Found Out My Wife Cheated on Me With Her Boss on a Romantic Getaway and Told Me It Was Just a Work..

found out my wife cheated on me with her boss on a romantic getaway and told me it was just a work trip so I divorced her and now I'm raising our kids alone I never thought I'd be writing something like this but here I am a 38-year-old guy married for the last 12 years to Rose who's 36f we have two kids Victoria who's 10 and Travis who's 8 up until a few weeks ago I thought we had a pretty good life sure we had our ups and downs like any couple but I never imagined I'd

be in this situation I work as a IT guy for a tech company and Rose in marketing we met in college dated for a couple of years and got married right after graduation things were great in the beginning We Were Young in love and ready to Take On The World Together We bought our first house had our kids and settled into what I thought was a happy life the first signs of trouble started about a year ago Rose seemed distant always on her phone and working late more often than usual I chocked it up to

stress from her job she'd recently gotten a promotion and was putting in extra hours to prove herself I tried to be supportive picking up more slack with the kids and household chores I figured it was just a phase and things would go back to normal once she settled into her new role but they didn't if anything the distance between us grew our conversations became superficial mostly about the kids or household intimacy became rare and when it did happen it felt mechanical like she was just going through the motions I tried talking to her about it

a few times but she always brushed it off saying she was just tired or stressed from work about a month ago Rose told me she had to go on a twoe business trip to Europe she said it was a a big opportunity she'd be visiting several of their International offices meeting with clients and potentially setting up some major deals I was skeptical at first two weeks seemed like a long time and she'd never been sent on such a long trip before but she assured me it was important for her career and I wanted to be

supportive the night before she left I noticed she was packing some clothes that seemed a bit too fancy for business meetings a couple of cocktail dresses some lingerie I hadn't seen before when I asked about it she got defensive saying she might have to attend some formal events and wanted to be prepared I Let It Go not wanting to start an argument right before her trip the first few days after she left were busy juggling work and taking care of the kids on my own was hard but I managed Rose would call every night to

check in but the conversations were brief she always seemed to be in a rush saying she had another meeting to get to or was tired and wanted to sleep it was on the fourth night that my suspicions really kicked in Rose called later than usual and I could hear music and laughter in the background when I asked about it she quickly said she was at a work dinner and had stepped out to call me but something in her voice sounded off a bit slurred like she'd been drinking the call ended abruptly when she said she

had to go that night I couldn't sleep something wasn't adding up I knew I shouldn't but I couldn't help myself I logged into our shared cloud account to look at her recent photos what I saw made my stomach drop there were dozens of pictures but they weren't of business meetings or Office Buildings they were of rose in those fancy dresses she'd packed at various tourist spots around Paris and in many of them she wasn't alone there was a man with her her tall good-looking probably in his mid-40s in some photos they were posing together in

front of landmarks in others they were at romantic restaurants glasses of wine in hand and then I saw it a selfie of them kissing in front of the Eiffel Tower my hands were shaking so bad I could barely hold my phone I spent the next hour going through every photo every detail hoping to find some explanation but there was no denying it my wife was on a romantic getaway with another man I didn't confront her immediately part of me was in shock part of me wanted to ga more information over the next few days I

did some digging I looked through our phone records credit card statements anything I could find that's when I discovered the truth this wasn't just a one-time thing there were texts going back months charges for fancy restaurants and hotel rooms in our own City this had been going on right under my nose I finally figured out who the man was Matthew Rose's boss he was a recent divorce known for being a bit of a Playboy I'd met him a few times at company events and always felt uncomfortable around him but I never imagined he'd be sleeping

with my wife after a week of this I couldn't take it anymore I sent Rose a text with one of the photos of her and Matthew along with a simple message we need to talk now her response came quickly a series of panic texts begging me not to do anything rash saying she could explain everything I didn't respond instead I called her parents and told them everything they were shocked of course but supportive when Rose finally called I let it go to voicemail she left a long tearful message full of apologies and excuses she said

it wasn't what it looked like that Matthew had pressured her that she'd made a mistake but still loved me I didn't buy it for a second I spent the next few days to care of the kids but inside I was a mess of anger hurt and confusion I consulted with a lawyer who advised me to document everything and not to leave the house as it could be seen as abandonment in divorce proceedings Rose was due to return in a few days and I knew I had to make a decision part of me wanted to just

pack up and leave disappear before she got back but I knew that wasn't fair to the kids they deserve better than that in the end I decided to stay and confront her I arranged for the kids to stay with my parents for a few days after she got back I wanted to have this out without them around the day Rose returned was surreal she came through the door looking tired but trying to act normal like she' just been on a regular business trip the moment she saw my face though she knew the game was up

