MIL Tried to Force-feed Me a Cake That I'm Deathly Allergic to at Her 25th Anniversary Party, Now...

mil tried to force feed me a cake that I'm defly allergic to at her 25th anniversary party now she's regretting it because of what Phil did I 27f got married to my husband Frank 30m about a year ago after being together for 2 years I've met his family plenty of times and we all used to get along until recently when he and I were visiting his parents and the conversation somehow turned to kids and I casually mentioned that I wasn't interested in being a mother my husband and I have obviously talked about this before and

both of us are on the same page about kids that we don't want kids my mother-in-law Sharon 52f was the one who initiated the conversation at dinner that day and when my husband and I made it known that we weren't planning on having kids ever she tried to change our minds especially mine she continued to try and convince me to have kids at some point for the next couple of days until I told her that I wasn't interested and that neither was my husband so that was it and I didn't want to discuss this further

I made my boundaries clear and I guessed she couldn't handle it because after that she started being really cold to me and would act weird every time I came around my father-in-law Ben 53m didn't seem to care much which was a relief I did discuss Sharon's Behavior with Frank but he told me that she was just upset and would come around eventually because it's not like she had a choice it wasn't her place to dictate whether we should have kids or not so she could act upset but it wasn't going to change our decision I

felt better after talking about it to Frank and since we still had to continue visiting his parents because Ben wasn't keeping well I decided not to make a big deal out of it and tried my best to be polite and cordial with Sharon even though she didn't extend the same courtesy to me now a few days ago we attended the 25th wedding anniversary and it had been organized by Frank older brother who's a surgeon so he was able to throw a very lavish and fancy party and invited almost everybody that we knew including my parents

we were all having a great time at the party even though Sharon was giving me the cold shoulder I wasn't particularly bothered by it and went on having fun with my husband and my parents then it was finally time to Cut the Cake which I knew I wouldn't be able to have because it was a chocolate peanut butter cake and I had a deathly allergy to peanuts or nuts of any kind for that matter and it was a pretty nutty cake which goes perfectly with Sharon's personality now that I think of it she cut the

the cake along with Ben and we all clapped it was a beautiful moment then everybody was served with a slice of the cake but I obviously didn't take any and nobody questioned it since everyone was well aware of my allergies I didn't even mind not having cake but for some reason as soon as Sharon saw me sitting on my own without cake she made a huge deal of walking over to me and asking me if I wasn't feeling up to it she told me to have a bite of her slice which I politely declined and

I found it very weird that she was even offering me because she knew that I was allergic she insisted again and again that I'd take one bite at the very least while I kept refusing and even told her that I was allergic and I physically couldn't have that cake she tried to tell me that it wouldn't hurt if I had just one tiny little bite but I wasn't willing to risk it after almost 1 minute of back and forth she exclaimed oh just take a bite and before I could react she smashed the cake into

my mouth I spit it all out immediately and I had to grab a tissue from Frank so I could get any remnants out of my mouth immediately it was disgusting and I was actually sputtering while rinsing my mouth while Frank yelled at his mother after half a minute when I finally got over the shock of what she did I came back to talk to Sharon and told her off I yelled at her and said that what she did just now was psychotic and I was never going to come back here again because there was something

very wrong with her I also told her that just because I wasn't willing to have kids didn't mean that she was going to treat me however she wanted to and I was going to take it I didn't care about what her opinion was on whether I should have a child or Not What mattered was my opinion and Frank's opinion and trying to force an allergy reaction just because I wasn't going to give her grandchildren was textbook psychotic behavior I knew what her behavior was really about and I wanted to let her know that I wasn't

intimidated by her in the least she tried to defend her herself and said that she just didn't know that my allergies were that serious that was a total and blatant lie because she'd known me for almost 3 years now and had cooked many meals for me she knew that I was allergic to all sorts of nuts and nobody was buying that excuse that she didn't know I told her that I didn't believe a word she was saying and called her a crazy liar then she lost her temper and said that she didn't believe me either

