Let The Fire Die Out

morning Dwayne here Dry Creek Wrangler school um so today is Thursday and we got a class here this week and we got an extra student so we got six line up just the booking situation and but we've got a horse that's kind of lame so we're short a horse so mama and Noah my Apprentice took the uh took the ride out this morning they're on about a three hour ride and I thought well I'm a little behind on on an upload so I take this opportunity and and make a video so gotta SMS mirrorship my

love of American Pipe and I'm smoking Mac Baron original choice in it that's about one of the only uh Cavendish semi-aromatic Blends that I'll smoke but it's pretty mild and smooth today so that's what we got going on I know some of you guys will ask um you know down at the down at the ranch house we've got a fire pit now it's not really a it's not really a pit it's one of those fire pits that you buy we bought this one from Big R um and uh it's you know it's got the screen

lid that you put on it and we have fires down there quite a bit of an evening but you know when we're about done for the evening we don't go get gallons of water and pour on the Fire we don't bring in a wheelbarrow sand and start shoveling on the fire um there's different ways to put fires out usually what we do is we just sit there and I ask them they they really like to feed wood to the fire so I asked the ones who are going to stay out there you guys going to

be up here much later and usually like now probably another hour and because I leave early I I uh I go down pretty early I'm not a late night person so I'll tell them I'm like well probably don't need to put any more wood on it then because we don't want to go to bed with a big old fire out here left unintended so what we do to put the fire out is we cut we quit putting fuel on it um and uh and the fire goes out now sometimes if we're ready to go to

bed and there's a couple of logs down in there that's charred and still kind of burning and whatnot we'll take a poker and we'll separate them out are you listening to what I'm saying we'll separate them out we'll take that one log and move it to this side and take this log and move it to this side and if they're not together they'll both just burn out and and then we go on to bed and you know there's a lot of fires in life and people think that the only way to put a fire out

whether it's a fire in a relationship a fire in you know any kind of trouble any kind of trial is you've got to attack that fire and you got to pour water over to you go out of poor sand over to whatever but you know sometimes the best way to stop a fire from burning is to stop feeding it um and another way to put a fire out you ever you ever taken a candle or sitting there burning and take a jar turn it upside down and put it over the candle and the candle goes

out why because another way to put fire out is to remove the oxygen if you remove the oxygen the fire goes out you know even a Proverbs says what this will probably won't be exact but where there is no fuel the fire goeth out where there is no wood the fire go without the same with their horses you know I saw a b movie I'm not a big movie guy I don't hardly watch movies but I was on a plane or something somewhere several a few years ago when I saw I saw a movie that

had that wrestler Stone Cold Steve Austin in it and but he had a line in that movie and he you know guy came up and he looked at him and said look don't start none won't be none and it's amazing how much we can settle our life down and settle conflict down if we just kind of take that up as our Mantra don't start none won't be none and somebody sits there and they they'll build a fire and you just look at him like I'm not adding wood to that fire and so the fire will

eventually go out that conflict will go out if we stop adding fuel to it or if we stop adding oxygen to it it's going to just go out and it works with people and it works with horses you know so many so many times we get in a fight with our horse and the fight's not necessary um it takes two to fight whether it's a person or a horse or whatever it is it takes two to fight and uh and you know a lot of times you can just I'm not going to engage and they're

raging and they're foaming into mouth and they're carrying on personal horse or whatever and you're like sorry I'm just I'm not going to engage I'm gonna go do something else oh I'm not fighting about this and there is no fight it goes out um I one of my recent videos I was talking about my new baby mayor Ray and how we went to Jingle in and it didn't work out the way I planned because she went on the fight so we just stopped that tobacco is a little bit moist you can hear the moisture rattling

down in the pipe there so we stopped I let the horses leave and she wanted to charge after him and she wanted to Buck and she wanted a kick and she wanted to fight and I'm like no we're not going to fight and and after a minute she just settled down it's like okay the horses came in and and then we followed in and we got the job done and we got it done without a fight well you know I've been thinking about that and thought you know what I wonder if I read that just

a little bit too um if I read her right on that well last week my son was here visiting for a day he was here uh for two days actually and we came up here to get a horse he took Reba the mule those who know us and you follow he took Reba the meal with him to Idaho up on the mountain because she just needs a bunch of work and they were short some animals and so we came up married to get her and everything was out and they had to be jingling so I

said Jesse won't you take Ray and uh and check her out for me see what you think and uh because he really wanted to write I said and you go get them in well he it turns out he did the same thing went out there got him started and when they took off I saw him stop there's way way out there but I saw him stop and the horses come running in and he messed with her for a little bit and then he called me came in I asked him what happened he said she wanted

to fight and he said I felt her Bunch up now I'll be the first one to sit here a minute Jesse sets a horse and rides bucking horses and everything way better than I do he doesn't have the years as far as um you know the horse the psychology and the horse Instinct and and reading the horse quite to that degree but he's an excellent Horseman and and he rides a horse better than I do and I thought well then I am I am justified because if someone who sits a horse as well as Jesse

