𝐍𝐨 𝐑𝐢𝐬𝐤, 𝐍𝐨 𝐒𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐲.

you know people get up every day they do the same thing they tell them they're going to change their life one day and they never do I'm going to change mine what would you do if you weren't afraid I love thinking about that when I'm thinking about big life decisions like what would I do if I weren't afraid and it's usually like the big one the the bigger thing that I really want to do but I'm afraid to do it it's like that's what I should do like what would I do if I weren't afraid

and what would I do if I knew I couldn't fail well you should be afraid of taking risks and pursuing something meaningful but you should be more afraid of staying where you are if it's making you miserable it's like the first thing you want to do is dispense with the idea that you get to have any any permanent security outside of your ability to contend and adapt it's the same issue with children it's like you're paying a price by sitting there being miserable you might say well the devil I know is better than the one

I don't it's like don't be so sure of that the clock is ticking yeah and if you're miserable in your job now and you change nothing in five years you'll be much more miserable and you'll be a lot older if you play it safe you're going to exist you only get to live when you take risk ain't no living in safety you can't be a man if you on jump you can't be top dog unless you un unless you fight the other dog ain't nobody going to give you the championship you don't win the title

without coming to the fight you don't win the fight without training following your dreams is a lonely solitary scary dangerous Pursuit you can't wait for somebody to think you can do it m and you got to be willing to risk everything to become that seed of what you believe in there you got to be Fearless you got to be relentless risk used to drive me right up the wall I used to say what if this happens it's called the language of the poor what if this happens and on top of that if this was to

happen look at the fix I'd be in I better not try then I'll tell you what changed my whole life when I finally discovered it's all risky the minute you were born it got risky if you think trying is risky wait till they hand you the bill for not trying if you think investing is risky wait till you get the tab for not investing see it's all risky getting married is risky having children is risky going into business is risky investing your money is risky it's all risky I'll tell you how risky life is you're

not going to get out alive you need to put yourself in uncomfortable situations and uncomfortable scenarios okay if you do easy things you will have a hard life if you do hard things you will have a easy life let me say again if you do easy things you will have a hard life if you do hard things you will have a easy life as a man you have to understand that we as men we do better in environments where we are uncomfortable okay you put pressure on a rock it turns into a diamond you got

to let go of that stuff from the past cuz it just doesn't matter the only thing that matters is what you choose to be now the comfort zone is dangerous when you're comfortable you are at most danger your the comfort zone is somewhere you need to you should never feel comfortable you should be happy and dissatisfied anybody ever tell you hey hey look you know what just be satisfied with what you got don't believe them get them away from you you should never be satisfied with what you got because the the attempt to get more

makes you into something better don't let anybody tell you hey man you know you should just be happy with uh no nobody knows but you you can't get advice on what you should do with your life right nobody knows what you are like even even sometimes you don't really even know what you are you got to take your shot as much as you want people to agree and you want the people around you to be supporting your dreams and all it's not going to be like that all the time you got to do it alone

and people will help you and once you when you get the ball rolling people will jump on but if you don't believe nobody else is going to believe but one of the things that really motivates me or one of my most powerful motivational frames is thinking about the person that I want to become as the destination and thinking like I want to be bulletproof I want to be bulletproof in these ways I want to be bulletproof in my marriage I want to be bulletproof in my business Etc and I think about that man whoever I

want him to be like we said hell is when you look at who you could have been and realize that you're not that person and then I think if I were to make that man what would I put that man through to make him who he is like it wouldn't be easy times it wouldn't be quick wins it wouldn't even be easy wins it would be the the toil and the struggle of achieving and reaching for [Music] things that are right out of grasp that are right above my threshold and continuing to do that to

like lift the weight to build the muscle to break it down and do it over and over again because like that's what creates the character traits that are are the man that I want to be and so when I'm going through those like really harder times I like to think of like looking in my mental mirror of like I'm making you I'm not there yet but I'm making you see little one thing I want you to promise me is that no matter how long it takes keep going no matter how much it hurts keep going

so you was placed on this Earth for a reason you weren't meant to be average You Were Meant to excel you got understand that this grind is meant to make you who you supposed to be a dog a little grind ain't never hurt nobody stop being off let's embrace it if you go through that fire you're going to come out real cold that's what we want so I wanted to project myself forward to age 80 and say okay now I'm looking back on my life I want to have minimized the number of regrets I have

and you know uh I knew that when I was 80 I was not going to regret having tried this I was not going to regret having wanted you know trying to participate in this thing called the internet that I thought was going to be a really big deal I knew that if I failed I wouldn't regret that but I knew the one thing I might regret is not ever having tried and I knew that that would haunt me every day when I thought about it that way it was an incredibly easy decision get older you

