when you're trying to convince someone to see things from your perspective or get them to do what you want there are two steps the first step is to get inside their mind and the second step is to speak to their awareness by choosing the right words to influence their thinking this concept can also work when you meet attract or try to win over women you can influence a woman's thoughts and actions using the techniques I'll explain how to enter her inner mind and the psychology behind the words you use the fastest way to enter someone's
inner mind is by building a connection so how do you do this have you ever felt that instant bond when you click with someone making a connection means deliberately creating that kind of match with another person it's easier to convince someone you connect with than trying to convince someone you don't your brain is constantly and unconsciously processing a large amount of information about people a significant part of this information is non-verbal involving things like facial expressions and Body Language the way a person sits walks and moves so we are going to focus next on non-verbal
messages think of the human body in three parts the head the body and the feet these parts send non-verbal messages to others making a connection with someone is based on the idea that whatever your body does affects how you feel inside you can figure out how people around you are feeling by watching how their bodies and faces move then if you copy what they do you might start to feel the same way they do this happens because there's a link between your body and your mood before you try this with others here's a simple way
to see how it works next time you're out walking try this walk with your head up look at the skyline the the tops of buildings or the tops of trees for a few minutes smile while you walk even if the smile isn't real then walk with your head down look at the ground slow down your pace put your hands in your pockets and drag your feet walk like this for a few minutes notice how your mood changes between these two ways of walking all you did was change your posture right you didn't think about anything
happy or sad to make you feel good or bad it was all connected to how you held your body so if changing your posture directly affects your mood it means that when you copy someone else's posture you'll start to feel the same way they do this helps you understand how they feel it's a way to get into someone else's mind to understand someone else's mood it's time to adjust your own mood to theirs so you can match and make a connection it's easy to adapt your feelings to someone else's mood once you've observed their posture
pause for a moment and Define the mood you've noticed for example bored happy sad curious enthusiastic calm or nervous now that you've named both your mood and the other person's mood you have everything you need to adjust as needed so how to change someone's mood choose someone you want to read at this stage make sure it's a pleasant person with whom you don't have a serious connection like the cashier at the supermarket your neighbor or someone in the elevator you don't have to choose your relatives or close friends this exercise is only for practice in
the end you'll be able to apply it to anyone especially a beautiful girl you want to approach read The Chosen person you know how to do that use your body to mirror as Define his or her mood for example happy sad disoriented or angry immerse yourself in that mood use your inner dialogue to repeatedly think of the word that defines the mood make sure your thoughts align with the mood you want to adopt recall memories from the past when you felt that way remember the images you saw the feelings you had and the sounds you
heard truly experience that mood approach the person while maintaining the mood speak normally keeping the mood consistent until you're both on the same emotional wavelength continue until you make the connection so you can change the other person's mood once you've established the connection you'll know you'll just feel it it's like that feeling when things are going the right way you've matched now change the person's mood to the one you want and you will also gradually shift into that mood focus on gradually changing your gestures posture and smile as you know this will change your mood
observe the other person's mood as it changes along with yours now you have made the connection Bingo you have just influenced another person at a subconscious level by using nonverbal communication smart isn't it attention there is a big difference between adapting and imitating you can adapt to some aspects related to others moves in a subtle way without drawing attention don't copy others gestures as in the mirror this is called imitation and will only make you embarrassed you have learned so many things about making connections and non-verbal communication think about how many things you can do
now consider all the information that others were sending out and you were unconsciously picking up the more you practice the more skillful you will become and the more skills you have the more you will achieve and now that you know how to get into a girl's mind let's see how to make her do anything you want you can improve your chances by the way you use words it's not only about what you say but also how you say it there are ways to use your words to have a psychological effect on the other person's subconscious
to block their refusals and increase the chances they'll agree with you and give you what you want but you need to make a connection first listen to me carefully and choose the phrases that you think suit you best ignore the ones you wouldn't ever say you can use these phrases wherever you want use them to convince others once you've created a connection emphasize the obvious things if you want a person to believe that something is obvious just say it for example we both know it's worth it once we go there as you already know we'll
have fun together if we go to that party it's obvious that we have the best offer on the market ask a question that is not really a question you already know everything about that don't you if you want to convince a person's subconscious to agree with you just State what you want them to agree with and add a question at the end it's easy isn't it probably it's time for another drink isn't it my plane is about to take off there's no problem if I skipped a line is there caution this approach is usually useful
in everyday life surely you can't rely on this approach to get someone to marry you have sex with you or give you all the money they have by the way make sure that the tone of your voice decreases at the end of the question question not increases as it would in a usual question otherwise you will invite the other person to answer negatively get them to say yes perhaps you already know this but here's another method say let's and continue with what you want to do let's walk a bit more let's have another one let's
