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so you're cursed with being highly ambitious but very very lazy why do I say cursed well let's just cut right to the chase shall we it freaking sucks okay it sucks it sucks when you know exactly what you want you can visualize it you can smell it you can taste it you have vision boards with Pinterest pictures on it you have a perfectly curated playlist that motivates you you've watched and read a million different self-help books and motivational videos and blah blah blah blah blah and yet nothing changes you keep being the same person year

after year after year and basically you're just stuck that's how it feels hey guys it's me Estella and for six years of my life I honestly felt completely miserable I had Ambitions up to here like the sky was the limit and I was driving myself insane because it seemed like no matter how many planners I would buy and no matter what I would do I could not stick to anything for more than 3 days so if you're sick and tired of feeling sick and tired of yourself and you want to finally change this year I

seriously hope this video will help you and save six years of misery because I have been there and done that okay so part one is about mindset right because everything starts with our wonderful Noggin up here all of our dreams all of our goals self-discipline and for whatever reason all of the conventional advice out there just did not or does not work for me for some reason I have to basically do the opposite so when they're all like visualize your dreams and imagine that you are your dream self right with your bikini body prancing around

on a beach and your and your Ferrari with your millions of dollars just raining down on you while you have a mansion in the background and you're evily cackling to yourself right like that's the advice that they give that's the advice that we typically hear is manifesting or envisioning the end results of a certain dream right which is great we'll discuss that later that is to a certain extent important but for whatever reason it's like the more that I would Envision my dream life and all of those end results right like the dream University the

dream body the dream amount of money the more I would be paralyzed and the more I would end up just not doing anything which made zero sense to me like I did more things when I was younger when I didn't have any dreams but I would just be way more productive than when I started trying to have all these ambitious goals so for a long time that really confused me because I genuinely did not understand what was wrong with me and why like all my manifestations and envisionment of amazing end results weren't motivating me and

instead I was being more lazy for some reason but it actually kind of makes sense after I learned about this psychological concept which is basically that unhappiness is the gap between your ideal self and your current self right so let's say that my ideal self is like some insanely fit person who has a sixpack and runs marathons every other week or something and is a bajillionaire and like makes millions of dollars a year right I'm not that person I'm not even close to running a marathon I don't have a six-pack and I also don't make

millions and millions of dollars a year right so if I start obsessively envisioning that version of myself there is an enormous Gap right between the ideal me and the current me who is a complete loser in comparison and so when I was younger the more and more that I kept envisioning this like completely out there perfect version of myself the bigger that Gap became and the more miserable I became with how I was currently and so that Gap created an enormous sense of impatience right because I didn't want to be this loser version of myself

anymore I wanted to be that version as soon as possible because I was convinced that once I would become that ideal version of me I would be happy right that's the main goal of all this I want to be happy I want to be confident I want to feel like the best version of myself and so again the more that I Envision that ideal version of myself the more miserable I became with my current self and the more impatient I became about immediately becoming that ideal version and so then I started making all these super

unrealistic goals and unrealistic expectations of myself of how I would perfectly be doing things with no pee breaks whatsoever in order to get to that top of that mountain of that ideal version of myself then again the more that I placed emphasis on how awesome my life would be if I had all these things the more that I became convinced that this was the only thing that would make me happy and so then the more paralyzed and fearful I would become of what would happen if I didn't achieve my dreams right because when you put

a lot of value into a dream into a goal then you start to really fear well what if that doesn't come true what if I don't reach that goal or what if I don't reach it by a certain age or it's going to be like many many many years from now so that kind of also creates like this even more sense of pressure on yourself to stick to those goals to make the perfect plan to not screw up and so that kind of creates this super vicious cycle where you're making these unrealistic plans you're putting

a ton of negative pressure on yourself you're not grateful at all for the moment or the journey every single failure that you have feels like this giant setback and you get super annoyed by it because you're like oh my God like I should be on this linear path to success right and it just creates this very stressful and very negative vibe overall around the whole process it becomes a whole thing where you're pretty much doing everything possible to get the perfect plan instead of actually doing anything which explains why when I was a kid I

