My Fiancée Got Pregnant By My Brother, And My Mother Was Happy Because She Was Going to Be...

my fiance got pregnant by my brother and my mother was happy because she was going to be a grandmother but 5 years later she calls crying to ask me for a favor the old hag 5 years ago just a month before I turned 30 I discovered that my fiance had been having an affair with my brother the only reason they were even confessing to me was because she was pregnant and wanted to have the baby my ex- fiance Karen 30 years old and my brother Chris 33 had apparently been sleeping together since k K and

I got engaged Karen and I had been together since our senior year of high school and through college so getting engaged was obviously the next step as we had been together for so long however after we got engaged she decided to cheat on me with my brother the only reason it even happened was that a few days after our engagement my brother confessed to her that he had always had feelings for her and he just felt he had to tell her because she was about to get married and after that he couldn't tell her anything

about these things anymore then she suddenly realized that she was also gradually developing feelings for him apparently they even flirted behind my back occasionally at family events and things like that but she wasn't sure about him which is why she stayed with me I found out about all this 5 years ago just a few months before my wedding when the two of them sat me down with my parents and told me they planned to be together and that Karen could no longer marry me because she was in love with Chris and they were expecting a

child together that day I felt very disgusted and almost refused used to believe it and I told Karen that I wanted her to come home with me and end this relationship whatever it was with Chris but my mother made it very clear that none of that was going to happen and that Chris and Karen were going to be together and I just had to make peace with it because it was their decision I couldn't even believe my mother was supporting something like this at least my father had the decency to look ashamed and try to

console me but my mother was blatantly supporting this and even told me that if I had any problem with it I should keep it to myself because K was pregnant and I had no right to bother her when she was in such a delicate condition my mother was crazy about finally having a grandchild in the family so she hardly cared what I was going through and she even fought with me to try to justify what was happening after the confrontation that day Karen moved in with my family because her own parents no longer wanted to

talk to her after she told them the truth we obviously had to cancel the wedding and my parents covered the cost so I didn't have to worry about any of that however I was kicked out of the family because I refused to talk to them and for the past 5 years we have had absolutely no contact the only person who even bothered to try to reach out to me was my father but I didn't even bother to talk to him so there has been total Silence from me after I cut ties with them it took

me a long time to get over what happened to me because Karen and I had been together for so long I really loved her so it took a lot of therapy to get over it and even now I wouldn't say I've completely gotten over it but I'm dealing with it the rest of the family had kept in touch with me ever and I found out from them that she had a child with my brother and just a month after giving birth to their son a paternity test confirmed that he was my brother's son and not

mine so there was no need to contact me after that either and they ended up getting married and have been together for the past 5 years I had assumed that everything was going well for them but about a week ago my mother suddenly called me and took me by surprise because she was the one who most supported Karen and Chris like on an unhealthy level so out of mere curiosity I decided to call her back after she emailed me saying she urgently needed to talk to me when I called her she gave me some pretty

bad news while crying and I found out that my brother had been in a very serious accident it was a hitandrun case and unfortunately due to the impact he had fallen into a coma and there was no way of knowing how long it would take for him to recover this had happened the previous week and just 3 days later the doctors said that things were pretty critical at that point my mother decided to call me and informed me about it at first I thought she was going to ask me to visit and be there for

the family which I would have been willing to do because despite everything I think this is very important and it would have been a reasonable enough expectation for me and I don't want to turn my back on someone who is in such a terrible condition but then my mother completely changed the subject and said she wanted me to be there for Karen and my nephew I didn't even understand what that meant and then she told me that now she expected me to take my brother's place with them when I asked her to elaborate she said

that now that Chris was basically no longer there I should be there for Karen and her child in every way she wasn't just referring to financial support but she really expected me to take over and live with them to take care of them she said she would have taken them in at her house but she wasn't getting any younger and it would be too much work to take care of everyone and that's why she was calling me to inform me and she expected me to make a decision on the same call because time was of

the essence obviously I lost my patience because she hadn't spoken to me for 5 years and now that she finally was talking to me she expected me to do something so big I could understand that Karen and her child were completely alone at this point and needed someone to be there for them but that someone should have been someone from their immediate family and not me someone she had betrayed and hadn't even bothered to apologize to so obviously I immediately told my mother that I wasn't going to do anything like that and that it was

