Undestanding Men And Women's Needs ❃Myles Munroe❃

doing the problems I want you to follow me now see the problem is this he needs it but the problem is he doesn't want to feel like he's raping his wife most men feel that way they won't tell you that's how they feel they always got to be the one to initiate relationships and most of the time they're reject it you rejected man the first time no problem take the second time he stops trying during the third time he's no longer interested in you it's that serious so he comes to bed turns it back to

you watch TV for a while goes to bed and he's angry because he has to fight for something that is natural let me tell you something just let me carefully it's like a it's like a car you see brother Larry it's like a car okay your car ladies listen to me now your car needs what yesterday do you like gasoline no do you drink gasoline no is it good for you no but it's good for who the car and you want the car to what function so even though you don't like the gasoline you got

to give the car what it needs because you don't personally like it use your brains no I'm gonna tell you something because if you come up to a gas station you need gasoline and the station is closed what do you do you go look for another station let me tell you all something a serious business oh I won't admonish you women Born Again full of the Holy Ghost put a sign on your station always open and put a little extra sign premium octane all the men say Amen a man don't want to fight for this

thing I've talked to some men I mean literally counsel hundreds of them who say you know my wife and I were born again we're deacons in the church but boy it I'm having a tough time Pastor so why I gotta fight every time for sex because I'm tired Fighting Man and right away I know the marriage is in danger initiated you want a happy husband initiate into gods of Jasmine set it up I'll give you all my my wife's secret or my wife's Secret 24 years of wonderful Bliss she's a sharp woman boy my wife's

smart I give you a secret you get to ask about it later my wife has his little thing she does she she bought a blue bulb a little lamp with a blue bulb in the bedroom Blue Light Special go home girl thank you move make it move girl make it move Roxanne and I'm coming home from a long day traveling from Japan wherever I tired walk in that room and there's that blue light Glory energy comes back immediately I began to speak in towns for a while hey wise woman it says a foolish woman tears

a house down with our own tongue but a wise woman builds it up it's a joy to go home most men don't go home they go to another home what a tragedy okay man okay enough fun now's your time the number one need of a woman is completely opposite here it is it's affection that no one native a woman is what affection very important a woman doesn't need sex as much as she needs affection and love affection is not love affection is not sex rather most men believe that when they are completed with their sexual

experience the woman is happy it's not necessarily true matter of fact many times most women are angry after their husband climaxes because she's not fulfilled because her need everybody they need a woman doesn't want affection she needs it just like a car needs gasoline a female needs affection affection is not sex having sex with your wife is not an expression of affection is usually the results of it affection let me Define it for you affection is the application of defects to produce an effect again affection is what the application of an effect to produce an

effect in other words to show affection you got to apply something to the person and it has an impact and affects them so you give an effect that's why a woman needs to be told every day by a husband I love you it's an effect every day 10 times a day you tell me I love you she needs that as affection affection is sending her flowers for no reason at all affection is holding hands with her in public walking through the mall as an application of effect affection is telling her come sit near me again

while we're driving he did it when he recording what happened now affection is kissing in public in front of your old girlfriend come on let's talk about it it's affection affection is taking her for lunch for no reason any day of the week affection of taking it for lunch and ain't gonna be no big lunch McDonald's buy one as affection and you shared a sandwich affection is on your way home stopping on the side of the road pull on the side pick some Bush put them in a coke bottle I'm walking I said baby I

thought about you on the way home here she'll keep that bush for 10 weeks come on lady talk to me that's affection affection is not expensive it just takes thought sugar not man listen to me carefully do you drink gasoline no does your car need gasoline yes do you take it to the gas station yes do you drink gasoline but you drive to the gas station don't you guys why because the car needs and you need the car to function for who you so you take it rare to get what do you like gasoline but

why you take it there because the car needs it see you may say you're not affectionate we ain't talking about you you know what she needs you don't feel like stopping to buy flowers but you do it because that's what the car needs perfection affection begins in the morning guys rolling over in the bed kissing and say honey there are many women in the world but ain't none come near you and you wake up no sex just kissing you go to bed you run out of water for her in the tub Perfection is putting the

bubbles and thing in the tough for her perfection while the water's running you you go in the kitchen you make a little breakfast for her that's affection you bring it in the room before she gets up say honey for all the years you cook for me this one's for you affection hear them brothers they're crying out now thank you they feel so good it's affection they need that affection is soaping her back for her Perfection is drying off of the tub affection is taking her to the car open the door for that wonderful woman let

her in the classification especially kissing her before she leaves for work or before you leave affection is calling you every 10 minutes I just called to say I love you and hang the phone up you ain't gonna talk long only takes three seconds eleven o'clock caller again I just called to say how much I can't find the phone up one o'clock I just called to say I love you and your phone up four o'clock and I mean it from the apartment thank you a woman doesn't want that she needs a need she needs it and