used to literally do more things and be more productive and get results faster when I didn't really care about the end result I just like doing the process so then I was just doing that activity more okay so the first thing that I had to do to stop that negative cycle was to start looking at what I was running from instead of what I was running totally right so instead of imagining that bikini body me running on a beach sort of thing that for some reason never motivated me but what really motivated me to actually

start working out and taking care of my health and eating healthier was looking at the stuff that I didn't like which was feeling tired all the time feeling insecure about how I looked not wanting to wear clothes that I liked because I wanted to just cover myself up all the time you know all those kind of different negative things that I didn't like that bothered me year after year after year and that made me feel bad instead of again looking at the amazing happy end result I was looking at the things that I didn't like

and that really helped because instead of focusing on the end result that was so so far away from me that ideal self right that's a Million Miles Away instead what I started focusing on was all of the Little Baby Progress steps that I was making right so when I was looking at the starting point of where I started and then I just would see how far I came from that starting point it was a lot more encouraging and it created a much healthier positive cycle where I was really feeling good about every single little step

that I took and I don't know for some reason this hack just really works for me I get a lot more motivated and I just have a lot easier of a time going away from something than towards a goal and it's the same exact Journey right cuz ultimately you can look at how far away you are from the starting point of a mountain when you're in the middle versus you can be constantly looking up at how far away you are from from the peak right but you're still going on the same Journey it doesn't really

matter ultimately how you reference the frame of how far you are where you started okay so the next thing that I had to do was I had to be a lot pickier about the goals that I chose because I used to have this terrible habit of literally just coming up with a wish list of goals and dreams that was like down to the that was like Santa's list you know it was literally like 30 plus goals for one year I'm trying to tell you if you're struggling for years like I was with not changing in

any aspect of your life just do yourself a favor and maybe just start with three like areas of your life for three goals or maybe just one even just to get started and to actually teach yourself how to follow through on a goal because it just spreads you thin when you have 3,000 different things that you want to be accomplishing it drives you insane and it's pretty much honestly unless you are already really good at a lot of things it's really hard to just start a new habit or New Journey or a new goal out

of nowhere where you're you suck at it and you don't really know what to do yet it's it takes a lot of time and effort and mental energy to start something new so be graceful with yourself and I highly recommend just limiting the amount of dreams and goals you have for a year or two years or just just start just start small with a very tiny tiny list and something that really helped me narrow down which goals to pick as my top three or my first three was just simply just thinking and reflecting inside of

myself like which areas of my life are bothering me again the most like what is making me feel the guiltiest that I didn't do the next thing that I had to realize was that I needed to stop trying to plan everything in advance so I used to have this terrible habit of like I'd set a goal right so for example be get into Harvard and then I would end up spending I kid you not weeks months even just researching how to get in right so I'd be watching other people their stories of how they got

in I'd be making lists and trying to analyze and figure out the secret formula is it the SAT is it the extracurriculars blah blah blah blah blah right I would spend so much time trying to again hack the way of succeeding at a certain goal instead of doing anything like actually studying for the SAT or working on my college essays I again would just think that I was being productive by researching and researching researching but the truth is it was just a giant way of procrastinating research is great you know we can't succeed at anything

without knowing the basics of something but honestly it should be and I've learned this the hard way 80% action so that kind of bias for Action mindset and then 20% research as you go along because something that I only realized when I was a little bit older than 14 when I started making all my giant plans was that a lot of the times we get more information and learn more about a process during the process so and a lot of unexpected things usually happen that throw us off our path or new information comes up about

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pretty old I can't really recommend the anime honestly because first of all the ending is just weird and there is no ending it just cuts off before the climactic point and it is extremely frustrating but the main gist of it was there's this girl named Maya she comes from like a poor background like her family sucks and they're mean to her and and maybe she's even an orphan at some point and she wants to become a professional actress that is her dream that's like all that she thinks and cares about and what happens is she

goes through a lot of trials and tribulations and hardships to get there but at some point she tells someone I think to herself she actually says it as like a little monologue that you know what I'm not going to give up on my dreams no matter how hard it gets even if there's a 1% chance that I'm going to succeed at this I'm going to give it my all and I'm going to die knowing that I tried my best and I went for it and that quote stuck with me ever since it's been years since

