Releasing the Burden of Worry | The Michael Singer Podcast

[Music] welcome to season 3 of the Michael Singer podcast Michael Singer is the author of the widely influential New York Times bestsellers the untethered Soul the surrender experiment and most recently living untethered beyond the human predicament produced in partnership with Shanti Publications the Michael Singer podcast brings you select recordings from the Temple of the universe a yoga and meditation center that Michael founded in 1975 this episode is on releasing the burden of worry sounds true would also like you to know about an extraordinary eight-part video course that we've created with Michael Singer it's called living

from a place of surrender the untethered soul in action it's an online course many people report to be utterly lifechanging you can find out more at Michael Singer podcast.com and you can save 15% off any Michael Singer program available through sounds true when you use the code singer 15 at checkout that's singer numeral 1 numeral 5 and now releasing the burden of worry with Michael [Music] Singer Giger ultimately what it means to grow spiritually is that you don't have to be there you have to decide do you want to be there or not it may

sound like such a funny question but it's really not all that humorous eventually you will realize that you're struggling you're constantly deep inside behind at all worrying anxious concerned caring about what's going on what has gone on and what will be going on you just cop to the truth which is that it's not all that comfortable in there some people will say well no I'm doing all right that alone isn't all that good doing all right but what they really mean is I'm succeeding fairly well at keeping things from going wrong and probably the future

looks bright what does that mean the future looks bright means it's not so good now and it certainly hasn't been so good in the past it looks like it's going to get better and people think that that's a positive attitude not to the Yogi Yogi looks at that and say wait a minute how come it's not okay why does it have to get better eventually you cop to and realize that you're not doing that well in there it's not as bad as it could be if everything went wrong if all the things you're concerned about

didn't work out but the very fact that you have to be concerned about them the very fact that you have to struggle the very fact that you're carrying that burden is not really all that much fun and eventually you look at it and you realize what's really going on is that there are a lot of things that could go wrong and mess things up a lot and then on the positive side there's these few moments that every once in a while we hope we can get and the difference between how many highs we expect to

get how many Peak experiences how many of these really just moments they're just moments how many really high Peak wonderful experiences do people have in a year and how long do they last versus how much do they worry about what could go wrong the difference is this if your Peak experiences have not happened yet it's not like you're feeling joyous about that you know before you have your baby and hold it your first child you worry a lot about whether it's going to be okay you worry a lot about what can go wrong and so

on then finally the relief of having it worked out and then you're sitting there holding it then you have this experience and they grab it from you and what are they going to do with it and is it okay you we going to examine it it's like it doesn't last all that long and the same thing with your wedding day and with this and so on this it's like they're very brief moments the trouble with the negative stuff is very important to look at the truth is if I looked at the moments that you actually

had truly bad negative things happening to you there aren't that many more of those than there are the positive ones it's really not you know you don't get into death defying situations all the time and somebody you love more than in your whole life doesn't die every day your house doesn't burn down and you don't get mugged and they don't steal your car I mean it happens once in a while but in comparison to how many minutes there are in your life it's very brief but that's not what matters what matters is you worry about

it all the time the fact that all these things could go wrong weigh you down why don't we do that about the positive things if it's true that in the yinyang situation if you looked at it all that the moments of actual experience of joy and the moments of actual experience of negative are about the same the actual experience all right of pain like a child's going to go get a shot now the child carries on for weeks before going to get the shop the child carries on for weeks after having in the shot I

never want one again how could you do this to me it's terrible it hurts so bad ET Etc the actual time of pain lasts how long 10 seconds like literally you know the actual experience of pain is very very brief isn't it so if you really balance those out of the actual experience of pain and the actual experience of Joy I don't know maybe they bounce out maybe they're very close but that doesn't matter because the truth of the matter is our mental anguish of concern and worry about having to go through the negative experiences

that they might have and they could take place is constant it's there all the time and it's happening to you all the time it sits behind your every thought you are always concerned about what could go wrong and you think about it regularly and you think about what you're going to do if it does and you think about how to make it how much time did the child for two weeks worry about how to make it not happen to get the shot how many times afterwards did he worry about how to try get not happen

