[Music] hello psych2goers and welcome back to our channel we wanted to let you know that it is your ongoing support that helps us make psychology and mental health more accessible to everyone thank you so very much for all of your support now let's continue why do relationships fall apart relationships are complicated as they are fragile small mistakes can destroy years of love passion and trust but you may not realize what you're doing wrong so here are 10 behaviors that can damage any relationship and may be affecting yours too number one you stonewall your partner do
you avoid difficult questions and conversations this bad habit is called stonewalling when you stonewall your partner you're actively avoiding painful or emotional subjects but those subjects are important to the health of your relationship by avoiding difficult conversations you're harboring unresolved issues with your partner it's okay to table a hard conversation every once in a while but ignoring an issue doesn't make it go away number two you're too distracted do you give your partner your undivided attention do you text other people when you're together never underestimate the value of quality time when you're together your partner
wants to feel important they need to know that you enjoy spending time with them but if you're distracted your partner may feel ignored or neglected and your relationship may suffer number three you get defensive few things are as important as communication but what if your partner tells you something you don't want to hear your partner may for example think they're doing all the work in your relationship no one likes to hear negative feedback so how should you react when your partner tells you something is wrong defensiveness can be destructive to any relationship when you become
defensive you stop listening to your partner's concerns instead you try to protect yourself you may argue with them or turn the tables on your partner either way you're ignoring the real problem and your partner doesn't feel heard number four you criticize too often how often do you criticize your partner even if you mean well critical behavior can drive a wedge in your relationship not only is it frustrating for your partner excess criticism also creates a negative dynamic in your relationship you lose track of why you love your partner because you're too focused on their mistakes
number five you idealize your partner do you put your partner on a pedestal you love your partner so you may hold them to a high standard but idealizing your partner can damage your relationship when you idealize your partner you're projecting your own preferences onto them you love your partner for the person they could be not who they actually are number six you ignore your past no one is perfect every relationship has bumps and rough patches but ignoring your troubled past could destroy your relationship your history good and bad is the reason you are where you
are today it has shaped the way you feel about your partner and the way your partner feels about you by ignoring your past you're overlooking significant moments in your relationship and rejecting the struggles your relationship has yet to overcome number seven you mislead your partner have you ever told your partner something you didn't mean deception can easily destroy a relationship lies and manipulation ruin the most important thing you and your partner have built together trust when you stop being honest you give your partner a reason to doubt you honesty isn't always easy and some things
are better left unsaid but you should never try to deceive your partner no matter what this kind of behavior will destroy your relationship number eight you create competition in a healthy relationship partners don't keep score they don't care who's right and who's wrong because competition creates tension stress and resentment if you're always trying to prove your partner wrong sooner or later you're going to drive them away instead by finding a solution that makes both of you happy and learning how to compromise you can create a healthier relationship in the long run number nine you shame
your partner do you pick on your partner many couples playfully tease each other in private but making fun of your partner in public can damage your relationship instead of a playful back and forth you're openly shaming your partner for their mistakes and placing them in a very uncomfortable situation and number 10 you expect too much do you get angry when your partner can't read your mind you expect your partner to know what you want and what you're thinking all the time but that's entirely unfair to them it's your responsibility to vocalize the things you want
if you don't express yourself your partner will never know anything is wrong if you expect your partner to magically know all the answers your relationship may slowly fall apart do you struggle with any of these destructive behaviors has your partner done things that have damaged your relationship tell us about your experiences in the comments section below don't forget to click the like button and subscribe to psyc2go for more psychology content and as always thanks for watching you
