Why ‘I Don’t Know’ is the Key to Freedom

most people's wanting is a reaction to what they don't want why does somebody go to the gym at the beginning of the year and they pay their 50 to 300 bucks a month or whatever it is and they maybe inside up for a trainer because they want to get in shape is invariably a reaction to the fact that their doctor told them they got to lower their cholesterol they got to lose weight they're on borderline diabetic or whatever it is so when one thing is based on a reaction it's never going to really be fulfilled

because you're trying to get away from something so the first thing to distinguish with any business or regardless of business relationship Health any commitment you have in the realm of performance or result is get clear on is this something I truly want to create or is it something that I want as a reaction to something I don't want so this is a very different intro I will just start with exactly how I'm feeling because this is such a departure from the shows that we normally create here on the Jasmine star show today's guest just walked

out of my front door and as he departed he said hey I think you're going to need um a few days of just rest relaxation please drink a lot of warm drinks like tea and hot water he's like you just went through a lot so today's podcast took a little bit of a departure it was completely unexpected and so I want to start this podcast here by saying the intention for this podcast has only ever been to create content for you and somehow in the course of this conversation it very much became about me a

lot of personal things were mentioned a lot of old school belief systems I already feel like a little a little a little tickle in my throat um it was very very very much opening it was eye opening and so I want you to hear my intention on the front end the intention is to create shows that help you I took this opportunity un knowingly and we really used my story but the goal here was not to make a show about me I'm hoping my intention was unexpectedly that my story somehow you find resonance in it

so that you can figure out what's the stories that are going on behind the scenes that are perhaps stopping you from the thing that you should be stepping into so I acknowledge it with great humility it is an honor that you're part of this conversation but if you were looking for a lot of straight shooting business applications it started off that way and then it went happily off the rails so consider yourself warned I hope that this impacts you as much as it did me many thanks to Peter cron welcome back to the Jasmine star

show I'm going to start with some straight shooter questions you know how I do so what would you do if you knew you couldn't fail was just purely impossible How would you act if that success everything you wanted was guaranteed what if I told you that you could have everything you wanted if you let go of just one thing okay so before we get to that answer I want to introduce you to today's guest Peter cron a brain architect he helps people step out of what they think is possible and then shows them shows you

something even bigger and better for what's possible in your life and business Peter welcome to the Jasmine star show thank you some thought-provoking questions right out of the gate absolutely it's called a hook hook Peters hook I we want people to stay with you but before I do that I really um I was listening to an interview and um you had said I'm in the business of helping people see how extraordinary they are yeah you are in a great place because I think many of us as entrepreneurs as business owners We Believe deep down we

believe that there is something in us that is extraordinary and yet it Wars coming to the surface and so I brought you here to highlight how we can bring out our extraordinary and step into a different version of ourselves in business great no pressure yeah we set the bar really low here okay absolutely but I'll also say I will also say um one thing that I don't bring people in on book tours or press tours or promo tours I bring people in who I deeply believe are going to speak to an audience and before I

do that before I say who's going to come into the orbit I want to study you I want to study what you think of and where that's an alignment and I will say something unexpected happened it's my my whole um I became wildly receptive when you said that you don't know yeah then I started internalizing well I I I don't know if this is going to work I don't know if this test will manifest in the way that I want it I don't know if this company will reach the thing that I want where did

you find that strength for you to start saying I don't know and how has that changed how you show up I mean it's sort of pivotal in terms of my own history My Own Story how I became who I am both personally and professionally I was dating someone you know thought I was mad in love as best as I knew at the ripe old age of 28 or whatever and um somebody they they moved into with me we had this beautiful relationship that went over the course of close to a year and a half and

then at the end of it you know to cut to the chase she she left and so for me that was kind of devastating and in ways that I didn't fully comprehend at the time it was really the Catalyst for me to be able to reconcile and reveal some of the deep traumas that I'd gone through as a kid cuz my mama died when I was seven of cancer and my dad had gone to work when I was and I was an only child so it was just he and I and he was in a

fatal shipping accident like a major shipping line that went between England and France England and Belgium so it was carrying I think 14500 people and a couple hundred people died so it was a major disaster and he was sadly one of them he was working as the chief engineer on the boat so anyway cut to this relationship where I thought this was sort of you know finding the right one and all these romantic connotations of what we thought love was m and so she leaves me I fall apart I'm a pretty composed guy I didn't

do anything unto but I was calling friends how do I get it back and there was a conversation for a couple of weeks between us where I was sort of on the other end of the line hoping that there might be a change of mind but there wasn't and then for whatever bizarre reasons you know they I now recognize that one of the Tendencies of the human brain is to try and figure out what's going to happen all the time because we're designed to survive right so the primordial imperative of every mammal is that we

want to make it we want to know what's going to happen and so I was having these incessant questions like where is she is she dating someone else will I see her again will I find love like that ever again and they would actually literally keep me up at night for a while and so this went on for a few weeks and then there was this euphoric sort of sator moment where I had this you know call it Awakening is sort of the fancy way but I just had this Epiphany and I got the answer

to all of those questions of where is she is she dating someone else will I see her again and will I find love like that again and it was I don't know and it was so categorically obvious when it hit me it was just the truth right so what it did was it mitigated all of the underlying suffering and The Angst that was associated with me trying to find out if my future was going to work out but simultaneously I recognized that I had you know in a very basic way recognize the nature of life

which is uncertainty and so at that moment I recognized the futility of the way that we're designed as humans is to try and figure everything out but we're in a context and a dimension where we don't know and so not only did I realize the truth to those questions which then gave me freedom and cascaded through my physiology like I'd never experienced it was complete peace cuz I was okay not knowing and so so the friction that was there was because you wanted to know yeah and then you acknowledge I don't know and acknowledging I

don't know brings you peace yeah so the friction is it's a little bit more slippery and it's more part of the subconscious constraints with which I assert we all arrive right so to me this so time out time out time out so listeners we're the big we are business owners we want to do the dang thing we dwell in the land of data and analytics and Quant and so EXP explain to me so I've done a lot of work around the conscious the subconscious but that kind of sometimes sounds a little woo woo right for