that's why marriages don't work your station is closed and he ain't applying effects affection buy a card for another reason don't wait for birthdays I write little notes to my wife it's a habit I get for the last 20 years I read notes little notes you are the most beautiful woman in the world you are the most lovely blessing in my life you are such a gift from God you're the greatest wife you're the wonderful mother of my children little notes just a little piece of paper and I put it in her shoes all of

her shoes so she'll go to pick up a shoe to wear I'm not even home and when she opens the box to put the shoe on there's this note and I'm in somewhere else you know she gets us she called me up you okay I'll be right there baby I'll be right there come on give me a hand that's good stuff that's good stuff man learning affection affection affection that's why the church has 50 divorces church it's just about as the world why they don't get this kind of teaching in the church the second need

of a male is what say it loud well you know you're in trouble on this funny now he said he needs this what does this mean God designed the mail to be very aggressive why it's found in the Book of Genesis chapter 2 verse 15. God told the male to protect the garden so God designed the mail to be a protective Spirit which means he has to be aggressive now aggression is good you need to be aggressive to protect things that detective aggressiveness is supposed to be to defend the woman and the children that's what

a male has that's why males are naturally competitive they like to compete it's the spirit of aggression and it's very natural and God understands it that's why a male likes to get involved in recreational things now a woman doesn't understand this a female loves I mean a males love Recreation a woman does it but a man needs it there's a difference a man needs Recreation so you need to study your husband's Recreation study it and it might not be something what you like remember the gasoline you don't drink gasoline but you want a car to

function so here's your husband he likes Recreation maybe in sports or maybe in music or maybe in reading or maybe in drama or whatever whatever he likes you gotta join in with him that's important he needs what recreational company he wants you to be with him in it now this is especially Christian women they're too spooky you wonder why most men will drop you off the church and then go to the ball game on Sunday study here your husband's recreations and join him in it if he likes a job go jogging with him he likes

to work out go to the gym with him welcome you begin to work out too if he likes to read you buy books read when he reads or tell him read to you whatever he likes to do he likes music sit down ask him about his music symbol why he likes his name he you talk to you it's very interesting when you join a man as Recreation he'll talk to you matter of fact look at the second need of a female what is it a woman needs a matter the problem my wife is so sharp

man I get done because she's she's a smart woman that's why she got a good husband my wife knows I love the job in the morning I go jogging man along the beach Joker keep your I leave my wife my wife figured no I said wait a minute for years and why are we talking she's smart we talking ain't nowhere to go nothing to do so we talking and she gets her conversation I get my companionship she gets circumstance I get my companionship and by the time for the jargon for her for 20 minutes or

whatever 30 30 minutes an hour we don't talk for everything for the day average Christian woman you still watching this dumb game you got this big man running out of this little ball killing themselves you wait this ain't spiritual you need to pray that's why you're divorced that's why you're divorced you didn't understand his need for that if you're smart what you'll do is sit with him and say no honey I don't understand what they doing why does he run there and stop there and do that and he'll start talking to you average woman I

need to see you now turn this game off now I want to see you now leave your needs and come to me so he leaves but he's angry third beautiful man is what God well oh Jesus now let me explain this remember that this is lots of research and biblical principles the male was designed by God to be motivated by his eyes a woman is motivated by her heir about this probably Proverbs 31 Woman now my wife and I are going to be writing a book next year both of us wrote this book the book

would be titled the proverbs 31 man you can study that man that is also about that man and you study that woman she understood that man it says that she dressed in tapestry and fine you know I mean she was cheating she knows how to put herself together he was proud to sit in the gate of judgment in other words he went to work brag and said that's my wife man look at that woman who that's my wife he was proud to take it on in the public some men hide their way stay home baby

stay home stay home stay home pray at home a man needs an attractive wife so he can present it to himself so ladies it's not for pressure if you know that he needs that then Supply that need look good all the time if you wear rollers in your head let your rollers look dignified I'm serious about this I've seen him in man God have mercy they go out to you know go to the store slip us dirty clothes hand rollers have a walk with dignity you know fella comes home from A Hard Day's Work wife

opens the door they're frying pan in the hand knife in one Grease all over her hair well come on baby attractive way you know the Bible says listen you know the Bible says uh are we okay is everybody okay can I go a little bit long a little bit longer okay listen watch this in the Book of Genesis very interesting it says about a woman and a man it says so this car should a man leave his mother and father and claim to his wife now the word claimed there when I studied it it blessed

me the word cling is the Hebrew word which means to chase after now this is very interesting the Bible says for this course should a man leave his mother and father and chase after his wife now it says Chase your wife now normally you chase the woman you want to marry don't you guys you chase it and when you catch it you stop running why she stopped that's the problem she's aggressive before you got married she always smelled before you get married she brought her best that's why you wanted you couldn't be Easter and then

