welcome back to the school of greatness my name is Lewis house and if you are looking to rewire your brain for success and abundance this is for you in this conversation we are learning how to shift your mind to attract more abundance into your life today we have three powerful guests segments from some of the most favorite guests of the school of greatness of all time and our first expert is a New York Times best oning author researcher and international lecturer our second guest has one of the biggest growing podcast of the year and is
taking over social media with lifechanging tips and resources and our third guest sold over 35 million copies of their book worldwide and this was the first in-person interview since they were on Oprah in 2007 and again we're going to break down what these three experts have to say and how you can start harnessing the power of your thoughts to break free from your negativity to attract more in your life in this first segment we have someone who has helped many people break free from negative thought patterns heal and help them thrive in their life his
name is Dr Joe despenza and he shares his insights on the importance of Shifting your Focus From Fear and competition to states of creativity abundance and transforming how you approach challenges and opportunities in your life let's go ahead and dive into this first moment and what happens if we create try to create from survival emotions it just takes a long time you just you you'll just force it little SP Little Steps at a time'll force it you'll you'll force it you'll fight for it you'll compete for it and you'll manipulate you'll cheat you'll lie uh
you'll do anything to get what you want because that's what matter does when it's trying to change matter and everybody everybody's playing that game right everybody's trying to accumulate the most amount of things right okay so that's what abundance means to certain people get as many things as you can okay you want that not a problem but let's learn the formula of how to create right so then so then you'd have to feel those emotions before the experience occurred and if you understood that you could dissociate all of your attention from this three-dimensional reality and
have no attention on anything known and understand it's the field that creates matter that matter that emits the field and if you could get to that place and change your energy with a clear intention and elevated emotion your heart starts beating in this beautiful Rhythm like a drum we've measured it so many times and when that occurs the next thing that happens the heart informs the brain it's safe to create now so the person relaxes into the present moment and then we see this like if you took a big sheet you know and a blanket
and you went like that the energy of the heart actually informs the brain to move into this beautiful elegant states of Alpha Brain Wave patterns coherent Alpha and that's saying what's the next dream what is it the next what's the next opportunity you want to experience that's a state of creation so now you have a Wi-Fi signal you got a coherent brain that's a directive that's a signal out and you got this coherent heart that's what draws it to us right you combine those two and if there's a vibrational match between your energy and that
potential in the quantum field and you're feeling abundant and whatever your brain Associates with being abundant that's your call that's what the creative process is this is the creative Center the brain frontal lobe actually says what would it be like to be creative or or abundant I don't know what it would be like to be abundant well then go read a few books on people who who actually became abundant and realize it wasn't a glorious process they failed miserably they got they got betrayed they learned a lot of lessons but they persevered and what are
the qualities of that person that you could embody that that's the key right because it's it's not about wealth it's who you become right because people think it's about their wealth but it's the becoming process it's the overcoming attracted that right of course so then so then you got to turn the battleship around because most people say I can't feel grateful for my wealth because it hasn't happened yet that's the hypnosis waiting for the experience to happen to feel grateful well that's Newtonian that's three-dimensional reality that's causing effect the quantum you got to feel it
in order for you to experience it okay so this heart be comes like an amplifier and it sends that signal out and that frequency can carry the thought of your abundance can suffering cannot carry the thought of your abundance lack cannot carry the thought of your abundance it's a different frequency right we feel different feelings like suffering we think different thoughts all right so so people can say I'm abundant I'm abundant I'm abundant I'm abundant all they want but that thought is never making it to the body because it's stopping at the brain stem because
the body's saying I'm miserable I'm unhappy I'm in lack right right so so the affirmation doesn't work right okay so let's go one step further yes so if you practiced this and you actually understood you know well we teach this pretty well but if you you if you learned it just like learning how to play handball or learning how to hit a golf ball learning how to dance ass Sala you just practiced the form you got really good at it if you were doing it properly then what would be the outcome the experiment of being
abundant would be that you would have to feel that feeling it's so good at doing it with your eyes closed mhm you got to do it with your eyes open now why because if you're feeling the feelings of your emotions of your future you're no longer looking for them because you're in the future now your your body is so objective that it's believing it's living in that reality where you are abundant and as long as you feel that emotion you're not separate from it any longer you're no longer in lack you're no longer looking for
it to Cur occur say why hasn't it happened yet yet if you're feeling abundant why would you look right we would wouldn't so so so then our job then is to be able to maintain that modified State of Mind and Body so okay so does that mean like you should check your bank account tomorrow and see if there's a half a million dollars in it no you keep tuning into that potential and here come the synchronicities what's that that's feedback in your environment the universe is saying hey Lewis whatever you're doing all of a sudden
we are starting to create right and I think it's so important for people to remember that they're the creators of their lives instead of the victim of their lives right so the victim is saying I'm feeling this way because that person or that circumstance or I don't have any money is causing me to feel this way that's my relationship with money what that really means is I'm using my lack to reaffirm my dependency my addiction my conditioning that's my relationship with money is that I put my attention on money because I don't have it so
their relationship with money is of course built on lack and so when they don't have it they feel bad and what they're really saying is my outer environment my reality is actually controlling the way I feel and the way I think so L why are you in a good mood today things are going good why in a bad mood things are going bad today so this unconscious program of victimization is saying that that that we're we're allowing our environment to influence the way we feel and the way we think isn't that isn't that what victimization
is and and the stronger the emotion we have to our lack the more we put our attention on the fact that we don't have it right so then the person has forgotten that they're creating reality because what they're creating is lack and they're creating more of it and then they try harder and they force harder and they control more exhausted and their body's tired breaking down and right so so the experiment then is let's try it another way let's create from the field instead of from matter get a coherent heart get a coherent brain relax
in the heart and energy moves right in the brain we've measured this thousand times and all of a sudden the person moves into these beautiful elegant brain wave states where they're super creative right so the the longer you're conscious of that energy the more you draw that future to you so then what does the synchronicity mean it means whatever you're doing inside of you is producing that effect outside of you pay attention to what you did keep do it again so generate a little bit more abundance just to for an experiment now when the synchronicity