think about things my estimate historically 80% of the time it ends up in the can like Johnny shck origal reward did I take enough risk did I put myself out there you definitely didn't up you definitely did not and here's how I know it at least again one man's point of view I'm not sure anybody is taking enough risk from 20 to 30 it is the most interesting thing that I've been thinking about which is it is never more practical to be disproportionately risky than from 22 to 30 yet everybody goes the other way because

now they're the real world and it's time to prove something to their parents to themselves to everybody else and everybody goes conservative and that's when I realized that there's two ways to see the world some people see the thing that they want and some people see the thing that prevents them from getting the thing that they want this next 5year window is when you don't go practical and safe this is not the time to get the job Mom wanted you to this is the time to realize that you have a five-year window and it's three

for some it's eight for others but there's a five-year window for you to attack the life that you want to win don't ever let somebody tell you you can't do something not even me you got a dream you got to protect it people can't do something themselves they want to tell you you can't do it you want something go get it period This Is Why I'm a big big believer in this is that when you are starting out I think you got to find the thing that's the pain and like pain motivates significantly faster and

stronger than pleasure does like people are like no passion is the right way it's like point a gun at a family member all of a sudden 10 out of 10 motivation pain and so like I think people should use their pain more it wouldn't kill you to try you know spending a long time getting a life you would actually want is about a million times better than getting a quick turnaround time on a life that you'll forever be disappointed with you know playing it safe seems just fine until you get to the last moments of

your life and realize all the potential that you threw away can never get back and I will never know from experience what that feels like but the thought of that realization is haunting what matters is at some point you have to identify what you want to do and you've got to become the best in the world with that period not really good you've got to be the best in the world so your thing in life at something you've got to become the best in the world at it and if you're not prepared to go in

with that mentality you're never going to get anywhere I'm speaking to all of you out there that want to do something unbelievable so many of us come from these small places in our mind that we're not willing to think outside only what we've seen our mind works in such a small compartment and one thing I was able to do was to dream and until you're able to really put yourself into that dream but don't make dreams your master that's where you truly become what you're destined to become so you're always trying to come up with

reasons that you don't have to do it today but if you build you're building the muscle either way you're either building the muscle that says I do what I say I keep the commitments that I make or you're building the muscle that says I make excuses I don't do what I say I can't be counted on right and so when we think about discipline it's really about like what promises are you going to keep and the tricky thing is you're keeping promises to yourself that nobody even knows that you made right it's not it's not

like hey you made this Comm if I don't write this book by this time like uh you know I I have to do this in embarrassing thing or you know that I'm I'll I'll retire you know there're not even you're not really putting your ass on the line in that sense but you've said to yourself you're going to do this thing and and building that muscle is really important you have to take chances in life if you don't take chances in life you'll never have the life God has for you life is about risk if

you play it safe in life you ain't going to have much of a life if you play it safe you won't have much of a life life is risk it take it take courage to pursue your dream I just did it and cost me everything but eventually God is very good man when he sees you take a leap of faith he supplies you everything you need now it's going to cost you something but most people are not willing to pay what it costs to go after your dream cuz you going to have to hurt a

little bit so at those times where you're questioning if you have anything left no a day from then a week from them a month from them a year from them you will never remember discomfort the pain you will always remember the pride of the accomplishment that lives on that's why pain is temporary pride is forever guys you give it your all you get it all tfold what do you think uh all success starts with well the fast answer is mindset um going back to the only belief that matters you said it it's you're the way

you act is ultimately all that matters and the way you act follows what you allow yourself to believe or maybe a better way to say it is what you choose to believe so if you choose to believe that your energy and efforts will result in more skill set then you will actually put energy and effort into getting that which means you actually will get the skill set but if you think well my talent and intelligence are fixed so no no matter how much I work I'm never going to get better right I can't be a

fast Pig and if you don't think that putting time and energy into it will anything then you won't put time and energy into it and you thusly won't get the skills so and if you don't have the skills then you can't do the things other people can do and so people just get stuck because they don't have the only belief that matters so they don't put the time and energy and so that's like where everything starts is are you putting the time and energy into getting better yes or no everyone thinks you're crazy until it

