if you want an extraordinary life you can't live like an ordinary person Matt grahamon said the people that criticize you for being exceptional are those that have already accepted the fact that they're going to be mediocre a YouTuber with a million subscribers will never make fun of you for trying to start your YouTube channel because they know what it's like to post their first video a black belt in Jiu Jitsu is not going to make fun of you for struggling as a white belt because they too at some point were a struggling white belt a
millionaire is not going to make fun of you for trying to start a business because they too had to try to start a business only the people that are too scared to do what you're trying to do are the ones that are going to be make fun of you only the people that always be nobody and always be nothing are going to criticize you for trying to be exceptional because they don't want you to hold the mirror up to them they want you to be nobody and nothing right along with them since childhood I've always
had this desire for constant Improvement not everyone enjoys the process of getting better and that's okay some people may even argue that constantly striving for greatness isn't the way to live but for those who embrace the pain who believe that all good things lie Beyond The Struggle the journey becomes magical they live in a society where taking care of your body mind and soul is considered boring working non-stop toward your goal is labeled unhealthy giving your absolute best is deemed toxic but what if he could flip the script what it takes to be more successful
than 99 of people and why being ordinary is the enemy of progress how can we excel in every aspect of our life hard work alone won't make you successful going to the gym every day reading hundreds of books attending seminars or taking countless online courses won't guarantee success either what will make you successful is implementing the lessons you've learned from your experiences in the areas you want to Excel for example going to the gym isn't about getting fit it's about cultivating this and building confidence each time you look into mirror and then you take this
discipline and the confidence in your work ethic if you want to be in the top one percent hard work won't be enough to set you apart everyone in that tier is working hard displaying grit and preservance so what will make you different from the rest it's the combination of your unfair advantages hard work grit patience and consistency an unfair Advantage is a condition asset or circumstance that puts you in a favorable position we all have unfair advantages like where we were born who we know and what resources we have it's not about denying these advantages
it's using them to your benefit to find where you want to be ahead of 99 of people because there are so many areas pay attention to your jealousy instead of seeing it as a negative emotion use it as a life Compass to guide you toward areas where you want to truly Excel the world is inherently unfair and it will always will be the game will never be equal but the choice is yours either learn the rules play accordingly and then or complain about the rules loose winning is never easy but with the right mindset and
strategy you can rise about the mediocracy and live an extraordinary life Step 1 take full responsibility for your life the world is extremely unfair and always will be but if you will keep focusing on the unfairness of the world and do nothing your kids the generation after you will also suffer instead of focusing on the things you can't control shift your attention to the things you can control life is full of choices and every choice we make shapes our future if you want to create an extraordinary life you need to take full responsibility for your
actions and decisions stop blaming external factors for your shortcomings and start owning up to your mistakes I hear people saying but I'm this but I'm in that situation I can't do this blah blah blah you don't need to follow someone's path there is always something to do there is always a way to improve and Rogue you and the person Aspire have different start points it's not going to be easy if it were a life or death scenario and you had no other choice but to succeed you would succeed but you have a way out you
have a backup plan you have already envisioned the scenario where you fail and that's why you will because if you have a way out you're going to take that as soon as things get hard when I started this channel it was my fifth attempt in five years to succeed I took a break from med school due to covet and fully concentrate on my YouTube channel I was in a scenario where I had no choice but to succeed as every day I imagined my friends going to med school getting it out of me in life and
then when my channel started to grow and everything seemed fine I got softer my disciplines started to fall off but when my uncle scammed us into all of our savings my dad's jobs and our money that we saved for our life I was again put in a situation where I had no choice but to grow my channel make money and and protect my family I lost all procrastination and started to work harder and harder for the first time in my life I saw my family cry and I promised myself that I would never let them
down never make them cry other than happiness after that event my YouTube channel skyrocketed my Revenue tripled I got into the school I wanted and I started to take care of my body and my mind I was put in a situation where there was no way out and that's when I thrived every single day when I want to quit I remind myself the promise I gave myself to protect my family and that's what makes me keep going achieving something worthwhile is never easy if it were no one would fantasize about it you can't get rich
by accident or get in shape by accident similarly you can't build long-lasting healthy relationship with others by accident you won't become healthy by doing nothing every goal you desire or Aspire requires action and no matter how long you pursue it it will never become easy you will only become stronger Step 2 identify your unfair advantages in life we often compare ourselves to others and feel down because of differences in our upbringings education or financial status however instead of dwelling on these differences we should focus on discovering our own unfair advantages and using them to our