a lot of people so exactly describe when we say subconscious explain it to me like I'm five okay so basically we're in a house your beautiful home and this house can only exist because of the foundations this house represents that which you're aware of which you can see you're conscious of right so when you go to bed at night and you're lying there and you can't fall asleep you're thinking about your business you're in the shower you're driving to a meeting you're thinking whatever it is that you're aware of we can Call Conscious that is

which you can see the house what you can't see is what sustains the house which is beneath the surface so that's the sub beneath conscious which to me is pivotal because it's the framework upon which all of your thoughts are generated so why is it that even for an entrepreneur someone who's disciplined they're dedicated they've gone to All the Right seminars they have the right team their business isn't quite meeting you know the quotas or the budgets or the returns that they think they are Justified let's go yeah tell me well because they will be

living in a subconscious pattern that they're oblivious to O and it's the same in relationships it's the same in health why does somebody attract the same kind of partner male or female or otherwise that seems to not be available that seems to be slightly abusive that seems to be slightly gaslighting whatever it is you're the consistent theme in every Arena of your life so that's where the opportunity is right it's not because of the climate the environment or whatever it's because of the way that you literally relate to life because of the woowoo frequency that

you live from based on the constraints that are in your subconscious so so you can't build whatever this is a beautiful 4,000 ft home on top of a 2,000t foundation it's not going to happen equally if you live within the constraints and the fundamental limitations that are I'm not enough I'm not loved I'm not worthy then you can't create an 89 figure business it's not going to happen ladies and gentlemen Peter CR he left no crumbs the question becomes are you going to pick up what he is putting down so for the sake of this

conversation and if you have not left already you will not be going anywhere I want to break this down because pet is generously sharing his wealth of knowledge and he is one of the top coaches for athletes for entrepreneurs for a person who wants to radically change their life and so for this conversation I want to break it into from working with wild wildly successful entrepreneurs one of the top reasons people get stuck in their business second part of the conversation is when an entrepreneur is ready to change what steps can we do to start

moving the constraints how do we bring the subconscious our foundation into the home so we start seeing the patterns of why are we attracting the same type of clients why are we not Landing the other types of clients why do we consistently miss our goals and then lastly if we possibly can what does it mean to be truly confident in our business Ambitions mhm let's go okay let's go I'm down so um what are the top reasons entrepreneurs you see this again what are the patterns that you see why are entrepreneurs getting stuck in terms

of how you coach people through what are those common things yeah I mean obviously most of my work is somewhat customized but there are going to be Trends right so you got to look at the human being right if we're looking at performance in any Arena whether I'm working with pro athletes and the best of the bests in business or entertainment I have to First Look at who who is the human being right you can't optimize performance unless you optimize health and you can't optimize Health until you free your mind right that Cascade is to

me Paramount and so most people whatever it is that their performance is in this case a business a startup who are they is going to determine the thoughts the feelings the actions and the results right that's the Cascade of creation so everybody wants good results invariably in the arena of expertise or sort of going to Specialist or a teacher of some kind we tend to talk in the realm of action right you even go and see a doctor do this don't do that it's in the realm of behavior MH I'm in the realm of subconscious

patterns that drive way before that that's too late down the Cascade of creation as far as I'm concerned it might work transitory right like quit smoking and da da da and you might get a little bit healthier or stop eating fats or whatever it is that people say but it's it's shortlived you can watch The Biggest Loser on TV and they've got the greatest environment with trainers and whatever they're doing in the background and they're pumping them with stuff to help them lose weight they lose virtually a whole person 200 lb but meet them in

four or five years they're back to where they they were why because they haven't shifted their identity right your personality is the precursor to your personal reality so if you want to have a different personal reality AKA results then you have to understand how does that come about behavior is a key part of it but your thoughts and your feelings are going to be the precursor to that and then the who you are for yourself meaning the blind spots are what's going to drive all of those sorts and feelings so so if somebody's stuck to

answer your question it's because they're misidentified with a limitation at the subconscious level they're not enough they're not special they're not important their needs don't matter whatever it is that arose during the course of their childhood where they felt that there was something wrong about them which everybody has is going to be their biggest limitation so until you free that until you free your mind of whatever the constraint is you can't access your true potential and that's true of everyone it doesn't mean you can't have a good business I've worked with I don't know 20

billionaires it doesn't mean that they're successful as far as concern they just have a lot of money right so they might still have you know a very dysfunctional relationship maybe their third marriage they might have kids who are addicted to God knows what or ar stranged uh they may have all sorts of health conditions right to me success is much more synonymous with true peace that's what I'm uh interested in finding because also you find real quick do um so I'm always putting myself in the shoes of The Listener and so you're identifying things that

could be subconscious mind restraints like I'm not good enough I was never the standout I'm a constant fa I let people downless okay so in your experience do people actually know that narrative or do they have to find it out the some do you know with maturity and sometimes counsel therapy good friends people who know how to listen you know people point it out but invariably they're blind spots which is why I say from the persp perspective of compassion I'm like you I I want to get results I work with the best of the best

there's no [ __ ] around like you know it's like I've work with Navy Seals and their whole motto is deal with it right it's there's no time to feel sorry for yourself in my world right and I'm one of the most loving guys so we can have compassion so you can't be hard accountable for that which you're oblivious to is what I tell people but let's make the unconscious conscious so that you can handle it or you can see somebody's listening and they don't have the opportunity to work with Peter cone yeah is there

any exercise that we might develop to say if I don't have that in my sphere if I don't have somebody to help me call out those blind spots is there something that we can start asking ourselves to figure out what the blind spot is because how do we grow and break past if we can't first identify the constraint it's a great question and it is a little bit of a conundrum it's going to take a certain amount of discernment intelligence and usually reflection you know you can start to look at okay what are the fears

it's a very simple place like what is the fear because again like to go back to your initial question of why an entrepreneur is stuck I would even go to a deeper question of like well what is it you're trying to create and why right because often times like I discern two different forms of desire there's reactive and creative forms of wanting and most people's wanting is reactive which means it's coming from a place of limitation scarcity or fear okay let's slow down yeah so I know I download pretty quick but I'm appealing to the