[Applause] works and so I mean if if you think of of the outcome as the trump card then all of the pain and suffering that you lead up to that point if you're just I'm trying to think of a an appropriate saying um I was going to say balls deep certain um that no matter what you will die or you will get there then the likelihood that all of the things that you've done up to that point will then be justified in retrospect is super high and I actually see that as super um compelling as

a as a thing to latch on to in harder times seconds ago pain that it's almost like excruciating seconds later it like flows out of you like you just pulled the plug on your sink and all the water and all the pressure just goes is a greater feeling than what the pain was mean the pain you felt doing that man is Oak ridden with pride and when you when you pull that plug and all the water goes out and all pain leads cuz what's left there after all the water leads is more capable of you

more capable so don't let the pain rob you of your potential guys don't let what in the what you can't do in the moment interfere with what you know you can do mean don't want the pain can rob you of your belief or what you can be because your body hears everything your mind says and anytime you have any kind of discourse or or you going be subject to the discomfort of the situation your body remembers that and your body is just a messenger about the Purity right here it just delivers whatever this is and

you start thinking you can't do in that pain like oh it feels I can't do pain you think that body's going to tell your brain the the the the boss of the world hey man we can do it [ __ ] it's like a little [ __ ] their body is and it's like okay we done then your body hears everything your mind says don't even give it a chance to think that kind of [ __ ] my father could have been a great comedian but he didn't believe that that was possible for him and

so made a conservative Choice instead he got a safe job as an accountant and when I was 12 years old he was let go from that safe job and our family had to do whatever we could to survive I learned many great lessons from my father not the least of which was that you can fail at what you don't want so you might as well take a chance on doing what you love the reason I'm going to get what I want out of life is because unlike most I'm willing to have nothing in the moment

of course it feels world's better to have something right now but unfortunately what most people really want is not what's available right now those people with the best relationships the best health the best careers it's because they were completely unwilling to settle for anything less than that and you might think I'm overly optimistic because most people don't get those great outcomes but I'm not most people and you don't have to be either there most of us we live in a box and we don't want to go outside that box at all ever outside that box

is all these possibilities of Life what we do is we shackle our mind we are a prisoner in our own mind that this is all I can do this is all I'm good at what people understand is that they live for themselves not knowing that you have the power within yourself to change millions of lives Yeah by facing Life by facing yourself what if it's a mistake it's a mistake rest assured what do you know you're going to stumble around right and what's going to happen is this you're going to move you're going to not

stay in stasis you're not going to wander around in circles and I see people like that they said well I never knew what to do and now I'm 40 it's like that's not so good that's not so good and you might say well and there is a literature too that suggests that people are a lot more unhappy when they look back on their lives about the things they didn't do than they are about the mistakes they made while they were doing things we are training kids and people to be soft in a world that continuously

gets harder and it doesn't it doesn't correlate like that guy talking about the tear gas with the seals is that necessary I don't know but what is necessary is you have to build a person that can withstand the pressures of whatever they're going to be dealing with in life and we don't do that I'm not trying to send a message of run 200 miles be the bast mother in the world but be tough you better have a part about you that's tough a part about you that can break down situations and get better we actually

have to re-embrace risk on a personal level and on a societal level we have to to take the risk of freely exchanging ideas because that's where Innovation happens we have to take the risk of being able to invest and reap the benefits of that risk in a personal relationship getting married is a risk it is foregoing a current benefit for a future game every decision you make is a risk the biggest risk of all of course is the decision to be free and to take responsibility for your own choices that's a major risk but if

you take that risk you become a better and a stronger human being a more contributing human being a more valuable human being you feel better about yourself when we discard risk we discard meaning when we are cuddled we discard our own ability to be a fully adult human being and here's the here's the Dirty Little Secret no matter how much we tried to discard the risk you can't actually discard risk it's inevitable because reality entails risk we can choose to live free rather than coddled it'll make us better people more open people more understanding people

and when we do that I think that not only will we be saving the country and saving the civilization we'll be saving ourselves but no matter what challenges or setbacks or disappointments you may encounter along the way you will find true success and happiness if you have only one goal there really is only one and that is this to fulfill the highest most truthful expression of yourself Theologian Howard Thurman said it best he said don't ask yourself what the world needs ask yourself what makes you come alive and then go do that because what the

world needs is people who have come alive there's no hacks bro it's you against you you against you and if you misund understand that you have a real problem real problem I can understand you misunderstand me running down the street shirt off [ __ ] this no yeah I can I can get it I get it if you misunderstand what I'm saying right now today the problem is you and you don't want to fix it take charge of your life take charge of your time take charge of your resources would take charge of your health

you're the one that's responsible for it it's not a requirement of society that you not have a heart attack and take care of your family that's not a requirement of society but you must make it a requirement of yourself Society doesn't require that you build a financial wall around your family nothing can get through that's not a requirement of society it's a requirement you impose on yourself do things worth doing and I think a lot of it is coming down to making sure that you take the few precious seconds that we have to do the