foolish to expect me to say yes to that and then she started arguing with me on the phone and I didn't have time to waste I was already quite angry and I didn't want to ruin my mood further while talking to her so I just hung up and then blocked her once again I tried to go about my day as usual after that but I just couldn't stop thinking about what Chris and Karen were going through and I really felt bad for them but obviously I wasn't going to do what my mother had asked and

take my brother's place in his family because that was just weird he was still around but it wasn't like he had already passed away and she was acting as if he was no longer there I felt very unsure about this whole situation so later that day I decided to call my father instead because I thought he would be more reasonable than my mother it was very awkward to talk to him after 5 years of no contact but after some small talk I asked how Chris was doing and he said things didn't look very good at

the moment and then I told him about the conversation I had with my mother earlier that day expecting him to have a reasonable perspective but instead he also said that my mother was right to expect that from me that really shocked me because my dad used to be the more sensible of my parents and now even he was such strange things when I asked if he really meant that he said yes and that Karen and I had a history anyway and that I was also part of the family no matter what our relationship had been

for the past 5 years ultimately I am blood and if they can count on someone to help the family it should be me my mother's expectations are not exactly unreasonable that really took me by surprise right now I honestly have no idea what to do over the past week I have avoided talking to any family member even other relatives because I'm just just afraid that someone will mention this to me and then I will be forced to explain my decisions I also feel a bit like the bad guy here because I'm refusing to help my

family and I know they really need me at least emotionally if not financially I just honestly have no idea what to do and I know what my mother is asking is really strange and unreasonable but at the same time I feel bad for outright rejecting it I haven't even gone to the hospital to see my brother because I just feel very weird about this whole situation I also haven't been able to talk to any of my friends about it because this is all so personal they know how things have been between my family and me

since the wedding was called off but this is something a bit Stranger than that honestly and that's why I'm now posting this here on the Edith because I really think I need some objective opinions on what I should do and both my friends and family are all going to have some sort of biased opinion I really need advice because I think I'm going to lose my mind if I don't find an acceptable solution to all of this soon honestly I feel like I'm going back to that phase of my life where I con instantly thought

about Karen and Chris right after discovering that she had been cheating on me and that was a really dark time and I don't want to go back there as it took me a lot to get out of that so please anyone who has something to say no matter how harsh the opinion might be just tell me so I can at least be distracted so am I the bad guy for refusing to go see my family and help them after my brother had an accident update one hi guys so I decided not to go see my

family for now it's really too much for me at the moment I didn't even realize EX ly how bad my anxiety had gotten in the last week just from the things my parents were telling me but now I'm back on my anxiety meds and trying to deal with everything a lot of people have shown me love and support in the comments section of my original post and even reached out to me personally in my DMs to let me know they're there for me and that I'm not alone which I greatly appreciate thank you very much

for that I've also talked to a couple of my close friends and confided in them about what's happening because I really don't think I can deal with all this on my own and they've also told me that I can talk to them whenever I need to vent they've also told me that my decision not to go see them right now is the right one because at this point it's the best decision I can make for myself and I have to put myself first no matter what's going on in other people's lives so far Chris and

my family have always put themselves first so I should do the same to be honest I don't think I really need to be there for them emotionally either they have each other they can deal with this on their own I was the only one who had absolutely no one from my immediate family who was there for me in the aftermath of the wedding being called off and finding out I'd been cheated on my own parents turned against me and chose my brother over me even though he was the one in the wrong and should have

been the one to leave the family but anyway all that is in the past now and I'm trying to move on I won't be able to do that successfully if I go back to them again so I've blocked them all once more and I'm going to stick with my decision not to have any contact with them I really regret what happened to my brother and I really hope he recovers soon because no matter what he did I can't be the person who wishes something bad happens to anyone so I hope things work out for them

but I'm out of here I'm just going to focus on my own mental health now and I'm considering going back to therapy because of how I dealt with this and the way the things my parents said affected me I really think I need to talk to a professional because I don't think I'm handling all this as well as I thought and all those old feelings are coming back to the surface once again so I'm just going to take care of myself now update two I heard from a couple of relatives that my brother's condition is