again why not just accept the one minute and then not have to worry about the four weeks that's what it means to grow spiritually that is really the difference between playing around with spiritual things reading books talking and you know having nice things firstus actually going through the transformation that it takes to grow spiritually so you look at this and you realize that somehow there's a tremendous imbalance but the imbalance is not God's fault it's not literally the imbalance of the actual negative experience versus the actual positive for poetic purposes we'll make believe they're the

same it is something you are doing with your mind you don't do it with the positive experiences it is not true that if I go in there and inspect the back of your mind that at all times there's this ecstasy and joy and excitement going on about what might go right I know we like it think we're positive but be honest with me this is your one chance in a million if that's what's going on while you're driving down the street is that what's going on while you're taking a shower is that what's going on

when you're trying to read and you drift off is that what's taking place you just can't stop thinking about all these absolutely wonderful things that are going to happen that make you happy all the time and so you're just happy all the time anyways at the thought of what might happen that would make you happy no it's not what happens that's where the imbalance is but if I asked you honestly during all those magic moments I was just talking about your personal moments that if you drop back in there are you worrying about something the

answer is yes are you worry about two things yes three things yes how many you worry about as many as can fit it at once and when I'm not worrying about those another one's popping in okay but what happens if you solve this thing you're worrying about you're afraid Brian didn't call and where is he he calls and he I'm fine I was just a little late okay good now we're through worrying no the next one comes how long's it take it's instantaneous it sits on Deck it's like a a stack away program we build

stacks all right and then things pop off the stack and you've got all these things to worry about on the back and just whichever one's the biggest at the given moment is what's popped off and the moment there's any room for anybody else it just pops in immediately yes or no that's suffering isn't it amazing just play with it you I want you to contemplate later that maybe I'm not saying it is but maybe the universe is such that the actual moments of peak experiences from the yin to the Yang from the positive to negative

that those moments might even be close to balance this is what creates the imbalance the mind creates the imbalance not the world and you have to decide whether you want to tolerate that because spirituality starts when you say no no I will not I will not live like that I am not if I have but one life to live I ain't living it that way right there's no way I am going to walk through this life and at all times be worrying about what's going to happen and just be constantly working with trying to make

not negative things take place and then think I'm doing well if not too many bad things happen today it's supposed to be to the other side so spirituality is about coming to grips with yourself and realizing that something is completely and utterly out of balance and if you're going to sit there and struggle with this world so that it doesn't disturb that part that's out of balance you are not going to grow spiritually you're just going to suffer you have to somehow decide how to go inside and fix what's wrong and what is wrong is

your mind and it's not hard to see how it happened your mind is a computer your mind is brilliant it is very bright I always use the example with you guys when I talk about how bright exactly are you you the species your species is so smart your brain is so smart that God took you guys put you on a planet when there was nothing but these beautiful natural things rocks and dirt and trees and water and that's all there is just walk around where the cave people are there walk around this stuff and there's

nothing on that planet but these natural resources and your brain was so smart that you took those elements those natural resources and you figured out how to put them together to build computers and rocket ships and fly to the moon didn't you that's pretty smart you got that straight that is some serious smarts it's not like there was a rocket ship hidden somewhere in a cave and you found it all right you took sand and taught it to think didn't you you just took rocks out of the earth carved them out made them intelligent and

flew to the moon and Beyond it's incomprehensible how smart your mind is and that's your mind that's not Einstein's mind or somebody else's mind that is the human mind and you happen to have one what exactly are you doing with it well now that I got you all excited about how smart you are let's take a look what exactly are you doing with that brilliant mind that is capable of doing these unbelievable things it can think these phenomenal thoughts that can abstract and solve these phenomenal problems what you are doing with your mind and you

