Watch out for these types of toxic people

I feel like I deserve a PhD a doctorate in analysis of toxic people the amount of toxic people I've had to deal with in my life that emotionally and physically abuse me is actually astonishing I just literally recently cut out everyone out of my life this includes family members this includes my ex-boyfriend who I still used to see because I felt bad for him um and I just realized that these people have been emotionally abusing me also because I had an abusive childhood it's very hard for me to comprehend when someone is emotionally abusing me

so for me it's almost like you have to actually physically hit me in order for me to understand that what you're doing is wrong but I just had to take a step back and I had to look at all the actions of the people around me to formulate and to really think like wait a minute you're not treating me well or what I'm giving you and what I'm receiving is not equal hi guys my name is Li and welcome back to my channel okay let's get into it one of the first signs of a toxic

person is you will never feel like you know this person so I had this with people in my life I would constantly be very honest about my experiences I would share everything about myself personally but I had noticed that these people don't really share anything about themselves and they just always hold back or they just let me talk you know and it's not that I want to talk even if I'm like oh tell me about you say something they wouldn't or they it would be very minimal information and if it was it was never about

them the reason why these people never really reveal anything about themselves is first of all they have major trust issues because these people are not to be trusted themselves and second of all they don't want want you to catch on to them they don't want you to catch on to their manipulation or their lies or whatever they're doing that's deceitful so how do they do that by minimizing their talking if you really start to listen to these people or if you really start to ask the questions you will start to notice a lot of inconsistencies

in their stories you will start to notice that hey wait a minute like you're lying or hey wait a minute this is how you really feel about me because when they do speak they will reveal themselves and this is why they're holding back on revealing anything another thing is everything is about them okay for example with my ex the biggest issue in our relationship was the fact that he wanted to always isolate me okay so whenever I would go out with a friend or I would make a friend and I would go out to a

restaurant I would get maybe 15 calls 20 messages about how how I could do this to him how I could go out to a restaurant and enjoy my life cuz somehow that was not nice to him where does this come from so he had a very low sense of self-worth okay and he thought okay she looks good she's an attractive woman if she goes out she might find someone else or someone else might actually like her so because of that fear in him he wouldn't like when I go out he wouldn't like that I'm even

out with friends or whatever cuz in his head it was immediately like she's going to leave me she's going to leave me okay but anything I did whether it was go out let's say to play tennis with my friends whether it's go out to do this no how could I do that to him whilst he's sitting at home with my cat and he's such a good guy I am literally hurting him so much by leaving my house this is very emotionally abusive because after a while I started getting tired of arguing with him about this

and I just started listening to him so I started stopped seeing friends I literally had no friends anymore and I just hanged out with him all day every single time but what ended up happening is I became so depressed because why am I isolating with you why I have do I literally have anxiety now when I talk to other people like my self-confidence became so low because I was just not allowed to be around other people is a thing that I've know noticed with everyone around me family everyone they always try to isolate me why

is this because you can control an isolated person you can control someone that is on their own when they are not communicating with other people or whatever then they have all the power over you because this is the only person you constantly see another sign is they care more about how they look to others than how they really are so this is The Telltale sign of a toxic person okay they just care about how other people view them because they want to look good in front of others they want to be admired they want to

be seen as powerful and whatever but behind closed doors these people will be one of the worst people you ever encounter so whenever you are dealing with such person for example me with like my ex let's say or like my family members whenever they did something to me and I would go tell my friend friends like hey I'm dealing with this whatever they would get angry at me that I told my friends because this in their head I am damaging their reputation with my friends but they're not looking at the fact that they're abusing me

and I need someone to talk to no for them like I said everything is about them it's an attack towards them the fact that I'm renting about my abuse is you attacking their reputation and not you shouldn't be abusing me and the same way if you go talk talk to other people or if you go vent about your abuse obviously other people will put sense in your brain and this is what the toxic person doesn't want they don't want you to talk to your friends or anyone else or tell them this because then they cannot

manipulate you because another person who is looking into your situation will tell you this is not normal they will tell me hey Liz you're getting emotionally abused and when you realize that you might leave the toxic person so they don't want that what they want is to only have you and control control you and your mind another sign of a toxic person is you do not like who you become around them this can even be energetically you feel so bad you feel drained around this person you will even start to become uglier I'm telling you

this if you are dating the wrong person this can actually affect your physical appearance this is very logical and also very spiritual The Logical version is your cortisol goes up when your stress level are higher you don't sleep well you will get ACC you will probably be more bloed puffy your hair will start to fall out and that's why you look worse and then energetically and spiritually speaking they are sucking out your light they are sucking out any energy and any life force that is left in you these people are energy vampires these people have