intelligence of your audience I absolutely know this so we create the thing we desperately desire for ourselves typically but it can be from a place of scarcity right so wanting it's got two sides to the same coin wanting is it creates time right because if you want something you're creating a future you're saying I don't have it so wanting then is now in the realm of space and time so when people talk about manifestation which is in the realm of business especially woowoo and California and all of that right but there's we are manifestors that's

all we're doing all the time it's not that something you just adopt or you don't if you're living in a world of inadequacy you are going to manifest a life that reflects that we just want to be conscious manifestors so wanting based in time is going to have two components to it most people's wanting is a reaction to what they don't want why does somebody go to the gym at the beginning of the year and they pay their 50 to 300 bucks a month or whatever it is and they may be in sight up for

a trainer because they want to get in shape is invariably a reaction to the fact that their doctor told them they got to lower their cholesterol they got to lose weight they're on borderline diabetic or whatever it is so when one thing is based on a reaction it's never going to really be fulfilled because you're trying to get away from something so the first thing to distinguish with any business or regardless of business relationship Health any commitment you have in the realm of performance or result is get clear on is this something I truly want

to create or is it something that I want as a reaction to something I don't want okay talk to me about what happens when we create from a something of a place of avoidance like if we create a business or an offer that we don't realize it's from a place of avoidance but we're doing it so what comes of that you get to be right about the thing you're trying to avoid oh fear breaks its own heart so if I'm saying I don't want something that's what I'm being informed by therefore that is the resonance

that I'm constantly occupying or predominantly occupying and so even when I fulfill on the thing that I think I wanted so for example someone might lose weight and that's been their Bugaboo for decades and they finally get to that point they're still going to be informed by the desserts at a dinner party because they can't have that even though they've lost the 50 and they see their friends oh no you know I I put on weight just by looking at cookies whatever their narrative it's still being they're still being defined by it right people who

win the lotto invariably end up where they were 3 to 5 years later because they don't know how to manage that sense of self-worth right so your perspective of not wanting the avoidant energy tends to be the defining energy so that's why when we're trying to get away from something which also forms the avoidant right I don't want to fulfill on the lack of whatever I've had before like when I work with a baseball player he might be one of the greatest in the major leagues if he's had a if he scuffled for a few

games and he hasn't had a hit he's stepping up to the plate and he's being informed by what he doesn't want to continue which energetically the fear of okay I haven't had a hit for three games I'm 04 I'm now going to be his energy is going to be in a state of tension he's not relaxed like he would be in batting practice or he's shooting the or he's super confident so it's self-fulfilling prophecy business Sports and anything you life so it's fulfilling on a future that you see as already being completed is what's actually

going to change the Resonance of who you are that then shifts your thoughts feelings and actions so that then that becomes self-fulfilled but because people are being informed by the fear of something that equally that Cascade still happens where do you see this finding in like entrepreneurs that you've worked worked with is the um building something essentially because I'm trying to avoid something yeah or compensate or overcome or disprove right you know like my my my brother my sister whatever the story is from childhood was the athlete the academic and so I'm going to stick

it to them or I'm going to make my parent wrong or I'm going to show my dad that I'm not a piece of you know these these can be motivators right but you said at the beginning about being forceful right and I often will have certainly my athletes repeat after me I say I am forceful I am forceful right and so when you think I am forceful what does that and I'm curious with you particularly because of like the little background we had before when you think I am forceful what what is does that feel

like energetically physiologically it feels good okay it feels um like strength it feels like power it feels like I happen to it and it doesn't happen to me got it and that's there was going to be my that would have been my guess so now let's ladies and gentlemen Peter and I spoke five minutes before we turn on the camera so but it doesn't take me long to see a long time doesn't take me long to get people's energy plus you said being an eror so now if I asked you to say I am powerful

now repeat that I am powerful I am powerful how does that feel in congruous it doesn't come as natural to me okay got it yeah wow but what does that say about me now well I like it and it doesn't feel off but it does I feel I am forceful in a way that I own it and then I am powerful is yes yes not Yes exclamation point yeah no no I get that and again there's no right or wrong this is all based on interpretation and you could you know take one or the other

and have an extraordinary life for me the way I look at it energetically is force is really being driven from a place of lack and control where oh tell me like so he clearly knows a lot about me okay okay yeah which I would read in your energy not as good or bad but it's just you know it's going to be a limitation right and it's also going to Cascade through your life physiologically and it's going to manifest in all sorts of ways that you take pride in your Force which is part of ironically your

weakness right so we're just we're having therapy this this is what happens you sit in ter so yeah and this is all done with love right so absolutely because I care and I also want your listeners to Garner from something this particularly if they're obviously fans of yours which they will be and they see and they aspire to everything course yes I'm very open which is beautiful and so that is your strength right is that there's room for improvement so or or education or inspiration so say that again that force is a result of lack

and want it's a byproduct yeah so Force if you think about it energetically and again I'm open to any one's interpretation the way I look at it and I've done this for now three decades with the best of the best in every industry so it's been pretty consistently proved that when we come from a place of force it's a manipulative energy it's a dominant energy it's where we're trying to control right so if someone were to just a lay person a psychologist on the street might say oh yeah Jasmine type a control freak right you

know as a general sort of dismissive but not inaccurate statement right so those qualities tend to be compensatory absolutely right so if we were to dive into and maybe we'll expose some of it here I don't know we've never met before let's go rip me open I know how you pay people pay you a lot of money to work one-onone it turn this podcast into a free therapy session right yeah okay so the forcefulness which is again not bad but it's going to be limited is is uh it's an adaption right so we have maladaptive

behaviors we have adaptive behaviors in the way that we grow up and especially from our childhood so I could maybe guess but you can equally share that some of the things you grew up in in the environment I don't know if you had siblings I don't know what your parents are like to what degree you got attention you were probably a great student or maybe you weren't and you've compensated whatever it is you've become a Force but that Force what I feel is adaptive but maladaptive right you've 100 keep going yeah all of it and

so why I'm happy to share this with you is you know I work again as I said with multiple billionaires and da d da the best of the best in sports and entertainment you know blessed to get people shout out at concerts and it's amazing you know and I feel very fortunate but what I hear is in you is no matter what you've created and the audience that you have who look up to you and you're inspiring you're limiting yourself because it's built on the quintessential sand Foundation amen tell me something I don't know yeah

