A simple Practice to deal with Anger | Buddhism In English

welcome to another video in today's video let's talk about how to control these emotions of anger well anger itself is a natural human emotion we all feel angry but if we do not know how to control this emotion if we do not know how to deal with anger sometimes it can be destructive and if he let that anger to control over our life we will get into lots of troubles so today I'm gonna introduce you a little practice that you can practice in your practical life to deal with this emotion well first of all I

have to remember none of these practices are easy in fact Nothing in life that brings us the happiness that brings the peacefulness to your life is not an easy task it is a difficult one though it is difficult we cannot abandon it because we like to be happy and we like to be peaceful in our life so that is why Buddha said that everything that brings the happiness to your life is a difficult task so what are the things that we can do to deal with these emotions of anger well the first and the foremost

thing that you can do to deal with these emotions is to acknowledge that your thoughts are in anger if you don't know your thoughts are in Anger you cannot deal with it so this includes the mindfulness right whenever you are about to get angry when you feel that you are triggered by these anger just ask this question what am I thinking now in which mode my thoughts are in now right whenever you ask that question and when you answer it you can find oh I'm about to get angry now my and my thoughts are in

anger that is the first step to know that you are angry when it comes to the second step right so in this second step if you look at this if I ask a question from you whenever you feel angry imagine a situation that you have felt angry about something or someone right have your breathing pattern works how our breathing pattern changes when we feel angry it speeds off and we take short breaths right so that that gives the sign to our body that gives the message to our body that now you're ready for getting angry

you are breathing heavily we are breathing in short periods and we are breathing speedly so the first thing that you can do is to slow down your breathing better take a deep breath in and let it out take another deep breath in and let it down slowing down the breathing pattern will help you to calm your body and calm your mind right whenever we feel calm and when we are about to take a rest what is the thing that we do for an example after a long long day of work when you come home and

after having a good shower if you fell on the couch right if you fell on the bed what is the first thing that you can you do you take a deep breath in and let it out that is the thing that you do that means you are giving the signal to your body that you're about to get calm or to have a rest so the thing that we have to do whenever we feel angry when we feel we panicked just give the message to your body that be calm by taking two to three deep breaths

in and out right so breathing can help you a lot then as the third step now you're a little bit peaceful and calming now you can wisely reflect on your thought pattern when you reflect about your thoughts you can find why did I became angry with this person what is that then you can find that anger does not Prevail in an outer World in that person or that thing a specific thing anger prevails in my mind right it is something that I have created whenever you come to a situation that you are triggered to be

angry you come up with these two choices either to react with negativity or to respond with positivity that is up to you right and your experiences and your good and bad experiences depend or depends on these choices that you make so you totally have the power and you totally have the privilege to Res respond with positivity right so you have to believe in patience for that remember there is nothing in this world there is no problem in this world that has been sold with anger that is why I Buddha said anger does not seized by

anger oh hatred does not ceased by hatred hatred is seized by love and kindness only so you have to believe in patience and compassion and forgiveness that is the way that you are going to solve the problem right though you react in Anger though you yell out or scream or take actions with anger that is not going to help that is not going to solve the problem it will make the problem even more worse I have seen lots of people who could not control their anger for a split second just because they could not control

their anger for a split second now they are regretting for their whole life so remember anger is not going to help you so when you believe in patience and kindness and compassion you will have this strength to face that situation more positively remember what Buddha said the Buddha said before you do something from your body from your speech or from your mind just wisely reflect that what I'm going to do is this worthy of doing it does it is it bringing happiness to my myself or is it bringing happiness to others is it going to

hurt others or is it going to hurt myself if it is hurting you and if it is hurting to other self do not try to do it remember it is okay that we feel angry sometimes in our mind but it is not okay to let that anger to flow out from our bodily actions and our words right so remember this is how we can control it always believe in patience and kindness that is where you're gonna solve the problems so this is a little practice where we can deal with these emotions of anger so practice

these practices little by little and make your life a peaceful one number with higher