happens do you think you feel suffering or do you think you feel a little excitement you feel fired right so then that synchronicity saying use this energy use this feeling it should be easier for you to feel this now and go back and do it again keep the experiment going then here comes the promotion here comes the here comes the email here comes the person you meet at the right time right w we have something happening here and then that that becomes the momentum right so then we generate abundance that's that's how we do it
and the relationship it doesn't just happen by accident we generate we generate abundance right so then if you have an hour meditation where you're tuning into your abundant future but then you're spending the other 15 hours a day in lack don't expect anything to change you defaulted you're back to the old energy and if you say it's that person or that circumstance or that bank account I'm going to say you're back to the unconscious program of being a victim right so then so then so then let's go a step further if your personality creates your
personal reality and it does and your personality is made up of how you think how you act and how you feel then the present personality who's listening to this podcast has created the present personal reality called their life nothing big there which means if you want to change your personal reality you're going to have to change your personality right nothing changes in your life until you change right so then 95% of who we are is is on autopilot right it's it's a programmed thoughts hardwired thoughts beliefs perceptions unconscious habits and behaviors and really really emotional
responses that tend to be really knee-jerk and automatic right so if 95% of who we are is a set of unconscious programs then the first step to change is becoming conscious of those unconscious thoughts now people think when they sit down to do the work and make their change that they're they're doing something wrong no those thoughts have to come up I can I'm not worried worthy it's never going to work but a person who's truly persevering towards their abundance realizes just because they have that thought doesn't mean it's true they're curious on what's on
the other side of that thought ah well that's just the thought right and nerve cells that no longer fire together no longer wire together so you keep moving past that thought it gets has less and less power over you right uh now you're you have power over it or or better better yet you're using your brain in the proper way and instead of your being a victim to your brain right if you complain about money if you judge people who have it if you rush when you're in lack if you cheat when you don't have
what you need an abundant person doesn't do that you got to look at that and say I got to break these habits oh my God if I truly want to be abundant I can't act this way now here's the bid one if if I truly want to be a new personality that's a new personal reality I can't take lack with me I can't take unworthiness I can't take the story that goes along with it with my parents or my grandparents or my ex or whatever that story has to end right I mean if not now
when right how do people end those story well of course well how many times do we have to forget until we stop forgetting and start remembering that's the game right that's the game called change how many times we have to go unconscious and default to that old personality when we catch ourselves and stop doing that and get conscious that's the moment of change so the problem is is that most people wake up in the morning and they think uh let me think of my problems right they're the brain is a record of the past right
so they think about their problems they don't have enough money and those those problems are usually connected to certain people at certain places with certain objects and certain things what didn't work out or who screwed me over so the moment they wake up the moment they remember those problems they're thinking in the past so now they're firing en wiring the memory they're keeping the memory of past alive in their mind the problem is every one of those memories has an emotion associated with it because we've experienced it so when they feel the lack when they
feel the unhappiness when they feel the anxiety now the body's in the past thoughts being the language of the brain feelings being the language of the body how we think and how we feel creates our state of being but the conditioning process starts because conditioning only needs a thought and a Feeling a memory or an image and an emotion and a stimulus and a response and you're conditioning your body to become the mind of that emotion and now the the memory is not in the brain now the memory is buried subconsciously in the body and
the body becomes the mind of that emotion so the body is living in lack and it's believing the body is is that through the nervous system or is that through neurochemical cells everything everything so so so the body is so objective that it does not not know the difference between the real life experience that's creating the lack and the emotion that you're creating by thought alone called lack the body is believing it's living the same past experience every day it's why because the end product of an experience is an emotion well if you your life
is changing but you're still feeling lack don't expect anything that CH you you won't even see it you'll walk right past it you're viewing your life through the lens of the past okay so okay so then the person realizes that all their friends are making money and they're doing stuff and they're like wow I'm really feeling lacked now so then when it no longer becomes about your abundance when it becomes about your change that's a valuable moment when it's no longer about your healing but it's about your change I paid attention to a lot of
people in in the last couple years tell their story the people who heal in this work from cancers and all kinds of chronic health conditions and Parkinson's and strokes and paralysis and all kinds of things rare genetic disorders it it never was about when they've really got in the game it was never about their healing it was about what do I need to change in order to heal when the game goes like that so then the person who's feeling lack on some level or another it's not just in the mind it's in the body right
let me say let me hear you say that again when someone's looking for abundance it's never about the abundance it's about the change they need to make for healing no the the whe I'm using healing as an example but let's use abundance as an example when when you understand that you cannot get abundant when it's no longer about the game called abundance it's about the game called change what do I need to change the more I change the more I'll be abundant yes so then it's no longer why haven't how come it hasn't habit that's
the old personality separate from the experience so lack asking that question which is creating current reality which is which is reaffirming it because that's the lens you're perceiving it through okay so so we should be focusing more on what we need to change every moment as opposed to the abundance or the healing well the word meditation means to become familiar with sit with yourself long enough and not turn on your cell phone not scroll through your social media do no Tik Tok no emails no none of that stuff don't just sit and close your eyes
and and watch the thoughts that come up th that's the exact reason why you're not abundant watch what you want to do when you're feeling lack to take away the lack and there's always something you would do to to take it away but but sit with the lack and be curious on what's on the other side of it right because the body's programmed into lack now subconsciously right so the emotion of lack drives our thoughts and drives our behaviors so it makes sense then that if an emotion is a record of the past then we're
doing things habitually from the past we're thinking in the past past right so so lower the volume to the emotion every time you notice lack comes up and just like breaking any addiction there's going to be Cravings right so the body's going hey Lewis it's been about two hours since you're so used to doing this yeah you've been thinking lacking thoughts about 150,000 times a day and you're just going to stop now the body's going the body's going to start influencing the mind and saying it's not going to work you're a loser didn't work before