neither about the allergies nor about the fact that her son wasn't willing to have kids because he knew that she wanted to be a grandma and he would never deprive her of a joy like that she accused me of Faking my allergies for attention and said that I probably wasn't willing to have kids and had turned her son against the idea as well only because I might be infertile and that pushed me to the edge so I grabbed a chunk of cake from Frank's plate and smashed it on her face and asked how she liked

it after that I stormed out without waiting for anyone got into my car and thankfully Frank was just behind me with my parents they got in as well and we drove back home quietly I dropped my parents at their place and then Frank and I headed home it was a completely silent car ride and even after we got home we didn't say anything to each other for an hour or so I guess Frank was waiting for me to calm down before he came in and spoke to me in the evening he made me some coffee

and we finally sat together in the living room and he brought up what had happened at the party I started off by apologizing to him even though it wasn't my fault but I still felt embarrassed for acting the way I did and he told me that it was fine because he knew that I wasn't the one to blame he then went on to tell me that the people who'd stayed back at the party were the ones who filled him in on what happened after we left apparently Sharon started crying after Frank walked out and chose

to follow me instead of staying back to see her she was playing the victim and her family was lapping it all up calling me the most derogatory names in the book and accusing me of trying to take Frank away from her the only one who called her out on her BS was Ben surprisingly since he usually tended to stay away from family drama especially when it involved his wife but this time he stood up for us and told Sharon that she had nobody else to blame but herself for Frank walking out on her because she'd

always been a control freak and couldn't stand it whenever somebody tried to do anything that didn't align with her plans they got into a bad fight and everybody just waited around awkwardly while they argued with each other Sharon accused him of choosing me over her and said that he was being unreasonable but Ben stuck to his guns and didn't back down they just went on arguing until Frank's older brother finally broke them up and everybody went home after that because the day was pretty much ruined one of Frank's cousins recorded the fight and it was

nice to see Ben sticking up for us she and a couple of other relatives are the only ones on our side right now Frank's brother thinks that I should apologize because he believes that I overreacted and that I shouldn't have brought up my personal grudges against Sharon on the day of their anniversary and made it all about myself and not just him but Sharon's family also feels the same way and is saying that I owe them an apology because the fight wasn't even about us having kids or anything else in the first place I made

it about that they think that I shouldn't have brought it up and if I had been that offended by Sharon trying to force me to eat cake then I should have just walked out after that instead of retaliating and creating a whole scene they believed that I was the reason that Ben and Sharon ended up fighting and had I just done the right thing and walked off then nobody would have had to deal with that fight later Frank told his brother off and said that I wasn't going to apologize because none of this was my

fault but all of them are pretty convinced that I'm the culprit and I ruined Sharon's anniversary party on purpose and caused B and Sharon to fight on their anniversary from what they told me the two of them aren't even talking right now since Sharon packed a few of her things and went to live with a friend of hers after their big fight Ben hasn't even tried to call her back so Ida for fighting with my mother-in-law on the day of her anniversary for trying to force feed me cake update one hey thank you for all

the comments Frank and I are really grateful for all the support and the overwhelming number of people who commented to tell us that we are indeed not the ones at fault here I did feel a tiny bit responsible when I learned that Ben and Sharon weren't even on talking terms after they fought but after reading the comments I realized that this wasn't my fault it was Sharon's fault she ruined her own party by making it all about me to be precise she didn't even make it about me she made it about her issues with me

which is even worse because the day was supposed to be a celebration of her marriage to her husband she chose to try and force feed me a cake that she knew very well I was allergic to just for the heck of it and then when the situation got worse she started crying and playing the victim as if she wasn't the one trying to trigger an allergic reaction only because I told her that I wasn't going to give her grandkids and it isn't even as if I owe her grandkids Nobody Does she ruined her own party

period I don't owe her anything not an apology and definitely not grandchildren it's been a few days and Frank's brother and a couple of other relatives of his have been texting him almost every day to give him unnecessary updates on how Sharon is doing which is almost always a reminder that she's miserable in a way to tell us that we're the reason behind her misery he hasn't replied to any of them and is just ignoring it all but he hasn't blocked them either because he thinks that Sharon might snap and go crazy and he'd want