when you caught her she stopped doing what made you chase her my wife is a smart woman I'm gonna talk about my I know mine so I drop my mind all the time my wife looked better now than before we got married I mean there ain't no hope for me he said I chase around the house all the time come here you're supposed to look better after you get married fix yourself better after you get married love better dress better smell better I mean make he make him look at no one but you but most

women Challenge and got him what are they gonna go diet for I already got him what I got to go through with all this stuff I have and you're wondering why the guy is coming home late because the view is not too interesting have mercy what is a woman's third need she needs this honesty and openness what does she need honesty man listen carefully women don't want this they need this it's fuel if you want a woman to function for you be honest with her all the time and be open tell her everything that you

need to tell her and and don't ever tell any other woman some you didn't tell your wife so anything more than what you know okay be open with your wife she needs it a woman will glow when she feels she got your Intimate Secrets be honest with her if you get a plan for business tell your wife don't tell me what a woman be honest a lot of women living in marriages and they feel locked up the husbands talk to everybody else except that and they feel locked out and they are malfunctioning he'll be honest

with your wife however and I have Thursdays that I belong to us thirsty belongs to us in our marriage Thursdays Thursdays we don't see nobody big on a date every Thursday 24 years Thursday we talk as we take I give her all that's in my heart all my plans for the future everything I'm thinking about some of the problems I'm going through difficulties and challenges I'm going through she gets to know this one I gotta be honest and open with her I know she needs that foreign he says what I will keep no secrets from

you I've told you everything he says she needs that number four a woman a man needs what the magic support means when he comes home he don't want to start over again we had a busy day's work home supposed to be a refuge for a man a hiding place a cave to hide in a place where he can be away from the world that's so hard on him he needs domestic support ladies he doesn't want this he needs it that means you need to go home right now and study your home and see if it's

a good place to come home to how does it look physically how does it feel psychologically how does it look emotionally study your home is it a place where a man would love to stay and hide from the world most women make their house a war zone the guy works all day I mean all kind of stress on the job and the doctor you know in in the factory whatever he comes on walks in she goes why are you late why you smile like this wait a minute lady calm down I'm trying to get away

from that my boss was shouting at me all day I want to find somewhere to hide for a while and go cook your own food wow I might rather stop to a restaurant on the way home there's no support here children running everywhere not safe to come home in children still alive my wife is smart my wife when I come home she know I work hard that's when I work 16 hour days easy for me 16 hours easy for me I work Double Days easy when I come home she's done the kids give your daddy

some time y'all go watch TV or go do your homework maybe that she knows she doesn't even bother me what a place to go home to house always looks nice always looks first class I have to go going on to me is a joy every day I can't wait to go let's go straight on from work straight I love it why it's safe to come to my wife's house she makes it a joy to be home who the Bible says a woman who's like a dripping faucet makes her husband sleep on the roof and the

Bible says he sleeps on the roof because his wife is like a dripping faucet does a woman destroy a home the Bible says you know what a man needs when he comes home support you know honey you're the best husband any woman could have I'm so glad you're my husband boy that's a good place to be you know honey you don't pray every day but I thank God for the times you do pray God hears your prayer he'd encourage him to pray instead of saying you don't pray enough see that's the wrong thing to say

that's not encouragement he knows he don't pray you don't pray either what are you talking about domestic support when he runs away from the world home should be his hiding place so you go home and think about it what does she need big one financial support even if she's working and let me explain how this works okay yes how this works in many cases sometimes you find a woman makes more money than a man that has nothing to do with who's the head of the home he is the head by God's desire no problem with

that so you must understand that a marriage and a family is like a business a business operates on partnership you and I are Partners we go into a business we both put in what equal shares the shares go where into the general account what happens to the to the resources that this resource then are distributed based on the priorities of the company it's the way your home's supposed to run also it doesn't matter who brings in more money it all goes into the general account and the man is responsible for setting the priorities based on

God's instruction to be the headed at home now here's what I mean then so what do you mean by my financial support your wife should never have to be under pressure to have to supply it should be and her choice a woman shouldn't have to have to work now she could nothing wrong with that but there shouldn't be that pressure she's not designed for that by God secondly there should always be in the family now listen carefully Brothers this is very good advice when you set up your accounts there should be an account that is

specifically for her only that's wisdom and you make deposits on that account it ain't gonna be a lot of money but she knows that's hers she can do what she wants to buy give her her own checkbook for that account that's hers and every month you put something there for her she needs that she needs to know that there's financial support that she can control then secondly you need to give her the financial resources to do what you are asking her to do you telling her to cook then you got to make sure there's food

there you gonna clean the house and make sure that there is some cleaning materials there whatever you're demanding you must Supply Brothers you should see these women face from what I see right now they're going keep on going past that Miles am I right ladies it's not who makes the money it's how it is distributed she needs financial support a man needs what admiration and respect a woman needs what family commitment these are needs now a man doesn't want respect he needs it I'm going to give you something to write down as we close and