watch it when you get out you'll watch you'll see it what you are doing with that czy supercomputer that you have inside of there that is capable of doing anything is you are going to it with your scared uptight heart and you are saying to that mind oh M I am so scared I don't want to get hurt I don't want to feel sorrow I don't want bad things to happen to me and I'm scared of this will you help me and the mind being a servant that it is says well of course I will

help you what would you like me to do and your heart says to your mind I want you to think with all your power of everything that could possibly go wrong and then think about what to do about it if it does nobody says that's what you want me to do you want me to think about everything that could possibly go wrong and then think about what it could be like and then think about what to do about it in case it starts to happen to be prepared and figure it all out and how how

much of my time should I spend doing that until you exhaust the problem until you've run out of things that could go wrong until you run out of possible solutions for the possible things that could go wrong now your mind being very fair you know those disclaimers and the smallest print says to the heart now heart I'm warning you I'm very good at thinking I really am I get down to the most intricate details I think a lot and very very very powerful in my thoughts are you sure this is what you want me to

do AR says oh yeah you're so smart that's what I need and then that will protect me and then I won't have to worry then I won't have to be afraid of anything going wrong because I know you will have thought of everything so the mind kind of scratched his head a little bit cuz something seemed wrong there but he's just a mind what does he know he's just a computer so he's going about his business and he starts thinking everything can go wrong it is infinite how many things can go wrong how many things

can go wrong with your body how many things can go wrong with the environment around you how many things can go wrong with the people you love how many things can go wrong with anything and everything all over the place from a microc you could get a tiny little bacteria signal cell virus meteor could fall out of space on your house it does it you understand that it could go from the microcosm to the macrocosm anything and everything Could Happen couldn't it is your mind capable of thinking those things you bet it does doesn't it

all right it's almost as if anything it sees it reminds of something could go wrong if it looks at it imagine in looking how many things could go wrong all right anything everything that person could be a maniac he looks a lot like one better watch it you start walking around people doesn't do stuff like that yeah right you start driving all a sudden thinks God I'm driving how do I know these other people driving so fast they could go out of control they can do they're not even paying attention they're on their cell phones

I'm going to call somebody it's like it's endless is what I'm trying to tell you the mind is brilliant and I can think of all these things and it does doesn't it yes it does and it doesn't just think about what could go wrong now oh God poor mind I forgot to tell you that part it's bad enough how many things can go wrong now how many things can go wrong tomorrow what about next year it's infinite in time and space Have I thinking go wrong and because the mind was given that job and because

the mind is so brilliant it does a heck of a job with it doesn't it the problem is the heart was very stupid to go to the mind like that because what's happening now is that the mind is thinking of all these things go wrong how's it make your heart feel when he thinks of one does it make your heart feel oh good he's thinking of it no your just it it makes it feel like it's happening right you get by rattlesnake a rattles I'm even go outside ever again it's like anything anything everything and

whatever the mind thinks about the heart gets more uptight doesn't it and because it gets more uptight it goes back to oh mine please help oh my God this you're doing so good no no this is not good this is not a solution this is a problem that's what's going on if you want to grow spiritually you got to go deeper than that you cannot let this continue to happen it's talking about a complete paradigm shift in how you use your heart and how you use your mind in essence the soul the self the Consciousness

who is aware every one of you is smiling when I talk cuz you're in there and you know this goes on in there okay it doesn't matter if you ever thought about it you're in there and you've been watching it forever how long have you known that that's going on in there that the mind's in there thinking about everything Poss can go wrong and trying to figure out what to do about the heart's scared to death while it thinks about it right and then it thinks more to try to solve you're trying to solve the

heart's problem with the mind you know that don't you even if it's the first time we ever talk in your life you've known it always haven't you because you're in there you are the Consciousness the awareness the self who is watching what's going on in there what spirituality means is that you get your act together you're the boss you get in there and you take a look at what's going on between the heart the mind the body and the world you look at that interaction and you decide this is not going to work the kids