such low self-or that they cannot connect to their own light so they need to steal it from other people they need you to feel something they need you to feel some sense of selfworth so this whole time you are losing your confidence meanwhile this person starts to feel better about them themselves a lot of you people think that like oh the partner you're you're with suddenly become so successful suddenly all his dreams start coming true but you feel like you're losing your mind they're stealing your life also these kind of people will bring out the

worst in you okay they will trigger you so much that that you literally don't recognize yourself anymore I had this with like a person that I knew constantly when this person was around me they could trigger me on such level that I become a bitter angry version of myself that I don't like I've worked so hard to get out of my toxic household to get away from the drama to get away from all this fighting and to calm myself down give myself some sense of peace to only be thrown back into it no when you

come home there shouldn't be someone there that's stressing you out when you have friends they shouldn't be stressing you out we are stressed out every single day in our lives these people that we love should be escaped from that these people that we love should be bring us happiness and calmness if they're not contributing to that why are they in our lives another sign is these people have constant drama in their life so I had this person in my life that I've known for years years years okay and they are always always in a toxic

relationship always and it's like it's not like one time it's like always okay and this person is truly addicted to toxic relation whenever they find another person that they can be in a toxic relationship with they completely dismiss of me so they will not talk to me anymore and even the partner that they with will hate me for no reason but this person obviously talks bad about me to them so that's why they hate whenever this person is in a toxic relationship the reason why this affects me is because if I care about someone I

care about this person deeply so if I see you getting abused physically or hurt or emotionally Abus I will feel the same pain that my friend feels I cannot put like a boundary in that because I love very deeply okay now every single time this person comes to me crying abuse all these things I help them I fight for them I get them back I argue with other people everything this is drama in my life and I don't mind I don't mind one time I don't mind two times I don't mind three times but damn

like four times leave me alone at this point just leave me alone I don't want to be involved and I don't want you in my life because your drama translates into my life sometimes you have to let these people figure it out on their own I saw a quote that said like when you are trying to help someone make sure that you are not coming in between their karmic lessons I truly believe that this person in my life had has a lot of karmic lessons that they need to learn but because I constantly come in

between it and try to save this person I take go over the karma that this person was meant to have because this person is never learning their lesson this person knows no matter how many toxic relationships I keep going into Liz will always save me so I always have a backup plan but if you just go back and say like you know what be in your drama have your fights on your own you will see that this person will actually start to change people need to learn their lessons on their own and my lesson here

is that I am not meant to save these people I can barely save myself day in day out I have to think about myself why am I taking on all these other people's problems as well it's not mine to carry and neither is it yours other thing is they will only apologize with words so they will constantly tell you oh I'm so sorry I will never do it again yet their actions will show that they will do it again okay this is just plain manipulation manipulation I am so firm on this I will never ever

in my life believe anyone on their words again truly I've never in my life ever had gotten a good outcome from believing someone on their word you always have to look at their actions they can tell you they love you they can tell you're the best thing on Earth but if their actions do not match their words they're lying to you plain and simple okay a lot of you guys are out here oh I wonder if he loves me if he loved you or if she loved you you would know you wouldn't have to question

that words mean nothing if the action is not backing it up stop making excuses for people stop thinking in your head like oh no maybe this happened oh no maybe this was different how are you when you love someone how are you when you care about someone really think about this how am I I will show I will not even speak I will show you you will never have to question whether I love you or not cuz all of my actions will show if you are like this as well then why do you even consider

people's words but not their actions another sign of a toxic person is they are very dismissive of your feelings so whenever I would bring something up that someone had done to me like for example to my family or whatever and I would say that Hey listen like I don't like that they did this or whatever they like oh this get over it oh this it doesn't matter whatever oh you'll figure it out and I get why they say that because I'm always the strong person I'm always the person that has always figured it out but

that doesn't mean that I don't have feelings that doesn't mean that when someone does something to me that doesn't hurt me of course it does just because I built this strong adult I'm still hurt by by things I'm still a human being I feeling but somehow just because you are so good at always keeping it together for yourself and for other people people start to think that you're like a robot and I'm not but whenever I bring it up it's like oh whatever and it's like no it's not whatever because if I did the same

thing that you did to me to you this conversation wouldn't even happen and no one would ever talk to me if I had done like 1% back of what these people did to me they would have cut me off years ago always when I talk to these people they would bring up to me like oh yeah but listen you're just holding on to resentment of things that I did years ago blah blah and it's like no I'm not holding on to resentment I just saw who you were and right now this situation is repeating itself