go to my place it's like a disguised order compare it with should we walk a bit more should we have another one should we go to my place these questions allow others to refuse you more easily the more you make others say yes the more likely they are to continue saying yes by getting them to say yes several times in a row you train their minds to comply think of it this way their mind enters a yes mode so save the thing you really want from them for the end once they have said yes several
times this or that shall I bring you a cocktail while you wait or do you prefer a glass of wine said the waiter the reason why it worked is because he offered me two options both suitable for him the only choice he offered was between a cocktail and wine he didn't ask if I wanted to drink alcohol or not a clever way to will ask even before asking if you want water or wine red or white sir or still or sparkling but please don't try the line my place or your place it's been used Too
Many Times anticipate the future you will love this just tell them how you expect they will react to something by telling them that they will react that way I know you'll be thrilled about this I know you'll want to repeat the experience wait until you hear what I'm going to tell you I know you'll be impressed logical leaps use the word therefore or the phrase this means that to make a connection between two concepts a connection which may or may not exist the first concept is always true the second one the one you make the
connection with is the one you want others to agree with for example you're watching this video true this means that you like it maybe true and I certainly hope so or we've been together for 3 months therefore I must be serious about this relationship I've been working at this company for 3 years and have proven my loyalty this means that it's time to take action and discuss my position in the company and my salary when is the most suitable moment and I know you might think that I went off topic but what you're learning in
this video isn't necessarily limited to just goals it's something you can apply in all areas of your life order and Order think about it and call me the first command is the one you truly want the other person to follow but if you immediately follow it with another command which you think will definitely be followed the person will hear only the second one and usually will follow the first one without questioning it's late and you're tired take out the garbage and come to bed early come over to my place to have a dream can tell
me everything I shouldn't tell you this but this approach creates a feeling of loyalty and trust it makes others feel special also encourages them slightly at a subconscious level to treat you as a special case and consider you their Confidant but he is always late to work but he's good at what he's doing he's good at what he's doing but he's always late to work what's the difference between the two statements you give the most attention to what follows after the word but it's what you want to emphasize for example I know that I don't
have much experience in this area but I've proven in the past that I can adapt quickly to new environments you're a nice guy but you're not my type I really like you but I feel better without a partner at this time the ideal question what do you ideally want what are you ideally seeing speak what would you ideally like to happen What would be the ideal result phrase your own question using the words ideal or ideally this question has a big impact because it makes others tell the truth about what they want it makes them
not think about what they don't want the words ideal or ideally make others create images of perfect things in their minds rather than things they consider possible visualizing these perfect things has a fantastic effect on their mood it gives you all the information you need to be able to influence them if you ask the ideal question during a job interview so ideally what is the perfect candidate you're looking for or who would be your ideal candidate the interviewer will probably answer by giving you a description of the image they have created in their mind of
the perfect candidate all you have to do is make sure you give the impression that you are that candidate using the same words they used and adapting your answers to match their description tell it without telling it there are ways you can express your point of view and create images in others Minds without making it seem like you're doing so I can't tell you to leave him the decision must be yours I won't be the one to tell you that you're wrong I don't even want to think about the stress you're feeling now I don't
want you to worry about me I'll be fine all you have to do is express your point of view by saying that you don't you can also give orders by telling the other person not to do what you actually want them to do don't worry about paying me back what you owe me yes means no I could come if you want this is a way to offer to do something that you don't really want to do for example I could give you a ride home if you want I could do it if you want it's
not important but it is I know that you won't consider my advice but I'm worried about your unhealthy life lifestyle maybe you won't care but your deodorant is too weak and doesn't last long have you thought about keeping one for backup at the office these kinds of lines should be used when you want to give feedback that the other person might not like or doesn't want to hear finally a pleasant way to say shut up and listen for example I don't know if you realize how hard it is for me to work all day and
then come home and feed the children I don't know if you realize how long I've been tolerating this I don't know if you realize how long I've been waiting my turn now that you've understood all of this you might ask me how exactly will this help me with women listen listen carefully my brother this video is just one episode of the series how to attract women if you watch it on its own you won't fully understand what you need to do you have to watch the entire series to understand how women think and how attraction
works and only then can you continue with this video but before we finish the video I want to let you know that I've created an online course that contains a step-by-step formula that will make women attracted to you regardless of what you think you're lacking in it you'll find exactly what women are attracted to in a man on a deep psychological level Beyond superficial things like height looks or money you will find a link in the video description anyway if you have any problems let me know in the comments this was the dark needle and
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