it's too hard everybody else that's that's why it's so hard for people to like lose weight or get shape you might try for a few days and then the Cravings or I'm tired and I want to go default back into the old person because why cu the body which has been conditioned the mind the body is the unconscious mind so the body's got used to The Familiar feeling even they don't even know it's lack it's just how they feel it's like guilt so okay meish okay so the hardest part about all of this is making
a different choice and the moment you decide to make a different Choice get ready it's going to feel uncomfortable right it's going to feel unfamiliar you're body's all of a sudden saying hey Lewis uh why don't you start thinking those same exact thoughts do the same things make the same choices demonstrate the same behaviors have the same experiences so you could feel that feeling of lack complain again to somebody call somebody up and say how how miserable your life is right and that's that's the known right so the body is always influencing the mind to
return back to the familiar territory default default okay all right so now the person says okay what thoughts do do I not want what what would an abundant person think this way the people in our work that have created I had a guy come to our event I I love this guy he healed himself he to tried to take his life three times when he told me that when he came to our work he didn't have $2 to rub together he's worth hundreds of millions of dollars now and he just keeps giving it away wow
his his lesson his lesson was it wasn't the wealth it was who he became so it's the overcoming process that is the becoming process who did he become in that Journey exactly he had to get beyond all of those thoughts of his past all the mistakes he made all the things he did wrong all the money he owed there all of that that was like he just had to no longer be that person any longer but he did say how would a wealthy person live and and and when he created his wealth what do you
think the first thing he did started giving giving it away why cuz an abundant person doesn't have any lack and he knows how to create more of it and that's he's in the experiment well what would happen if I keep giving it away he keeps getting more that's a good experiment to have because that he is actually living in that abundant State he also had tremendous healings taking place because when you heal your heart you heal your mind I mean it's just the way it is we saw it so many times right so he healed
his heart he got an upgrade he got an upgrade right so then the next fundamental question is how would an abundant person think write it down dude and fire and wire those thoughts in your brain and install the hardware keep doing it with attention and intention it becomes the new voice in your head it becomes a software program then say okay how am I going to be in my life today what would an abundant person how would they behave and before you reach for your cell phone and start scrolling through your social media close your
eyes and rehearse in your mind how that person would walk how they would Breathe how they would smile how they would greet people how they would be on Zoom calls how would they be in traffic how would they be at dinner and and the act of closing your eyes and mentally rehearsing the ACT if you're truly present the brain does not know the difference between the real life experience and what you're imagining in fact just a little bit of time you start to install the neurological Hardware to look like you already did it now the
planting is no longer a record of the past it's primed for the future keep doing it keep rehearsing no different than playing an instrument no different than learning how to dance no different than learning how to act uh or play a sport everybody's always rehearsing right the rehearsal process changes the brain to look like you've already done it you've already experienced it now what's the essential part of that the hardware is in place now all you got to do is step into the footprint M keep doing it it becomes a software program you start acting
like an abundant person everything changes your energy changes your mood changes the way you walk the way you breathe your posture changes you're out of the known right you got to condition the body now emotionally into the future can't open your eyes in the morning until you are feeling worthy to receive and if you can't feel worthy to receive then if not now when if it takes you two hours to get there ask me if it's worth 30 years of running trying to get what you need matter to matter okay so then the person who
wrestles with their lack they're out of the bleachers and they're on the playing field here's what we learned here's what we learned let's go back to beliefs now so remember belief is just a thought you keep thinking over and over again a belief is something that you keep thinking enough times that you hardwired in your brain and it becomes an automatic program and we have beliefs about all kinds of things money relationships God whatever it is it's all based on what we've been told or our past experiences right the boundaries of those beliefs are our
emotions right so let's just say you got betrayed or somebody abused you or your father told you that money was bad and there's never enough of it or whatever that's a story okay but but somehow it left an impression on you remember that event very clearly and that's kind of rooted in who you are right okay so that emotion then is the boundary of our belief Okay so how you think and how you feel creates your state of being if you take a thought and a feeling a thought and a feeling a thought and a
feeling a thought and a feeling that's called an attitude a series of good thoughts with a series of Good Feelings you say I have a good attitude today you have a series of negative thoughts that are connected to a series of negative feelings you say have a bad attitude today so attitudes are just shorten states of being good attitude in the morning bad attitude in the afternoon if you take an attitude and attitude and attitud you keep those up and you string attitudes together you create what's called a belief and a belief is just an
extended state of being so if you keep thinking the same thought you keep hardwiring in the brain you keep feeling the same feeling you keep conditioning in your body the redundancy of that cycle over and over again conditions the body to subconsciously become the mind of that belief and all beliefs are subconscious states of being okay take a belief a belief a belief and you string them together you form what's called a perception and perceptions are just such extended states of being that we're unconscious and so then we we edit out reality in fact most
people don't see things the way they are they see things the way they are yes right and people are always feeling in reality unconsciously based on their memory they could be married to a person for 40 years and they don't see the person they see the memory of the person right and there's research to prove this okay so how do we change a belief or perception about about our s for our lives okay we've studied this okay let's just say that lack is ingrained in there you got the story you lived on the streets you
lost everything you got betrayed your business partner took everything took your wife took you got the story in the half okay okay you got to start telling a new story of the future right you got to believe in that future more than you have to believe in the past so how do you do that you only believe in the past when you feel the emotions of the past the only time you're going to believe in the future is when you feel the emotions the future right okay so in order for us to change a belief
or perception about our s and our lives we have to make a decision with such firm intention that the amplitude of that decision carries a level of energy that's greater than the hardware programs in your brain and the emotional conditioning in your body and your body literally has to respond to your mind that the choice that you're making to change in that moment becomes a moment in time that you never forget and here's the key physically physically the stronger the emotion you feel when you make that choice the more you'll remember the decision okay so
