“I have no friends” and why it’s okay

again I've always been envious of girls who are friends with each other you know girls who have lots of friends when you are alone you figure out a lot of things that you never really know about yourself when you're just completely alone with no friends I feel like there's a certain breakthrough that you probably never have am I worthy of having friends don't ever let having no friends to stop you from living your best life whoa hey that was a really bad intro anyways hi everyone welcome back to my channel so for this journal entry

episode eight we're going to be talking about why having no friends is completely okay I'm kind of shocked that I haven't talked about because as you guys can see I do a lot of things by myself I've always had trouble keeping friends long term this can go into a lot of issues of mine and as a kid I've always been extremely insecure because I didn't have you know a lot of friends that I had like really low self-esteem ever since I was a kid I did everything by myself but it was always kind of like

I had to I didn't really learn to enjoy doing things by myself as a kid I've always been envious of girls who are friends with each other you know girls who have lots of friends and I always wanted to be like that but as I gotten older I realized how having no friends is really okay it really is when you are alone you figure out a lot of things that you've never really known about yourself because sometimes when you're in group setting a lot of us tend to just like go with the flow you go

with what your friends want I want to do this because I just want to enjoy their company which is completely fine but you don't realize what you want you like this activity because you guys are doing it together right you have your friends company you like their company so as you like this activity that doesn't mean you like this activity when you have no friends to hang out with all you have is yourself so you really try to do things that you enjoy right it's very obvious like you know we all want friends so it's

very very normal to feel lonely because sometimes I feel like when we feel lonely it's like you feel bad about it you're like but you need to understand that is very very normal it is normal to feel lonely it is normal to want company from people and start pushing the thought away I tell myself that this is normal I'm a human being I shouldn't want to socialize with people friendships can also make you feel lonely just because you're in a group of people doesn't mean that you would feel included right somehow you're in a group

of people feel like an outcast you just feel like oh my God like I feel like nobody here really gives two shits about me like I said I'm just here just to be here I just want the company of others even though I'm not really enjoying their company so would you rather be feeling lonely by yourself or feeling lonely in a group personally I would rather feel lonely by myself like what's the point hang out with people if you feel lonely when you're with friends you can become so fixated on them you can become so

focused on them that you don't really care about what you want you don't care about the goals you have because some of us just want to hold on to that song want to hold on to these friends because you just feel you've been alone for so long what if they leave me what do they leave me for someone else whether I'm not good enough and I don't blame you because you know we all want friends sometimes you might even lose your passions and your goals you might set that aside it's like a thing that you

don't even realize and that is not to say like this is a friend's fault it's our fault I'm not encouraging YouTube boyfriend when you're just completely alone with no friends I feel like there's a certain breakthrough that you probably never have I mean of course it gets dark sometimes but also it can be a breakthrough you realize how capable you are to do absolutely everything by yourself once you have this mindset even when you get back into friend groups you will still have this mindset I personally don't think it can be taken away once you

have this breakthrough when you have no friends you realize that I have to do everything for myself sometimes these things is just like you have to just do it you have so much fear you're like oh my God I cannot do this I have to do this with someone else but you can literally sometimes we just overthink but the things that when we think so much about it it's a waste of energy it's literally a waste of energy to be anxious about a 24 7. just do it because trust me when you actually do the

thing it's not as scary as you think I feel like sometimes when you just have no friends sometimes you try to prove yourself am I worthy of having friends and then you start doing things to make yourself feel I need to better myself feel I'm worthy for friends but the things that you are worth your friend you can create a better version of yourself but make sure that you're creating it for the right reason you're creating it for yourself that's a proof to anyone that you are worth your friends because you are I I had

this negative mind this where I feel oh I don't deserve friends because I have mental issues friendship breaks down I blame it all myself I'm like oh this is my fault this is my fault I was the one who called it off I'm the one who who left for friendship to work there needs to be both parties right I sometimes need to remind myself that they also didn't do anything to fix the friendship I tell myself that just because I am mentally ill doesn't mean that I don't deserve friendships and this was something that I

felt like almost as if I'm punishing myself but when I came to realize is that I am trying to better myself and I feel like that counts for something if you feel like oh my God I feel so alone I have no friends like I must be such a loser but the thing that you cannot force it just because you have friends doesn't mean that you're you're less worthy compared to other people who do and I'm also not saying that like oh we should look down on people who have friends because there are friendships that