aren't playing well together the world goes about its business that's what it does doesn't it right and every time it goes about its business it hits something that the Mind thought about might go wrong because the mind's been busy thinking for a long time it's almost like everything that could happen in the stimulus from the outside world remind your mind of something it heard about or thought about could go wrong and so now you have the whole world stimulating your mind and even when it's not happening your mind's thinking it up anyways and so you

just wake up you wake up and you realize this is not good this is not going to work and what you've been doing about it is trying to make the world not do the things that make you feel scared there not a chance in the world you're going to control the world and then you try to think more because you think you're going to solve it through thinking there was a Sufi Saint his name was Sufi Sam he had the most beautiful saying he said you could get more stinking from thinking than you can from

drinking that's what's going on in there you drive yourself completely nuts to grow spiritually means you wake up you look at this process you realize there's no way in the world I'm going to control the world so it doesn't stimulate my thoughts so it doesn't freak me out there's not a chance in the world and there's no way I'm going to think my way out of this you are not going to think you way out of it thinking makes it worse not better that's all and so you wake up and you realize I have to

stop this destructive pattern that I have and your destructive pattern is there is something wrong with your heart it's scared it has gone to the Mind who's brilliant and asked it to figure out every possible thing can go wrong and how to solve it the mind then looks outside and reads into everything that's going on what should or shouldn't go on based on what it decided could go wrong and then you just drive yourself crazy and so you decide to stop that and that's what spiritual growth means it's hard to believe you can stop that

entire process you do not have to live like that what is the alternative the alternative is just so simple it's very Zen it starts like this there's a world outside it's not yours you didn't make him you didn't make her you didn't put the pictures on the wall you didn't make the wood you didn't make any of it it's all here it was here before you got here it'll be here after you leave it's going on in every direction all over the place without you even being there isn't it I ask you all to contemplate

fore how many things are going on right now without you having anything to do with them throughout the Universe 800 billion zillion quillion Fillion is how many things are going on right now without you having to do with it if that's how many things can go on without you having to do with it why do you think you have to do with any of it is it or is it not true that the entire universe is going on without you even knowing anything about it right now then there's this tiny little room with a few

people in it is it not part of the same universe if you weren't in this room but you were out there wouldn't this room be part of the part that was all going on by itself without you knowing anything about it so wherever you are is exactly and totally a part of the same universe that goes on by itself when you're not there why then are you so busy how can you be so busy what are you so busy doing you just got through telling me the whole universe Goes On by itself it's the funniest

thing I ever heard of you have to contemplate these things because you've gotten yourself into a complete non sensible mess it is going on by itself you are observing it that's the start of your spiritual growth you are the witness of the world you can look out through your eyes there it is whoa look at it interesting you can hear it taste it smell it touch it congratulations that's the end of it yes I know you can affect it a little bit but really very little compared to what's going on an amoeba has about a

as much of effect as you do there's very little that you're affecting in this universe why can't you cop to that look at this world and once and for all say I did not create you I do not sustain you and it won't be me who destroys you it has been going on forever and it goes about its business and it doesn't need me why can't that be your relationship with this world it's something you get to see see it's something you get to observe it's something you get to dance with it's not yours doesn't

belong to you you didn't make it you don't control it Christ said my burden is light if you are just looking at it and seeing it's not my burden it's just life unfolding here it's going to rain tomorrow how burdensome is that well none really what if you don't want it to what if you really don't want it to well then it's driving me crazy the burden is not the world the burden again is your mind your mind has decided how you want everything to be is where it all ties together your mind has decided

how you want everything to be based on what based on the fact that you were scared to death and you had your mind think about everything it needed to be okay and now it wants the world to be the way it needs to be so that you're okay that is what's going on and that's the truth your mind has decided how the world is supposed to be and the basis for that decision was not any Divine Enlightenment or any great rational thought of philosophy it was what do I need in order to not be scared

what do I need in order to not have the heart be so uptight I need you to sit over here and you to dress like this and you didn't never say that and you did not get so close to him and it's supposed to rain tomorrow okay or not supposed to rain tomorrow and was I got it all thought out of how the outside needs to be for me to be okay that's that brilliant mind I told told it was brilliant didn't I has it not built a model of the entire world and every single

