[Music] I'm going to talk to you about some things I've learned in my journey most from experience some of them I heard in passing many of them I'm still practicing but all of them I do believe are true now they may be truth to me but don't think that that makes them mine because you cannot own a truth so please think of these as signpost approaches paradigms that give some science the satisfaction they're yours to steal they're yours to share like and do your own lives to personally apply in your own lives in your own
way should you choose to so here we go unbelievable is the stupidest word in the dictionary should never come out of our mouths think about it to say oh wow what an unbelievable play uh it was an unbelievable book unbelievable film an unbelievable Act of Courage really it may be spectacular it may be phenomenal most excellent or outstanding but unbelievable give others and yourself more credit it just happened you witnessed it you just did it believe it give your obstacles credit you know once you do find your frequency on something and go forward if you're
a non-tyrant and don't ask permission and that's the not giving a damn part I've found that the world will actually act we ask and go yeah I'll give you a green light on it if you actually go forward and mean it like and you're going to do it by hooker by Crook and not ask permission life is not easy it is not don't try to make it that way life's not fair it never was it isn't now and it won't ever be do not fall into the Trap the entitlement trap of feeling like you're a
victim you are not get over it get on it and yes most things are more rewarding when you break a sweat to get them sit here in that discomfort long enough to go okay okay until you come out the other side to go all right I'm good with me again I don't want to leave a place I travel to until I get to the point of going ah I could live here this could be my existence as soon as I get to that point then I'm like okay you go it's the same thing in the
personal Journeys stick with it until you get through the discomfortable to uncomfortable times until you go you know what I can spend time with myself I could do this wish I could do this forever well then it's okay to go to re-engage pick up your phone go see your friends go have a drink what have you go look for those things that are other relationships in life but hopefully not until there's Great Value in not doing that until you go I'm good with me and me for right now so to any of us whatever those
things are whatever it is we look up to whatever it is we look forward to and whoever it is we're chasing to that I say Amen to that I say all right all right all right guys hey just keep living huh thank you [Music] see happiness is an emotional response to an outcome if I win I will be happy if I don't I won't it's an if then cause and effect quid pro quo standard that we cannot sustain because we immediately raise it every time we attain it see happiness demands a certain outcome it is
result Reliant and I say if happiness is what you're after then you're going to be let down frequently and you're going to be unhappy much of your time Joy though Joy's a different thing it's something else Joy's not a choice it's not a response to some result it's a constant Joy is the feeling that we have from doing what we are fashioned to do it is just as important where we are not as it is where we are look the first step that leads to our identity in life is usually not I know who I
am I know who I am that's not the first step the first step's usually I know who I am not process of elimination defining ourselves by what we are not is the first step that leads us to really knowing Who We Are south of New Orleans a few years ago and I went to a Voodoo shop and they had this this wouldn't partition against the wall of these columns and in these columns where all these vials of these magic potions right and the headings above each potion defining what they would give you were things like
fertility Health uh family legal help energy forgiveness money hmm guess which column was empty money just admit it money's King today it's what make the world makes the world go round it is Success the more we have the more successful we are right now I would argue that our cultural values have even been financialized uh humility is not Vogue anymore it's too passive it's a get rich quick on the internet richest 15 minutes of fame world that we live in and we see it every day but we all want to succeed right so the question
that we've got to ask ourselves is what success is to us what success is to you is it more money that's fine I got nothing against money I don't maybe it's a healthy family maybe it's a happy marriage maybe it's to help others to be famous be spiritually sound leave the world a little bit better place than you found it continue to ask yourself that question now your answer may change over time and that's fine but do yourself this faith whatever your answer is don't choose anything that will jeopardize yourself prioritize who you are who
you want to be and don't spend time with anything that antagonizes your character don't drink the Kool-Aid man it tastes sweet but you will get cavities tomorrow all right life is not a popularity contest be brave take the hill but first answer that question what's my hill there's a responsibility to freedom and that there is freedom in responsibility you know and that earn your way there we remember the stuff we earned the stuff we experience more than what the teacher tells us or what someone gives us for free we just do we broke a proverbial
sweat on it but there's mental or physical or whatever we built it we understand we felt how we got it how we achieved it how we got what we wanted those stick with us whether we forget them intellectually they were written in our lineage and they build resilience and they and and they build healthy true optimism going forward to know that oh no I've I've worked for something before and achieved it delayed gratification oh they're choices I can make today for myself that will pay me back later in life so there are choices we make
if you're going to say right now I'm gonna lie cheat and steal to get what I want and I got it I got an immediate green light for me that's a battery powered green light that's not a solar powered green light why because now everywhere I go I gotta look over my shoulder to see if someone's there that I lied cheating stole from and when I'm doing that I'm stealing who's time my time I'm not free I don't have the freedom I didn't create freedom in my future because I chose to be make an irresponsible
act that I left crumbs I've now got reasons to look over my shoulder and the more things we do to create in our in our future that we gotta look over our shoulder the more of our most precious thing we have in our lives time that we're stealing from ourselves so it's not puritanical it's just like it's actually self-service it's a very selfish choice and and I'm a fan of the word selfish I've read it helped redefine it um but I believe that there are selfish choices we can make that are the most selfless that
there are selfless choices that we can make that are the most selfish choices those two are not a contradiction and we see them that way responsibility is is appreciation of a past it's building of a lineage it's investing in ourselves it's investing in something we started to build yesterday that we want to take into tomorrow there's a response that gives us freedom be brave have courage and when you do you get stronger you get more aware you get more respectful of yourself and that which you fear [Music] [Music] thank you [Music]