few things that are worth doing for the rest of your life they see it as a pure disadvantage and so you can flip the fact that you have nothing going for you with you have nothing to lose and that means that you can take lots of risks very quickly and end up in the exact same position you are which is nothing and so if you eliminate downside it should decrease your action threshold meaning you should be able to do more things faster rather than do fewer things because you don't have a great life or things

going for you and so I think if people flip that a lot more people would take action because they actually realize the advantage of their position don't be scared to fail and uh and know wherever you are right now is not who you are it's just where you are you know and if you fall man fall forward it'll fall in your ass um you know when they say it can't be done you know tell them you you haven't tried yet you know can't be done by someone else but I can't say that cuz I haven't

tried it then you go try those who can do those who can't talk about those who can let say it again those who can do those who can't talk about those who can yeah now can you or can you not are you just one that sits on the sideline and talk about other people or can you step up how do you want to live stop just waking up like an accident what do you want and and then once you find out what you want spend the rest of your natural life waking up and going after

it I think most people feel really lonely when you want something that doesn't currently exist and so some people call that dream some people call that goals whatever it is you're trying to pull something from your mind into reality and you want it done a certain way and if it's not done that way it's not what you imagined and so people on the outside will throw stones and call you names that they think will change your behavior and get you to stop and the more I have been the person trying to pull things in reality

The more I've tried to weather and build kind of defenses against those things so that when those stones get hurled at you by being called a control freak or by saying you micromanage things or that you have incredibly high standards the answer is yes because I want it done right the first time because either way we're going if you have enough will it's going to get done the way that I want it to get done regardless and it'll be less painful if we just do it right the first time because we will still have to

do it and you may have to do it three or four more times but eventually you'll just succumb to the fact that we're going to do it this way and I think all of the great things that have happened for Humanity have been from one man or woman who had an idea and just wouldn't let people shake it from them in a world that's changing so quickly the biggest risk you can take is not taking any risk and I I really think that that's true right I mean a lot of people I think think that

you know whenever it comes to whenever you get yourself into a position where you have to make some some big shift in in direction or do something um you know there always people are going to point to the the downside risks of that decision and locally they're may be right right I mean for any given decision that you're going to make there's upside and downside but in aggregate if you are stagnant and you don't make those changes then um then I think you're guaranteed to fail so many people do this they're talking to you on

who they want to be they're lying to you and they walk away I've done that so many times walk away like God man why can I just tell him the truth why the hell can I just tell him the truth you know how good it feels for me now to look at you in your eye a man I see cuz women won't get this women will not get this manto man that man you look in another man in the eye and you know that everything you're saying is real and it comes from a real working

Place something that you earned it's the best feel in the world you can say that actually happened like I know with certainty what I'm saying actually happened actually happened who I am and who I say I am I am no more lies no more skirting the truth no more [ __ ] and that is worth every dime I've ever made in my life CU if you live in the future you're anxious if you live in the past past you're depressed if you live in the now you're happy that's how you do it guys commit to

something you tell everyone about it and no matter what they honk and cheer for you they get behind you instead of being one of those those subjective nature losers in life that beat you down because you're doing better than them and you're reminding them of their failures and here we starts get the mind right the body will follow tell the world get a goal achievable goal and then day by day by day you start to do that goal to make it the reality guys it's not guesswork it's a science of intensity if you don't have

the intensity don't come in when I was like 17 years old and I didn't know what I wanted to do with my life as you guys know I created I created my Twitch account in 2019 um I had one viewer for an entire year that one viewer was my dad imagine when you're older and your grandkid say to you Granddad tell me about what it was like when you were young and you say I didn't really do much to be honest cuz I was worried about what other people would think of me I never took

my shirt off cuz I hated the way I looked I didn't start that business cuz I was scared it might fail just think about how silly that would sound you only get one go around at this thing blink and you'll miss it crack of the whip and then you're gone so make it worth it your story may not have such a happy beginning but that doesn't make you who you are it is the rest of your story who you choose to be and you won't necessarily succeed at everything the first time you try that's okay

some of the most successful people in the world are the ones who've had the most failures JK Rollins who wrote Harry Potter her first Harry Potter book was rejected 12 times before it was finally published Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team he lost hundreds of games and missed thousands of shots during his career but he once said I have failed over and over and over again in my life and that's why I sued Ed these people succeeded because they understood that you can't let your failures Define you you have to let

your failures teach you you have to let them show you what to do differently the next time an easy productivity hack instead of spending time getting in the mood to work just stop working confront the work people think they need perfect conditions to start when in reality starting is the perfect condition you know somebody called me yesterday and asked me a very simple question he said Pat you know what do I do when I just don't feel like showing up to work today what do I do and I said look we've heard the saying before

