how to ACTUALLY CHANGE your life in 2023 (step by step guide)

we all experienced failure at some point in our lives maybe you didn't get that promotion you were hoping for or you didn't accomplish a personal goal you set for yourself but for some reason when it gets closer to New Year's we tend to be more hopeful and optimistic about our future self every single year when the January 1st comes closer I found myself making a bunch of New Year's resolutions as if it's gonna reset me and make me a completely different person since you clicked this video you're probably trying to change and you waited for

a fresh start trying to prevent the same mistakes happening again you might even doubt it that you will actually change this year but listen to me till 2022 I almost never accomplished my resolutions I said I'm going to be consistent with the gym but I probably only worked out once a month I told myself to read every day but I probably read only three books an entire year I promise to cure my social media addiction get my screen time was 10 hours each day at the end of the year all I could see was regrets

so last year I decided to break this back chain and actually work on the things that mattered for me so I decided to identify the problems and work on them in 2022 I worked on my bad habits one by one and at the end of the year I found myself working out consistently reading every day consuming less yet creating more 2022 really taught me that we're capable of change change is hard indeed and it requires a lot of sacrifice but I am a firm believer that we must suffer one of two things the pain of

discipline or the pain of regret but the great news is once you establish your routine and build the required habits to reach your goals you get used to the pain of discipline it doesn't get easier but you get stronger and that's what we need this video is something I wish I had in the beginning of my journey because everyone talks about how to optimize things during your journey but no one really talks about how to start so today we're going to focus on waking up early working out eating healthy and building self-confidence if you guys

wanted dedicated video for each topic just let me know when we decide to change our lives we tend to rush to transform our habits drastically but in reality those habits that we build took us years you're not going to master the rest of your life in one day so don't put so much pressure on yourself the most efficient way to change your habits is finding your Keystone habit which are the habits that are more important than others since there are correlated with other good habits for example in 2022 I noticed a pattern when I worked

out I wanted to eat better even though I could have rewarded myself with dessert which I absolutely love I felt like eating healthy and high protein meals because I wanted to perform better at the gym I also slept better because once I got back from the gym I was oftentimes tired but in a good way and sleep improved my performance at the gym and exercising improved My Sleep Quality since it improved My Sleep Quality I had more energy during the day and also Focus which made me more productive and since it made me more productive

I had more free time I could spend doing other things that I enjoy and this positive feedback loop improved the quality of my life drastically in the other hand when I did an exercise I was more prone to eating fast food and my efficiency decreased because normally I would have to finish all of my tasks till 7 PM so that I could hit the gym when there is no deadline I usually struggle with prioritizing and end up doing unimportant tasks till very late night in the other words Fitness is the Keystone habit that puts the

rest of my life in place when I work out other things naturally fall into place I don't have to think about eating better or I don't have to force myself to focus on getting things done Exercise naturally pushes me towards my best self your Keystone habit can be different than mine but since Fitness seems to be majority of people's keystones habit let's dig into how we can build the consist Fitness habit for years I would start and stop exercise programs always telling myself that I would get back into tomorrow or next week but somehow tomorrow

and next week never seem to come I was stuck in a cycle of inconsistency and frustration feeling like I would never be able to get in shape and feel confident in my own skin but then something changed I stumbled upon a YouTube video from Chrissy Cella she was talking how exercise can make you feel stronger confident and peaceful I always struggle to love my body and accept it I always dealt with eating disorders and body dysmorphia but I realized that I don't want to be insecure anymore and if I wanted to see any progress I

needed to make a real commitment to my health I decided to subscribe to Chris's workout program slash app called evolve you and I started with experimenting and trying various workout programs and training Styles in the app this video is not sponsored by the way I'm just a huge fan the great thing about following a program is that it gives you a structure so you don't need the energy to create one and it makes me being consistent much easier than you think the app is quite easy to use you can track your progress schedule your workouts

on the calendar and also there are a bunch of different trainers with different approaches so that you can find the type of exercise you enjoy if you want to be consistent this year with your workouts try various exercises maybe your type of person who enjoys classes or maybe you like working out solo just because I lift doesn't mean you need to lift you can do Pilates dance swimming walking anything you enjoy the key is actually enjoy the thing you pick don't focus on the calories you'll burn per hour if you want stick with it it

