Ex-Wife Who Cheated & Abandoned Our Family Years Ago Shows Up At My Door With Another Man's Kid...

ex-wife who cheated and abandoned our family years ago shows up at my door with another man's kid wanting to be a family again I slammed the door in her face some context here my ex-wife Angela 36 and I 37 male had met when we were in our mid-20s when I was around 24 we were working at the same firm and that's how we met after being in a relationship for 2 years we got married and within 3 years of our marriage we had two daughters now 9 and 7 years old the second pregnancy was unexpected

and she wasn't happy about it but she didn't terminate it even though I had told her that it would be okay with me if she did since I didn't want to put her through anything that she didn't want after our first daughter things were still great between us and we were as in love as we could be but that changed after the second pregnancy she became really moody and irritable and constantly picked on me or our eldest but I just figured that this was because of all the hormones and stuff and tried to make my

peace with this new version of Angela we thought that this would change after a while but things just got progressively worse than my daughter and I learned to walk on eggshells around her I was taking care of everything even though she was supposed to be a stay-at-home mom she had quit her job of her own valtion after our first kid and did all the work around the house along with taking care of our eldest while I worked until she got pregnant for a second time we had to hire a housekeeper while she was pregnant because

she said that she was too tired to do the work around the house along with looking after our kids I agreed even though it was slightly out of our budget since I wasn't earning enough at the time I agreed to hire a housekeeper because I didn't want to inconvenience Angela especially while she was pregnant I assumed that she would return to looking after the house and kids during the day after our second daughter was born also let me just make it clear that I wasn't one of those husbands who didn't do anything around the house

after coming back from work I did whatever I could to help out even though I used to be exhausted from working after she gave birth to our younger daughter I thought that she would take a few months but then she would bounce back and we could go back to our normal lives but several months passed and she showed no signs of changing she remained just as cranky and irritable and refused to do any work around the house she would just sit at home all day and watch television she didn't even play with the kids or

anything and would pay our neighbor to take them out to the park occasionally I don't mean to sound resentful but I did feel that way because I was slogging at work day and night and she wouldn't even do the bare minimum at home it was also proving quite expensive for me to pay for a housekeeper to do all the cooking cleaning and other miscellaneous household chores I had to take care of all the other expenses as well and I wanted to save money for our daughter's future too that was becoming almost impossible because Angela refused

to help me out in any way so after almost 6 months since our younger daughter's birth I decided that we couldn't go on like this and I had to talk to Angela I knew that this was going to be a difficult discussion so I asked my parents to watch our daughters for one day and they agreed that day I sat Angela down and I told her that I knew she was tired after two pregnancies but I needed her to help me out here and work with me I explained to her that having a housekeeper was

becoming too expensive for us and I needed her to honor her word and go back to doing at least some of the household chores so we could renegotiate and lower the housekeeper salary and save some money she was opposed to the idea and said no to it instantly because she said that she was too busy watching the kids do any of the work around the house and that I should start earning more instead of making up up excuses and blaming her for my financial condition I tried to tell her that I was doing my best

already but she had to do her best as well if we wanted to make this marriage work I also brought up how she wasn't really looking after the kids because as far as I knew she would just let them watch television with her and they would sit with her for hours while she watched tacky reality TV this is what the housekeeper had once mentioned to me conversationally I soon realized that bringing that up was a huge mistake because she flared up and accused me of spying on her through the housekeeper she went on a tiate

against me after that and said that she was not going to stand this anymore that she was done being pushed around by me and being forced to do all the work while I did nothing except sit at a desk for a few hours every day she then told me that this was my fault that I couldn't afford to have a housekeeper and that it was a shame that I had to beg her to help me out since I was supposed to be the man of the house it was all really illogical and she was just

grasping its straws to somehow make it seem like there was nothing wrong with her not doing anything all day and I was the crazy one for expecting her to actually contribute and pull her weight around the house we ended up getting into a massive fight and she called me a loser who couldn't afford to be with a woman like her anyway and I retaliated by calling her a lazy cow who had already failed at being a good mother given how scared our eldest daughter was of her and now she was failing at being a wife

as well that remark really got to her and she shoved me really hard I lost my balance and fell back on the coffee table very hard shattering the glass and hurting myself I had to be rushed to the ER and she kept apologizing to me and crying throughout luckily it was just my back that was hurt and it was all just surface level injuries but I could have seriously hurt myself and I didn't trust Angela anymore I told her that she had to move out because I didn't trust her around kids since there was no

