I'm a firefighter speaking of which I'm a fighter firefighter in Australia and in the time I've been in this job I've been several jobs that were very challenging I've entered burning homes to extinguish fires and search for residents and their pets I search for victims during times of flood and help people evacuate their homes in times of natural disasters I've attended car crashes and cut victims from vehicles and pulled deceased people from others I've I also know that I'm not alone I am aware of the fact that while I've been doing this countless firefighters were
on the globe or thousands of times braver than me and I've done things that the vast majority of the population would not be capable of and that doesn't even acknowledge the courage of our police and paramedics and our military who step up day after day to do what has to be done because of if not me then whom my question is this how do you suggest those in the front line deal with the trivial issues at home I attended a very severe car accident a head-on collision with a school bus full of children and another
car thankful thankfully all the children in the school bus were ok but it took us three hours to cut the driver from the car and she had very serious injuries and was airlifted to a hospital when I got home that night I was confronted by an upset girlfriend who wanted to talk about some extra extraordinarily trivial issue which I struggled to listen to the whole time she was talking I just kept thinking about the job and making sure I'd done everything I possibly could have for the driver but I was also aware of the fact
that my fiance's problems are important to her so I need to be supportive I listen for as long as I could listen for as long as I could then unfortunately I just said your day could have been a lot worse no one spent three hours cutting you out of a car so be thankful I know I can't be alone on this I know police paramedics in the military would be suffering the same thing how do you suggest is the best way to deal with this check so it was always always my goal to protect my
family from darkness and evil in the world that includes these kind of things you want to shield them from this now this doesn't mean to keep them oblivious you don't want them thinking that the world that you've created for them that's well protected and secure you don't want them thinking that that's the way the whole world is you don't want them thinking that but I sure didn't throw this kind of stuff at my family on a regular basis but I took pride and I think that that's the answer here take pride in letting your family
or your loved ones live in worlds where they're trivial issues are the most important thing in their world the most impactful thing in the world for them okay so that's that's number one and if you get yourself a little bit of satisfaction every time your your significant other complains that you know the the ice machine isn't really working up to full speed it's really horrible mm-hmm right you should be you should be proud think yourself yeah well you know what let me let me take a look at it maybe there's a kink in the water
line I don't know but we'll try and get that thing up to speed so you can have cold drinks cuz that's where I want your world to be right I want you to have plenty of ice so for your drinks or whatever so that's that's it if you can if you can put your your family in that kind of a protected environment you should be proud of it and you should be and the way they indicate that to you they don't say hey thank you for letting me live in a protected environment they don't say
that to you there in the environment they don't even know that they're in it the way they the way they let you know that they're in that environment is when they when they complain about trivial things so that's number one the other thing is try and try and see things from other people's perspective you know in in this case my my wife's right so my wife would say things is a big deal to her and for her it was a big deal and like I just said I wanted it to be a big deal for
her and also I'll tell you what we're talking about firefighters and military and police but this goes to other non uniformed jobs as well if if you can leave your work at work because you think some you know every job there's stresses at every job and you're out there grinding and you're in trouble with the boss or you're trying to get a project fig figured out you've got all the stress coming down on you or you've lost money or you've got a huge deal on the table or whatever the case may be if you can
isolate your family from that as much as you can and I'm not saying into an unhealthy level where you're just not telling them what's going on but bear the burden man bear the burden of that you that you hold to protect your family so yeah that's what I think that's what I think we we do our best to protect our family and our loved ones from the darkness the pressure the stress the evil in the world again you don't make them oblivious you don't disconnect from them in order to do that but you shield them
from it and you bear the burden yourself so that they don't have to bear it as much again you don't want your kids growing up to be spoiled you don't want your wife to be saying if I don't get of a latte this morning I will absolutely not even right you don't want to be married to that person yeah not even I did that pretty good didn't I my middle daughter is like the funniest person ever and she can do all these crazy nice tea I'm stealing her material right there because she'll do that Jason
she'll say that is so oh my god it's not even you know she's kidding because she knows that there's human beings like that in the world that say not even there's nothing at the end of it yeah that's us I think that might be something new no that's not evil you know I've heard I can't even though I can't even oh it's the same thing the same thing yes I'm updated yeah new it's just a different angle on it but yeah hey thanks for uh thanks for doing all that hard work man that's that's awesome
I know I see firefighters police officers military people all the time I hear them all the time and yeah try and shield your family as much as you can don't drag them down look down into the darkness with you yeah it seems like a good and take pride in it that's what I was gonna say it's like take pride in its like embracing the role as like the captain kind of yeah you know where it's like yeah you know the wife's mad about you know they put cream in our coffee and she asked for a
nonfat milk that's from Seinfeld bitter um and you know whatever and she's pissed and meanwhile you know you just pulled a lady out for three hours by the way bus and car crash head-on collision so as he you know you embrace the role it's like okay you know boom I'm dealing oh one second I'm dealing with straight-up life and death and kids and accidents and tragedy and then one second later I'm dealing with essentially nothing right but it's my wife's feelings that's what I'm dealing with my wife's feeling I'm not dealing with nonfat milk versus
cream I'm not dealing with that I'm dealing with my wife's feelings and that's part of the job too so you can't just be like hey I'm gonna do my job one second I'm gonna do my job really good in the next second I'm not gonna do it so good you can't do that embrace the role that's the guy who gets the job done regardless how big how small so so as a husband this is where I can speak from cuz I've been a husband for eight years successfully cuz I'm currently husband too so there be
you know how like people have anyway but so you know how you know people they'll tell you something and then you'll be like wait what do you mean by that you're kind of offended like are you like are you kind of digging at me or something like that you know like that kind stuff even though you know kinda they were right like that was a little passive-aggressive little comment kind of thing so every once in a while when I'd experienced that not that happens all the time but if it ever happened what I do to
kind of combat that anger cuz brah okay I'm the kind where like if there's like a you saying passive-aggressive from your wife yes and what you do to combat the anger would be it would be trying to move this story racing no it's relevant to this Thun important I think it helps it totally helps where I embrace the role of the dude I don't know for lack of better than the captain you know embrace the role a captain where sure she's passive-aggressive whatever you know maybe I'll overtime I'll start to understand more or whatever but
so I like envision myself as Superman for and her passive-aggressive comments or bullets and they're just bouncing off of me just like bullets off Superman yeah that's cool that's cool until the fact that if you don't react and she's gonna escalate she wants some kind of reaction out of you yeah so sometimes you have to give them some kind of reaction yeah otherwise they'll continue to escalate to a point where you do react yes yeah so I read that little or a while ago yeah yeah no reaction is not always good right so and I
don't you gotta say you gotta say the bullet hits you and you gotta say oh that bullet hurt oh yeah I should be a little more careful yeah bullets are flying around that's how I need to be a little bit more you know careful of these bullets they can really hurt me right be careful but see how your your tone and stuff is like there's no anger there yeah yeah but so that's what I mean I mean it's just to combat the anger not the problem-solving think that's a whole nother thing as far as I'm
concerned like if she's passive-aggressive or mad about I don't know it's cuz I put the dish away when it was wet and dry dator wet that skill was by the way but I'm just saying if it's just that's a whole different thing so if I anger why's the bullets bounce off of me boom I don't get angry then I can start addressing those issues the ones that you're talking about but I mean to combat the straight-up anger yeah keep your emotions in check yeah - like her insults are bouncing off of me like Superman it
help sometimes