I want you ladies to write us down in in capital letters here it is a man does not need love very important nowhere in the Bible does it ever say a woman should love a man it doesn't exist in Scripture because a man does not need love why because a man needs respect write that down a man interprets respect as love when a woman tells you she loves you it doesn't mean anything to you think about it but when she respects you you know she loves you Ephesians chapter 5 says this husband love your wife

it does a man to love the woman never trust women to love the man but it does say wise respect your husband same chapter because God knows what he made okay so the first problem you got right now ladies is what is respect see yeah Rita Franklin had it wrong that's why she still ain't married she had it backward yeah he's a little respect don't sing that song Anymore she had it backward no she needed love see James behind it right respect your own skin okay listen to me how do you respect a man now

here's here's the secret the word respect ladies write this down come on write it down respect means to speak highly of wow respect means to hold in high regard keep writing respect means to praise the average man in this room gets zero prayers zero it's not funny it's very dangerous it's very dangerous okay let me tell you what hurts a husband in this church here's what hurts the husband of this church you respect Pastor Larry more than him you are not married to your pastor I know and I'm not naive I know it's tough to

find something in him to praise I know that what the Bible says to do it why God knows how the car works a lady came to me years ago she's in our church and her husband one of our there but one of our deacons and elders when they first came she was coming to church by herself for years and I kept noticing she keep coming to church husband wouldn't come to church I ask her one day I said where's your husband he's home I said why don't I said he never he said he didn't believe

in God he'd never come to church and say he ain't a church I said why he said and church is for pastors nothing Hit me hard so she was in in prayer meeting I went over to her I wrote a note to her husband we're just about to start permitting I wrote a note to her husband I said sir I apologize for keeping your wife away from you I'm sending your wife home because you are her priority I signed it I said go home now go away from prayer meeting your husband is more important than

prayer meeting go home she said pastor what are you doing I said you go home give your husband this right now she went home gave no to her husband around Thursday I got a phone call from her she said my husband is talking strange I said what happened he said her husband for the whole week kept saying I don't understand that man I understand that Pastor no pastor does this no Pastor sends people home and so he was being confused all week so next Sunday he came to church sat right in the back she was

up front and she was glowing smiling all through the service I didn't know he was there at the end of the service I was shaking hands with all these people she came up she said yes I said what's the problem she said yes I said who is I said really I said can I come I mean she says he ain't gonna come I said you tell him I want to meet him he ran back went in the lobby where he was brought him in and he was dressed you know t-shirt you know just checking things

out and I walked down to meet him we met halfway I said man it's good to see you welcome and he said yes he said he said you are right you know you all right man that's what you mean I'm all right he says I like you he's a man you're all right I said what do you mean this I've never seen a pastor send people home I said but that's your wife she should be home to cook for you and take care of you he said that's what I mean you see I've been in

many churches my wife men men have been in a church with a pastor saw me as being more important than him changed my life I said of course you are man she's married to you she should respect you he said you know I like this church next Sunday he was back sitting halfway in the church had on a shirt this time made an article came up gives life to Jesus respect another lady came to me Pastor miles that's it I said what happened that's it divorce I can't handle it no more the man's crazy I

said oh calm down calm down sit down I said what happened got him again singing around he doesn't come home for the last six months my husband been coming home one two three a.m in the morning sometimes he comes on 4 AM every night I can't take it he's coming home I don't know where he is we're sleeping with and she's going on I says calm down I said your husband has been sleeping late out every night and he comes home I say yeah I said why don't you praise him she said what I said

the Bible says to respect your husband he don't understand that's a no good man sleeping with women saying on the night I said lady the Bible says respect your husband women women don't understand God knows everything so she says how can I respect him I said okay follow my instructions you'll be okay yes Pastor whatever you say I said tell you what I want you to go home to your husband go to bed tonight when he comes in I want you to wake up go to him and tell him thank you for coming home she

says what I said see you thought there was nothing to praise him for I said lady I got women in this church whose husbands never come home Jesus at least this one comes home amen I said and that's enough to thank you for crazy I thought about that that's why I'm the pastor and you're the member she went home did exactly what I said he came around three o'clock she says she woke up she went to him she said you know I don't agree with everything you're doing but I want to thank you at least

you come home to me and the children thank you for coming home I appreciate you coming home I'll see you back to bed every night third night the guy came home 12 o'clock