then how do we downregulate that old belief if the trauma created an emotional quotient of six or seven then your decision to change your belief's got to be a nine right you got to come out of your resting state and that moment has to Define you you could say I know exactly where I was the time and day it was who I was with when I made my mind up to change right cuz you created a long-term memory long-term memories are created from strong emotions right but the amplitude of that emotion is greater than the
Betrayal Boom the body starts responding to the mind and you're actually giving your body a taste of the future emotionally so you brand your possible no your body is actually getting the taste of that future event it's experiencing the future now exactly big explosion on the quantum field big explosion so the side effect of that is if you combine that clear intention with that elevated emotion you're basically remembering your future and it looks no different than remembering your past think neurologically within the circuits of that memory and feel within the emotions of that new belief
and watch your life begin to change because nothing changes in our life that we change and when we change our energy we change our life so now the experiment all of a sudden sudden is no longer based on it being hard or trying or wishing or wanting or hoping that's what we do when we're lack or in lack of Separation it's about change so then when we finally realize in order for us to become abundant we have to overcome the old personality and that's 95% of who we are right yes so then the side effect
of the beginning of this process is a lot of discomfort and it is a lot of discomfort because you're stepping outside the known into the unknown and now you can't predict scary no no you ra you'd rather hold on to your lack the pain the suffering rather tell the story of that at least makes you feel something that's familiar when you step outside and you're saying I'm not going to complain about money any longer I'm not going to complain about I don't have any I'm not going to judge other people who do I'm not going
to say I can I'm not worthy it's never going to work all those things got to go I'm not going to feel lack I'm not going to feel unworthy I'm not going to feel separation I'm not going to feel resentment these are the things that are keeping my reality the same now it's no longer about abundance it's about who you become mhm so the O overcoming process becomes the becoming process and so many people come through this work they want abundance they want healing they want a new relationship they want a new career they want
the mystical but really they want wholeness and and they want healing they want peace they want wholeness cuz they feel unho well well when you're in lack or you're in separation you're not whole imagine feeling so much wholeness that's impossible to want that's what our that's what we're working on with people then you can really enjoy a sunset then you can really enjoy a meal then you can really enjoy your friends then you can I I I I talk to people that are very abundant I mean in the billions abundant and you know so many
of them say we're in misery our whole we're in agony because they can't enjoy life anymore that's what they want I mean people want abundance to be able to enjoy life they want to be able to do whatever they want with whoever they want as many times as they want wherever they want that's Freedom right people want abundance the sponsoring thought is really they want freedom right or whatever their sponsoring thought would be right so so then creating from the field instead of from matter to shorten the distance between cause and effect requires that clear
intention with that elev emotion coherent brain and coherent heart tune into that energy and feel it with your brain and your heart I mean we have plenty of ways to do that examine your personality and examine your personal reality change your personality change your personal reality don't make it be about abundance about becoming abundant by overcoming the person who's not abundant the person who heals thems from a health condition who's no longer thinking the same way no longer acting the same way no longer feeling the same way you ask them where that disease is when
they stand on the stage in front of 50 00 people or 3,000 people and that's a 4-minute mile everybody's leaning in that's truth right on the stage they say where is that where is the disease oh it lives in the old person I'm somebody else that's like that's I don't even that's not even the story that's not even who I am any longer so lo and behold when we do our research and people do this in seven days of going all in at the end of seven days their body looks like genetically with all the
metabolites that they're literally in a different environment and here's the weird part they're in a ballroom right there's not a lot happening in a ball what's happening in a I've been into thousands of ball but the environment somehow looks like they're living in a very prosperous very healthy very loving nurturing very whole environment why because they were signaling genes ahead of the environment and if the environment signals the gene okay that's epigenetics the end product of the experience in the environment is an emotion if you feel the emotion before the experience you're signaling the gene
ahead of the environment and genes make proteins and proteins are responsible for the structure and the function of your body jack look at Jack by the way I like that look at that muscle over here the expression of proteins is the expression of life so you actually become abundant you actually become that person and people who are truly abundant have no problem with losing things I'd love to hear your thoughts um the biggest takeaway for you in this moment with Dr Joe despenza but for me the big takeaway is first being aware of the patterns
and feelings of living in survival mode and lack so that you can then start to shift them because so many people based on how we think what we say our body language our energy how we react and respond to situations in life we are projecting black we are projecting survival not enough uh needing more and that projection creates more of that in reality and when we can become aware of our words our language our energy our body language the conversations we're having the environments we put ourselves in that might attract more lack and this feeling
of survival mode when we can be aware of it first then we can start to shift and we can get the information on how to shift again Dr Joe has shared a lot of these strategies in Long interviews that we've done we'll have it linked below where you can learn more on how to shift this as well but let me know in the comments below your biggest takeaway from that segment with Dr jod spener in this second moment we're building on these transformational ideas from Dr Joe to turn our attention to practical steps we can
all take in our daily lives Mel Robbins is taking over the world with her show and her social media content she takes us through her key strategies for attracting the life we desire focusing on visualization and resilience and she talks about the importance of visualizing the process and challenges not just the end result and I really like this approach to really make sure that we enhance motivation and resilience so let's go ahead and dive into this moment what's your thoughts about the law of attraction on how to apply it the right way or yeah I
think well I think the Law of Attraction and manifesting are the same thing so Law of Attraction for everybody who has not read the secret is simply your thoughts become things and it's true we've talked all about how when you have a negative selft talk it tends to draw more of that to you I think about it like lint and a dryer once negative stuff starts to collecting it collects a lot more we can also talk about your brain filter something called the reticular activity system and how it is a live Network that filters the
brain we'll dig into that deeper but let's do surface level right now manifesting Law of Attraction so here's what everybody gets wrong about manifesting everybody at least kind of in the mass Market what you're trained to think about when you think about manifesting is vision boards and when you hear the word vision boards you think about the big stuff should you have big dreams of course you should should you dream of building a mansion on the ocean if that's your thing yes should you dream of the Log Cabin yes if you want a Lamborghini or