telling when she might lose her temper around them and end up hurting them as well I told my parents to take care of our daughters until Angela was there and for a week she kept protesting and said that she would never let this happen again but I just didn't trust her anymore I almost filed for a divorce but she begged me to give her a chance and by the end of the week we had come to the conclusion that she was going to go live with her parents for some time and undergo therapy only when

she had been given a clean chip by a medical professional would I allow her to move back in with us there was obviously something very wrong with her because happy people don't act that way but she was willing to work on it and get better I also didn't want my daughters to grow up without their mother so I agreed not to get divorced just then and give our marriage a second shot we were also getting marriage counseling while we were living separately but eventually it all turned out to be useless because she ended up cheating

on me my parents had moved in with me to help out with my daughters while Angela was living with her parents we went to marriage counseling sessions weekly and things seemed to be getting better for a while I was also in touch with her therapist who told me that she had been suffering from postpartum depression but she was getting better one of her symptoms had been in anger issues which she didn't have before but it got way out of control when she shoved me and that was a wake-up call for both of us this went

on for almost a year and around the six-month Mark I even allowed her to visit our daughters under my supervision she was slowly becoming her old self again and I was glad to see that it finally felt like our situation was improving and we could actually make it work but then all of a sudden she stopped coming to our counseling sessions without any explanation she also stopped responding to me but I knew that she was making progress since her therapist kept me updated it didn't make sense to me and for weeks I kept trying to

talk to her but she would just blow me off and say that she wanted some time to herself finally after almost 3 months of her avoiding me I decided to pay her a visit to her parents place I hadn't done that earlier because her parents didn't like me and blamed me because they believed that I was the one who had driven their daughter crazy and made her act out like that so she had told me that it would be better if I didn't visit her while she was living with them since that would just lead

to a lot of drama and that's definitely the last thing that we needed but I broke that rule and visited them anyway since she had been acting distant and blowing off counseling sessions even when she would show up occasionally she would seem uninterested and I just couldn't make sense of it when I tried to talk to her in person on the phone or even on text she would tell me that it was all fine but I could make out from her behavior that there was certainly something that she was hiding from me the day that

I showed up at her parents house I expected her to be at home but she wasn't there when I asked her parents where she was they told me that they weren't allowed to tell me and slam the door shut on my face I could tell that they were enjoying this and I had a bad feeling about it so I decided to call Angela while standing in front of her parents house I tried calling her several times but she didn't pick up and I was getting more and more Paranoid by the second so I decided to

sneak around the house and somehow get inside by myself I went around to the backyard because I knew that her parents usually kept the kitchen door open but I didn't even need to go that far because I spotted Angela Sitting on the swing that her parents had in their backyard the bad news was that she was sitting with her back to me because he was making out with a man that I didn't recognize it's been a long time since I saw them but it's imprinted in my brain because it was the most horrible moment of

my life and I haven't been able to forget it even today the guy that she was making making out with Drew back as soon as he saw me and by the time Angela turned around I had already started walking back to my car she caught up with me and tried to stop me but I wasn't hearing anything that she was saying because I was in shock she tried to grab me but I shook her off and told her not to touch me so she didn't and I went back to my car and started driving back

home I blocked her everywhere as soon as I got home so she wouldn't have a chance to explain and told my parents that I wanted them to look for a lawyer for me and informed them of what I had just witnessed when I visited Angela's parents house I didn't see her or hear from her until we had to meet with the court appointed mediator for our divorce settlement I had pretty much turned into a robot by that point and was just functioning for the sake of my daughters but I had completely shut down emotionally I

didn't feel anything even when I found out that Angela was terminating her parental rights because she had made up her mind that she didn't want to be with us anymore that she wanted to be with the guy let's call him Shawn that I saw her with the other day he was her childhood friend and while they had Grown Apart After High School ended they had reconnected when she moved back in with her parents and she had apparently fallen in love with him her parents also supported this which is probably why they had been right about

her making out with him in their backyard despite being a married woman with two kids apparently they had always wanted her to end up with Shawn and they were happy that Angela was finally choosing herself and her own happiness as if she had ever been capable of doing anything other than that the divorce was a long process because even though she had been cheating on me she still wanted to qualify for alimony it took us a while but my lawyer and I fought hard and made sure that she didn't get anything in the divorce because

it was all rightfully mine since I had been the one paying for everything for so long while she did nothing but watched television at home it has been 5 years since the the divorce finally came through and we succeeded in our goal to make sure that she walked away with nothing the months in which I was dealing with the divorce were some of the hardest times for me but I knew that I couldn't break because I had to look after my daughter since they had nobody except for me my parents were obviously really helpful and