person in it or at least in your world and how it's supposed to be all the time and what they're supposed to say what they're supposed to wear what they're supposed to do what they're not supposed to do and didn't it projected out for tomorrow and next week and two weeks later and F that's a heck of a computer guys it's got that down pretty good doesn't it and it's not just about the present and the future you mind having any views about the past how about Judgment of every single thing that ever happened and

why it happened and what to do about it and how it's never going to happen again right is it's just stored every bit of that Stu stuff in there and judged every bit of it and built an entire view just like a computer system that would run you to the moon has it not built an entire view of Life past present and future of everything and every it's really amazing is it that's your mind that's the mind I was talking about you do have that don't you your model of reality and of yourself faced with

life's challenges and uncertainties many of us feel quite stressed and overwhelmed but does it have to be this way with his newest book living untethered Michael singer has written a followup to the spiritual classic the untethered Soul taking us within to our still and liberated Center to learn more about this book and Michael singer's other offerings please visit living dunte [Music] dcom so now you build this model and I'm telling you what you do is you superimpose it upon life and now you feel your burden that is your burden your burden is that life won't

be the way you decided you needed it to be to match this whole thing you built and that creates anxiety doesn't it the thought that life wouldn't be the way it was supposed to be I think that's awful interesting of you when we talk about ego there's ego you make up a model and then that's the way it's supposed to be there's a whole life here that always existed that's rather irrelevant isn't it it goes on forever everywhere well I don't care about that I only care about the part I'm looking at so you got

to think about the part you're looking at the part close to you about how it's supposed to be all the time and everything and it's right and if anything happens that doesn't match what you built then it's wrong isn't it it's being done wrong that person's wrong they shouldn't have said that should they there that's the definition of ego ego is not about somebody who's huffy puffy and thinks highly of themselves that don't mean nothing ego means egocentric it means you this little thing sitting right there had the audacity to make up something in your

mind about how everything and everyone is supposed to be including the weather and bugs right you know what bugs are supposed to be where they're not and what they're supposed to look like and what they're not supposed to look like yeah you just got it down you got the whole thing down you had the audacity to just make up your own own Universe didn't you come on let's admit it we made up our own universe and then you literally think you're right to where if reality unfold you look at reality and say you're wrong you

should have done that right to grow spiritually you stop that absurd Behavior you look at the world and say hello hello world wonder what you're going to do today because I have no idea right and I couldn't care less what you did before cuz I was just watching you and there you were and that's what you did and I don't know what you going to do tomorrow but whatever it is we'll we'll deal with it we'll be there because I don't run this place and I don't know nothing about nothing right it's way big and

you admit it you really don't see any of it and you don't have any control over any of it why can't it be like that why can't you have a healthy relationship with Creation with life with the universe this is not your Universe it's not even your life if it decided to stop your lungs stop breathing your heart stop beating your liver start secreting what are you going to do about it not one of you would know what to do about it not one of you sit right here going you know what to do about

help that's what you do that go for help cuz it's not your life it's life's life and you're just here aren't you give it back I'm telling you that's what you do you give life back to life it's CS anyways you're just playing a stupid game trying to make believe you get to make one up and then superimpose what you made up on top of reality it doesn't work so your first step in your spiritual growth and your Paradigm Shift here getting out of that crazy way of being is you look at life every single

day and you remind yourself this is life and I am a visitor a Sojourner I am the witness of the experience of life and whatever is happening in life is what's happening in life there's nothing more to say about it there's no good or right or wrong or bad or worse or judging or anything like that it's just there it is there it is it's raining when it's raining it's not raining when it's not rainy told you it was RA in people are nice to you and they're nice to you and they're mean to you

and they're mean to you sometimes they're nice aren't they and sometimes they're mean aren't they anybody figured out yet how to make that not happen ever the history of humanity it's just the nature of things Yin young everything has its Yin and it's young why can't it just be that way that is the start of your spirituality you are no longer using life to make yourself be okay because it's not going to do it it will never behave and it will actually make you worse if you are not okay in a moment we're going to