the new Ford Broncos should you put yeah yes yes yes if you want the family if you want the body should you think about yeah absolutely here's where everybody goes wrong you dream about the end you make this gorgeous collage of all this stuff that has nothing to do with your current life that literally as you're sitting in your studio apartment with the cat box that hasn't been changed in two weeks no food in the fridge no food in the fridge and you're looking for a job and you're staring at a mansion going someday it's
going to make you feel like a loser because the gap between where you are and where you want to go it seems insurmountable and so what happens based on the research is when you only visualize the endgame Lewis it's demotivating at first it's really fun to like have a bottle of wine and make your like collage I'm going visualize I'm slap this up there's my vision board this fabulous love attraction baby come on I'm think about it it's going to come to me okay I've been doing this for two days I'm not I'm still in
this apartment with the cap box that needs to be changed the way to visualize properly is to visualize the bridge between where you are and where you need to go the bridge yes and particularly the horrible stuff so let's use your example of the marathon the vision board would be Lewis Crossing arms the arm the metal exact High yes I did it exactly that will not help you because when you hit mile 133 on the actual race and it is sleeing rain you're say why am I doing yes and it feels nothing like that thing
on your vision board you are going to start a negative dialogue I can't do this my knees hurt this is not what I thought it was going to be I'm not ready for this I didn't train for this I'm running New York I train in LA are you running in New York La okay good well then at least you're trained in the right weather so on and on and on and you are going to tank yourself What You Do by visualizing the bridge is you train your nervous system and your mind to do the hard
work so you should visualize not crossing the finish line but what is it like to be at mile 12 when your batteries run out on your earbuds yeah no I'm serious and you keep going what's it like when your shoelace breaks and now your heel is Lifting and you're starting to get a blood blister at Mile 17 what's it feel like when you wake up and it is pouring rain and you visualize yourself running anyway that way when you visualize the work you are preparing your body for it so you're not resistant to it when
it comes yeah Isn't that cool I think it's great it's um a story that I had um George St Pierre who's one of the greatest UFC fighters of all time he said that he always puts themselves in the most uncomfortable situations and practice leading up to the fight the most you know the hardest situations to get himself out of when his arms are behind his back and he's faces against the the mat and in between the fence and he's just getting punched in the face he's like how do I get out of this right right
he's like visualize that and seeing how can I get through this yeah yeah where when it seems like I just want to tap out yes instead of tapping out what's the process for figuring out how to get through it yeah to then raise my hand at the end Victorious totally and so you are literally building up almost like this resilience and this muscle inside of you to do the work to get the thing so yeah create the vision board but make sure in addition to crossing the Finish Line you have somebody running in the rain
right you have somebody who you have an alarm clock that says 53 you have you know these images that show the stuff that you don't want to do so like for people who want to launch a business for example like a lot of people that I'm sure follow both of us are dying to launch a business or interested in being an influenc or social media or making money online and what you visualize are the checks or you visualize the money going to make or you visualize how cool it's going to be when you're a lifestyle
entrepreneur whatever the hell it is don't do that visualize working a day job and telling your friends that you're not going to go out tonight because you're working on something visualize making cold calls and being told no visualize not going to that party because you're staying in on a Saturday and not going to the barbecue because you're putting in the work visualize sitting at a seminar and learning from other people visualize watching YouTube videos visualize your first ever course failing miserable like literally that's the sort of thing that you want to visualize yourself doing and
pushing through because that's going to help you do the work yeah Isn't that cool I think that's great yeah visualizing so in order to manifest what you want don't just visualize the good things happening visualize the bridge all the things that's going to take to get yes and and and the hard parts of the bridge because then you're ready for it then you're like I didn't expect this to be this hard I mean it's still going to be hard right but you're less likely to quit yes so what have you done in the last five
years to help you manifest after the first book were you doing this as well or kind of once you get on a rhythm and and build momentum does it become easier to manifest in your opinion well so I am constantly training my mind to work for me and there's this little trick that I talk about in the book that is all sort of the beginning of having a high five attitude and a high five attitude is the ability to catch yourself when you're going mentally low and to flip yourself back up into a high five
attitude okay the thing that I know to be true is that you cannot control the things around you you can't control what's going to happen you can't even control how your nervous system might respond or what thoughts might pop into your head but you can always choose what you do next and what you make it mean right and so that's where all the power is yes and so I uh do this thing where where I this is again it's going to sound so dumb but it's a way for me to introduce you to the power
that your mind has to change in real time okay we've talked a lot about negative self talk and part of the reason why negative selft talk is so crippling is not only because you've repeated it for so long and now it's a pattern but it's also because you have a filter on your brain called the reticular activity system mhm okay this puppy is the keys to everything and and it's remarkable that uh most of us have never heard of it we've experienced it but we don't know how to use it to our advantage so first
let me tell you what the RAS does then I'm going to give you an example of uh when you've experienced it in your life and then I'm going to explain to you how to use it to get what you want in life this is like the super attractor man esting and it also works for um interrupting negative selft talk like it's going to supercharge all the work you're doing with the mirror and interrupting thoughts so first let's talk about the RS so the RS imagine a haet on your brain only it's like electric meaning it's
alive okay now the Rees has one job and the job is block out 99% of what's going on and let in 1% of what's going on our brains at this moment in history are having to process about 34 days worth of cell phone data in one day crazy it's crazy and so your R has a Monster job it's like a bouncer at a bar you're not coming in you can come in and you've experienced this so have you ever shopped for a car yes okay so what's the last car you bought Tesla oh Tesla oh
fancy Lou house I like that well I never had a I never had a nice car until 3 years ago I had a $4,000 car for 5 years before that yeah yeah and then I was like you know what I have no Bluetooth I have no it's like I just needed an upgrade love it 1991 dude you deserve it a 1991 Cadillac and I was like okay Des buy a car so I bought a Tesla yeah right and so before you thought about buying a Tesla you drive down the road you don't really think about
it the second you're like you know I think I'm interested in a Tesla what do you see everywhere Teslas yes everywhere everywhere my husband just bought a pickup truck I never even noticed them now I'm like there are baby blue pickup trucks everywhere what is going on that's the bouncer your brain MH and let me tell you how this works there are only four things that automatically get through the bouncer in your brain the r number one your name so you've experienced being in a crowded places somebody's like you think you hear lisis you're like