how do I change it okay well we can do some of it here so so this so un comfortable I'm literally spitzing I'm spitzing right now okay let's go I'm I'm I'm 100% committed I'm going to do this I'm going to answer even if it makes me wildly uncomfortable okay beautiful well I really acknowledge you for that that means a lot that and thank you for trusting me in this cuz again we haven't met so the thing to recognize is that there's a huge cost to you emotionally and particularly physiologically and then eventually in your

realm financially and materially and relation level when you're coming from a place that isn't truly authentic to your soul Spirit Consciousness right so this is ego based control right so the ego from a place of fear so wanting to be the best uh wanting to have the sense of perfectionism these are qualities that I could see that you've adapted which they they work right like think about just physiologically right I studied exercise physiology and biology at school so I understand the difference between say anerobic or aerobic systems in the body right and you would have

experienced it and you're smart so you probably know some of it too but if we Sprint okay you've got a lot of force but for a short duration and there's going to be a lot of you know lactic acid and there's a cost to that performance so your current way of functioning to me is costly now does it get results for sure I've got lots of people I've worked with who are complete [ __ ] you know they're really controlling really dominant they're very dismissive they're not the kind of people you'd want to have around

at Thanksgiving but they have successful businesses but at massive expense so what the access for someone like you who generally cares who wants to be open is to see the expense of the way that you currently function it's not a bad system it's just not an efficient system and it's a limited system one of my favorite distinctions that that I realize is with your methodology you become the best version of your limited self damn I'm so tired of being the best version of my limited self yeah and that's what I see a lot of so

it's like I talk about these different dimensions it's not about improving the space that you're in it's about busting down walls so that you open up more space to extra possibility as an analogy if you were metaphorically like a 600t studio apartment you would make it beautiful just because of your forcefulness your eye for detail your you know mature quisite woman you have Elegance I can see all of these qualities so you could buy a piece of that was maybe used by a couple of bums and it had carpet mold in the drywall you know

and a washing machine that doesn't even work and all the things and Jasmine would come in it would be impeccable by the time you've done with it like you know PK wood floors from Paris you know the walls would be stripped it would be le lead free paint RH Furniture you know Be Like the Wolf appliances whatever it would be beautiful but it'd still be 600 ft so as an analogy that's what people are doing so when people are stuck to go back to your original questioners entrepreneurs they're perfecting a limited space I feel flate

open right now you feel what I feel Flay open I feel like like a you didn't come with the machete you came with a scalpel and I'm knowing I'm bleeding out in front of you and like oh my God okay whoa oh wow I got to get it together Peter no this is beautiful because this is accessing a part of you that many people maybe don't see and I really appreciate the vulnerability it's so uh good and it feels so awkward it feels very awkward yeah a safe space it's a safe space so like screw

the rest of the questions screw the rest of the questions how do I move from Force to power that is all I want yeah no I get it and I but sit with that for a minute because and you what you just said feel it I don't want to feel you can because in your voice it broke a little bit right so there's not an intonation of anyone that I work with that I don't notice so the beauty in that is that you broke a little bit just in your voice right and so that is

the knocking down of a drywall in the 600t apartment which is starting to crumble which is beautiful and I really acknowledge you for that cuz again we don't know each other from a hole in so the fact that you're entrusting me with this is it means a lot to me so thank you thank you um and I'm sure it will touch your listeners incredibly so okay hold on we're just going to make space because our my production is just ringing me tissue no no no there will be no tears would be no dears we should

have my EA should have for warned you I know come with the box of tissue okay I'm good I'm good I'm good I'm good you know you're doing great so the thing to recognize first of all it's beautiful is that there's nothing wrong with the way you have lived your life but that comes at Great expense and as I said it's the limited version of you it's the best version of you but it's the limited version right and so we want to recognize okay what is it that's really going on beneath the surface like what

is Jasmine really trying to accomplish because it looks like it's exogenous it looks like it's a business I don't know anything about your business but it looks like you're trying to do something out in the world what I would assert is actually all you're really up to you know you have a you have a beautiful 5-year-old if you were to walk into the kitchen and she was snooping around and she sees you and you're like what are you up to right there's something going on beneath the surface so what I see is it's not so

much and this will hopefully resonate with your audience too what you're trying to accomplish outside in the world but rather what are you trying to compensate for inside so what was it that you decided at a young age or what comes to mind as I've spoken and the fet is happening courtesy of the language but what what is it that came to mind if you had any recollection from your childhood where did this girl where was it incumbent upon her to be perfect where did she feel that she had to get everything right where did

she feel maybe she fell short and then she's like I'm never going to do that again does any of those kind of resonate um so I'm the eldest of five children from an immigrant family okay and I just have always fallen into the like you will be responsible and you will take care of people and um yeah and you will whatever is put in front of you you you will do it yeah you will do it yeah now just sit with that right because at one level that's your badge of honor and it's really beautiful

and without knowing you I can only imagine the Mirad of things that you've done behind the scenes you know out of sight even from your parents and the way you took care of your siblings is really beautiful and it speaks volumes about the kind of person you are and I just want to acknowledge that first of all but what I also hear is that there's where's Jasmine's life right where's your life cuz now your it's your you're being it's incumbent upon you that you have to it's it's in the realm of what I call these