you know you got to show up what you feel like it or not but I don't think that's enough I don't think that's what the great ones do I think it's even past that you got to raise your standards to a whole different level and I'll tell you what I think it is you not only have to show up you have to show up when you don't feel like it and you have to want to perform and psych yourself out to be in the zone and be confident and excited in the mood and you know

figure out a way to psych yourself out fool yourself into being positive fool yourself into becoming such a high vibration type of an energy where all of a sudden you start to perform and then you start believing you're excited then you completely forgot you were not in the moon and entrepreneurs who do that are the ones who eventually win their own championships of business they win their own emies Oscars World Series Super Bowl whatever you want to call it but you not only have to show up you got to show up at the highest possible

level and gain value as well as bring value to everybody around you show up today and show up with the most incredible energy but most importantly there is something poetic about a 39-year-old man winning new artists of the year I don't know where you're at in your life or what you're going through but I want to tell you to keep going baby I want to tell you success is on the other side of it I want to tell you it's going to be okay I want to tell you that the wind shielded figures in the

rear view mirror for a reason because what's in front of you is so much more important than what's behind [Applause] you ever tried ever failed no matter try again fail again fail better fear is universal I think the only way to approach fear is you got to go right at it you know I read somewhere the best way to fight the demons that chase you in the night is to stop and turn around turn around face them man up the final thing I would encourage you to do is now is the time to take risk

you don't have kids as you get older your obligations increase and once you have a family you start taking risk not just for yourself but for your family as well it gets much harder to uh do things that might not work out um so now is the time to do that before you before you have those obligations so I would I would encourage you to take risks now do something bold um you won't regret it thank you my life used to be consumed by anxiety and fear and now it is not and if you think

that change happened in one day you'd be kidding yourself matter of fact there was never a day over all these years where I felt like anything changed at all so if you're in a bad place in your life any entitlement to a quick fix needs to disappear right now expect to work with no reward if you're overweight you need to exercise and eat healthy consistently all while looking exactly the same for a while and if you're depressed you need to treat yourself like absolute gold while you still feel empty inside that said don't B on

when but I promise you every bit of the work you put in will pay off more than you could understand you think when you're young that you have all this time you have no time there's there there's no time I mean one of the one of the quotes on the wall in the gym in there is um you know there is no tomorrow from Rocky 3 you know there is no tomorrow that [ __ ] let's get all this done today the message really for any Young tennis player around the world who is watching this

now and dreaming to be uh dream big Dare To Dream because everything is possible don't let anybody take away the dream doesn't matter where you're coming from um I actually think that the more disadvantaged childhood you have uh the more difficulties and more challenges you have the stronger you become so don't really let anybody take away that dream from you uh nurture it water it like you water the flowers even if you find only one person in this world that will accept Embrace and support your dreams find that person and dream big because you can

make it how much more do you want from me more how much more successful do you want me to be more successful how many records can my records break more records but are you a different animal and the same Beast control freak is a word people with low standards use to describe people with high standards you're not a control freak you just want it done right the first time you're not anxious you care do not expect mediocre people to support worldclass goals and depression is your body saying you I don't want to be this character

anymore I don't want to hold up this this Avatar that you've created in the world it's too much for me disgust is a negative emotion but it can have a very positive powerful effect disgust says I've had it what an important day that could be being concerned about being seen as someone who has two high standards is something that for quite a while I felt ashamed about yeah because you feel like a bother you feel like you're being unnecessarily it's not even detail or oriented it's picky and I realized probably last year it took me

until last year to realize that not succumbing to stopping doing that is probably one of the only reasons why I've had any success so for anyone who's listening if you have that I I would considered a gift um it makes sense for the majority of people to be opposed to that because you do make more work for everyone else people have to get involved but there still needs to be one vision and otherwise it looks like a Frankenstein where everyone just Che a box of something they did in the past they just copy and paste

it over and then it doesn't resonate with anyone because again they just did it for everyone rather than for the artist this is the most important number one in your life's blueprint should be a deep belief in your own dignity your own worth and your own somebody don't allow anybody to make you feel that you are no nobody always feel that you count always feel that you have worth and always feel that your life has ultimate significance secondly in your life's blueprint you must have as a basic principle the determination to achieve excellence in your

various fields of endeavor you're going to be deciding as the days and the years unfold what you will do in life what your life's work will be once you discover what it will be set out to do it and to do it well be a bush if you can't be a tree if you can't be a highway just be a trail if you can't be the Sun be a star but isn't by signs that you win or you fail be the best of whatever you are finally in your life blueprint must be a commitment to