how long I asked my voice surprisingly calm she broke down immediately tears streaming down her face between sobs she admitted it had been going on for about 6 months she said it started innocently late nights at the office Innocent flirtations but then Matthew had kissed her at a company party and things escalated from there I listened silently as she poured out the whole sorted Story how Matthew had pursued her relentlessly showering her with attention and Gifts how she'd felt flattered excited by the danger and passion of it all how she'd convinced herself it was just

a fling that she could stop any time I never meant for it to go this far she said reaching for my hand I pulled away I love you I love our family it was a mistake a terrible mistake please we can work this out I looked at her this woman I'd loved for so long the mother of my children and felt nothing just a cold empty space where my heart used to be I want a divorce I said quietly no please you can't mean that think of the kids think of everything we've built together I'll

do anything please just give me another chance but my mind was made up I'd spent the last week thinking of nothing else and I knew I could never trust her again the woman I love the life we built together it was all a lie I'll be staying with my parents for a while I told her I've already talked to a lawyer we'll work out the details of the separation and custody Arrangements through them she tried to argue to plead but I was done listening I grabbed the bag I packed and walked out the door leaving

her sobbing on the couch the next few weeks I stayed with my parents trying to figure out how to rebuild my life telling the kids was the hardest part we decided to do it together we kept it simple just saying that mommy and daddy weren't going to be living together anymore more but that we both still love them very much Victoria being older seemed to understand more she asked if it was because Mommy had a boyfriend which shocked both of us apparently she'd overheard some of our arguments Travis just cried and asked if it was

his fault it broke my heart to see them hurting like that work was another challenge I had to take some time off to deal with everything Rose moved out a month after I confronted her she got an apartment nearby so the kids could easily go between our places we set up a temporary custody Arrangement the kids stayed with with me during the week and with her on weekends it wasn't ideal but it was the best we could do under the circumstances as for Matthew he faced his own consequences once the affair came to light he

was forced to resign from the company last I heard he'd moved to another state to start over good Ritt throughout all of this I've been surprised by the support I've received my family has been incredible helping with the kids and offering emotional support my friends have stayed around me making sure I'm not sitting at home alone brooding even Rose's family has been supportive of me much to her dismay they made it clear they didn't condone what she'd done it's been 3 months now since that Discovery the divorce proceedings are underway and we're working out the

details of custody and Asset Division it's not easy but I'm taking it one day at a time the kids are trying to process all the changes in their lives so that's where I am now single dad soon to be divorce e it's not where I thought I'd be at 38 but I'm hopeful for the future if nothing else this experience has shown me how strong I can be and I'm determined to come out of this better and stronger I'll update if anything significant changes thanks for listening to my story update 1 it's been about 3

months since my last post and a lot has happened I thought I'd give you all an update on how things are going Rose initially tried to contest the divorce claiming she'd made a mistake and wanted to work things out but when she realized I wasn't budging she changed tactics now she's fighting for a larger share of our assets and more custody of the kids her main argument is that her Affair was a momentary lapse in judgment and shouldn't negate all the years she spent as a devoted wife and mother she's even tried to paint me

as controlling saying I drove her to the affair by being emotionally distant it's all bull of course but it's still frustrating to deal with the most contentious issue has been the house we bought it together early in our marriage and we both want to keep it I argued that since I'm the primary caregiver for the kids they're with me during the school week it would be less disruptive for them if I kept the house Rose countered that she needs the space for when the kids are with her we're still battling that out as for custody

we're currently sticking with a temporary arrangement we set up kids with me during the week with rose on weekends but Rose is pushing for 50-50 custody her lawyer argues that her work schedule has become more flexible convenient timing right so she can be more present for the kids speaking of work there's been some drama there too remember Matthew Rose's boss she had the affair with Well turns out he didn't just quietly resign and move away like I thought he's been causing problems about a month ago I got a call from Rose hysterical apparently Matthew had

shown up at her new apartment drunk and making a scene he was yelling about how she'd ruined his life how she'd promised to leave me for him Rose called the cops and Matthew was arrested for disorderly conduct the whole incident shook rose up pretty badly she called me the next day apologizing again for everything and admitting that the affair had been a huge mistake she said Matthew had been pressuring her to leave me for months and she'd been too weak to stand up to him part of me felt a twinge of sympathy for her but

mostly I just felt relieved that I was out of that whole mess the incident with Matthew did have one positive outcome Rose finally agreed to a restraining order against against him she'd been reluctant before not wanting to make waves at work even though they no longer work together but now she realized how unstable he could be as for the kids they're doing okay not great but okay Victoria our 10-year-old has been acting out at school her grades have slipped and she got into a fight with another kid who made a comment about her mom's boyfriend

