Como seguir em frente se ainda há sentimento? | Fred Elboni

and talk guys okay how are you imagining be very well my name is Fred elboni and I'm here once again to make another video with you always monday tuesday and thursday monday disappointment and tuesday and thursday videos that we decide together and this topic you asked a lot When I say a lot you really asked a lot there are people who talk they asked a lot but nobody asked but in this case you really asked before anything don't forget to subscribe to the channel and activate the bell which is super important for me to show the simple is very important and follow the telegram group that is down here if you want to be closer send the podcast podcast has one of my five six minute audios talk about some subject photo in my daily creative process is the group that we are more united so only those who are more united and I already anticipate just enter If you really want to be closer because it is much closer than the other social networks then telegram group down here how to move forward if still accent e this is a very good question, everyone has had this question in their lives because many times we have a feeling of love but we feel that we need to leave this is not only for relationships, it is for the family too, right? with your mother with your brother with someone you love you say dude the relationship is not good i need to say goodbye i need to go and we can't feel guilty for meeting our needs first this is a basic thing a lot of people think that this it's letting go of the other's hand, but on the contrary, you're taking care of this one first and then you can take care of the other but come on when we have feelings when we like someone we feel a need to stay it's not right away I want to work with the person I don't want to distance myself but I'm not with regards to good but it ended up having to be how do you play this game between I want to stay but I know I live at the end of the story metaphorically Of course because sometimes we are in a situation that we look ahead and think like this I know and it will change I know I don't have to do it I've done everything I can do and I need to move on but this feeling hurts a lot but I need to move on but it hurts a lot I need to following more hurts a lot being very honest one of the first things we have to feel is that we are doing the right thing our heart deep down deep down as much as sometimes we don't know anymore but the nice person but I like it from my mother but i like the situation but deep down deep down there's something deep down that told you this is the right way you have to do it something stronger will tell you that you have to lose a little of this universe that you're for being able to conquer something new and there's no way we can have the best of both worlds, right there's no way we can go from here and here without having a hole in the middle, right there's no way we can only have growth everything we're going to do in life we're going to take a step back to get momentum for a new thing we're going to take a step back to get momentum for a new thing that's part of the cycle of life how many and don't despair the others in the world every day and how every one deals with it you see how it's not the situation it's not situational it's a matter of perspective because it happens to me with you with her with him each one will deal with it in a different way and everyone liked it you can't define it there you liked it more I liked it least not because each one has learned to deal So the way you are going to look at the situation the way you are going to get rid of that feeling of uncertainty and put that you are hearing a stronger voice than anything else this is the big one. The question And then it is clear that when this distancing happens, we will have memories because that was ours.

Referential, imagine that this situation of feelings is leaving home and I had to see my dream and I left my family, of course, when you are alone in that situation, you will think of a postcard from my family so that I have already left. I wanted to stay but it was so good there it will happen but it will and it's something inside you saying man you have to go you're going to have to lose a little to be able to conquer something new there's no way to have both at the same time so far it's here it's here it's here we're going to say goodbye we can conquer new things be it new feelings new relationships a new job be a new a new life that we can imagine And when you have a relationship it's the same thing people will have a reference point of nostalgia but sometimes it's not always missing the person but the feeling that we have for the person because sometimes you have someone you liked and for a reason you broke up the person ended it happened and when the relationship is the same thing when we distance ourselves we will have a reference point of longing for that person and it will not always be just the person but the feeling that we had for the person because if you imagine yourself having a relationship with and you ended it you ended the relationship person ended something happened in which you are no longer together when you have a need with the first person who will remember her not small Extra mind you are alone and want to go back but because your need goes to the outside reference point so nice It's together Especially when there's nothing too big, no big hurt happened, it's just a situation that says pow, it didn't work out, it wasn't cool, I still have that feeling, but what will guide you, knowing that you need to move forward, is your gaze from the all looking and thinking I know it's not going to change and I need to go I've tried I've done it there isn't any I need to leave it there no what is the solution What I need to do I've already done everything I can I've already said there isn't either follow or then let it go free of it and The big question is that people want to go on without feeling the pain you have to feel the pain you have to let it hurt for you to understand what is happening because otherwise we will always come back I will make a simple metaphor for that imagine that you are in your first job this happened to me maybe it sums up a little feeling because i mean ok the job was an advertising agency the people are very nice to me i loved being with him it takes me well it was fun everything was great there was nothing to complain you weren't very nice and a new job idea came up but I liked it so much I didn't want to leave I said man I'm staying I'm staying and I stayed I saw that it wasn't growing the way I imagined but I liked it many of the people I stayed with I continued that job proposal continues and one day I sat down I was very young I was 18 19 years old 20 something like that and I sat down Sorry just a little Horizon sometimes I look at my house there is a view here to the city sometimes I keep thinking a little about life so don't worry there are no cases it's just a concentration point and that job offer was still there so I could see what happens there I had to make it clear here that I miss you the first thing that happened when I got to that job was remembering how good it was to stay there, it was really cool there, there was Ah okay, you didn't like me look how calm it was, did I do the right thing but after a while year two this new job gave me an opportunity to do everything I do today you understand how I couldn't have this opportunity that I'm here now but at the same time stay there there's no way to have this better so I have a feeling here but I know that I need to go and I don't have a game to go beyond enduring and feeling and hurting and looking and reframing and knowing that this is an important thing I think it has to be within you to say I need to follow I know that the end of history is not positive I know it's not what I want for me I know I need to follow That's part And for that I'll say goodbye to that I'll feel pain for that I'll remember for that let's add but that to part of the process and I'm accepting this process as a whole because I'm aiming for something better sold only better more different Another idea which matches more with what I imagine from here to I always say this I think it's one of the most important things really no Long live the affections of the choices you didn't live this is something that we have something you will learn from me and I 'm also learning from me but this sentence like that man Save this sentence this is important you can't have the feeling The new job is a good thing here one thing that you will have to have if this space of time that will guide you safely is this feeling that I am doing the right thing that you will only have inside your heart no one will give you security security does not exist internally she's yours it's you looking say I have a lot of feelings I like the person but I can't be my principle because of that I can't stop doing the things I dream of because of that it has to be bigger because What's the end of your story and if I stop living my dreams just stop seeing my life for the sake of feeling Maybe in a while the feeling will pass and I stopped doing everything I dreamed of and I can't have both at the same time so how is it who plays this game you choose but don't Live the affections of the Choice you didn't make in the choice go and talk about another one stayed in the choice stay and say you should have gone choose an air that its consequences without knowing what would be better there the best here because you've already made that decision and that's asking to be hurt without a resolution is asking to keep beating yourself up for what purpose So follow if you feel you have to follow and only your heart will know if you have to follow or not you know deep down you know deep down you know remember that you know people are alone think i know it's going to hurt i'm afraid i don't want to lose i don't know how to re-signify for now but i my heart my diesel intuition i need to go and there you must listen Summarizing the opera how to move forward go and when it gives Missing feeling tightness sadness remember your purpose of your feeling why are you doing all this why are you doing all this What was your decision deep down and it has to be bigger than the feeling itself because this I'm sure that's what you're going to say. You're following.

That's why you made that decision. That's why you 're putting up with all this.