so you're just confirming when years ago I already saw who you were and I didn't want to believe it so it's not resentment it's a confirmation another thing is they will not reciprocate effort so for example with me right I with this person that I had in my life I would like for example for their birthday I would think two months ahead of what to buy them for their birthday because I My love language is gift giving I don't care about the amount of money all these things I just care about making people happy okay

and for me I make people happy through buying them things or giving them money so I was thinking two months ahead of okay what should I buy this person okay what do I do okay I fly them out here I do this blah blah and I had figured it all out and then I ended up buying them like a very very expensive bag and then whatever okay and then I bought them so many more gifts everything and then guess what for my birthday this person was on a date with a toxic person again um and

then last minute they come to my house and they had bought me a $10 cake from the gas station I was like here Liz here's your gift I was like like okay this is actually terrible this is how this person felt about me and I refus to believe it you could have gotten me like anything that you made yourself and put some effort in you could have gotten me like flowers maybe like $30 flowers I don't know like some I don't know something you know this is a person that have spent so much money on

that I've bought so many gifts for and this is what they gave me it's the lack of effort guys believe people when they show you how they feel about you because this is how the person felt about me this $10 cake from the gas station was a representative of how this person felt about me they didn't have any respect for me they didn't have any love for me and I refuse to believe it another Telltale sign is they have no loyalty towards you if you have friends if you have relationship where for example your partner

is cheating on you toxic person this person does not love you or respect you I don't care you guys can go argue with a wall if you have an agreement with your partner about we are in a relationship and the only thing I want from you is that we are in an exclusive relationship and they break that trust the person doesn't love you and it's okay to admit yourself they don't respect or love me first if a friend is very quick to drop you for another friend or whenever they find another friend they don't value

you and they don't love you the person that I had in my life they would always dismiss me for any toxic relationship they would find so if whatever it was a stranger that they just met if they were in this toxic relationship it was like okay by Liz I don't need you anymore I go off with this person they don't respect me they don't love me I was not willing to admit this to myself until I had to come to a point where I was like my loyalty runs so deep for the people that I

love and it's just not reciprocated I need to go out and find people that are as loyal to me as me because I deserve that if I was a person that had no loyalty towards people or if I if I don't care about them either then that's fair that's fair if I get the same treatment but it's not fair when I'm not like that it's not fair when I will stick by your side no matter what but you won't do the same for me then this is not an equal relationship another thing is the toxic

person will always play the victim so they will always make it seem out to be to other people that you guys know that you were the bad guy and that you you treated them badly they will even make up stories that are completely false okay this person has done this to me and every time I hear the story I'm like shocked I'm like no way they said this this not true why do they do this like I said they only care about their image so in front of other people they want to make you seem

crazy and they want to make you seem like the bad guy so they don't have to face themselves these people don't want to look in the mirror and you will also notice with toxic people that never comfortable with being alone they always look for another victim if you have a toxic ex or toxic relationship they will always look for someone else to be with and if you wonder why this is simply because these people cannot sit with themselves these people genuinely have low selfworth and hate themselves they cannot stand to be alone by the themselves

because then they will be consumed by their own self hatred so instead of dealing with that they search for other victims to project that self-hatred onto them and to make them feel less so they can feel any better about themselves the whole thing they want is that you feel as miserable as they are thing is these people have no ambition if you have someone around you that has no ambition or no goals in life you will literally become so drained by trying to drag this person along I do this with almost everyone in my life

I'm constantly trying to save people that don't want to be saved I'm constantly trying to help them up in their career do this do that come on like okay you want to lose weight let me help you lose weight all you want let me help you let me help you and it's like Liz you're so busy helping other people meanwhile I'm neglecting myself when I have someone someone in my life I try to build them up so high and I push myself to the backround and it's like I don't think I'm doing these people any

good or I'm helping them in any way by trying to help them because they never learn if I'm constantly doing everything for everyone and they don't even have to think for themselves how do these people ever grow how will they ever grow if I'm anyways there to always save them they'll never learn anything they'll never have to do anything by themselves and it's like I don't need to carry all that weight why am I creating more issues for myself I'm trying to drag people along with me that maybe I should let go I should let

go of the rope and it's like whatever and when once you let go of that rope you will see how faster you can get to your goal cuz these people are like an anchor that are holding you down another thing you will notice is that these toxic people will want you to play and stay small so I am growing constantly I've never stopped growing in my life I'm constantly evolving okay this becomes very uncomfortable for the people around me that aren't growing because first of all I'm showing them by Leading by example and I'm showing

