusional I never agreed to anything shtick and even threatened to sue them for defamation and harassment he wrote a message in said group chat begging my family for help as I was now being harassed by them constantly he begged family to help stop them

from trying to ruin my honeymoon now that they had failed to ruin my wedding then finished neatly with a request that they don't share our locations to avoid my parents sending my sister over and and then claiming he had somehow agreed to pretend to her in our honeymoon suite LOL my family assured him they'd take care of it and indeed since then we've had silence my husband is a little disappointed my sister didn't disobey so he could tattle again while tearing her a new we'll see if it'll last all in all while I obviously would

prefer to have a normal loving family at my wedding at least for once in my life they not only failed to ruin something meaningful to me but I got them back extra info do I know why they treat me like this I've been ask this question a lot so I assume you all will think the same I have wondered this all my life and I still don't know I tried asking when I was young but they denied any difference and scolded me for acting spoiled so I quit trying I've thought of some many possibilities but

based on my observations I think it's this I was unplanned they took a while to have my sister so she was not only wanted but also like a miracle child after so long however given our age difference is quite small I think they didn't expected to have a kid so soon or easily and didn't use adequate protection way too soon after my sister's birth and maybe didn't notice my mom was pregnant until too late so they were saddled with an unplanned baby while still dealing with a newborn and they're not that well off so having

the extra expense likely didn't help so they resented me but that's my conjecture regardless I've accepted the answer won't truly matter what they did to me was unwarranted no matter what did they really think this would work my husband and I talked and we have the theory that they never wanted to do this at all we think my sister threw a tantrum over me getting married first when she barely gets dates and they gave my husband in that outlandish proposition as in they didn't want to pay for my wedding and didn't think we'd accept or

that it would even look good for them to do it but by suggesting it and being refused they could look like the good guys to my sister while having an excuse to not give me a dime but then my husband accepted it and they couldn't backtrack or else risk my sister turning on them