benefit we all have unique strengths that can be easily copied or bought and it's important to recognize and leverage them to identify our unfair advantages we need to understand the miles framework from the book unfair advantages this categorizes unfair advantages into five main categories money intelligence location education and Status before talking about the each category let's first understand the properties of unfair advantages the first property is that we all have it even the negative things can become your unfair Advantage if you're coming from a poor family you're more likely to be ambitious than the kids
coming from Rich families because you have hunger towards things that they already naturally have you'll probably appreciate small things because you know where you're coming from but as a rich kid you have resources opportunities and safety net provided from your family but I've seen so many Rich Kids wanting to do nothing because they have everything they don't want anything rich kid with a hunger is quite rare and when they have that hunger they become one of the top leaders most of the time Rich Kids family situation are quite complicated too usually their parents cheat on
each other they divorce or they might not be able to get much of love from their parents since they always tend to work I'm not saying that this doesn't happen with poor families but when you are rich more people try to get closer to you and when you don't pick the right people they can easily ruin your life the second property is unfair advantages are unique to you because nobody can replace you even in the same family as twins as a biological twins you will have different unfair advantages because we're all unique creatures and there
is a only one you in this world so your unfair Advantage is going to be unique to you and unfair advantages are also a double-edged sword when you don't know how to use your unfair Advantage it can easily become an enemy of yours physical attractiveness for example it can be an another unfair Advantage as Studies have shown that attractive people often perceives as more likable competent and persuasive while this can help you succeed in various aspects of life it can be also double-edged sword you might face challenges in being taken seriously for your intellect skills
or hard work everybody will say it's because of your looks sure it will help but it's not the only thing it may also result in jealousy and resentment Attractive people may even face workplace frostmund or be accused of using their looks to advance their careers furthermore you could develop an overalliance on your looks and collecting other vital aspects of personal and professional growth I've seen so many beautiful people but most of the time their personality sucks because nobody points insult them so unfair advantages is all about how you use them let's talk about the main
unfair advantages the first one is money having money or the opportunity to make money can be an unfair Advantage money can be an unfair advantage in many ways especially in a capitalist Society everything goes around money if you have money you have access to almost everything being able to make money can be another unfair Advantage if you live in a developed country it's often much easier to make money compared to less developed countries for example when I was starting my YouTube channel this channel I worked at a restaurant in Japan was making around eight to
nine dollars per hour I also worked at a hotel at a part-time cleaning lady by working for a month I made over 1K and invested that money into my gear to start this YouTube channel and from there I created videos every single week and with the money I made I reinvested into my YouTube business and it almost grew to 1 million subscribers if I didn't hunt the unfair advantage to work at a restaurant I wouldn't be able able to make money but luckily now you can make money online even just with your phone you can
learn skills online for free sell them to people and with the money you earn you'll learn more and invest your business and grow it I know it's not easy but when compared to the times where people didn't have access to Internet it's much easier now let's talk about intelligence and insight when we hear intelligence oftentimes people like to think about the book smarts the people who got good grades high IQ maybe but that's not the only intelligent type there are many different types such as linguistic logical mathematic special bodily kinesthetic musical interpersonal intrapersonal and naturalist
intelligence these type of intelligence enable individuals excel in different fields such as writers mathematicians athletes or musicians and the inside is the ability to perceive complex situations patterns or meanings that aren't immediately apparent it leads to innovative solutions and foresight people with strong insights can predict Trends and make better decisions in various aspects of life such as business or personal development now location and luck location and Luck play significance role as unfair advantages in one's life being born in an undeveloped country or developed country comes with its own sets of pros and cons now let's
talk about the unfair advantage of education and expertise one of the most significant developments in recent years is the rise of online learning which has provided a massive unfair advantage to anyone with access to the internet think about it knowledge is power and the internet has made it possible to access a wealth of knowledge at our fingertips and if you're fluent in English you're even more privileged as it's one of the most widely spoken languages in the world with countless educational resources available there are countless free online courses tutorials and other educational materials that are
available in English this means that anyone with the internet access in English currency has the opportunity to acquire new skills expand their knowledge and improve their expertise I was editing my own videos till 800k Mark like 99 of the time and I learned editing from YouTube for free I didn't have a Macbook because it was very expensive and I couldn't afford it I had an iPad which I got myself by working at a restaurant and I edited my first 20 to 30 videos by watching YouTube tutorials I was editing I was looking to the YouTube