Insidious killers there certain words we use like I have to I need to I must these are words that people use every day not realizing they're creating resistance in their body so in that world where you're young immigrant family you're charged with this huge responsibility that should not be a child regardless of how old you were but that now means that you have abandoned yourself because you now have the duty which it's as a said it's it's it's a it's mandatory right there's no choice anymore and when we lose choice we lose fre fre so

you've done it for so long decades at this point so it's become like I said it's it's your pride it's your badge of honor which is beautiful because you obviously care and you probably did things for your siblings that hopefully they're still acknowledging you for in the way that you maybe even saved their life I don't know but it's now become your greatest obstacle because you're still being informed by what you have to do what you should do what you must do what you need to and in that realm there's no Freedom of Choice does

that make sense y 100% And it's also if you really tap into it and you're a woman so hopefully you can what is it like if you just tap into your body thinking about Decades of having to do a certain thing that wasn't your choice the mandatory energy the superimposition of pressure and responsibility that wasn't yours to have what does that feel like in your body um an anvil yeah heavy right and typically the word is exha it's exhausting right so your system and you probably take impeccable care of yourself but if I were to

look at all of your blood works and all of your stuff maybe not now but not far away 5 10 years regardless of how well you take care of yourself we would see the results of that in your physiology right adrenals and whatever else stomach all of those things right so we don't have to go there but your physiology has to you know it it keeps score you know there's a book about that right but it's like the energetics of what you're doing on a psychological and emotional level have to be stored in the body

no matter what we do to offset it and that's okay but but I'm excited that we're having this conversation because now I can hopefully introduce you to my main product which is freedom right so if Jasmine can break free then your physiology can do what it does naturally which is constantly rejuvenate itself without any imped to you know health and vitality right so this if I go back and I do a quick check-in yeah you had said uh to sit and be with it and so while you're talking I just kept on telling myself like

to be with it to feel to feel everything that you're saying and I feel it deeply and there hasn't been a single thing that I have disagreed with it's just it was like you just saw my inner side and you turn it inside out and you read it so you read my charts and you see it exactly for what it is but my default is to do yeah my default is action and so if I took time to sit through like you had said is to sit through our thoughts feelings and I immediately go to

action okay fine I immediately want to do something to change from Force into Power yes and so I'm highly coachable so what I want to do is tell me what to do and I'm afraid that you're going to tell me there's not much we can do we have to be and I'm like good God yeah good God I can't do that i' for four decades I can't do it yet four decades all I've known is doing yeah and it's a beautiful attribute that you've developed and look I without knowing the the ins and outs of

your life professionally or personally I have no doubt that you've accomplished you know [ __ ] tons and it's it's beautiful but it is in the realm of perspective not action right so meaning I'm not going to just say like you know some sort of spiritual Guru like okay just be you know and just your being is enough like okay there's a certain degree of philosophical application to that but you know you're a woman of action so so I am going to give you the opportunity to act but it's from a different place right so

when you live in the world of you have to you must you should what does that feel like heavy it feels like I'm dragging something I actually explained to my husband and business partner that I I turned to him and I said I am tired of pulling yes I want to be pulled I feel like I'm ready to be pulled I feel like there's the different version of me who's calling to me I feel it so we have this conversation I had this conversation with my husband earli this week and I'm like oh my God

what is happening like it's literally like just let go like be open to being pulled yeah and I've just always been so much of a control freak that I pull and I'm tired of pulling Peter it's exhausting like I said no and I see it and it's really beautiful that you can be here with me in this energy and for your listeners because I promise you especially you know I'm going to guess you skew predominantly female and they're you know probably mothers too but they also want to build a business and they're badasses and it's

beautiful but what I see with women like yourself is that you're doing such a disservice to the beautiful feminine that you are which is more in the nurturance you know which is more in the creative and the Ethereal and it doesn't mean you have to walk around and be woo woo and you know palac sento your house every day but you know you can still be a badass but from a place of really nurturing you right okay love includes you and so the dragging the heavy the things that you describe is because you're still playing

the role of that little girl who thinks it's incumbent upon her to take care of everything MH right that's really the main prison that you're living in is it's if I were to categorize it in some of the terminology I use it's all up to Jasmine mhm does that does that hit like does that res so what is it like to live in a world where the way it occurs to you because it's your reality and we'll discuss that in a minute the way it occurs to you is it's all and all is everything right

it's taking care of your siblings it's now husband another daughter business podcast all it's all up to you what's it like to look at now a little bit removed from your own life and go holy I live like everything is up to you that's um sad yeah because I know deep down it's not yeah and I think it does a disservice to the people and the team that I have of course and so I think that I sell myself a story I don't know to push me into greater action and to do more and I

don't think it serves anybody what does it do in the realm of allowing people to contribute to you it's funny before you came I was having a conversation with our video crew and we were talking about Love Languages and um she had said something in in passing that had said something along the lines is your love language is correlative to the thing that uh you didn't haveh growing up and so my love language is ACC of service and most of the time I believe that or she had said the reason why that's probably your highest

love language is because you didn't get help or you didn't know how to ask for help yeah so you desperately so I don't know how to I don't know how to ask for help because I don't know what help I need and so I'm very verbal and I if I ask you something it's very specific Peter and if I don't if I just say help me and somebody says how i' would be like I don't know and so then there's two of us who are lost and I'm like I that's just not the world in

which I dwell no of course and that's all everything you're saying is all going to be past reference right so you don't know how to communicate from a different place M so even that is more evidence to sustain the ego that's confined right CU there might come a time where tomorrow or after this conversation you do know what to ask and even if you don't know what to ask it's okay because they could give you a hug or say I love you I don't know yeah and it's okay I don't know do you see and

so there doesn't have to be an immediate impetuous result or action that is associated with the fact that you know what I'm feeling right now oh honey I get that that's okay you see for you to give yourself your a rest bite to just be with an emotion for a minute as opposed to think that it's something to resolve an action that has to be take taken or something that you have to do right so there's just very forceful very masculine energy right again none of us is bad we have all of the qualities I

have a lot of famin I make my own skin moisturizers and things but I'm great SK thank you um but I think for you and I see this a lot with these very successful driven women you know the masculine has just come online too much and particular being Aries and now that I get a little semblance of what your childhood was like that it's all incumbent upon you to take care of your entire family your siblings at least you know you start to see oh wow the conditioning is such that there's just no what you're

about to do room for you to breathe and see that right there it's so beautiful right because it's so subtle but if you had and I don't know your medical history if you had any kind of disease in your system right now your body is starting to heal right in front of me right that seems like magic but it's it's really beautiful because when you get out of the state of disease the absence of ease the carrying the Anvil that's a state of disease right there's the absence of Peace which means you have to be

in sympathetic mode fight or flight which means that you're dumping cortisol neopine adrenaline into your system there's no repair there's no digestion but in that moment where you let go of something that's the letting go it's not letting go of the millionth project that you're trying to take on it's the letting go of energetically thinking that it's all incumbent upon you to do everything MH you're you're literally letting go of the ultimate addiction which is to our identity it's letting go of the Jasmine who thinks she has to do everything MH it's the death of