ah Somebody Call My Name that was the bouncer in your brain the second thing that always gets let in is any threat to your safety so there are loud noises all over the all the time but only ones in close proximity make you go like this mhm that was the bouncer in your brain letting it in okay the Third thing that gets l in is when you sense that your partner is interested in sex with you or somebody else you're like Chris you know who are you looking at stop looking at her you know what
I'm saying you kind of pick up on the signals that's the bouncer in your brain and the fourth one and this is where this is the billion dooll thing that everybody needs to know the bouncer in your brain lets in whatever you think is important to you so when you get intentional about telling your brain what's important to you like I'm interested in a Tesla your brain's literally like oh let's all let all the Tesla in come on in here's the downside to this if you have told yourself that you are a bad person for
the last 10 years guess what your brain thinks is important examples that mean you're a bad person right so I'm going to give you a very specific example so personally don't think I'm a bad person I don't think I'm perfect but I know I do my best I mean well I don't have that story about myself at all I used to but I don't and um let's say I oversleep and I miss the dentist I miss the dentist appointment I'm like H I got to pay the 25 bucks I got to reschedule that thing that
kind of blows that's all I think and then I go on my daughter who constantly beats herself up and says she's a person this is a real example by the way she oversleeps misses a dentist appointment and it becomes see I always screw everything up I'm a ter I'm always messing things up I'm a b like everything that gets let in confirms that you're a bad person she finds proof and evidence yes that's the bouncer in your mind I'm here to tell you that when you get intentional about what you want to think about yourself
it changes in real time what your brain lets in and what it doesn't that helps you with the other things that you're doing the high five in the mirror I'm not thinking about that the pathetic manra hey you know just because I missed the dentist appointment doesn't mean I'm a bad person I'm doing the best I can here give myself a break I five you know what I'm saying Shake It Off get back in there um well it's true right right because it's these little things somebody cuts you off somebody reaches for the last thing
of cereal that you wanted to buy at the grocery store you think it's like a sign that the world to get you this is all your story and your mind skewing the world to prove all of the stuff you keep repeating and the only way to get a handle on it is to start acting the opposite like high-five yourself even though you don't feel like it interrupt the crap that you keep saying put your hands on your heart and settle your body down MH yeah all of these things are things that somebody does when they
care about themselves when they think they deserve to be treated with kindness when they think they deserve support and when they realize they need it and when you start to build yourself back up you'll show up very differently in other relationships absolutely you know if you tolerate this kind of treatment from yourself you'll tolerate it from other people it does begin with you and when you create boundaries and you don't abandon yourself then you won't abandon yourself with other people either you won't let them cross the boundaries correct like if you stand in front of
the mirror every single morning and you're like I look like crap I am not good enough I'm unhappy with my life and then you step into a relationship and somebody leaves you on red and they ghost you for three days like you come to expect that because that's how you believe you think you deserve to be treated when you stand in front of a mirror and you're like hey you're awesome we got this I got you I know it's hard you know we're going to go do this or hey this is a big day today
I I've got this huge presentation I am going to destroy this you know like you like you get into it you're excited like then you're creating momentum for yourself yeah otherwise what you're going to stand like oh my God I'm screwed this up I'm not prepared like it's it's like the negative morning routine right it leads to negative actions absolutely so this training thing training your Rees so here's what I want you to do starting tomorrow after you wake up and make your bed and kind of settle your nervous system and high-five yourself after setting
your intentions so now you're like sending yourself into your morning routine in a totally different way with a calm down nervous system an intention and this boost of feeling supported and loved and celebrated um I want you to find one naturally occurring heart shape as you go through your day I saw this in your book yeah yeah it could be a stone it could be a leaf on the ground it could be a cloud shape it could be a coffee stain uh it could be an oil stain on the floor of a garage it could
be a spot on a dog walking by I want you to tell your mind let's find a heart let's see if we can find a heart and something weird is going to happen you're to see something and then I want you to literally supersize what's going on in your brain and what you do is when you see the heart I want you to then take a moment and literally congratulate yourself like feel like oh my God I found it like whatever you believe in God the universe like greater connection you put that there for me
and I found it and I want you to feel this kind of wave of that's kind of cool yeah I just saw a heart and then that positive thing remember how I told you the bouncer in your brain pays attention to what's important to you when you get your nervous system celebratory involved that makes your brain really pay attention just like trauma makes your brain pay attention it does so you supercharge the experience by celebrating it and then look for another one I see hearts all day long yeah and what happens when you start to
play this game is you will start to realize you are walking by an entirely different world every single day because you're not looking for it there are opportunities there are signs there are mile markers on your path that you are literally tuning out yes and we can all sit in this moment leis and look back and see how the dots of our life connect us here the coolest thing about practicing the high- five habit this training of finding hearts and the high five attitude is that you start to ground yourself in the idea that this
too is a DOT on the map of your life and it is leading you somewhere incredible and when you start to have that kind of high five attitude that there are signs whether it's the little hearts that you're now seeing or it's your ability to catch guilt or people pleasing or insecurity or the negative selft talk and be like nope not going down not thinking about that 54321 let's get that high five attitude back I can I can do this I I can have my own back it's not going to be perfect but I can
keep going and you were just talking about how you never truly learned how to love yourself and your own skin and you started this daily ritual this habit of high-fiving yourself in the mirror yeah how I mean you're you've lived a you've lived a pretty full life right now but you feel like really you've never truly learned how to love yourself but now you feel like you know how to yes I do why did you not know how to love yourself in the first place oh that's a big question um I think that most of
us are not taught how to love ourselves just for being alive for existing for existing thank you it's always like we have to accomplish something corre then we can get love yes it's it's the same thing with happiness like you're chasing it and you think that if you achieve something you're going to get it and you also or at least I felt the most loved when I was little when I was achieving something and you know I think that most parents kind of fall on this camp and it's really interesting to write a book about
this and sort of Trace back how we go from being little teeny babies that would crawl up to a mirror and put our hands up and kiss ourselves and love the sight of ourselves to being a self-loathing adult that stands in front of a mirror and either ignores or criticizes your very existence and I believe that a lot of this has to do with the fact that so much of what you learn as a kid is if you do what I tell you to do then I'll like you then I'll love you and so much