the eternal principles of beauty love and Justice well life for men of us has been a crystal stale but we must keep moving we must keep going if you can't fly run if you can't run walk if you can't walk crawl but by all means keep moving play it out what if you just never do anything is like maybe some people just need to stop dreaming maybe they need to accept their current reality and actually enjoy it because there's a lot of people in their 70 and 80 and they didn't do their dreams and if

they went back like they didn't do anything but that whole time they were dissatisfied because they didn't try but what if they were just like I have a good life I have a wife who loves me I've got some kids I have a job that I you know like I don't mind it pay the bills I mean if you go back 500 years it wasn't people like man this is my passion he's like dude I'm just rowing rowing a boat across a ferry and that's what I do and that's what my dad did in his

de did like this is how we eat and so like we have these these um idealized versions of purpose that I think Instagram and all this stuff kind of make terrible but like I think there's a lot of Honor in work period And I think a lot of people uh fool themselves by thinking that what they do for some reason is not honorable right after you were injured you went on Facebook this is such BS all the training and sacrifice just flew out the window with one step that I've done millions of times the frustration

is unbearable the anger is Rage why the hell did this happen happened makes no damn sense now I'm supposed to come back from this and be the same player or better at 35 how in the world am I supposed to do that I have no clue do I have the consistent will to overcome this thing maybe I should break out the rocking chair and reminisce on the career that was maybe this is how my book ends maybe father time has defeated me then again maybe not it's 3:30 a.m. my foot feels like dead weight my

head is spinning from the pain meds and I'm Wide Awake the real perspective sets in there are far greater issues and challenges in the world than a torn Achilles stop feeling sorry for yourself find the silver lining and get to work with the same belief same drive and same conviction as ever one day the beginning of a new career Journey will commence today is not that day if you see me in a fight with a bear pray for the bear I've always loved that quote that's Mamba mentality we don't quit we don't cower we don't

run the more I listen to this the better my life gets if they don't have what you want don't listen to what they say there's no greater waste of time than justifying your actions to people who have a life you don't want they two kinds of pain in this [Music] world pain that hurts pain and Alters the most important thing is how you turn your plans into action how you turn your intention into action this idea that we judge oursel by our intentions but the rest of the world judges Us by action but it's so

easy for us as human beings to see our intent and stay only in intent I intend to call my father but I don't pick up the phone I intend to be a good father but I don't spend time and we judge ourselves by Our intention but the way we actually make a difference in the world is with action and the challenge for you with this video the thought is how do you turn your intentions into actions that really make a difference and I never ran from anything cuz I had nobody to go to I've always

had that where I'm going home to get me ain't nobody there right right you know what I'm saying like so it's I've always been a situation where I'm forced to deal with it myself so what would you tell yourself at 21 I would said just persevere and actually your believe your instincts mhm Instinct Instinct Instinct over intellect always Instinct just because you can rationalize it doesn't mean it's right if you feel it then it's right that's what I really strongly believe so I would have told my 21y old s that they let a loser win

tonight baby this is for The Underdogs baby this is for the losers in the have kns God takes the impossible and makes it look small it may have looked like it was only 30 yards but it took me 39 years to walk from over there to right here and I want you to know that I don't know what you're going through and I don't know what you've been through but I know you can over comeing I promise you you can I told him I wanted to be a country music singer and I'm standing here at

the CM Awards with the male video of the Year baby you wake up right to work immediate your mind is in action no one wants to do that no one and I don't blame them but don't be mad when you're laying there in your bed and you're in the hospital and you're 70 80 90 years old you're thinking yeah I feel like I didn't do something cuz you did you didn't do it you didn't do sh you may lived a great life man but you're always going to feel empty inside I don't feel empty so

call me what you want there's there's not one empty bone in my [ __ ] body because I have figured out that really the magic potion at least to my life and it's very rewarding whatever you're doing in your lives we're all going to die one day so don't get too caught up in the bull in the hype live your life while you're here cuz you never know what's going to like around you got heart attacks disease Wars like life can just hit you like that a try and Andy every day that's what I'm trying

to say don't get too caught up in the [ __ ] I'll say this again but like sometimes you have to let other people's dreams for your life die for yours to live and for me it was like when I when I continued to every day not want to wake up that was my wakeup call where I was like either I continue to live this way and not want to be alive or I just risk the fact that I'll die to everybody else and I think that that like it was the hardest decision in my