a version of you does that make sense very much that's the beauty of this work I don't solve problems I dissolve them dissolving your relationship which is maladaptive it's disease oriented and it's inefficient in the way that you think everything is incumbent upon you that's one component for sure it's the biggest one um in 2022 I download a word of the year so in 2022 it was rebirth mhm in 2023 it was rebirth 2024 it was Independence MH not doing it on my own but doing it my own way mhm and in 2025 the word

is flow okay and so I feel that everything you said about the previous version of me yeah that that is the death of me yeah and I am so stubborn that the death of me has taken me two years and I know that it's supposed to be the flow of me stepping into it because the thing I'm building is a holding company and I keep on telling myself I think that I in the way of it because I keep on thinking that I have to do and how can I do more when I'm already feeling

like I'm doing the most and what I have to let go of is I have to ask for help I have to say I don't know and then I have to depend on others to do the thing like the big vision is there Peter I am the resistance yeah that's okay and how do I get out of that yeah well we're doing it right now and I know there's a little bit of impetuosity and patience with people people of your disposition so that's going to be part of your lesson right two of the words that

I had so as part of my I would say the final sort of tears of me getting to the place I was were the components of trust and patience right which is for somebody who's driven you know their Kryptonite so for you to recognize okay if everything's up to you it's everything is your responsibility and there's a new definition of responsibility I'm going to leave you with before I leave because right now it's again it's very dysfunctional so if it's all up to you the reason that you have this like this deathlike grip on behavior

and everything but also the awareness which is great and the intelligence to recognize you are quote unquote the biggest obstacle which by the way you know shocker to everyone you are your own obstacle right but you just have a pretty big solid wall if it's all up to you what is one of the fears that's going to be associated with that everything oh my trigger is letting people down yes so put that in Lay terms letting people down would be what I feel like uh the talent on this team is remarkable and I think that

they can go any Peter they can go anywhere and they have bought into this dream and they've bought into a belief that it's going to be very big and I feel like if for some reason I don't execute on that I feel like I've let them down and I feel like I've squandered their best years yeah to be somewhere else so so let's take it because all of this is Being Framed by a little girl who's charged with something that made her fundamentally very scared mhm two primary emotions that we all have hurt or scared

hurt is associated with our history scared is about our future they both coexist the degree to which we've been hurt is usually the degree to which being scared so that little girl was very scared when she was charged with taking care of these siblings at a very young age in a foreign environment you know if you're in immigrants right I'm guessing that will happen so what letting down what would that look like to a little girl like you don't say I don't want to let down my parents right I don't want to let down my

siblings I felt like I wanted to keep them safe yeah so this adds to the significance of your deathlike grip because keeping them safe has got what associated with it life and death no big deal right right for a child right right right so life and death is now collapsed with your condition response that it's all up to you there's a lot at stake now so letting people down could also be termed what that you could do harm you could do harm yeah death to their dream which to me is very synonymous with like a

death to one's life it is but unbeknownst to yourself that's what you're doing I know right although now it's becoming very evident so doing harm is in Lay terms for the sake of leading the witness a little bit here doing anything wrong yeah so now you live in a world like just consider who you be for yourself until this conversation is it's all up to you and because it's all up to you you can't do anything wrong so now if you collapse those you got the Anvil of it's all up to me now add and

I can't do anything wrong there's no room for mistakes for Jasmine do you see that that is your reality that's literally it's not a belief it's how the world occurs to you and rightly so based on how you were introduced to that responsibility so it's all up to you and you can't make a mistake you can't what's it like to live in that terrifying exhausting brutal brutal it's really brutal for someone with your intelligence and the size of your heart and the aspirations you have and the potential that is just sitting there dormant you're literally

and you've done such an incredible job of managing this in a state of Terror but you've developed all these maladaptive incredible capacities on the surface the way you put yourself together again while knowing the details of your life but I can imagine and again there's a ice breath right you're starting to see the system trying to regulate the nervous system right now yeah for people who are not watching the video I am taking the world's biggest breaths because I feel like the anxiety is shooting up and I know that um this is there is not

a lion that's about to Maul me no this is not life and death no quite the opposite you might be in the safest most loving space you could ever be mhm and your systems recognizing it sobeit you say the anxiety is shooting up also say it's shooting out it's leaving your body right cuz you're realizing what was previously what I said at the beginning you can't be hard accountable for that which you're oblivious to which is why compassion comes in you're an extraordinary woman again I've known you for like half an hour 45 minutes I

don't need to know the details but I can see the absolute angst and the tightness of your whole nervous system based on what was charged to a little girl that was not her responsibility to have so there's only compassion from me but there's also the inclination and the desire to help you step out of that so that you can live a life life of complete Freedom that's my commitment how okay we're getting there baby steps I know trust in patience trust in patience trust in patience trust in patience okay so we're getting two of the

main prisons it's all up to you if it's all up to you especially at a young age where lives are at stake then you have no room for mistakes now you start to see again how exhausting it is cuz you you literally in the way that you relate to life you can't do anything wrong so what are some of the ways that you've compensated CU it's all compensatory for the fact that you think you can't do something wrong what are some of your behavioral traits I overwork y i i chess out every scenario so that

I feel like I'm prepared for anything that comes my way you could work for the Secret Service yeah absolutely absolutely I will have plan B and I will plan C and Plan D yeah and so I feel like I work four times it's hard to be prepared Y and pivot drive myself even more yeah now as you say those words do you see the cost to you of living that way I think mostly of the cost of my husband and daughter yeah that's okay yeah but that's where this is where it really hits the road

right is that you really care I get how much you care but you're driven by the other dysfunctional part of that which is worry I care more than anyone I know heart- centered anatomically in the middle of my chest you live in your head which is all about self-preservation pure survival it's all worry none of your fault so there's nothing to feel guilty about any of this this is beautiful this is probably going to touch more people than you've ever touched is my guess I know I have to tell myself like um I feel like

a I feel very selfish yeah and I feel like I had prepared for this interview to help other people and I'm totally using it for me and so my apologies to people who are watching but I'm going to believe I have to believe Peter that somebody else is going to see it and they're going to it's going to resonate with them because what I want to do is I just want to quit and be like hey Peter I'll pay you for this like put me in your schedule in 2027 whenever you have an opening I'll