deal with that but you don't deal with it by trying to force life and everybody in it to change so that you don't have a problem it doesn't work it's just in essence projecting your problem out to other people places and things and now you got to fight with it outside instead of inside so first you let life be life which is fun second you stop this craziness of going to your mind and telling your mind to solve all your problems the mind can't do that and because it doesn't even know what your problems are

it just starts thinking it just starts thinking of all the possible problems that could ever happen doesn't it it thinks it's serving you it's making you worse not better so you tell your mind I'm sorry I asked don't do that anymore you know how beautiful that is I guarantee if you ever actually sat down and had that conversation with your mind you would feel like this tremendous release inside of you I'm serious I've done it I remember the day I had that conversation with my mind and that was 30 years ago and I can remember

the spot in the moment and the place when he actually got it that I don't want him doing that anymore it was all like a billion pounds got taken off of the whole system you are to go to that mind and tell it I don't want you doing that anymore you don't have to do that anymore it's not your job anymore to think of every single thing that could possibly go wrong and figure out what to do about it I would rather get the shot when it's time for the shot then worry about it two

weeks in advance and two weeks after I will take the risk that life is going to have times of great joy and Times of Sorrow all right and I don't mind that I will appreciate the times of joy and I'll will appreciate the times of Sorrow I would rather live that way than worry all the time than every single moment of my life have to be uptight worrying anxious about the fact that it might be time for sorrow Oh Mickey why' you have to say there was going to be times for sorrow I could handle

there would be times for Joy but I don't want there to be times for sorrow now I have to worry about the fact that even he said there were going to be times for sorrow Oh my God you can handle a little sorrow just happens once in a while I remember we started in the beginning how many times of just great ecstatic Joy are there actual and how many times actually you know do you lose an arm or something happen it's just not that often okay it's like maybe you're worried about going to war and

dying in war maybe you're worried about your husband going to war and dying in war right maybe you're not even married yet maybe there's not a war going on maybe he's not even drafted maybe he's older I don't know why are you thinking about it I can tell you right it's like that's a stupid thing to do with your mind and you're going to find out that you may not be the kind of person that ends up with a husband that goes to war and therefore you wasted all your time thinking about that and the

fact that he might have a heart attack if you doesn't go to war and the fact that how many other things can happen I already told you they're infinite and so you decide I'm not doing it I would rather just experience life real than worry about it then think about it then do all that I'm willing to take the risk that's what it is it's a risk isn't it's a gamble that I am better off experiencing the reality of life than I am playing this stupid game I've been playing which is attempting to protect myself

from the reality of life that's what you're doing is it is that what the mind is doing and attending to stay a step ahead of it to think it all out to think of everything go wrong to protect yourself but in the name of protecting yourself you're making yourself sick all the time you're making yourself worry all the time every possible thing that could possibly go wrong you're thinking about even though it would never happen so it's very interesting something really worth contemplating it's really worth looking at and thinking about and so first you say

to life go about your business then you say to your mind mind oh mind don't yell at it it's not its fault you're the one who asked it to do this oh mind you don't have to do this anymore you don't have to do it anymore we transcended your job you're out we're just going to experience life and see what that's like instead of worrying about experiencing it it'll take a while for your mind to get out of the vibe the habit of always woring of always thinking it's supposed to think about it but if

you do work with this you will get out and what you will see is what those before you saw which is it's not even close the anguish and suffering that you are causing yourself on a constant basis is 700 million times Beyond any suffering you will feel by letting life be life it canot be right because you're doing it every minute there's no way that every minute stuff's going wrong right but the potential for stuff to go wrong is every minute that I got straight but the fact that it's actually causing all this trouble you

ever see people drive why are you driving like that somebody could run a light somebody could do yeah I know the car could break down I know somebody could hit me I know what a way to drive life somebody else just driving joying pops down having a fun all time talking driving a car what a difference what an amazing difference you want to know who gets in the accident this because they're so uptight they don't get out of the road when they turn they don't do anything what are you doing that's what I'm talking about