entire life by far all the all the hard stuff we went through still the hardest decision in my life your imagination guys is a preview of your life's coming attractions for me man I'm really attracted to see that preview I can't wait for what's about to come I look forward to it I'm not fearful of it cuz I'm paying my dues now to open that present of Life later that's the reward I'm putting the work now and make sure while I unwrap that something that put a smile on my face song in my heart it's

worth all this Sweat Equity all the failures in life all the short successes everything that's added up to create those moments don't be scared to fail I know it sucks at times but we all do it it's far better guys have gone and failed and never tried to succeed never put any effort out there to want to further yourselves that's a failed life when you don't try to succeed when you go after something and you fail you just fail an opportunity a moment life's made up of many of them ones that never try succeed that's

a failed life ain't no good man sometimes you got to take that leap of faith you know H hesitant sitting there with Reserve feelings anxieties and you're um hes to take that leap and you're standing right there on the edge and you're like I don't know if I should go and your body say no and everything else you know stop don't make that leap then because who's about to jump is not all of you that jump of life is too hard guys take a step back get your wits about you your confidence so when you

do take that leap that step back allows you to launch yourself over because you're launching with 110% of your belief behind you you always land on Solid Ground that way but if you miss your mark and you fall I promise you when your way down that safety n of life will appear you figure it out along the way this workout is about taking those adversities in life you know seeing the glass half full not half empty the shortcomings that everyone complains about and uses excuses while they haven't achieved something you use as an opportunity of

greatness to override some third parties of different nature environments or weather conditions and say true to the path that's literally learning how to dance in the rain and not waiting for the storm to pass mhm I'm proud of you you know that I hope you do I'm proud of you cuz I know how hard it is to take care of ourselves most people set goals to do what they think they can do there's no inspiration in it that's why 90% of them set a Target and they quit they set a Target and quit when you're

going after your heart's desire you don't quit if you're struggling if you're frustrated with yourself if you're at that point where you're so sick of yourself and your excuses I've been there Steven's been there this is a normal part of the human experience and at some point either the pain is going to get big enough or you're going to bump into somebody's story somewhere on this planet who has been in the position that you're in right now facing the stuff that you're facing right now and there is something about their story at this exact moment

in time that will ignite something in you that is missing and what is missing in you right now is Hope because when you're stuck and when you are on a Down Road spiral whether it's just in your own head or it's in self-destructive Behavior the thing that's missing in your life is hope you don't believe right now that anything is going to make a difference and so until you get to the point where you just hate what you're doing so much that it's worth trying or you have somebody crack open a door and just a

little light comes in and you have this moment where you go well what if what if this is the time sobriety sticks what if if I go to therapy and I actually do change the way that I think what if I could recover from this narcissistic abuse that I've you know been kind of struggling with after that relationship or that marriage what if I could get out of debt if that person did it maybe I could do it and without either hope or that kind of rock bottom moment I don't think you're going to change

so have dreams but have goals life goals yearly goals monthly goals daily goals I try to give myself a goal every day and understand that to achieve these goals you must apply discipline and consistency in order to achieve your goals you must apply discipline what you have already done and consistency every day not just on Tuesday and miss a few days you have to work at it every day you have to plan every day you've heard the saying we don't plan to fail we fail to plan hard work Works don't confuse movement with progress could

you still create happiness and success all over again if your foundation and principles are extremely strong no matter what Endeavor it is you look at the most successful people in business and everything else they've gone to do multiple things that have allowed them to create different levels of happiness within that confined Circle you know Michael had basketball then he had had the shoe brand now he's got other endeavors he's involved in you know a lot of philanthropy things the competitive nature do doesn't stop and everybody thinks you can only be happy with one one certain

aspect in your life you can create happiness and multiple things in your life and if it gets to the point where it is burning it is burning you out that means it's time for that you are no longer obsessed with that thing anymore and it's time for you to become obsessed with something else and so I just asked him a couple questions I was like who here before pledging started was like I want to be a part of this house the guys were like yeah me okay like okay got it who here thought it was

going to be easy like who here thought it would be hard they raised their hands I'm like guys this is what hard feels like and all of a sudden there's just like this big exhale in the room and they're like expectations get reset this is normal you wanted this thing you expected it to be hard reality now matches conditions sorry expectations now match conditions this is what heart feels like and then all of a sudden it's like they got permission to feel shitty and by getting permission to feel shitty they stop feeling as shitty cuz

they're like this is just my new world and so then you know you're like listen you give 8 weeks you're going to get 3 and A2 years other people going to are going to drive you around late at night other people going to clean after you like it's a good investment right and that it was a good deal like you give one one semester and you get the rest of them to just do whatever you want um but that concept like that quote on both of those came from that experience of having someone tell me

