shift your identity, change your life

I know my own destiny uncle is it your own destiny or is it a destiny someone else has tried to force on you stop it Uncle I have to do this I'm begging you Prince too it's time for you to look Inward and begin asking yourself the big questions who are you and what do you want this is a difficult question to answer and we will come back to it but first I have another question for you what do you think what percentage of your life today is determined by your past 0% 25% 50% 75%

or 100% the correct answer is it depends it depends on you because the more you believe in the power of your past the more you will see yourself as a victim of this past and won't be able to move forward and yes of course the past has an influence and there are also tough circumstances no question about it but I think you get the point I mean there are also twins with a difficult past and one becomes successful while the other crashes even though they have had the same past so think very carefully about how

much power you want to give your past over you you are under no obligation to be exactly the same in the next 10 minutes as you were in the last 10 minutes or the last 20 years this is obviously easier said than done the thing we call I or me is to a large extent the result of her past conditioning and this past conditioning started from the time we were Toddlers and continues until this moment right now and as you probably know a lot of stuff happened during this time and most of it wasn't in

our control a lot of what we think today was imposed on us by Society our parents and our past experiences now when people tell us just be yourself there is a very high likelihood that we are acting out our past programming so I would make the switch and say don't be yourself but create a new self and unbecome everything you are not in the first place by which I mean your conditioning the conditioned beliefs that are primarily destructive are hard to spot in our daily lives but I've come to a rule of thumb that has

helped me a lot to recognize what's social programming and what's my true self does the belief imply that there is no room for development if it is a fixed belief like I'm emotional I am unathletic or I a loser it is the conditioning every fixed belief is a lie it is simply not true because they neglect the possibility for improvement which is inherent to every human being and in order to improve we have to get to the root cause of change which is motivation when it comes to initiating habit change in adulthood to achieve certain

goals most people focus solely on their goals as a motivation Source these are results oriented habits but these do not always lead to success in the long run because an isolated goal can trigger too little motivation in you to sustain the change the alternative is to develop identity-based habits as this is usually a much stronger source of motivation once the new identity is an integral part of your self-image identity so what we think of as I or me is the underlying engine for change while external goals are in comparison a drop in the bucket even

though they are still useful the real magic happens when you combine the two now we know how to set goals but how do we change our identity you do it by changing the path you're currently taking when you have a fixed self image that is based on your conditioning your past will become your future it depends on the circumstances but generally speaking this should scare you because when you take the path of your conditioning it isn't really you that's taking the path but your conditioned mind and it can lead you somewhere you actually don't want

to end I recommend making an active path switch you let your past be your past and consciously ask yourself where you want to go in life and visualize what kind of person you want and have to become in order to to get there then you take the first action and continue until you finally become somebody else who is better than the person you were before once you do this you will probably have two voices in your head one is the new you that wants to embrace the change the other one is the old you who

doesn't want to change and turns into an inner critic one is your conditioning but the other is the real you because you actively decide to become this person this transition is the Big Challenge and the inner critic is sneaky and will come up with a lot of reasons also seemingly logical reasons to stop you from making the change but the longer you stick to the New Path the more evidence you give your new you through the actions you take that you actually are the person you decided to become and after a while you are the

new you and the past you is a mere external memory of the past a similar memory you have right now when you think about your 10year younger self if you want to change your life the combination of identity change and doing the required action AKA habits is incredibly important perhaps even inevitable and one can't really work without the other and I think another crucial lesson is that every failure is a good sign it shows that you've raised your standards and walked a path you hadn't walked on before your inner critic will tell you that you

should stick to the old path that you are what you are and will never change but this is not true the most beautiful things occur slowly and with patience coming back to the main question from Uncle iro who are you and what do you want later in the series Zuko says I admit it I have everything I've always wanted but it's not at all how I thought it would be this happens when you go down the path of your Social conditioning I don't even know if I have a real concrete tip for you in this

video just keep in mind that you shouldn't give your past too much power over you and remember that Uncle iro is a wise man join the free better human Community if you want and have a wonderful day