updates for when that happens in case it's a little too intense for them to handle if youall know what I mean meanwhile Ben's been doing just fine we went over to his place the other day to see how he's been and he appears to be completely unbothered by Sharon leaving he told us that for a long time he hadn't said anything to her even though he could tell that she was becoming a little too overbearing and controlling and could predict that at some point either Frank or I were going to snap at her he tried

to warn her several times in person but she'd just never listen and when she started crying at the party after we left he couldn't take it because he could just see through her so clearly and knew that she was trying to gain sympathy after screwing up so he called her out on her BS and as usual she couldn't handle the truth so she left he told us that he knows she expects him to reach out to her first and apologize for the way he behaved but he's not going to do that anymore because he says

he's too old to constantly be sorry for speaking his mind and if after 25 years of marriage she still can't handle this sort of cander then they probably shouldn't be married update to so a couple of things happened after that last update date firstly Sharon reached out to Frank to demand an explanation for why he was visiting Ben but not her I guess the neighbors must have seen us come and snitched on us or something Frank told her that since this fight was actually her fault he figured that his father would need him more than

she would because she's just upset for sympathy and we can see through that act now she got offended by that and they had an argument on the phone and for some reason she started accusing me of turning him against her as if she doesn't do that job well enough herself she told Frank that this was all my doing and she knew it and even when Frank tried to tell her that I had nothing to do with this and these were his own personal opinions she wouldn't hear it and insisted that this was all my fault

that lady has it in for me just because I don't want to have kids and it's the most ridiculous reason I can think of to hate somebody I told Frank that I didn't want to talk to her anymore and if she called again then he shouldn't entertain it and he agreed because there's just no point in trying to reason with her she's beyond that the second thing that happened was that we visited Ben at his house yesterday in the evening and for the first time he offered us drinks Ben usually doesn't drink because of his

health and we weren't w't sure if it was the right idea yesterday but he insisted on it apparently he'd spoken to a lawyer and was thinking of getting a divorce it's a very big move after 25 years of marriage and we asked him if he was sure about it but he didn't seem to care and didn't even seem upset Frank was a little shaken up by that news and took some time to process it but Ben told him that this was the best decision that he could make under these circumstances he said that he'd been

thinking about this for a while now because he just wasn't happy and Sharon was becoming increasingly annoying to be around when we asked him how long he'd been considering a divorce we expected him to say maybe a month or two but he shocked us and said that he'd been thinking about it for almost 10 years now he told us that when Frank was 20 and was about to graduate college Ben thought that now that Frank was an adult and could handle his life and his finances he could join his brother in a new business venture

both of them had been talking about it for quite some time but Ben hadn't been able to commit because he had a family to look after unlike his brother and had a lot more financial responsibilities resting on him that he had to think about so he couldn't just quit his job and start a new business which could take some time to become stable but after Frank graduated he told his brother that he was ready and he was about to quit his job but while discussing it with Sharon she told him it was a terrible idea

and made him back down she said that they wouldn't know for sure if the business was going to take off and Frank didn't even have a job yet so he'd probably need money for a couple of years before he was finally able to settle down he tried to reason with her and even said that he could probably work in the business parttime and retain his job but she made him give up the idea altogether and now his brother who runs the business on his own is earning almost Thrice the amount that he makes they've kept

in touch and there's not a day that goes by where Ben doesn't regret listening to what Sharon had told him she hadn't even tried to talk to him but had given him an ultimatum that if he took his brother up on that offer then she'd take Frank and leave him which forced him to give up on that idea his brother still wants him to come on board but Ben feels like he's just too old and he's going to retire in a couple of years anyway so it's just not going to be worth it Frank was

almost on the verge of tears because of how dejected his father sounded while talking about the opportunities that he'd lost just because he listened to Sharon who wasn't willing to bet on a brilliant mind like him and it's true actually is one of the wisest and most intellectual people I know personally I knew that if he was willing to invest in something then it definitely wasn't a bad idea and it's being proved by his brother who worked on the business idea that Ben created and is now a successful businessman Frank suggested that he take up

