congratulations you've managed to get your crush's number and you feel absolutely amazing now you are so into this person that you do not want to make any kind of mistake to mess things up and i completely understand that's why i created this video specifically for you because to be honest whether this encounter is going to grow into a fully fledged relationship or it's going to like just disappear into oblivion is entirely dependent on what you do from hints and so my dear brother thank you very much for clicking on this video i've got a couple
of pointers for you i'll give you some ideas on what to text her first right and we can also talk a little bit about what to do after getting her number keep watching [Music] welcome back my name is jessica this is my youtube channel thank you so much for being a part of this conversation this video is sponsored by passionaire a ghanaian airline that flies you from one ghanaian city to the next whether it's for business or pleasure they've always got you covered with multiple flights and very affordable tickets as well today's video is also
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leave in the description of this video it'll take you straight to their platform let's jump right in so when it comes to the topic of texting a lot of people actually are confused about when the right time to text actually is now if you ask me there's no right or wrong time per se all i would say is don't take too long in texting them after you meet them because it might come across like you weren't interested or you weren't impressed by them or you just are not as excited by the whole uh acquaintance or
meeting so if this girl is someone you're really crushing on i would say maybe the next day like the morning after you meet would be an ideal time you didn't text her right away to make it sound like you're so desperate you waited until the next morning the next second question i get a lot is what do you do after getting her number do you text or do you call well i personally think that um it really depends on you um however i feel like calls seem so urgent like when you call someone and the
phone is ringing they absolutely need to pick up the phone or they'll continue to disturb their piece whereas if you send a text message they can always take their time and get back to you think through their thoughts exactly how they want to respond to you and it will be less awkward because at least you know if she texts back then she'll be texting you something that she really means right if you were to ask my opinion i would always say do not call go for a text message instead and wait for your reply now
another question that comes up when it comes to texting is what do you text your crush after you've met her for the first time well hopefully these ideas i'm about to share with you will take you a little further in establishing a really good relationship with her the first idea when it comes to texting your crush for the first time is you always need to use the connection that you guys establish so let's say you met her at some event maybe you were holding a drink and you accidentally spilled it on her your opener could
be hey it feels great to be able to talk to you without spilling a drink on you this time smiley face emoji what i'm really trying to drive home is use whatever connection whatever happened and how you guys met to sort of generate the conversation that first conversation number two don't be inappropriate now there are too many people who straight away go into something very sexual or something just way out of line so for instance if i were you i will never send like a picture of myself topless lying in bed saying hey what's going
on it's totally unnecessary um in fact you shouldn't be sending any pictures first anyway stay away from stuff that may make her think that you want a little more than just making an acquaintance with her even though that may be true you don't want it to be felt on your very first message that you send number three keep things short now when you send a text keep it short keep it very very very short not a whole paragraph and you know when i met you and i saw you my heart started beating and you're the
best thing that's ever happened to me you've barely known this girl for 24 hours okay so just keep it short and also keep it simple right mind your grammar because depending on who you're texting it might be a big deal for her it might be complete turn off if you end up writing like a whole paragraph and your grammar is off right so um keep it short keep it simple number four is a simple text like hey nice to meet you right it's short it's to the point and it expresses exactly how you feel after
making their acquaintance it doesn't give off too much and it's leading because she will feel compelled to message you back and say something to you as well if the feeling was mutual then she most likely would also say hey it was really nice to meet you too actually i had a really great time and i actually look forward to meeting you again it's in the bag so if you're feeling particularly lucky with this chick and you know that the vibes were real and you know it was mutual then you can push your luck a little
bit and send something like hey this is the handsome guy you met at the event yesterday save my number is it direct yes it is is it cocky it might be but at least because it's so unexpected you might be peaking her interest and arousing her curiosity a little bit about you plus depending on who she is she might even find it funny six so you could also add a little bit of humor and texture really fast right after you meet so it's more like hey this is me unapologetically breaking the code by texting you
fast what's up ben here i like the name ben i don't know why but yeah you catch my drift it's light-hearted it's humorous because you're putting yourself out there that you couldn't wait and if she's on the same level as you you're going to be vibing before it's too long number seven now another text you could send could come across as inappropriate but could still spark their imagination you could send something like let the flirty text begin hi this is ben you met me yesterday at the party straight away you're telling her that you're interested
in getting to know her a little bit more and once again if she's feeling you and you guys are on the same wavelength things could move along pretty fast number eight you could text something like hey this is ben from the party last night do you want to know what i thought about when i first saw you she will definitely text you back so fast like oh hey ben what were you thinking and then you go in there and just do your thing number nine another way to text would be to go straight up and
flat so you could say something like hey jessica it was so good to meet you yesterday you were actually the highlight of my evening straight away you make her feel special you make her feel like she meant something to you and if she's feeling you too she's going to open up real quick and then you guys are going to be up and at it before you know number 10 now with this particular pointer this should be sent after maybe you weren't able to text her immediately due to unforeseen circumstances right so a couple of days
have passed you could send her a message like oh so apparently let's say the name of the place you met was um jamrock right so you can say oh apparently jamrock was only exciting because you were there when can you make me happy again you're flirting you're telling her that the only bright side of the whole encounter was you meeting her and you just put in a bid to see her again smart if you ask me you got it going number eleven i could also take the route of open-ended questions where you could say something
like what question would you have liked me to ask you last night that i didn't think about a question like this is if she's not really a chatty person she may not engage you should just go ahead and say nothing and then you'll be stuck but it's always worth a try and this is like when you absolutely assure that this woman is a chatterbox and she's conversational she can actually lift a conversation else that will just tank even before it started so perhaps you want to use that one sparingly number 12. another idea for the
first text you can send could be hey jess it was nice to meet you i'm so excited to be able to send the first of hopefully a thousand text messages now a text like this is positively ambiguous and strikes a good balance between being cordial and flirting as well if you're lucky you will really get her attention on this one and she will be more than happy to engage you beyond that first text and that first meetup and then finally you can just be direct send a text message like hey this is ben from the
party last night and i'll really like to get to know you if that's okay well it speaks for itself these are a couple of the ideas that i will share with you when it comes to texting your crush for the first time certainly you can pick and choose what works for you and i wish you the best of luck see you in the next video my name is jessica cheers