are extremely beautiful healthy healthy friendships you know supporting one another some of us just haven't found the right people and I want you guys to stay home cool really genuine so easy to just be like that's their fault steer for us for somebody it is but sometimes you realize maybe I'm the problem it speeds up your self-growth when you realize that there's a problem within you because we're human we all have problems don't shame yourself don't try to close yourself off just because all my friends down it doesn't mean that you're not gonna have friends

in the future right there's a lot of people who are dealing with us especially if you're in your early 20s it's not talked about enough once you realize how capable you are when you are alone it's almost like a superpower in how your happiness can come from just within yourself you don't need anyone to complete you yes I can help it can make you happier but you can get all the happiness you want from within yourself you can spread happiness when you are happy if you are unhappy how the hell can you spread happiness [Music]

I'm not saying that no you have to spread happiness to others it can make an interaction more joyful and you can realize how when you are happy you attract more people like I tend to get insecure and sometimes like I project I sometimes just think oh just because I'm insecure about so and so they probably think bad of me which is really toxic and it goes to show you this because I'm insecure but if I was happy if I was confident this interaction that happens with another person will be great I wouldn't be so self-conscious

I I wouldn't think about it I want to think that because I'm confident I'm feeling good which is why I believe that you need to achieve your happiness foreign you can achieve all the happiness with yourself you want to go sit by the beach go sit by the beach and when you do these things that builds up your confidence and when you build up your confidence you realize how you can do almost everything by yourself I'm not saying that you're doing all of this to just you know attract people but you're becoming happier at the

same time you're attracting people so it's like a win-win why not I'm not trying to be like oh you can do everything by yourself so you don't need other people I'm saying that don't close yourself off to people I want you guys to enjoy her alone time but when people come you can be the judge of that who you want to let in slowly get to know them don't get attached too fast don't build this image of them of food they're gonna be and don't feel like and so be it they're not right for you

slowly get to know them and be patient they'll slowly show you who they are and then get to decide whether you want to continue pursuing the apprenticeship I feel like I have been more open to people that I have been able to meet a lot of good people good friends this year when I hang out with friends I like it's like I genuinely enjoy it like I genuinely go back home like I really enjoy that interaction which I'm really proud to say because like back then I sometimes go get home from interaction with like friends

and it just it feels awful however I still at the same time enjoy my alone time as well because there's something different when you hang out by yourself it's also amazing when you can hang out with really good friends you need to make sure that you don't lose your sense of identity when you hang out with people I mean of course your identity can always change but just hold on what feels true to you hold on to yourself no matter who you hang out with it took me to lose the Friendship to understand who I

was and I'm not saying like oh my God that friendship in order to figure out who I am when the friendship ended I realized how much things I wanted to do that I never realized I wanted to do before because I was just fixated on them ever since then I know what I want and I have goals I know what I like and I know what I don't like and this all happened because I was alone for so long [Music] do a lot of things by myself a lot what you guys can clearly tell from

the content of this channel life can be very lonely something that makes it more bearable is just finding things that you like doing life is worth living with kind people and sometimes it can just take a little tiny thing to make your day really really great it's normal to feel lonely and feel like you have no one to talk to but don't let that stop you from living don't ever let having no friends to stop you from living your best life okay because you're life does not depend on others you have yourself and that is

more than enough all you need to do is believe in yourself and when you realize how much you can achieve when you are alone you become Unstoppable and I'm not lying with that I'm really not the reason why you'll be unstoppable is because the things that you want to do no one can stop you the only person that can stop you is yourself so when you realize that I'm not gonna become my own obstacle and you go achieve that you can do it just because you have no friends doesn't mean that you can't achieve your

dreams or whatever has certain issues that are preventing your own reading products that's why self-reflection is very important going to therapy journaling self growth important when you have these issues you you want to get better [Music] um that's the end of my journal entry episode eight why having your friends is completely okay I hope you guys enjoyed the journal entry I'm really happy to be able to talk about this I guess I wish someone had told me this maybe when I was younger um which is why I'm making this video trust me you'll find good

people along the way but as of now better yourself and do what makes you happy okay okay anyways I will see you guys all very very soon I hope you guys will have a lovely rest of your morning afternoon or night okay okay bye [Music]