of your existence becomes complying fitting in not making people angry you learn how to sort of go in and out of spaces belong to groups make sure people like you and you stop focusing on how you were born which is looking in a mirror and liking yourself so my formula for being somebody that was worthy of Love Is Well if I'm accomplishing all this stuff then I'm lovable if this person over here that I love loves me back then I'm lovable if somebody likes me then I'm lovable notice where all the sources of Love were
coming from outside but I never really understood how do you learn how to put yourself first how do you learn how to love yourself Louis how do you do that something I've been doing since I was a young kid in sports was visualizing and a lot of people talk about visualizing the end result one of the things I love that Mel talked about is making sure we need to visualize the bridge not just the destination don't just think if I have this goal and I have this dream and I'm going to visualize that it's going
to happen and it's going to come to me yes that's part of the process but I remember as an athlete I would visualize almost every play of the game and play it out from the moment of getting dressed in a locker room to rehearsing before the game to stepping on the field to the whistle to every part of the game I would run my routes in my mind on the field before it happened and visualize us winning at the end as well wasn't just we're going to win and I'm going to manifest and attract this
it was putting myself through the challenging times through the the good times through how am I going to respond when there are challenges and breakdowns and I think when you can start to look at life not as if I just think it and dream it and visualize it it's all going to come to me perfectly that's typically not it there's typically going to be a lot of challenges and obstacles in your way and if you can put your mind as the bridge and seeing what are these obstacles that I think might happen where I'm not
even sure going to happen how am I going to respond to create and manifest the dream that I have to bring it to me how am I going to be responding on that bridge to the end result again something I really love in that takeaway let me know your thoughts in the comments below what your biggest takeaway is and again visualization is powerful but you got to be thinking about the entire process not just the end result going into this next moment after gaining insights on how to prepare for and overcome life's challenges let's explore
the foundational principles Behind These Concepts Ronda burn the Visionary behind the international bestseller the secret will now clarify how the Law of Attraction really works and how it can shift our thoughts to manifest success and I love how Rhonda starts by defining the law of attraction in the simplest terms because so many people are always talking about the law of attraction but what actually is it in the simplest terms she's going to talk about it in a moment emphasizing that thoughts really shape our reality abundance isn't complicated it doesn't have to be and as you
listen and watch ask yourself how does your mindset and the words that you use influence a desired outcome for you are you more focused on scarcity over abundance and how might shifting your perspective as Rhonda suggests impact your ability to achieve your dreams can you explain what the law attraction and manifesting actually is in simple terms before we dive in deeper every human being is a Creator and they are creating their life and we don't know for many of us we did not know that that was the case and we are creating our life through
our thoughts so it's not that our thoughts are powerful it's that we are powerful and so when we focus on a thought and we really hold that Focus that thought will manifest in our life and so we create our own life through our thoughts and through the mind the Mind our mind is super super super powerful yeah for good or For Worse yes so for example um we can talk about what we want and we will manifest that you know and so some people they just see the abundance in the world you know that's all
that they see they don't they don't see any lack they just see abundance and everything seems to go right for them everything falls into place for them they invest in this and it's skyrockets and they they buy a house in this place and that suburb goes crazy and it's like everything they touch turns to Gold but it's because they have the mindset that is toward toward wealth and abundance and they don't have a mindset toward lack and we have a lack mindset when we say things like I'm broke I don't have enough um I don't
have enough to pay my bills and you see whatever we say is what our life will be and so if we are saying I don't have enough money then by law of attraction we will not have enough money Mone we will continue to not have enough money so what we have to do is we need to speak about what we want and we need to talk about for example if it's money or if it's health or if we're not feeling really great then we can talk about what it feels like to be really well instead
of talking about not being well right because if we're talking about not being well we're attracting more of that more of that more of that right and so that's basic law of attraction I mean it is so wonderful and it's so intricate and the more that you the more that it becomes a part of your life the more you see the little kind of twists and turnes synchronicities yeah like for for example if if if you saying yeah I'm so overwhelmed there's just so much going on at the moment and I can't get on top
of things things and I'm just overwhelmed guess what guess what's coming more overwhelming you know so when we speak about things that are frustrating us that are overwhelming that are stressing us out that we're in lack of when we speak about them or we're constantly in a loop of thinking of those thoughts and then speaking them to ourselves or to others what I'm hearing you say is it's going to be a lot harder to get Beyond those struggles than to speak in a different way or think in a different way is that what I'm hearing
you say that's what that's the case and in fact until we think differently it won't change really it wouldn't matter all the action in the world all the action in the world will not override a belief that we have and usually when we speak for example if I'm saying I'm so overwhelmed so much is happening and when we're saying I'm so overwhelmed we believe it like we're saying it with conviction right and so the fact that we believe it it's not going to change we're going to keep more things are going to come more things
are going to come and even if someone let's say they they did work hard for a long time and their feelings overwhelmed and all of a sudden they started to make a lot more money but it's not going to change the overwhelm if they keep thinking it that's right so more money might come because you spent more time in this world and worked hard and it's just your time to make more right but you still might say well I'm still overwhelmed it's not enough right this not enough feeling even though you have more y you're
still stressed and overwhelmed that's why you see people with money some people with money who aren't fulfilled are happy they're still overwhelmed that's right yeah so how do we shift it so that when more comes our way we're actually not feeling more overwhelmed but more in abundance and and grateful for that it's so simple it's so easy we just have to talk about think about what we want and do we want to feel overwhelmed and no we don't so what do what do you want I want all of the success but I want it to
be effortless and easy and I want to have lots of spare time and I want to really be enjoying it and I want like talk about what you want and talk about what you want until you have what you want when people talk about what they don't want consistently what typically happens they get that that's what they get more of what they don't want yeah they get more of what they don't want if we could just talk about what we want our life would be incredible incredible amazing spectacular that's it just to talk about but
we are so we have a world that's very um beautiful but orientated towards drama and you know news is negative and uh so you know it's it's challenging for people but we're all in it together yes because we're all dealing with the mind and the mind that might be delivering a whole lot of negative thoughts but not one of us it's not harder for one or easier for another we all have this mind that can be like a flat mate and chatter chatter chatter Non-Stop keep going on you know um so we all we're all