won't get you into shape anyway when I started with lifting weights I was feeling very uncomfortable with being in the gym being one of the very few males in the white section can very can seem very intimidating at the beginning especially because you don't know what to do and also there's so many things to learn and even after you learn the movements correcting your farm takes quite a lot of time especially if you don't have access to a personal trainer there's so many times that I try to quit in the past because it was making

me feel so insecure so this year I decided to really pretend to be confident at the gym I started with my appearance because it was the easiest thing to work on and also to fake I bought a cute and comfortable activewear that made me feel like a gym girl and made me feel confident and empowered I always underestimated the power of my workout clothes even now one of my cute activewear is being washed and when I wear something different I don't feel as confident as I feel in my favorite set even if you're on budget

I highly suggest you to get active where that makes you feel confident and empowered in it there's so many options available so do a little research and try new stuff you don't need to buy expensive stuff you can just check it on Amazon another thing that really helped me with gaining confidence at the gym is starting small I was very scared of the weight section so I started with cardio to get used to the gym environment and then I switched to the machines because there are lower risks of injury and it also gave me a

great understanding of moving my muscles and not saying that my form is perfect now but I'm working on it with the time you'll get used to the gym environment and actually the gym Community is very supportive and helpful because everyone is there to improve themselves and it's such a motivating Community when I just started I often find myself comparing my progress with people I see on Instagram and on YouTube and I felt very discouraged and unmotivated I thought I was doing something wrong and it made me question myself a lot but in reality there's so

many factors that can affect your progress analyzing it and trying to improve it is a good thing but use it as a learning opportunity rather than being negative tours yourself we can't fully control the outcome how much we're going to lose weight or how fast we're gonna gain muscle but we can control the input how much we're going to eat how long and how often we're gonna exercise our things in our control exercise to feel better not to lose weight don't focus on the outcome learn to enjoy the progress itself in the past I would

set big goals for myself but I always seem to fall short because I was waiting for the perfect moment of inspiration to him I would tell myself that I need to feel motivated in order to take an action when that motivation didn't come I would give up but in reality motivation comes after the action not before the key to staying motivated is regularly enjoying small successes small successes are motivating enjoying them can lead to a happy cycle of more success and more Motivation by savoring small victories you can feel accomplished every day that's because you'll

no longer be focused on the gap between where you are and where you want to be in fact as long as you achieve what you set out to do each day you'll feel like a winner but first thing first to react the benefits of small successes you have to get started and for most people the first step in any process turns out to be the hardest one for example even though I am passionate about out hitting the gym I absolutely love it there are some days when it's the last thing I want to do it's

not that I enjoyed I really love going to the gym it's just that I have to get through changing my clothes going to the gym and first few reps before lifting becomes fun as soon as the Endorphin kicks in my mood improves significantly since I track how much I lift every session seeing my ability to get stronger and continue improving makes me proud so to get out of the house each time I taught myself enjoy these successes and remember how great I will feel once I do few reps because I always regret when I don't

hit the gym but I have never ever regretted in past that I hit the gym we need to normalize doing things that we don't enjoy if you want to achieve our goals everyone doesn't want to do her thing and that's why we do them because if you want to be successful in our lives we need to go ahead of most people and how are we going to do that laying on our couch watching TV shows or obviously not the more you practice self-discipline the better it gets full of people who inspire you challenge remind you

of your goals for example on Instagram I follow a bunch of gym girls and on YouTube I Follow entrepreneurs YouTubers CEOs that I truly respect listen to podcasts and reflection your knowledge but also the daily remind yourself why you started in the first place read regularly to learn new ideas perspectives and widen your vision in 2022 I read almost about like 50 books and I can't stress enough how my mindset changed and how much of knowledge I have now around various topics and also the great thing is books can help with various struggles you are

facing for example let's say you're struggling with productivity grab some books grab some best known books about productivity and implement the tips you learned from those books or if you feel like you're bad with money read some Finance books there's so many good books out there that can help you with any aspect in life reading a good book is sort of like having a conversation with the author and usually those authors are one of the best and most successful people in their field or people who have done multiple researches that can really help you and