Travis at 8 is still struggling to understand what's happening he's become very clingy especially with me one particularly tough moment came when Travis asked me if mommy didn't love us anymore since she chose to be with that other man instead of us it broke my heart to hear him say that I did my best to explain that mommy still loved him very much that adult relationships are complicated and that none of this was his fault I'm not sure how much of it he understood but I hope it helped a little there have been some awkward

moments though a few weeks ago I ran into Rose's sister at the grocery store she looked uncomfortable and tried to avoid me but I caught up with her to my surprise she apologized for her sister's behavior and told me the whole family was disappointed and Rose she even hinted that this wasn't the first time Rose had been unfaithful though she didn't give details it left me wondering how much I really knew about the woman I've been married to for 12 years the divorce should be finalized in a few months and then I can truly start

this new chapter of my life so that's where things stand now I'm still taking it one day at a time focusing on being the best D I can be and rebuilding my life I'll update again when the divorce is finalized or if anything major changes thanks again for all your support and advice it's meant more than you know update 2 final update hey everyone it's been almost a year since my initial post and about 6 months since my last update I figured it was time for a final update to close this chapter of my life

first the big news the divorce is finally finalized after months of negotiations arguments and compromises it's officially over I'm no longer a married man it's a strange feeling the terms of the divorce weren't exactly what I'd hoped for but I suppose that's the nature of compromise we ended up selling the house and splitting the proceeds neither of us got to keep it which was tough but it was the fairest solution I've bought a smaller house in the same school district so the kids didn't have to change schools roses renting an apartment nearby as for custody

we settled on a 60/40 split the kids are with me during the school week and every other weekend Rose gets them every other weekend and two week nights for dinner it's not perfect but it's working so far the kids seem to be adjusting though there are still tough days speaking of the kids I decided to get my kids in therapy and honestly they're doing better Victoria's grades have improved proved and she's made some new friends at school Travis is still clingy at times but he's opening up more in therapy and seems to be understanding the

situation better they both still have moments of sadness or anger about the divorce but overall they're resilient kids I'm proud of how they're handling everything Rose and I are cordial we're not friends and I don't think we ever will be again but we're managing to co-parent without too much drama she's still with Matthew believe it or not they kept their relationship quiet for a while after the incident at her apartment and I had thought they had broken up but at looks like she took him back and Matthew moved back from the different state it's stung

to see them together officially but not as much as I thought it would I guess I've really moved on there was one incident about a month ago that tested our co-parenting relationship Rose wanted to introduce the kids to Matthew as her boyfriend I was against it feeling it was too soon and would confuse the kids we argued about it for days eventually taking it to our lawyers and the mediator in the end we agreed to consult with the kids therapist who advised waiting a bit longer Rose wasn't happy but she agreed to hold off on

my end life has been interesting I've also been focusing on self-improvement I've lost about 20 lbs started reading more and even took a cooking class it's been nice to ReDiscover who I'm outside of my marriage and yes I've started dating again nothing serious yet but I've been on a few dates it's been awkward and nerve-wracking but also kind of exciting there's one woman Erica who I've been seeing for about a month she's also Divorced with a kid so she understands what I'm going through we're taking things slow but it's ni nice to have someone to

talk to who gets it the first time I introduced Erica to the kids was an experience we had planned a casual meet up at a local park just a quick hello while the kids played Victoria was polite but distant Travis on the other hand had a full-on meltdown he cried and screamed that he wanted his mom that he hated me for trying to replace her it was heartbreaking Erica was understanding but I felt terrible we've had a few more meetings since then and they've gone better but it's still a work in progress there have been

some tough moments of course the first holidays post divorce were rough splitting up the Traditions deciding who gets the kids when it was all painfully new Thanksgiving was particularly hard it was the first major holiday I spent without the kids as they were with rose I ended up going to my parents house but it felt empty without Victoria and Travis there Christmas was better we managed to work out a schedule where the kids spent Christmas Eve with rose and Christmas Day with me seeing their faces light up as they open presents on Christmas morning it

reminded me of why I'm fighting so hard to give them a stable happy life even if it looks different than what we had before looking back on this whole experience I can see how much I've grown a year ago I was a Broken Man betrayed and lost now I feel stronger more confident don't get me wrong I still have moments of Doubt but they're less frequent and less intense so I guess this is where my story ends or rather where a new chapter begins thank you all for your support your advice and your kind words

throughout this journey it's meant more than you could know here's the new beginnings and Second Chances wish me luck f