them that they can do the same now you have to imagine if a toxic person has low selfworth they don't think as me as inspiration they think of me as oh why is she getting that I should be in her position but it's like no you shouldn't because you're not doing anything to be my position you're not trying anything way if you're in a relationship for example and you're trying to look better you're trying to work on your health whatever like very toxic uh partner will say like oh stop doing that stop trying to look

good who you're trying to look good for all these things because they want to keep you small they don't want you to feel your best to look your best they want you to be miserable if you have friends for example and they're like and you're growing and you're doing your thing they and if they get uncomfortable and they're like oh you're not that great oh just C down you should humble yourself whatever if they say these things then also again those are not your friends those are people that want to bring you back down because

you are triggering these people you cannot be around people that you trigger these people will never ever like you you're a confrontation for them you are literally a like a mirror for them and you're showing them hey you can do it too but what they think in their head is that you think you're better than them because they have low self-worth and I also feel like these people always think that you oh you're better than them because they think you are better than them it's not because you think it they think it and another thing

is you are never appreciated so whatever you do for your partner whatever you do for your family whatever you do for your friends you will never feel like these people appreciate you or love you no matter what I do for these people it's never good enough and it's like it's almost like they don't want it from you so no matter what you do whether you do something bigger whether you keep doing it they don't want it from you they don't want that good thing from you in their head they want to see you as the

villain Okay so you doing good things for them or you trying to help them doesn't match with the version that they created of you in their head so they basically want to see you as the villain so if you do bad things then that is like okay good see Liz is bad Liz is a bad person I knew it I knew it that's good for them but if you are doing good things if you're trying to help these people then you are showing them that what they're thinking isn't right and that's not what they want

thing your partner doesn't want that good thing from you cuz they don't want you they want to see you as a bad guy your family member doesn't want that from you because you you are the black sheep you are the person they want to blame everything on if they cannot blame it on you and if they cannot make you the scapegoat then who do they look at they will have to look at themselves and this is the one thing that all of these toxic people have been avoiding I've just come to a point where I

truly truly wish and I want to forgive these people why because I love them and they have been comfortable for me even though they are emotionally abusive they've been comfortable for me and these are people that I've known whatever but it's almost like at this point forgiving you means betraying myself and I just cannot afford to do that I'm the only person I have time and time again God has shown me that he brings me back to myself removes every single person out of my life and shows me Liz the only one you have is

you so no matter what I do no matter how many times I'm going to try to forgive these people God will anyways remove them out of my life this is almost like a battle I cannot win I cannot tell you guys how many times I've forgiven these people because I love them and I'm again sitting here on my own with the same thing happening over and over again and it's like either you're going to learn Liz and you're going to literally stop repeating this pattern or you're going to be stuck for the rest of your

life in the same repeating patterns with people that you're settling for I did not come this far in my life to just be here this is not good enough this is not even the bare minimum I deserve this I deserve like such high things because of all the things I went through this treatment is not what I deserve I have not treated people like this I deserve deserve people that treat me the same way as I treat them I deserve people that love me the same way as I love them and it's like if I

want it I can have it but what do I have to do now I have to change my patterns people will love you people will appreciate you you have not met all the people that are going to love you you have not met all the people that will appreciate you for who you are you have a beautiful soul you have a beautiful heart and you deserve people that meet you in the same way you deserve people that pour into you in the same way it's not always you that has to give with not receiving anything

back because that's not fair that's not how the universe works that's not how the world Works everything is a give and take it's ying and yang stop giving more than you're receiving and you have to be strong right now I know that you miss that person I know that you want to reach out so badly but honey I'm telling you you reaching out this time you texting this person is you betraying yourself they are not more worthy than you they are not higher than you what you are telling yourself is that it's okay for them

to treat you like this and it's just not you know one day I'm be I'm going to become a mother I'm going to create a beautiful family for myself and I don't want my children to have a father figure that wasn't consistent or that wasn't good to me I saw that growing up and that completely destroyed me I want to create a family where love is something that they know where they know that oh my parents love each other my parents love us I don't want them to go through the same struggles as me so

I need to do things differently if the person that you're dating if the person that you have around you you don't think that they would be a good father or a good husband why are you there anyways guys I hope this helped some of you and I hope you guys learned something um and yeah I will see you in the next video I love you guys so much and I truly mean this because when I say that I don't I don't have anyone the people that I always come to is you guys because I just

feel like I feel hurt I feel seen and I know that whatever I'm putting out there you guys probably feel the same way as me or you guys can relate in some way because I truly believe I attract people that are my tribe so thank you thank you for listening to me thank you for supporting me and thank you for literally like saving my life