I watched that show I don't even remember what happens in the show honestly except for that one quote and it just really sucked to me because I realized that when I pick a goal and when I decide to pursue it I need to have this kind of unconditional dedication to it and yeah so that quote just really like I said helped me a lot it helped me remove that fear of failure that I had that paralyzing fear of failure that would make me get stuck planning and researching all the time you know I know I'm

committed for the long term and it helps me move on from the failures and it also helps me again just not be scared anymore of failure cuz I know that it's possible you know that things will ultimately not work out but I still choose to commit myself to the goal anyways getting fit and like running exercise I used to get injured all the time it was actually ridiculous I genuinely thought I was cursed because I just got injured so many times I would just start running for 5 minutes the next day I would have like

btis in my hips I'm not even kidding I tried to play tennis when I was younger I got every injury Under the Sun from shin splints to stress fractures to problems in my back you know to btis again and both of my hips heal problems from running even like 10 minutes so I genuinely thought that I would never be able to be fit I for a long time I believe that I basically gave up on exercise and I also like gain weight super easily like like this I can gain 10 pounds in a week accidentally

after a vacation or a holiday or something like you know I genuinely did feel for a long time like I just did not win the genetic Lottery at all when it comes to fitness health all that kind of stuff but I just made a resolution to myself a few years back you know what even if I am genetically cursed and nothing will come of this I will never be able to get fit and healthy I will get injured a million times and I will never be able to lose weight and feel healthy and be able

to eat a normal amount of food without rapidly gaining weight for no reason seemingly I decided for myself you know what I'm going to keep exercising I'm going to try every form of exercise Under the Sun if I have to I will try every form of a healthy lifestyle change with food from intermittent fasting to maybe trying like cutting out sugar to trying different you know lifestyle meal plans like mediteranian diet or whatever until I find something that works then I will rest easy and I'll know you know what I was cursed but until I

have tried every single possible path I will not rest I will not give up on my dream of being a really fit person until I've tried everything under the sun and that's the kind of mindset that I have towards work towards Fitness towards family and again it's not for everything obviously I'm not here like I will do everything possible to learn the clarinet which I don't even care about but it's about the major things in life and it really just helps me when I'm having setbacks when I'm feeling discouraged when things are going not my

way at all to remember just how committed I am to a certain goal if I can't be the most talented which I'm not really talented at anything if I can't be the smartest which I'm also I'm genuinely not the smartest person out there then I will be the most stubborn person that is the one thing that no one can take away from me is that stubbornness okay so now that we've talked about mindset which I do think is honestly probably one of the most important thing still because as you guys can see there's so many

ways that you can get stuck along the way even before going after a goal but the next part part two is about actually how to set wishes goals so the first thing is that it needs to be specific enough where you know that it's come true right because otherwise then it's just like a horizon line that just never stops moving and then you'll never know that your wish came true again saying something like I want to be rich and successful it's like okay well how rich is Rich right for somebody maybe making $100,000 a year

is like the dream come true Rich right maybe for somebody else it's $500,000 a year maybe for someone else it's just living passively off of income from Real Estate right it's really important to just be able to clarify to yourself like what is my goal like once I've achieved that wish I will know that I achieved it it's not just a never ending horizon line that I'm Never Satisfied by the next thing is for it to be emotionally charged right like you probably have had that case where you know that you you know should be

doing something like for me it was clarinet and violin I when I was younger my parents sent me up for violin then clarinet but again those were not things that I enjoyed that I genuinely wanted to be good at or that I really cared about I had zero emotions like I couldn't care less if I quit violin the next day and sometimes the truth is we have wishes or goals that are not actually ours that maybe have been imprinted onto us from our parents from society School Etc and like we feel like we should want

it but it's just not our thing you know it takes a lot of sacrifice to go over like a big wish or dream so to me person personally it has to be something that I'm really emotional about that you know I would start crying if I talk to you about it like the real reason why I'm going after a certain wish and the way that I find that emotional reason that like makes me want to cry when I think about it it's just asking myself like why do I want to be fit right is it

to show off to everybody else and the answer then I was thinking about it is no it's because I want to be energetic I want to be able to lift up my little brother brother I want to be able to run for more than 1 minute with him without getting winded and again I understand that everyone has their own view of like you know what their standard is but for me I always had a really kind of athletic body growing up but that's just what I grew up with I was a pretty active kid and