still quite critical and shows no signs of improvement it's been almost 2 weeks and he's still in the hospital things are really bad for the family and I feel sad for them but there's not much I can do everyone who knows my family has stopped by the hospital to see my brother at least once in the past 2 weeks and they've offered their condolences for the terrible accident that took place except me I would have but I also found out from my relatives that my parents have been badmouth me to anyone who has visited them

and they've been painting me as the villain apparently they're telling everyone that they asked me to come visit and be there for the family but that I refused and they accused me of saying things like this was karma for having screwed me over 5 years ago and that my brother deserve this for the record obviously I didn't say anything like that some of them contacted me to confirm if it was true or not because it didn't seem like something I would say as I'm generally kind to everyone and when they asked me about it I

obviously told them that I didn't didn't say those things and that my parents were making it up to make it look like I was a terrible person probably to get some reaction out of me or something like that cuz that's how my parents are I was really disappointed that they were saying such things about me and making up stories just to portray me as the bad guy especially after having ruined my life once I'm lucky that my relatives asked me about it because if they had chosen to believe my parents I don't think anyone in

the family would be talking to me right now for the past 5 years I hadn't spoken to my parents but the rest of my family my uncles and aunts and of course my cousins had always been there for me I really didn't want to lose that and I guess my parents couldn't stand it so they decided to try to ruin that for me too I just don't understand why they hate me so much I've literally never done anything to them my brother and I have never been particularly close and my parents have always had a

special place for him since our childhood but this seems unnecessary and excessive update three so I posted an update 2 days ago and today my mother decided to contact me again I had blocked them everywhere so she had no choice but to come see me to talk when I got home from work she was already there waiting for me honestly I didn't even feel like talking to her because I was already exhausted from work I almost decided to get back in the car but then she saw me and I had to go talk to her

I had no intention of letting her into my house because then it would be very difficult to get rid of her so I decided to talk to her in the front yard which turned out to be pretty bad for me since she eventually started yelling at me which also attracted the neighbor attention the conversation started normally she made some small talk with me and I had to respond politely but then I couldn't help it and I ended up asking her why she had been saying madeup things about me just to paint me as the bad

guy I told her it wasn't fair to me because I had never wished anything bad for my family even after they had treated me like this and I honestly just wanted to move on with my life but they were even making that very difficult for me I've been keeping these feelings to myself for a long time so when I saw her it just came out and I couldn't help it in the end I just told her that after everything that had happened it was very hard for me to think of them as family because they

had never treated me like family and I was very disappointed by their behavior so whatever she had come to talk to me about could be done later because I had just come home from work and I was really not in the mood to fight or talk about anything too emotionally draining she had been listening to me calmly until that point but when I told her I didn't want to talk to her at that moment she got very Ang angry and said she was only here to apologize for the very things I had mentioned and she

said she and my father had been thinking it over they had been quite upset by my initial response because I had refused to step up for my family and even visit my brother while he was in the hospital but then they realized they hadn't exactly treated me well in the last 5 years and I was obviously still very upset about that even now and that's why I wasn't visiting she had come here to talk to me and try to work things out between us because she felt that right now the family should stay United just

for the the sake of emotional stability but after I told her I didn't want to talk to her at that moment she changed her mind and decided she was going to yell at me instead she told me that I should apparently be grateful that I still have a family because after the way I reacted when I found out about my brother's accident she had planned to cut me off and make sure the rest of my relatives also stopped talking to me permanently I didn't understand what she was talking about so she explained that she apparently

believed my reaction hadn't been sad enough when I found out about my brother's accident I didn't even know what she expected me to do and she said she had thought that when they told me about my brother's accident she at least expected me to show some emotion but I just sounded very indifferent on the phone call obviously no matter what our personal relationships are news like that was definitely going to affect me and it really did as I mentioned earlier I don't wish this on anyone and that includes my family despite our personal relationships so