supportive and I can't ever thank them enough for being there for me throughout while I juggle work and taking care of my kids it has been 5 years since and even though back then the divorce seemed like the worst thing that could possibly happened to me I'm thankful for it now because I don't think I would have been in the place that I am today had it not been for my decision to leave Angela life has really treated me well since then and I'm in a much much better place now in every respect we have

since moved into a bigger house because I get paid better now and I don't have to spend money on anyone apart from myself and my daughters my parents live close by and drop in from time to time as well I have friends who love me and my daughters are as happy as can be that's all that a man needs and I'm so thankful to the universe that it's all going well for me now or it was until Angela showed up again a few days ago the kids were at school and I was just about to

leave for work when I opened the door the doorbell rang and Ang was standing outside with a boy beside her the boy couldn't have been older than 3 or 4 years old and I knew that this had to be Angela's son I was taken by surprise when I saw her standing outside my door and was still trying to process it when she started crying and said that she was here to apologize and make things right with me she told me that she was finally ready to be a family again and give our marriage another chance

I couldn't believe that she was back here after all these years and now she wanted to give our marriage another chance like it was up to her to make that decision within a split second I made up my mind and decided to shut the door and turned her away because I didn't want to get into whatever this was but before that I told her that this was not her family anymore I had stopped being her husband the day she cheated on me with Shawn the divorce was just a legal obligation and she herself had given

up custody of her daughter so now she had no right to refer to us as her family after I said that I shut the door and told her to go away because I didn't want her anywhere near my property I would have cursed her out as well because I was really angry but I refrained from doing it because of the little boy I could hear her wailing outside my door for a couple of minutes after I shut out but I decided to ignore it and once I made sure that the coast was clear I went

off to work I tried really hard not to think about it because that would just weaken my resolve and I couldn't afford to let that happen I almost succeeded in forgetting that Angela had even showed up at my house but as soon as I came back home from work I received a call from my parents demanding an explanation as to why I had turned her away they told me that Angela had contacted them after I turned her away and shut the door on her face and she had been devastated my parents said that they were

the ones who had given her my new address and told me to visit me since she was in the process of getting divorced from Shawn and finally had a chance to make things right with me they told me that Angela had reached out to them about a month ago and this had been in the works for quite some time my parents believed that it was about time that I thought about my kids because my daughters needed a mother and there was no better mother than Angela so they decided that she deserved another chance and told

her where to find me and what to say to me I got really mad at them because it was not their place to forgive her and decided to give her another chance without even asking me if I would be okay with that it could have been really bad if the kids had been at home and it was really Reckless of them to pull something like this so I told them off but they refused to acknowledge that they had made a mistake because they had helped me during my divorce by taking care of the kids and

even now occasionally they do look after the kids and they believe that whether or not I wanted to patch up with Angela was up to me that they had an equal right to decide what was best for the kids and I couldn't take that away from them I thought it was ridiculous of them to believe that because at the end of the day they were my daughters and not theirs and while I respected them and would always be thankful for what they did for me during my divorce I don't think it was their place to

let Angela back into my life again we got into a bit of a fight but they told me that I was the one who was out of line here and was being selfish by not giving Angela another chance they told me that they had done their due diligence and were sure that she was a different woman now and deserved to be a part of my daughter's lives even when I reminded them that she had signed her rights away they said that it was insulting that I believed they would put my daughters or Me In Harm's

Way and accused me of ruining their lives by being too arrogant to accept that they needed their mother it's been a few days now and I don't think I was out of line or selfish because I've thought about this a lot Ida for not giving my ex-wife a second chance at being a mother update one about a week has passed since Angela showed up at my door with her son and recently I found out the truth about her relationship with my parents it's honestly so disturbing that I don't even know where to begin and I'm

still struggling to process it myself it's mindboggling how all of them have betrayed me without batting an eye apparently not only were they the ones who had told her my new address but they had been in touch with her all along I had cut her out of my life after the divorce but they hadn't because they believed that she would come around at some point they wouldn't talk much only once a month maybe but that was enough for me to feel betrayed Sha had made Angela sign away her rights after she was sold with the

divorce papers and had given her an ultimatum to either abandon her family and make a new life with him or she could keep in touch with her kids and fight for their custody but that would mean that she would have to leave him behind it had been a difficult choice for her to make according to my parents but she ended up going with Shawn to make a new family with him instead of sticking with the family that she already had my parents said that Angela had contacted them shortly after I filed for divorce to tell

them about her situation and ask them to help her because she wanted to still stay in contact with her kids privately she had told them that she had been backed into a corner by both of us in either way she wouldn't be able to see her kids because I had been fighting for full custody with supervised visitation rights while Shawn had instructed her to abandon her kids altogether even if she did fight for custody and went against Shawn the chances of her getting partial custody were slim given the circumstances of our divorce also her history