what kind of driver through life are you because if you are sitting there worrying about every Poss can happen you are one uptight person and it's going to show up it shows up in your body it shows up in your mind it shows up in your heart it shows up in your world shows up everywhere you're just uptight can you get yourself good and up tight whoa I told you how brilliant your mind is why would you take something that brilliant and tell to do something that stupid it's just it's crazy and so you relieve

it of its duties and I say it's a habit but over time just keep letting it go just don't buy into it and it will stop now you be left in a very holy place you'll be left where you should have been to start with you'll be left with the problems of your heart remember you went to the mind to try to solve the problems of your heart your mind went to the world to try and manipulate and control it so the heart doesn't have any trouble now you left the world alone now you left

the Mind alone guess what you're going to be left with you're going to be left with the human heart and there's nothing wrong with that and what you're going to see is that the human heart is very scared it's very sensitive and it's very very scared but that isn't truly its true State and if you're willing to sit with it and tolerate ultimately and this is where the essence of all the teachings no matter what we talk about no matter where you go or what you do when it is said and done if you want

to transcend yourself you must be willing to sit comfortably with the anguish the fear of your heart cuz if you're not willing to sit comfortably with it you're going to do something about it and the only place you can go is the mine you'll go to the m what should I do about it all right and there you go again you went the wrong way if you cannot sit with the pain and the disturbance of your heart and you know what I mean then you're going to want to do something about it and what can

you do there there's no place to go you go to the mind and you say mind what should I do about it and guess what the Mind knows about the only thing the Mind knows about is what it was programmed with it was programmed with the world all day all the world pours into through the senses doesn't it and the mind picks it all up so if you're not okay sitting with the heart then what you do is you go to the mind and say what should I do about it and guess what the mind's

going to say get divorced get married go over here do this get a new job get more money get more money get more money get more money like a broken record get more money get more get more love get a new friend get a relationship something it's it's love money this that something like that right it's always outside do something outside fix something outside change something outside that's what the mind says cuz this he knows about and so it's you can't blame the mind you can't blame the world and you can't blame the heart I'm

blaming you blame it on the soul we make that one of these songs blame it on the soul it is the soul the Consciousness that is sitting in there and is not capable of keeping itself together when the heart has a problem the day that the soul can relax you just relax yourself in the face of what the heart is feeling you should be able to sit comfortably with your heart ultimately that's what you have to learn that is the essence of your soda by the way you have to be able to sit in whatever

state the heart is in and when you can sit and relax and be comfortable with whatever state the heart is in guess what you won't have to go run into the mind for some solution what will happen then what will happen then it's very very beautiful I'd rather have you experience than talk about it but I'll give you some Clues what will happen then is all of a sudden you'll be there instead of not being there because right now when the heart has a problem you're not there you go run the mind you go run

outside you go run around like chck the head cut off right when the heart can have a problem and you know what I mean I have to discuss that and by the way it can have two kinds of problems don't think that I mean by problem jealousy or fear or insecurity right you could fall madly in love when you don't want to be you could decide that you really like something you're drawn toward it tremendously and you can't get it the heart can cause problems positive and negative right it can be for something or against

something and you're in trouble aren't you all right that heart is a very interesting thing can you sit comfortably inside relaxed calm conscious while the heart runs its Gambit the day you can is the day you will find that something happens that is very different than anything you ever imagin instead of getting all involve in the heart and then going out to the mind and going out to the world when you can just sit there and the heart does its thing and you don't react you just relax you will start to get pulled in naturally

all by itself you don't do it you will start feeling that because you didn't get involved in it you're drifting back behind it a force will start to pull you back inside and you'll start to feel some strength inside that you didn't know was there before not the strength of solving the heart's problems not the strength of hope that maybe you'll be able to those things are too down there it's just an inner strength from behind you that starts to pull you into it and starts to sustain you and what you realize is that because