checking my editing and then if I have a problem I used to type it on YouTube and see if there are any tutorials solving that problem I learned English from watching YouTube videos I learned how to create website how to make money online from YouTube for free I learned how to lift weights how to take care of my body in mental health from various podcasts like huberman lab Fitness channels and etc for free this online learning revolution has leveled the playing field giving individuals from all backgrounds the chance to gain knowledge and expertise it's a
huge unfair advice Advantage for those who leverage it as they can access a high quality education without the need for expensive tuition or attending to a prestigious institution if you know which channel to follow YouTube can become your University now we can listen to high successful people's strategies stories their way of thinking from free from our home a couple of years ago you wouldn't even come across to them into your day-to-day life you wouldn't even know they exist imagine how big of an unfair Advantage it is high status individuals often have a better access to
resources opportunities and networks but there are also downsides of it being a high status person they can face increased screenity and pressure to maintain their reputation which can be mentally exhausting also their motives may be questioned with others wondering if they're generally interested in forming relationships or simply seeking personal gain by following the miles framework you can identify and capitalize on your unique strengths to achieve your goals and stand out from the crowd so step 3 determine the direction you want to go and how to leverage your unfair advantages to leverage your unfair advantages you
must first identify what they are consider the miles framework which categorizes unfair advantages into money intelligence location educational status as we talked once you have identified around for advantages determine the direction you want to go and how to use your unfair advantages to achieve your goals everyone has unique strengths and advantages and also disadvantages but it's up to you how you use them and leverage them and achieve your goals and live an extraordinary life you may be tired or struggling even ready to quit all that might be true however you need to understand that this
is what it takes what you are experiencing and going through right now is exactly what you must endure to reach your desired destination the reason why so few people reach their goals is that they stop when things get off when everything seems to be against them and when they have every reason to give up this is when 99 of people quit this is precisely when you must remind yourself to keep going because this is where you separate yourself from those who spend their lives wishing for a life they are not cut out for but you
are stop it why you push yourself like this let's go to a party and have fun all night take a break relax rest your feet up you don't have to go to the gym you look good already what are you trying to save the world or something when you receive comments like this it can feel like people are questioning you and you're misunderstood you may even feel like an outcast in your own Circle but here's the thing do you look at the people who criticize you and say to yourself yeah I want their life the
truth is that the average person doesn't actually enjoy their life that much they might think they do but if eating yourself into an early grave and working at a job you don't like just to spend your money on media and products that are decreasing in quality every single day and spending more time staring at screens than outside is the Hallmark of a good life then count me out call me crazy call me weird call me whatever you want when I look at the state of average person I sleep like a baby knowing that I don't
fit in with them also no matter what you do somebody's going to have a problem with it you could try to present yourself perfectly to the world and somebody is going to have a problem with your idea of perfect but the good news is not everyone's opinion matters in fact most people's opinion doesn't matter at all only people whose opinion should matter to you are those that you respect and whose judgment you trust why would you care about the opinion of somebody who doesn't share any of the values as you who embodies everything that you
don't believe in if you would never go to somebody for advice because they constantly make decisions that you wouldn't make in a million years why would you get upset when they disagree with one of yours look at the people around you and who you want to emulate who you want to be who embody your values and who are where you want to be those are the people you should listen to and screw everyone else when I started my first YouTube channel eight years ago people criticized me they told me it was cringy and I would
never succeed as a YouTuber but I didn't care what they thought I focused on my my channel taking one step at a time I listen to other aspiring creators and already established creators to succeed these are the people I admire those who aren't scared to put themselves out there and pursue their dreams not the people who make fun of other skulls and dreams while wasting their own time doing nothing not the people who don't even have a courage to do what I do don't forget no critique has a statue you need to constantly give yourself
a feedback you need to measure your progress if you're trying to lose weight you need to track your weight workouts sleep and eating habits to see if they're working if you're trying to build a YouTube channel no matter how painful it is to look at you need to review your YouTube studio and data analytics to see how your video is performing you need to ask yourself honestly why it's not performing well and improve those areas if you're trying to be academically successful you need to review your test scores and break down each topic you need
to study after you have broken down all the details you can take action and improve your weak points the next time you absorb what went wrong and what went right then decide your next action by constantly continuing these steps and applying all them into your life you can create a life that is ahead of 99 of people see you soon