of having issues controlling her temper so fighting for custody seemed like a waste of her time and resources there was a very real chance that she could lose both Shawn and custody of our daughters in the end if she decided to fight and that's before my parents came in she met them in private and practically begged them to let her stay in touch with her daughters and help her out by acting as the bridge between them she was aware that once she signed her rights away she would not have any visiting rights let alone supervision

but my parents would and they planned on exploiting that they successfully did so and fooled me for ages by going behind my back to allow Angela to meet our daughters and they did so because Angela's situation struck a chord with them and they realized that they couldn't in good conscience keep a mother apart from her kids stabbing their own son in the back for years however didn't hurt their conscience one bit they told me that whenever I would drop our kids off at their house they would invite Angela over and let her spend time with

them my kids never told me that they were meeting their mom because my parents would bribe them with toys and candy so they would keep their mouth shut about this anytime I would ask them about what they had done at their grandparents house my daughters would tell me that they played games with my grandparents and their friend I always assumed that they must be talking about my parents actual friends whom I already knew but apparently that's what my parents had told my daughters to refer to their mother in case I asked them about their day

I couldn't believe that my daughters had been lying to me as well but I forgave them because they're just kids and also because Angela and my parents had really manipulated and intimidated them into keeping quiet after I learned the truth from my parents when I asked my daughters if they had been meeting their mother behind my back they started crying and told me that they couldn't tell me because they would be punished by God if they did so Angela and my parents must have really drilled it into their heads that there would be dire consequences

if they told me the truth and that's why they had been so secretive and vague all along I also felt like a terrible father for never asking my daughters which friends of my parents they were spending time with because it just as easily could have been someone else someone more dangerous than Angela and I never would have found out but I'm going to put an end to it now since I'm getting a restraining order against all of them I already have written proof of this since my parents sent an email to me to tell me

the truth a couple of days after my fight with them they had believed that the email was going to make me realize how desperate Angela was to remain a mother to her daughters without losing the alleged love of her life and that would somehow make me forgive everyone involved but all that it did was make me realize that everyone here was a nasty little liar and I couldn't trust anybody anymore it's also ironic how Angela signed away her parental rights and had to resort to meeting our kids in secret like it was a crime all

because Shawn didn't want her to have any contact with her previous family and he was supposed to be her one true love but now even they were getting divorced and all that turned out to be for nothing they even had a son together but according to my parents Shawn wanted nothing to do with her or his kid now because he had received a job offer and was moving away in a couple of months Angela had started working again recently and their son had started kindergarten here so she didn't want to move with him which is

why they had been fighting for a long time it had finally all come to a head 3 months ago when Shawn told her that he was done and he was taking that job and moving out he didn't have any interest in being a family man anymore because it clearly meant that he would have to sacrifice his own future and happiness just to make her happy and he wasn't ready to do that this was all meant to make me feel sorry for Angela but the only purpose that it served was making me feel like justice had

finally been served I have already spoken to my lawyer and the petition for the restraining orders has been filed my daughters and I have also had a proper discussion about all of this and I have told them that moving forward they will never be seeing their grandparents or their mother again and they seem to be okay with it for now but we are still going to go to therapy and try to work things out because I'm sure that this is going to be difficult for them and probably has been quite difficult for them for the

past 5 years but this all ends now update 2 hey guys thank you so much for all the concern and support here I'm really grateful that so many people have been sending lovely messages and blessings to my daughters my parents and Angela have been served with restraining orders and are supposed to appear in court in a few days I don't know how they feel about any of this because I have blocked them on every possible platform and I've also told my friends not to speak to them in case they contact them I have also amped

up the security around my house and have been working from home for a couple of days I had spoken to my daughter's school authorities and told them about the situation two initially I didn't intend on letting them go to school for a few days but I didn't want their education to suffer because of Angel and my parents so now teachers are supposed to keep an eye on them and not let anyone apart from me pick them up after school I'm doing everything in my power to make sure that they can't get to us because I'm

sure that will try so far it's been good and I'm hoping that after we get that restraining order they still continue to stay away update three hi so this is going to be a really short update but we got that restraining order and for the next 5 years all three of those Maniacs are going to have to keep their distance from me and my daughters unless they want to face terrible consequences obviously I'm still keeping all the security measures that I took in place for a while because the last I saw them they looked really

pissed and I don't want to risk anything my daughters and I are attending regular family counseling sessions and I think that we are going to make a lot of progress in the coming few months we have already made considerable progress honestly all I want now is for my daughters to be happy and that's it so please keep sending us your best wishes we need it