that's the standard that I got used to and then when all my health problems started and my injuries and then I rapidly gained weight because I stopped exercising it really impacted my mental health a lot and I never wanted to go through that again I really just realized that for me an active lifestyle is like Make It or Break It For My Brain and just for my life in general and it's something that makes me really emotional like I really hate how sad I was those years when I felt disconnected from myself I wasn't doing

sports I was just like wearing super Packy clothing all the time and I just really did not feel like myself and it I never want to feel like that again and that's the reason why I exercise I try to eat healthy I try to play sports a lot cuz I don't want to feel those feelings see I get emotional now dang it anyways um but yeah definitely you're going to know when a wish is truly yours when even if no one ever finds out you never post it on Instagram none of your friends that you

want to show off to ever find out about it and you achieve that let's say you were like an invisible you had an invisible invisible cloak from Harry Potter right and no one ever found out about your accomplishments no one ever finds out if you're rich or you got a promotion or you have a like you know your bikini body whatever right and I still know that I would still want to be super fit and athletic even if nobody ever saw that and it's something that I didn't used to do I would honestly have a

lot of really superficial goals primarily driven by what other people thought and I wanted to appease my parents I wanted to look cool in front of my peers right those were the main driving Factor so it's when you remove those other people from the equation you're just trying to see like what would I do if I had complete freedom of my life and no one ever found out what I did and it's such a liberating feeling honestly because you get to choose you get to choose based on what values are important to you and and

like yeah nobody else in my family is really fit nobody else plays a lot of sports nobody else runs and it's hard you know when everyone else around you is doing stuff different than you and trying to kind of pull you back to your old habits right but I always remember that reason why and those emotions come up and that really helps me stick to my goals and to my daily habits and the things that I need to be doing so the next thing is also to not have a a deadline for a goal or

wish I know that that sounds weird but yeah having no deadlines really also helps because again A lot of times we either overestimate or underestimate our abilities if that makes any sense because we don't really know honestly like how long something is going to take us like we might be way more talented than we think we are or we might be way worse than we think we are and a lot of the times it's just like random stuff you know comes together and there's so many things out of our control when it comes to certain

wish or goal so I just don't have deadlines on my way right so when it comes to being fit and healthy and I have like the certain standards in my head of like strength for instance or running abilities but I don't have a deadline that really helps I think reduce the pressure and that need to like do everything all or nothing you know immediately get results and and follow the perfect plan you know and and plan out the next three months and stuff down to the days and everything it just removes that really annoying pressure

that makes us start super strong and and overdo stuff in the beginning and then crash after 3 days okay so the next thing is super important and it's believing that you can actually achieve your wish right cuz that's also something that I didn't really understand I used to again make super honestly out their wishes like I want to be a millionaire by the age of 20 or something and I want to run like 10 marathons when I can't even run for one minute stuff like that and you just know like when you make a unrealistic

plan or schedule or list or you know goal whatever it is wish like you know that gut feeling where you're like okay I know this is not going to happen like this is honestly like a fantasy right because okay yeah I could go literally say like I'm going to I'm going to do a marathon in a week when I can barely run a 5k right now and and deep down like I don't believe that I can run a marathon in a week and if I even tried I'd get really injured so of course a huge

thing is believing that you can actually achieve a wish right because we're not going to waste our time going after something that we don't think is going to happen honestly like like our brain is not dumb we're not going to waste our time and energy and effort when we could be doing something fun or just spending time better on something that actually makes sense versus going after some completely insane dream that we don't believe is possible right and so of course we'll just self sabotage ourselves or procrastinate because honestly deep down we don't think there's

any point of pursuing or doing this habit or activity and we think it's not going to lead anywhere and so there's kind of two ways to approach this either you go you know negative belief after negative belief and you sort of debunk it you look up examples in real life on social media or you know on the internet of people who also for instance struggled with yoyo dieting and losing weight and getting healthy in a healthy way not you know starving themselves and everything and looking at examples again on social media of people who actually