dealing with that and the mind it's just a uh it's just a program it's not an entity it's just a program and so through I think because it certainly through my experience through the secret we you can to totally train your mind to be positive so that it is not leaning toward the negative all of the time and positive is just what you want right right when someone is thinking or speaking about what they want does that mean that they are in lack of it or how do they speak about it where it's not from
a place of lack right um it's a good question because me like I want this I want this but I don't have it so how do we speak about it where we're in gratitude and positive around it as opposed to I really want this thing but it's not in my life right now but I really want it yeah but the problem is you just canceled out the manifestation when you said but it's not in my life right now ah yeah because if you if you're saying that I you know I well you could say it
like this I would really love to have this it's a little bit softer right then I want but you but to manifest something that you to deliberately manifest you have to want it but then you can't have any thoughts of well it's not here yet because the moment you say it's not here what does law of attraction do it's not here yet and it's constantly not here yet yeah so say so say this again how do we really manifest something we we put it out there we speak it or we think it but then we
detach from it yeah and you know here's the thing we so don't realize our own amazing power that we can just ask for something and it will be given to us now here's what here's what the criticism online is for the secret or the law of attraction or anyone talking about manifesting okay this is what I'll see people and this is typically people in lack or maybe people with more of a negative frustration because they don't have what they want they will say or these are comments that I'll see you can't just think something and
expect it to appear without putting in the hard work without action without consistency it just the world just doesn't work like that when you see comments like that or people say this how would you respond to someone saying thinking that or saying that well I don't um I always kind of feel that everybody has the right to think what they want and believe what they want and I I know it's not the case um I remember Lester levenson said something so incredible he was a wonderful teacher he's not alive anymore um but he was very
simple in the way that he talked and he he told these students that if you want something I could lock you up in a room and padlock that room and you ask for that and you know you have it right you know you have it now and it will come really yeah it will come and nothing in this world can stop it what are some examples in your life life where you've you've thought or spoken about something you desired or wanted and it has come effortlessly and or maybe an example of people that have written
about their success stories is there anything you can think of right um where maybe for a long time they'd struggled in manifesting or attracting what they wanted but they started to apply this and really believed it and that thing came to them right well when I I did a book signing um and I had I got to talk to all of these different people and every single person at that book signing told me about how their life had completely changed wow and what was amazing was so somebody would say that they wanted to have they
were working I don't know cleaning a bank or something and they wanted to have their own Sound Studio and that is what they decided to manifest and they visualized and visualized and they felt it and they wouldn't allow any thoughts of Doubt to enter their mind and they are now running one of the top sound studios in La wow but not just that they met their perfect partner they bought their dream house they have you know two children or they travel every every single thing that they wanted they received and that was what was so
amazing about all of these people when I was signing books it wasn't just one thing in their life but these people were amazing they did gratitude all of the time or they did affirmations all of the time and they had a complete change within themselves you know to be kind you know to other people and so they would think positively they were aware when negative thoughts came and they would stop them in their tracks and so for me I think the biggest manifestation for me was the secret yeah because I W I was um a
mother of two children in Melbourne Australia I had this night where Henny peny the sky fell in everything in my life completely collapsed right and I had a huge Awakening that night pardon me and realized how realized all of this and how incredible we are and what we can do and what Mastery we have over the world and there and then I I looked out at the world and I'm like no one knows this no one knows this and so I was determined that I would find a way to take this to the world I
had no idea what shape or form it would take or or but that night I determined that that is what I would do and So eventually a whole team were gathered I had a production company at that point and everybody might think oh if you had a production company it's so easy for you to make a documentary aha but let me tell you ah there's a snag I was $2 million in debt really that production company was $2 million in debt and my accountant told me you're going to be broke in 30 days and lose
everything everything and to this day I don't know how it didn't happen I do know because I didn't allow that thought I only allowed the thought of taking this to the world and nothing else mattered wow I'm a big fan of Rhonda we've had her on a couple of times I hope we have her on many more times because every time we get to connect she just shared you know valuable insights on the secret The Law of Attraction abundance but also just she's got a lot of Life wisdom so I'm so grateful for her for
sharing I love your thoughts below for me it comes down to language and the words you're using you know I've heard so many times that when you say I am whatever you say afterwards you start to manifest and create in your life so if you say I'm an idiot I'm no good I'm dumb I am whatever in a negative way it's hard for your body to believe that you're smart that you are confident that you are good enough that you're lovable and so just being aware of the words we're using and if you want to
create abundance but you're using words in lack in negativity in scarcity you're you're not creating that bridge to get to the place you want to be of abundance it doesn't mean you have to be overly confident and be lying to yourself and say I'm super smart when you don't feel smart it's learning how to use language that build builds the belief over time and when you can do that I believe you start to be in alignment with your words and the abundance that you want to come your way but we have to be aware and
catch ourselves with these different words with the language you're using and how we communicate so that our body will start to believe in a an empowering way for us as opposed to a disempowering way let me know your thoughts your biggest takeaway from that segment and again all these experts have different strategies and techniques to talk talk about transforming your mindset and attracting more we are capable of attracting anything we want in our life we just need to get out of our own way and if you found this breakdown useful if you want to learn
more about these topics again make sure to check the links in the description below for the full conversations and episodes and think about these Concepts and questions as you're listening as well let me know your big thoughts I hope you enjoyed this episode and this format of content around rewiring your mind attracting more and again I want to remind you that you're loved you're worthy you're matter share a comment below on what you're dealing with what you're struggling with your biggest takeaway we' love to connect with you and I'll see you guys next time if
you can learn how to accept them then you can learn how to respect them and a lot of people don't have respect because they haven't created clear boundaries and agreements they haven't communicated these are my boundaries these are my agreements this is what I want to do moving forward
