be more private

one of the things that I try not to do is tell other people what I'm about to do when I don't tell you anything it's not that I have anything against you it's more that I want to keep that motivation to myself I feel like once you start telling other people that you're about to do this or your goal is this you're going to do this to achieve that whatever tell people specifically about what you're about to do you can actually lose motivations because you feel like you've already achieved that by kind of mentioning it

out loud to other people maybe they will be a lot of people that support you there will be a lot of people that don't support you just by saying it out loud it's more likely that you won't really follow that plan that you had for yourself it's way better to just think more and try to speak less and try to listen more to other people and what they're about to say instead of revealing everything it's way better to show people the results instead of the process let's say that you made a goal and then you

didn't quite reach that goal and you failed and you kind of moved on now those people will just remember you as someone who actually had had this plan but kind of fail to make that into a reality try things but move secretly move in silence so that you're more comfortable mentally not everyone has to know what you're going through so I think telling others about your plans kind of make this expectations and pressures to follow through so if you try to keep things to yourself you can kind of work at your own pace without meeting

other people's expectations and I think a lot of the times when you tell people about the things that you want to do it's most likely that many people have not tried the same thing that you're about to do so people can actually react more negatively because they don't really see it working out for themselves that perspective kind of forces you to also give up because people can easily influence the way you think when I first started making videos or contents on Tik Tok I never told anyone about it even my closest friends or even my

family or anyone I knew what was coming I felt like if I told them about it because it was so unexpected for me to do something like that I knew that their reactions were going to be like dude that's not going to work or that doesn't sound like a really long-term plan I knew that I was going to be met with negativity so I never told him about it and I kind of tried it out and things started working out well and then I showed up on other people's for you page then people started noticing

that I was actually making videos and contents I knew it wasn't going to be easy because at first I didn't really see any results like I had no views I was at that point where if I tried anything I would just be stuck in this 200 views jail thing that you first get when you start making videos I was a little bit ashamed to tell other people that my contents weren't doing that well and then things started getting better people started watching my videos and kind of giving me feedbacks and you know telling me what

they thought of it they only saw the results if I told everyone about what I was about to do my plan at first before I even begin I think the pressure and expectations that I created to other people that itself could have been the potential factors to um actually give up on my journey to making videos and just be like a content creator so yeah it's more important to to kind of maintain your pace and um more control over your journey and there's like this less risk of facing criticism or disappointments from people who thought

that I was going to make it or something and also a lot of the times there are people that do not wish anything good on you there will be people that are praying on your downfall literally so when you consider things like that I think it's like way better to just move at your own pace and kind of not be really distracted by others because I think we're all naturally aware of how other people think of us even though when we say that we really don't care about it instead of letting other people know and

let them just talk bad about you behind your back it's good to show them and kind of prove them with results that you actually made it work everything that you put in actually worked out and that's like a really good feeling to have I think they call it TMI right too much information in Korea there's like expression when people share too much of their stuff we just kind of go like oh that was TMI which means like oh you over shared their things we didn't really need to know that and some people are like no

actually I think getting from other people and people praying on my downfall kind of motivate me to do more I think some people are like that and I agree uh people with different mentalities can actually deal better when there is pressure so when everyone's kind of expecting you to fail they're not expecting anything because they don't think you're just that good enough to do anything there are some people who actually perform well because of those things just because they want to prove to other people that they can do it but I think even those people

that perform really well under pressure they don't necessarily go around and tell them the business that they're about to start or the new ideas that they have or like the initiatives that they're taking in order to reach their goals unless they're like really close to you I don't think they initiate things like that so I think it's really important to just keep things private just keep it to yourself there is like a joy or desire that people get by telling people what you're about to do like your grand goals you kind of get this like

feeling of excitement you're kind of telling other people and proving to them that you're capable of thinking and moving forward word and you're just very ambitious and I agree there is some sense of joy that you can get by telling other people that you're about to do this and you're about to do that your goal is this big thing that you want to achieve in life and other people are more likely to think oh wow this person actually has dreams that's a very admirable trait you can actually kind of make people think like that but

at the end of the day you're the one who know yourself the best so when you tell them and come back home and knowing the fact that you actually don't really want to do those things I don't think there's any point of doing things like that it's unne information people don't really care that much it's way peaceful and motivating to do the things that you really want in private you don't have to tell everyone about it because now then everyone will be looking at your things and they'll be in tune kind of invested in the

things that you do some people will be more interested in the things that you do than yourself and that creates a lot of stress you kind of feel like you can't really fail or uh do anything wrong anymore because there are people watching from now on keep things private so that it's more easier for for you to move in your own pace that's what's important when you force yourself to be successful I feel like it's way easier for you to make more mistakes the fact that other people know what I'm about to do doesn't make

me feel easy you know and a lot of things are better when it's mysterious when you kind of reveal everything and what's going to happen and plan it out then where's the fun in kind of discovering something completely unexpected it's like a surprise I think it has a bigger impact than achieving things when other people expected it versus achieving things when no one expected it out of nowhere you're in this kind of villain Arc and then you come out of this you come out of the dark and you're completely different you transformed and it feels

way better feels way better so yeah keep things private keep things to yourself you don't have to you can tell other people about it you can be the person who's more confident in the things that you do and embrace both your failures and you know achievements that's also okay I just don't think getting unnecessary attention while while I'm still growing would always be a good thing but that could just be me I wonder where this will take me this new growth this new challenge we'll see we'll see what happens I'll see you guys next time

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