did it so one way is definitely debunking those negative beliefs one by one and the other way is definitely just breaking down the goal or the wish to a level that you actually believe you can achieve and expanded My Wish over time the more that I believe that I could do the thing so yeah sometimes it's just really important to break down a wish to a smaller level where you actually believe that you can a achieve that wish and you can do the things that you need to do to get there okay so part three

is the formula for Action right so how do you actually take the action now that you've got the right mindset now that you have the wishes and you know what you want and so the first step is to figure out a basic formula again not overdoing it with research not you know making insane plans down to the minute for the next 3 years which I used to literally do okay because so many things can happen that will go good and bad that can pivot the direction that you're going right so again the basic formula with

being fit it's like eat healthier right at least cut out junk food as a first step with being successful right for instance getting good grades start studying daily get a timer and just make yourself learn how to focus and sit at a desk first step is just being able to be at the desk and focus right train your focus for example figure out the first step of the formula to success so once you know the first step you can start setting the goals for that first step right so either it could be daily maybe if

it's weightlifting for example it could be three times a week but you figure out obviously where your starting point is and if you start setting the first goal right which would be like Run 10 minutes daily for example and by day three or four you're failing like you just realize I can't do this you got to keep lowering the goals or the little habits down to where you are and it's definitely very discouraging a lot of the times when we realize just that we're way worse than we expected we are at something in the beginning

and that it's way harder usually than we also thought it would be but you got to meet yourself where you are and an example of this is like pull-ups I can't do a pull-up to save my life honestly it's depressing how weak I am but the thing is like this even if I had a tiger chasing me and the only way for me to survive would be to pull myself up honestly unless you know I'm a lot stronger than I think I am I wouldn't be able to do it right because no matter how much

adrenaline I have there is a limit to how much weight my muscles can lift up at this moment right and that's the truth is that no matter how motivated you are in the beginning if you genuinely cannot do a pull-up to save your life you're not going to be able to do a pull-up to save your life like even if you wrote it in your plans right like no matter how motivated you are no matter how excited you are to do a pull-up you're not going to be able to do it and that's what I

had to learn is that no matter how much I wanted to be able to run a marathon in a month the fact that I could barely run for like 1 minute like that was my starting point it was pathetic it was sad to see but that's where I literally had to start was just running for 1 minute and again the goal needs to be something also behavioral so something that you can 100% control not like a grade on a test or you know a certain time for 5K for example and again about the goals please

I'm big you be flexible I made the mistake of being overly stubborn and doing the same thing over and over again for a certain wish or goal so for example being healthy or studying like I keep doing the same method over and over again even if it didn't work at all and just be like why I'm cursed like blah blah blah like girl try different running shoes like you're using these horrible crappy quality running shoes like no wonder you're getting pain in your feet right try fixing your run form get a running coach and actually

try to learn how to run and just try different methods because sometimes again it's not that we're broken but it's just the method that we're doing is just wrong for us and maybe it works for a bunch of other people but I'm not a bunch of other people I'm me and so I might need like some certain orthopedic shoes for example or a certain brand of shoes or I might need to have a different kind of running form just based on my body and my biology right so it again just just totally depends on a

case- to case basis and that's not something that I ever wanted to understand when I was younger I would just keep trying to copy other people I would just keep trying to do what other people were doing and put it on to me as if I'm that person and then it didn't work and I'd get frustrated try the same thing over and over again and be disappointed with the results when the truth is you really do just need be flexible and try different methods towards a certain goal to figure out what works for you and

last but not least oh my God this is a long video it's action right that's the whole point of this video was to get to the point of the actual action so how do you actually make yourself do the action despite all the stuff that we just talked well my main secret is just do it okay please don't hate me I'm sorry but like Honestly though the main thing here is just praise The Living Daylights out of yourself Just Praise yourself because it is about creating that sort of positive I don't want to say Vibe

I already said it once I don't want to say it again I don't want to be cringe the positive mindset and energy around going after that goal and making it exciting making it making it something that you want to do every single day because you look forward to being there at the end of the day and being like I did that today I showed up for myself [Music] right I really hope you guys got something anything from this video that maybe will'll save some years of misery and confusion and frustration from your life you got

this peace I don't know what that was that was weird bye guys