this is what heart feels like we all have opportunities that we've missed times that we failed we had something important given us a dream a great spouse to love the door opened for college but we let distractions and compromise and other people cause us to get off course we look back now and think what could I have become if I'd been more disciplined if I controlled my temper if IID just finished school if I'd have forgiven that person it's easy to live in regrets and think our life is limited because of our past choices we

knew better if we had only done better fail big that's right fail big today is the beginning of the rest of your life life and it can be can be very frightening it's a new world out there it's a mean world out there and you only live once so do what you feel passionate about passionate about take chances the only way to do it was to go outside the box so don't be afraid to go outside the box don't be afraid to think outside the box don't be afraid to fail big to dream big but

remember dreams without goals are just dreams you know that saying that in life it's either one day or it's day one what if you made today day one that's the difference between you thinking about something and you actually getting started in doing it so whether it's a new healthy habit or it's you wanting to stop something make today day one do the thing stop sitting around waiting for the motivation to strike or the courage to come one day 54321 just get yourself off your rear end and make today day one I promise you you will

be so proud of yourself when you get out of bed or you want to get out of bed there's all these individuals that are lined up next to that bed there's fear there's doubt there's compassion there's hatred there's Excellence there's soreness there's excuses and they all have their hands out and then you get to choose every single day who gets a vote is that we hear from people around the world that write about one segment in particular and let me play that segment for you because it sets up the conversation for today and it's this

concept of parenting yourself when you become 18 nobody tells you that it's now going to be your job to parent yourself and by parent yourself I mean it's your job to make yourself do the crap you don't want to do so you can be everything that you're supposed to be and you're so damn busy waiting to feel like it and you're never going to you're always going to need to push yourself you're always going to need to parent yourself so what is the net advice on this what what is the bottom line the bottom line

is no one's coming no one no one's coming to push you no one's coming to tell you to turn the TV off no one's coming to tell you to get out the door an exercise nobody's coming to tell you to apply for that job that you've always dreamt about nobody's coming to write the business plan for you it's up to you and because you're only ever going to do the things that you feel like doing right now or that feel good right now unless you understand that you've got to parent yourself you got to push

yourself you're not going to make your dreams come true you're just not we're not wired that way you you weren't born that way you weren't that way when you were growing up and you're certainly not that way as an adult and there's a tremendous amount of Liberation that comes when you accept the fact that you're always going to need to give yourself a push I always say if you don't risk anything you risk everything so everything you want on your life is the other side of fear if you run away from Fear you're running away

from everything you want in your life but it feels comfortable to do so if you run towards fear like a rhino charging it's going to be hard and painful in the moment but everything you want is on the other side of fear and facing fear is taking risk so if you don't risk anything you risk everything it breaks my heart that most people don't understand if they were to look back at their life most of the beautiful experience of their life came after something painful and so I would just recommend anybody if you're going through

it right now my prayer for you is that you have the wisdom to know it's temporary this soon will pass this two will pass but on the other side of it there's a gift waiting for you if you look for it next time you have a bout of adversity next time you're facing the hardest problem that you've ever faced in your life you have to realize this with your selft talk and your actions during times of adversity you guys are building your strengths and your weaknesses so whoever you just want to be on the other

end of this problem this is who you're going to become if you're going through a divorce if something happened to a loved one whatever you can't sit there and if literally you stay strong you have gratitude you keep working you're like hey it was good that I had that time when it lasted like it was cool to even be loved some people never have been I'm going to kill it in life I'm going to crush this workout I'm going to kill the day I'm going to prepare myself better for the next person if you with

your thoughts and your actions during times of adversity that's how you reshape your identity people don't move on things they don't take action they don't want to move forward because they're afraid of the unknown so they're already creating issues and problems that don't exist in their mind they're already like oh this is not going to work out this is not going to be right all this other stuff so I'm just not I'm just not going to do it you know people love to talk about hey you know knowledge is power okay knowledge is power it's

only powerful if you put some action behind it yeah you can sit here and talk about hey I'm going to do this great p uh this great podcast dropping bombs and going do a well if you didn't put any action behind it there wouldn't be any wouldn't be any okay so you have all this knowledge but the power comes from actually in the execution actually taking the movement how many times do you see this in in athletes or so or entertainers and so forth they're great practice players they're great practice players but when they when

it's time for them to perform in front of millions of individuals they freeze up what was the biggest lie you were told it's not that simple why not no that's the biggest lie I was ever told it's not that [Music] simple and it's a lie they tell you over and over again what's not simple any of bit all of it it's how they get you to give up they say it's not that symbol any so what's the truth that is