I was definitely upset when I found out about his accident maybe that didn't come across on the phone call because she couldn't see my face but her reasons were just completely unfounded and illogical she even went on to say that the fact that I wasn't there for Karen and my nephew and didn't step up for them instead of family she was just making things up again to justify how they were acting and I really think my parents have started to lose their minds because these things are completely strange and unnecessary anyway after she started yelling

at me I lost even more interest in talking to her and I just decided to go into my house and ask her to leave so after a while I unlocked my my front door and went in while she was still yelling at me she tried to follow me inside but I shut the door in her face and told her to leave because I was seriously angry I didn't want to interact with her anymore she argued with me but I told her I would call the police and that's when she finally left but not before cursing

at me and saying I would face the consequences of this soon I don't know what that means nor am I interested in finding out what that means I just want to relax and move on with my life update 4 hi it's been 26 days since the accident my family finally had some good news to share with everyone today obviously they didn't tell me personally I found out through my cousins but the good news is that my brother is finally showing some signs of improvement he is no longer in a coma and is responding better so

that's a good sign I really hope he can pull through and just get better from this point on because the last month has been really stressful for everyone as a family even for me even though I'm not even part of the family anymore and was cut off a long time ago but the the way my parents have been after me in the last 26 days has really shown me that they are unbalanced and I think they were just taking it out on me after my last interaction with my mother which I talked about in my

last update I didn't hear from her for a couple of days but then my father called to scold me instead he used a different number than he usually does so I couldn't tell it was him when I answered the call he started yelling at me almost immediately so I didn't even have time to hang up when I realized it was him he was also very cunning about it trying to catch me off guard so he could yell at me instead of calling me at any normal time during the day he decided to call me at

5: in the morning when he knew I would be asleep and I would have to wake up to answer his call and my brain would be all confused so a couple of days after my interaction with my mother my father called me at 5: in the morning and after almost three phone calls I finally answered the fourth one and he immediately started yelling at me about how ingrateful I was and how he wished I had never been born he said he would make sure the rest of the family never spoke to me me again because

I was a terrible person for not even bothering to go see my brother in the hospital when he was suffering so much and for not being there for the family after ranting for almost 5 minutes he was the one who hung up because I was still trying to process everything that was happening by the time I was done with that he had already hung up the phone and blocked me when it happened it wasn't very fun but now I find it pretty funny because my parents are so desperate to make me look like the bad

guy and yell at me for arbitrary things that they are willing to go to such extremes just for these reasons I've already said that I believe they were taking it out on me just needing to escape from it and as usual I had to be there for the family but that's okay because my father couldn't manage to turn the rest of the family against me because they know I'm not to blame and they also know what happened 5 years ago anyway now that my brother's condition is improving I just hope they leave me alone and

focus on him update five it's very strange to be back here after almost 3 years so much has happened since then and mostly for the better I now live in Germany for work I've been here for the last year and a half I also started dating someone my girlfriend and I have been together for the last8 months and it's been really good in the last 3 years I haven't had any contact with my family at all and that has also been Blissful to be honest I have kept in touch with my relatives those who were

kind to me so that's different my brother is completely fine now he survived the accident and although it took him a long time to get back to normal he's fine now now Karen reached out to me after my brother started recovering to talk to me and apologize for everything that had happened in the past I just told her that at this point an apology simply wasn't necessary she reached out to me after everyone found out I was moving to Germany for work and visited me to apologize and it was on behalf of her and my

brother my brother couldn't come to see me because he was too embarrassed by the things that had happened 8 years ago but honestly none of that mattered anymore so I just told her that I forgave him I didn't even care and that part was true I really didn't care because I was moving on with my life towards better things since then I've been here and my parents don't speak to me anymore and I'm really happy about that because I wouldn't let that happen again under any circumstances finally I am happy now anyway now that everyone

is up to date I better get back to my life thank you so much to the people who showed me so much love and concern when I was posting here and also kept asking about me in the comments and things like that even after I stopped posting update six I'm only updating because some people wanted to know a bit more about me living in Germany I was offered a job here and I accepted because I needed a change of scenery all of this definitely did me a lot of good and as I said I met

someone so it turned out to be a good decision for me I also forgot to mention but my brother found out that when he was in a coma my parents offered me as a replacement so the relationship between my brother in them is strained to say the least Karen told me that who also said my brother isn't allowing them to see their grandchild at the moment even Karen said she had no idea what had happened with that offer but well that was it