pay you for this but what I want to do is want to stand in the B batter's box and I want to get a hit and I'm not going to leave the batter's box until I get a hit cuz I I I want to change dang it oh God this is so awkward oh my God no no this is beautiful and really I really I see you right and whilst you think that you're being selfish I would absolutely guarantee as somebody who's done this for decades this might be the most selfless thing you've ever done

because all of your previous behaviors were selfish unbeknownst to you because you are actually trying to survive your own limitations that's all about you okay so this actually is selfless nurse because you're giving other people are listening watching right now the opportunity to see their own cages their own prisons that they've been living in under the guise of I'm a great wife I'm a great mother I'm a great business person or whatever it is but really there are usually adaptations to our own feelings of inadequacy that really is about us we get to constantly be

right about where we are that's right short full so for me I say you know being right is the poor man's version of selfworth you get that so you get to be right about in this case these two really what I call linguistic fortresses because they're just prisons of your own language right but you are trapped in the idea that it's all up to you and as a result just beneath that is you you just you cannot make a mistake so the compensations are as you said you work hard you've got all these strategies plan

be you're a perfectionist you're a control freak these I promise you are qualities of right now everybody listening like holy that's me okay and that's why this is a gift okay because that's why they are stuck as entrepreneurs to go back to the original question that's why they're not maximizing their returns they're not getting the Investments that they wanted to be realized in the way that they anticipated because they're living in a prison of their own unknowing and you're exposing yours which vicariously lets them see theirs okay so less awkward okay a lot less thank

you yeah and there's going to be other sort of co-actors in this script of the prison that Jasmine's lived in but so let's look at the first one when you live in the world of it's all up to you we've talked about how that feels it's heavy you're dragging you've even talked to your husband recently that you're feeling like you're you know you want to step into this version that's allowing so the time is perfect in this conversation because we're going from a place where you're trying to avoid something to allow something you're trying to

avoid anything going wrong which is when you look at it as a mother as a woman first of all just using basic intelligence it's it's such an asinine way to live it doesn't even make sense you know I mean I think I'm one of the smartest people I know and I all the time because I'm okay with it right that's my Humanity so for you to recognize you're living in a world that not only is unlogical it's actually futile because it can't be fulfilled right and again it's all come down to subjective what is wrong

what is right okay but still you're human right and especially now as a mother and she's young enough as this beautiful daughter that you know you want to give her the the gift that is her Humanity right that is compassion for self that is love otherwise she's going to grow up into Mini Me mm and you're going to see a kid who's on ader roll in high school who's going to college but can't keep up and has got anxiety disorders because she's trying to be like a mom and get everything perfect right just being a

little bit more sort of categoric here friend to friend like you know pull your head out of your ass cuz I get how much you care yeah and you as we saw with the tears how much this is impacting your husband and your daughter so this is going to be a gift not only to them but to everyone listening so let's look at the first prison we can understand you were charged with this responsibility and this responsibility to to compl on what I promise which is to redefine it your responsibility is the old form of

responsibility it has got guilt and shame associated with it right you're responsible that energy right and so what that child heard is responsibility if you if you do something wrong there's consequences and it's your fault right do you see that yeah responsibility I talk about is much more it incorporates the essence of why we incarnate it without getting to Asic responsibility is that I'm 100% responsible for my life but not from a place of guilt or shame but from a accountability because I'm a man of honor and if I say I'm going to do something

and I don't do it I'm responsible not I'm a bad guy but I just didn't complete on what I said do you see the difference so in this conversation you're actually now going to become responsible but you're going to become responsible for what you've been up to as I said earlier which is you've been pretending it's all up to you and that you can't make mistakes and it is a lie because it's not only completely futile it's completely as I said before you can't complete on those right so where were you where were you born

in California in California so if I were to cut you open this is an exercise I take people and you can only answer yes or no okay am I going to find a physical manufacturing lab pick your material wood metal or plastic inside of you that says J Jasmine born in California it's all up to her no I'm not right and yet it defines your life so it exists somewhere so where does it's all up to you exist if it's not part of your physiology or your Hardware where does it exist um my mind yeah

it does and then in the mind what are these things made up of and again you don't get to be biolog locally and specific here it's all up to me is what words it's words it's literally words so if it's just words in your mind the thing is you've got history you've got Decades of evidence so that's why it's got the gravity but I'm breaking that down it's just words it's up to me in your mind is it therefore a categoric truth in the universe that it's all up to you no it's not is it

and just now sit with that you've been living in a lie through no fault of your own so it's that's the old responsibility that you believe beyond belief it's who you are it's all up to you that's how you relate to life do you see that mm but it's a lie that's the good news so now this is all new and I tell people I'm introducing you to a world that you're not familiar so it might take a minute but you're smart and you're paying attention I really appreciate that and the absence the absence I

dissolve don't solve the it's up to me is gone and again it's going to be unfamiliar what might be possible in the way you would feel if it's not all up to you how might you feel um free that I'm a part of a team that it's something bigger that the I becomes we and that makes me very excited yeah yeah it's different very we're just knocking down a couple of walls in the 600t apartment and baby let's go to 4,000 let's go to 40,000 that's right you know for me it's like living in this

world of abundance which is waiting somebody said to me the other day a very astute woman she's done a lot of work and she's a single mom of two beautiful kids and she we've got to connect recently have some beautiful dialogue about some of these different ways of looking at The Human Experience and she's very astute but where one area she struggled with is finances and she said you know I'm really embodying my feminine I'm softening I'm allowing all of these beautiful qualities she said and I'm really excited to create abundance sounds amazing doesn't it

yes I said but you can't because abundance is what we're interested in is not creating abundance but making you available to it that might trigger a couple of your entrepreneurs right because you're most people are trying to get something which again is reinforcing what they don't have yes so you you are surrounded by it sounds like Extraordinary People certainly the people I've met here today and and I'm sure your husband and daughter are just Exquisite they all love you I love you and I've only just met you right I'm a very loving guy but you're

you're an amazing person you know so you can allow those people around you to actually now truly contribute to you because you become available in the absence of thinking it's all up to you and Beyond the people in your life you get to without sounding too esoteric let life contribute to you which is what I would is the intuitive sense of you're now allowing something to come to you that's where life is trying to contribute to you you got this little old shack called your ego you're pushing so hard up against the door and like