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can become quite expensive if you read a lot like me I don't know if it happened to you before but sometimes when I randomly grab a book and when I feel like it didn't answer any of the questions I have or solve any problems I have I feel like I've wasted my time and money because especially I have hundreds of books I want to read in my list I find myself thinking like I could have used this time and money for another bug I think someone in Japan said this well choosing something means giving up

something it doesn't necessarily mean that the book you read was a horrible book but more so it means that it wasn't a right fit for you maybe your current mindset or your current concern is not really aligns with that book so in the future you might enjoy that book but it was just not today but no matter what the situation is we want to avoid this happening as much as possible and for that I use short form short form is a service where you can discover hundreds of book guides the great thing about short form

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a five day unlimited access and an additional 20 off discount on annual membership join short form through the link shortform.com or use the link down description below and thank you short form for sponsoring this video also use YouTube videos as an inspiration not a way to procrastinate let's say you learn something from a video write it down and actually do it next day don't just consume take an action and create and also post it online put yourself out there if you want to be connected with people who have same mindset like you you need to

put yourself out there you can stay at home hiding in your room and expect someone to find you if you want to be friends who are willing to improve their lives like you do you need to put yourself out there so the easiest way to do an effective output is actually creating Instagram reels because it's quite easy to create and since it's a short form video it doesn't actually take much that time as creating YouTube videos so you can maybe document your day share the things you learned if you will be able to provide enough

value to people maybe you can monetize it make money from learning and improving yourself which is a dream basically I know what is like to struggle with sleep for years I was annoyed all staying up late and sleeping in until the last minute possible was my thing but as much as I enjoyed those late nights I always felt exhausted and unproductive during the day I knew I needed to make a change but it wasn't until I hit rock bottom that I finally decided to take action one night I couldn't fall asleep until 3am and ended

up oversleeping and missing an important exam that's when I I realized I need to take control of my sleep habits first thing I did to change my sleeping habits was to identify the reason why I was struggling to wake up early it wasn't that I don't like sleep indeed I really like sleeping but for some reason whenever it was required for me to wake up early I procrastinated going to bed it might sound crazy but even the days I was dying from lack of sleep I stayed up till 2 A.M for no reason when I

searched about it on Google I learned that there's actually a name for it and it's called Revenge bedtime procrastination Revenge by procrastination is the act of deliberately putting off sleep in favor of leisure activities often involving Netflix social media and next day exhaustion Revenge by time procrastination is especially likely when busy schedules and daily responsibilities prevent the enjoyment of me time earlier in the day my go-to way of taking a Revenge from my busy schedule was scrolling on my phone endlessly until 4 I fall asleep one day when I was reading the book The Power

of habits I stumbled upon and advised the author gives he was explaining how to change the old habits basically habit Works in three step Loops Q routine and reward the queue is a trigger that kicks off the habitual Behavior to change a habit you must keep the old cue deliver the old reward insert new routine it might sound complicated so let me give an example in my case my queue was going to bed and then the routine was grabbing my phone and scrolling endlessly on social media platforms and then the reward was consuming content and

and getting a spike of dopamine so according to the author I needed to change the routine part where I grabbed my phone to get a rush of dopamine which was the reason why I kept putting up my sleep so I decided to swap it with reading books rather than grabbing my phone I decided to grab my Kindle instead since it has no apps in it no notifications and since it wasn't providing the same dangerous amount of dopamine as scrolling on the phone it was much better option I also created a charging station far away from

my bed and bought an alarm clock to prevent the night and morning time scrolling I always put Kindle right next to me in a visible position to remind myself but I was trying to accomplish which was reading in the beginning I got really bored and wanted to reach my phone but since it was far away from my bed and I'm a very lazy person I didn't end up getting up and grabbing my phone I either read or slipped right away once I cured the Revenge bedtime procrastination I decided to sleep and wake up 15 minutes

earlier each day because curing the Revenge bedtime procrastination was the Keystone habit for me when it comes to waking up and sleeping early it was actually quite easy I would suggest you to define the main problem in your routine and swap it with something beneficial since the reason can differ from person to person I would start by analyzing my nighttime routine to identify the calls I hope you enjoyed this video and I wish you guys a very very successful Year see you soon