does took the exact same approach in the exact same situation as I did but it's like stop and there is no fight a lot of times you get in an arena or in a round pen or you're out and uh your horse is scared of fly spray and you go to fly spray and they they don't they don't like it they're not going to take it and they they kind of and if you push it you get on the fight and there'll be a fire but there doesn't have to be a fire there doesn't have

to be a fight and now sometimes the Fire gets so big and we didn't start and there's nothing we can do about it now I mean you wake up and the house is smoking you find out the kitchen's on fire you're going aggressively going there and trying to put the fire out and in relationship sometimes you have to do that sometimes the only way you can put the fire out uh is is to attack it with everything you have but that's rare I mean how often does your house catch on fire um you know in

in the old days out on the Prairies they'd have prairie fires and they still do at times and you know a lot of times what the farmers would do they would hitch up their plows real quick they see the fire coming towards them where they're not going to rush out there and fight that fire uh they can't fight that fire so they hitch up their plows and they just start plowing a ring around the homestead around the house or just in front of it in between them in the fire and they'll plow as much as

they can get plowed between them and the fire well the fire will burn into a point and what what happens when they plow is a plow turns the Earth over so all the dead grass all of the fuel that the fire would burn when the Fire gets to that there's no fuel they just made that fuel disappear they just turned it over and Fire won't burn the Earth and so the homesteads will be saved the houses the barns the livestock and everything be safe because they just went out there and just remove the fuel just

remove the fuel just remove the fire and there's too much this this world man there's just too much conflict there's just too much people are just going around and people are just so agitated and they're angry at this person and they're fussing this person and they're sniping back and forth on Facebook with this person and and you know if somebody just say okay and just remove no I'm I'm not I'm not going to throw another stick of wood on that fire I'm not going to you're you're welcome to believe and to think what you want

to think and I'm not obligated to get on here and to change your mind it is not my obligation and my responsibility to change your mind it happens all the time on on not all the time I'm not going to say that um it happened not near as much as it used to but it happens quite often on on the channel on the YouTube channel in the comments somebody get on and I had somebody I don't last week or so get on and they were a little bit scratchy about something and they said something that

was not accurate and so I got on there and to explain myself and say this is what um they were this is where I was coming from and this is what I was saying and they came back on real quick scratchy and I said well you know what you can believe what you want to believe it's okay I don't feel a responsibility to sit here and discuss this with you and they got back and said well I'm so disappointed I thought we were going to have a thought we were going to have a dialogue in

a conversation no you didn't you thought we were going to have an argument and people are looking for an argument and I'm not going to argue I'm just not going to argue and that's what you need many of you need to start developing this Outlook in life don't start none won't be none don't engage uh if you if you have a fire if you have a little smoky smoldering fire and it's there all right but it's not burning real good if you'll take a bellows something that blows air and blow air down on that fire

also and it'll become a raging conflagration well that's what that's what discussions and conflict that's exactly air is talking it's just oxygen it's just air just talking you know a lot of times a a conflict that doesn't necessarily need to be a conflict something that's a minor disagreement but somebody just can't shut up and so they'll throw oxygen on that fire blah blah blah and it becomes a raging com conflagration that that never had to be it just wasn't necessary and you know a horse a horse a lot of times if we just you know

you can tell they'll get they'll get agitated they'll get upset they'll get cranky some horses more than others that little baby mayor will I mean she's got a Spitfire little temper and she's getting better and she's coming along and so what I do is I just unless it gets a situation where I'm like all right uh she will just if I meet her head to head she'll just come flaggerate man she'll just she'll get mad uh and we're not going to get anything accomplished like that and so I'm like no I'm not gonna I'm not

gonna butt heads with you I'm not gonna start anything we'll just do a couple circles and we'll just go around and just get your mind about you and just settle down and we'll approach this again carefully and calmly and so there's no fire so there's no fight I did a the last podcast I did I did a subject that I knew was going to be um some folks are going to have a hard time with it um I thought about it for a long time I chewed on it meditated on it and made sure that

I understood what I was talking about and so so then I I'd put the podcast on and uh and I had a friend call me now this friend is a he's a he is a friend and he's a man I have tremendous respect for uh he's a he's a very learned man he's a very thoughtful man uh he's a studied man he's together and I have a tremendous amount of respect for them and and so he called me and he had just listened to the podcast and he was he was perfect all right very respectful

very very not he was not contentious in any way and so he he called and he's like Dwayne I think you missed the mark on this one man and so I said well what is it about it that you think was I missed the mark and he told me and I said well I can see I can see your side and how you can see that but you know I I understand what I was saying and I think my position is is um I think it's correct from a lot of years of experience and a

lot of years of study and uh I I don't have any kind of um heartburn at all that you don't see it the way I see it and so you know and it was all perfectly good there was no fire now if I had felt the need to aggressively defend my position then I would have started a fire I would have blown on something that would have turned into a fire but we had a difference of opinion on a religious question of all things all right um but it was approached by two thoughtful mature adults