I've got this and there's this world of abundance that's waiting to come to you in the absence of you thinking it's all up to you to take care of it how's that sound I man still spritzen um I feel um good yeah I feel so good and I will not apologize for um because what comes up I think being the eldest and being responsible is well I have to make sure that everybody else has the same feeling and so um I hope that everybody else has the same feeling and in case you don't um the

good news is that um Peter is very accessible uh we'll turn this into a business component now Peter crown.com uh I have to say that because um I want to point people to a place that they might be able to find a little piece of this for themselves and one thing that really hit is um abundance is yeah and I'm ready and willing to make it available to me I'm tired of holding up the door on my 400t beautiful studio apartment but I'm ready for the 40,000 foot policial estate right there Ben to us all

thank you um I'm not quite done with you if that's okay if you're okay for a little bit of time cuz it's important to me coming that all right let's go Peter let's go I don't want to leave you hanging and more importantly for your audience too because I like to complete these things as a man of integrity right so it means a lot to me that I don't want to kind of do this open heart surgery in front of everybody and then just kind of leave a few parts open and hanging on the the

operating table right so okay in the absence of the it's up to you you got the sense of Freedom that's why I call my product Freedom right so you get to be free of you the version of you that was previously the obstacle to everything that is waiting there for you to enjoy right so that's the freedom from it's not up to you you get that categorically right it's not up to you and the difference is from the Insidious of I have to I should it's up to you you still can choose I love to

take care of people I love to create I love to be active right that now it's got a different resonance about it right before it was no choice and now it's choice so real freedom is about Choice o that make sense very much so now you're still going to be a badass you're still going to be active and you're still going to have some of this what I call karmic momentum meaning some of your old habits are still going to sometimes want to kick in and it's like oh we got to take care of this

and it's like oh hang on a minute I can just kick back I don't have to yes but I'd like to right so that's a world so the other one I still want to address because that really was in the realm of life or death it's very heavy is it true again cut you open am I going to find a manufactur NE says the Jasmine born in California she can't do anything wrong no no it's kind of asinine when you're looking at it where does it exist my mind and what is it made up of

words totally words to really get this folks everybody at home you are being stopped by sound now just get that that's really profound your whole world from phys phology to whatever you've been through in relationships not just an amazing husband past boyfriends where you had to be the perfect girlfriend I can only imagine the way you showed up for all the men in your life the way that you have to show up all of this in your life with your current family and your daughter and your business and blah blah blah it's exhausting right there's

no room for error in your world and all of that the impact the effects the exhaustion is based on Words and that's why I love what I get to do because you're being stopped by sound it's up to to me no it's not you can't do anything wrong so if it's in your mind in words is it true as an absolute truth you can't do anything wrong no no what does that feel like great because I think what I visualize right now is I can't do anything wrong and they picture an eye dropper that points

something in and that dissolves the whole thing and Visually just being able to break it apart yeah allows me to think and feel it viscerally different in my body yeah you get now to give yourself the permission which is ironically always there as part of Being Human to just be human and wrong is a subjective conversation there's a kid out there right now who's breaking a window somewhere in Newport Beach cuz he saw a handbag we could say that's wrong or it's even bad or he's a criminal but if you knew his genetics and his

upbringing and he had a single parent who was an addict and he only found some sort of belonging in a gang and now he has to pay his way and you know it doesn't make it right but it's not wrong we can have compassion and if he gets caught he'll go to juvenile prison for a minute or whatever but it just softens the whole world of judgment that we live right we can start to be more compassionate starting with ourselves and you haven't had much room for that if any no and I hope after today

you will not only have more love for yourself but as a result be more available to love from others which also by your own intention actually allows you to love others more authentically because there's going to be days where you don't feel like doing everything but because you've so conditioned yourself to show up you do but it's okay for you to be human it's okay for you to just be Jasmine and that's a gift to everybody because in doing that you also give them permission to have their off days it's okay and that's what the

world needs more of the world doesn't need more entrepreneurs who are willing to do 10x the work of anybody else as far as I'm concerned the world needs more people who understand what it is to live from True Freedom true love and a true sense of possibility I think you just dropped the mic Peter Crone thank you didn't expect that today did you not at all and you know it's crazy because I chess things out and plan and prepare and so um it felt like I was extraordinarily caught off guard yeah I was not prepared

and I think that the only way I would be able to hear it so clearly was because I was wildly unprepared yeah cuz otherwise your ability to prepare a second to none and you would have not been available which is why I'm so grateful that it unfolded this way I am so grateful for you I am so grateful for you so now what becomes possible again I'm introducing you to a world that you're not familiar with which is really the name of my business is 2.0 world I'm introducing people to a new space where we

can actually inspire the realization of a new type of human being like that's how grandiose I think it's not from a place of limitation which gives fear suffering disease and dysfunction that's the world we live in this is a world of Freedom love possibility vitality and Harmony completely different so stepping into that you're just dipping your toe into this new paradigm what might life look like or how would you feel just walking around as a woman Unstoppable yeah I actually would feel powerful powerful very powerful it gave that gave me chills I gave me chills

too yeah that's different than forceful isn't it now you can see the The Pride which was so well founded in being forceful was a disservice to the extraordinary woman you are when you're just being you and powerful and here I thought I wasn't going to cry again U ladies and Gentlemen peter.com please follow him on Instagram on LinkedIn he does have a freedom platform in and he wouldn't talk about it himself it is a membership where he has hours and hours and hours of research it's $29 a month at the time of this recording and

so um you can get all that information on Peter chron.com he also offers a lot of other things and so um sign up for his free newsletter get into to where he's at find out his heart and figure out how you might find Freedom for yourself and so it is with deep gratitude that I say thank you for being here and I want to say thank you to those of you who decided to not turn away from the YouTube video and to continue listening to this audio This was um self- serve and I hope in

service of others thank you for watching and listening to the jasine star show I can't even I can't even get through it thank you guys so much [Music]