whatever position his brother was going to offer him even if it was just a couple of years away from his retirement because at the end of the day at least he'd have the satisfaction of knowing that he tried B argued that it was too late for him and said that the position was not a problem because his brother was ready to make him a partner in The Firm but he was just not into it anymore we were really upset to hear him talk like that so Frank then I decided that we were going to talk

some sense into him and we kept convincing him that he should talk to his brother and join him because it was never going to be too late to do something for yourself it was corny and preachy but after a while we managed to convince him to at least contact his brother about this and talk to him about it which is good as for the divorce we're obviously going to be supporting him in it Sharon can't just try and control everybody's lives around her and think that it's completely fine and she can get away with it

the way she treated Ben wasn't fair and what she did did to me and Frank recently is also not fair and she needs to know and learn that she can't just push people around and Bully them into doing what she wants them to do it finally makes sense why Ben was so upset when she was trying to humiliate us at the party all because we weren't willing to obey her orders and even after all of this she still has the audacity to pretend like she's somehow the victim in the situation I don't even feel bad

for her anymore because she's shown us that she doesn't deserve any sympathy from anyone and all the people who are feeding into her delusions of her being the long-suffering tragic victim are probably just fools or they only want drama and that's about it update three Ben and his lawyer filed the petition today and Frank was with them he told me that Ben was really relieved and they went out for celebratory drinks afterward I have a lot of work to catch up on so I couldn't join them but I'm happy to know that he's finally living

for himself now the guy is in his 50s he deserves to do whatever makes him happy instead of constantly thinking about what his wife would say or how his son would feel this is another reason why I didn't want to have kids because I don't think I'm selfless enough to put somebody else before me constantly and I don't think Frank is either and then there are people like Sharon who are selfish and yet still choose to have kids just so they can control them and continue to put themselves over their kids it's been a couple

of days and we haven't heard from her yet so I guess she's giving the victim act AR rest for now or maybe she's just planning a theatrical and dramatic comeback knowing her I wouldn't completely rule the second theory out I just hope that whatever she has to do isn't scheduled to happen before she gets served with the divorce papers it'll be awkward if she decides to come back and Ben tells her that he wants a divorce Frank and I have discussed the possibility of that happening and we know that she's going to throw a fit

either way but it'll just be worse if she does it in person I'm just keeping my fingers crossed that she stays away for a couple of more days update four all right so Sharon was served with a divorce a couple of days ago and like I said she threw a fit interestingly enough it wasn't Ben that she was upset with but it was me I really didn't see that coming because I didn't think there was anywhere she could make this about me since this was between her and her husband but I guess I underestimated her

since as soon as she was served she decided to go online and make a post about how I'd manipulated Ben into leaving her and now all all of us were probably going to celebrate because I'd won and she'd lost I honestly wasn't even competing with her so I don't know where the winning losing thing comes from and it's pretty disturbing to think that she looked at me as competition because she's a lot older than me and is literally my mother-in-law it's weird she didn't even talk to Frank or to Ben about it before she made

the post and there were like three paragraphs dedicated to how I was ruining her life by turning her loved ones against her only towards the end did she say that she was very disappointed with the other two as well for falling for my manipulation and deception it was crazy to me how every thing in her life has started to revolve around me and it's honestly kind of creepy Frank has blocked her and so have I but her relatives keep texting me to tell me how evil I am it's sad because they think it bothers me

but it only makes me laugh at how stupid they're being even if I actually was a master manipulator I couldn't manipulate someone into leaving their wife unless they actually wanted to deep down and I guess people as stupid as them are forgetting that because to them it's only important that they blame me and paint me as the villain Ben has apologized for it even though he has no reason to apologize to me because none of this is his fault it's his soon to be Ex-Wives but I appreciate the fact that he's trying to be nice

since not a lot of people are built that way especially in Frank's family but either way they're going to get a divorce and blaming me is not going to change the fact so the sooner she accepts it the better it is for her Frank and I are happy anyway so if she's miserable because of that then that's her own problem