in a calm respectful Manner and both of us were allowed to lay out how we see that particular subject from our particular side and there wasn't a fire why can't more people do that these days why do some of you people feel like you have to get on this channel and the horse stuff and throw a grenade in the middle of it because you see it differently why I when when I when I go through and I read these comments I'm like I can just imagine what your personal life must be like people must hate

you don't want to be around you you must be the person that walks when you walk in everybody just kind of seizes up oh my you know are they going to like Strike A Match Into the drapes because they just you know what what is it saying some people just want to watch the world burn they just want to set it on fire to watch it burn uh why why it's not necessary and you're just burning your life up and you're you're distorting and burning and charring other people's lives why can't you let them live

in peace in the way they want to live okay that is the big and I'm gonna I'm gonna step into a place I don't normally step into okay but today in society it's it's it's a major deal all right um that is the problem with this lgbtq plus whatever situation all right you can call yourself what you want you can consider yourself to be whatever you want now whether I think you're right or I think you're wrong doesn't matter because it's not about me I'm not the one that anybody has to answer to okay so

I don't insist that you change your view of Who You Are stop insisting that other people change their view of who you are other people's view don't matter one day when I die I gotta stand before God I believe that a hundred percent not whether I'm going to be go to heaven or not that's already settled all right that's not but you don't stand before me and I don't stand before you and so I feel I feel like I can let you as long as you're not trying to affect my life I can let you

do what you want you can write any kind of Saddle you want you can ride on any kind of saddle blanket you want you can feed your horse donuts and sugar cubes if you want it's your horse I put out information and you do what you want with it and I'm not going to pick a fight with you over it but I'm not going to let you pick a fight with me either okay I don't need any more fires in my life I've walked away some from some really really big fires that burnt me up

and a lot of them I started and someone would would start a fire and I'd throw the biggest log I could find on it uh and of course it would and then and it just went from there and it just didn't end and you know I finally matured to the point where I'm like that's no way to live uh that's just the actions of of a Troublesome problematic human being okay so just step back and let the fire go out all right just remove the fuel just take a jar and put it over the candle

there's no Oxygen the oxygen can be in the form of texting telephone calls uh Facebook um comments on YouTube channels face to face whatever just just back away stop putting fuel on it uh stop adding oxygen to it let people make their own deal and you make your own deal and when somebody says I disagree then stop and look at what they're saying they disagree consider it maybe they're right maybe they're wrong I could be wrong I could be right on any given thing look at it and if you consider that you're right then let

them have their opinion and don't feel the need to change it and just keep going okay you don't answer to them I mean you answered your boss if it's a work thing you answered your parents you know if you're underage uh you answer to your spouse to a degree to some level or not if you want peace in the family um but the rest of it Let the Fire go out and when your horse with your horse you are you're the adult in the situation okay they're only doing what they're instinct tells them they have

to do or what their understanding tells them they need to do that's all they're doing now if you figure that you are more advanced and you're more intelligent and you're smarter than them then by the same token you should be smarter than them to the point that you can say let's redirect this so that we can come to a calmer slower understanding without a fight I'm not going to add more fuel to this fire the horse doesn't know the horse doesn't know to not add more fuel to the fire they don't know they're just doing

what they think has to be done that's their understanding that's their Instinct that's all they got okay so stop fighting with your horse stop fighting with your spouse your significant other stop fighting with your friends if you're fighting with your friends all the time they're probably not friends anyhow just there's too much fire in this world we're burning it up all right we're burning ourselves up we're burning everything around us up and we're going to wind up with nothing but coals and dirt ashes uh smoke there won't be anything left there won't be anything left

in your life the only thing left to your sanity the only thing left of your inside you'll love burn them all up with just anger and stress and and just fights and Fire um stop before you burn your entire world down around your ears over things that just don't matter stop before you burn your relationship with your horse up and they Buck you off and break your foolish angry neck before you turn them into something that's always looking for a fight before they get the idea that okay this this is what writing is writing is

every time somebody gets on me we have a um we have a pecking order fight to see who's boss today and it has to be whose boss and and it's who's going to win the fight and horses will get that that will they will get that understanding of what things are and they'll get it from us we will teach them that everything is a fight and may the best man win no a lot of times there's a conflict May the calmest wisest homeless man win and humility is not weakness humility is you're smaller than I

am and you're weaker than I am but you're getting in my face and I Could Break Your Head but I'm not going to that humility all right humility is I can do this to the horse and I can do that and I can do this and I can do that but I'm not going to all right have a little wisdom have a little humility and start putting out fires instead of building fires okay all right um got a little bit of news for the school for those who follow I'm pretty excited about this um mom

and I are actually this year for the NFR we're going to be in Vegas for three days uh not going to the NFR I can't afford them tickets not interested now but we're going to be at Cowboy Christmas for three days our friends and our sponsor uh rand's hat they have a booth that'll be set up there at Cowboys Christmas and we're going to be with them at their booth and so if you're there and in Vegas or at the NFR in December uh swing by and say hey swing by the booth at Duran's and

come by and say hey to Mama and I and and it'd be fun and hope to see you there so other than that I think that's it for today and we'll catch you guys next time