you no longer have to tend to the heart you get to know yourself right now you can't know yourself because you have lost yourself in the problems of your heart which then LED you to the mind which then lost you in the world when you do not have to tend to the heart not because the heart is okay but you're okay with the heart that's the only okay that's going to exist the human heart is like a rainbow it runs the whole Gambit of colors doesn't it you've been in there right it can do anything

so what learn to be comfortable with whatever the heart is doing and you will no longer have to babysit the darn thing every single second of your life and then go try to find all these Solutions when you no longer have to be there to tend to the heart it releases you and guess where you go you go back to yourself since you are yourself you pull back to yourself you cease to be The Keeper of the human heart when you are no longer The Keeper of the human heart you be the self that is

the self that's what's meant by the self you drift back to the Consciousness itself to your being and as you pull back into the Consciousness you're pulling back into Spirit you're pulling back into the essence of your being and that's your entire spiritual journey is the journey back up from inside but you cannot go there when you are preoccupied with the human heart so first you let the world be second you unburden the Mind by telling it and you you have to tell it numerous times like 700 million a day that it's no longer its

job to think every single thing that could possibly go wrong I want to see now that I talked about how often you catch it doing that thinking about what can go wrong and what to do about it right not your job remember you were fired okay and just let it go and then you will face your heart I talked about it because I want you to face your heart I want you to be comfortable facing your heart is there pain in your heart answer me is there pain in your heart of course there's pain in

your heart you know there's pain in your heart don't you you've been running away from it your whole life haven't you you don't have to run away from the pain in your heart no longer you have to run away from that shot that kid shouldn't have run away from that shot should he you just should have not thought about it take a stupid shot and never think about it again it's another year for he is another 20 seconds of a shot you should not have a problem with the pain in your heart just relax be

comfortable with it this is the heart has pain good so heart also has Joy doesn't great joy great pain so what Yin that's your work I can't take you any closer you're afraid of your heart who will admit that you're afraid of what your heart can feel you're afraid of the pain you're afraid of what's in your heart some people are even afraid of the positive aren't they they're afraid to fall in love they're afraid to expose themselves they're afraid you have to stop being afraid of your heart as long as you're afraid of your

heart you're going to do that whole process I've been talking about all night you didn't go to your mind get lost in your mind you get lost in the world and you're going have a lot of trouble Maybe won't do it until you realize that it hurts more to do what you're doing than it does to just be there with it cuz it'll only hurt it once in a while and you're making yourself hurt every second and you can't even live your life can't even enjoy your life so once you decide that that's what you

want to do then just do it the heart will go through its changes work with it there and someday you'll ask me well what do I do about the heart the answer is nothing you do nothing about the heart you comfortable with the heart and just keep relaxing relaxing the rest will happen isn't it beautiful it'd be enough if the reward was that you don't have to be anguished in your mind and don't have to fight with the world that'd be enough of a reward wouldn't it right didn't no that's not even close it's not

even close not only do you not have to do all of that and then you get comfortable with your heart now I got nothing to worry about because I can handle the worst thing the world can do is hurt your heart how you like that really that's what you're trying to stop from happening big deal so the heart hurts a little bit so what I'd rather have that than go through this craziness if that was the reward it's worth it that's not even close to the reward the moment you are comfortable with your heart you

do not have to stay here like this you are not a human being you are the spirit the self tending to a human being and as long as you cannot handle the heart that's right where you're stand right because you're going to go out from there if you get back to that point and you're relaxed you're going to start to find out who you are you who's been taking care of the heart you who went to the mind and hired it you who looks out through these eyes to figure out what to do about it

which is what you do don't you all right and so when you get back there you'll start to pull back into the self and that's when real spirituality starts you'll start to feel all the strength all the spirit all the shuy pulling you back into it and ultimately you merge back into a force that is beyond your comp apprehension and this becomes your whole inner Journey you become a spiritual being instead of a human being that's what it means to grow spiritually really not so complicated and every one of you know it's the truth you

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