Jealous Sister Ruined My Relationship. So, I Caught Her Cheating & Exposed Every thing at Her...

jealous sister ruined my relationship so I caught her cheating and exposed everything at her proposal party I 28m never thought I'd be writing this 3 years ago my sister Sandra 26f did something that completely ruined my life and I've been planning my revenge ever since now that I've finally executed it I'm thinking about everything let me start from the beginning 3 years ago I was in a great relationship with my then girlfriend Kathy we'd been together for a year and things were going really well I was even thinking about proposing Kathy was smart funny and

we just clicked in a way I'd never experienced before Kathy and I met at a mutual friend's birthday party we hit it off immediately talking for hours about everything from our favorite things to our dreams for the future she was a pediatric nurse passionate about her job and always ready with a funny story about the kids she worked with I was working as a software engineer and she'd listened patiently as I rambled on about my latest projects even though I'm sure half of it went over her head our relationship wasn't perfect no relationship is but

we always managed to work through our issues we were both committed to making it work and I really thought she was the one we'd even started talking about moving in together and her my sister Sandra she's always been the Golden Child in our family whatever Sandra wanted Sandra got growing up this caused a lot of problems between us but as adults we'd managed to maintain a somewhat cordial relationship Sandra is 2 years younger than me but you'd never know it from the way our parents treated her she was always the star of the family valedictorian

in high school full scholarship to an Ivy League College landed a a high-paying job right out of school meanwhile I was the underachiever who went to a state school and took a few years to find my footing in my career I was happy for Sandra's success but it was hard to always feel like I was living in her Shadow every family dinner turned into a celebration of Sandra's latest achievement while my own accomplishments were barely acknowledged when I introduced Kathy to my family I was nervous I wanted them to like her to see how happy

she made me and they did seem to like her at first one day out of the blue Cathy broke up with me she was in tears accusing me of cheating on her with multiple women I had never even looked at another woman let alone cheated when I asked her where she got this idea she said Sandra had shown her proof text messages photos the works I was devastated I tried to explain that it was all a lie but Cathy wouldn't listen she blocked me on everything and I never got a chance to clear things up

I was heartbroken and Confused the next few weeks I couldn't eat couldn't sleep I kept replaying every moment of our relationship in my head trying to figure out where it all went wrong I reached out to Kathy countless times leaving voicemails sending emails even showing up at her workplace once not my proudest moment but she wanted nothing to do with me it took me a while to piece everything together but eventually I figured out what happened Sandra had fabricated all the evidence of my supposed cheating she'd used photo editing software to create fake text conversations

and even manipulated some innocent photos of me with female friends to make them look compromising when I confronted Sandra about it she didn't even try to deny it she just Shrugged and said you were getting too happy it was annoying that's when I realized how truly spiteful my sister was she'd ruined my relationship simply because she couldn't stand to see me happy I was Furious but Sandra just laughed it off she told me there was nothing I could do about it our parents as usual took her side they said I must have done something to

provoke her that Sandra would never do something like that unprovoked it was always the same with them I tried to explain to them what had happened how Sandra had fabricated evidence and destroyed my relationship but they wouldn't hear it my mom just patted my hand and said said I'm sure you're exaggerating dear Sandra wouldn't do that my dad was even worse telling me to man up and stop blaming my sister for my relationship problems that's when I decided I wouldn't let this go I was going to make Sandra pay but I knew I had to

be patient I had to wait for the perfect moment for the next 3 years I took my time I pretended everything was fine between us I even started hanging out with Sandra and her boyfriend Thomas More Often Thomas was a great guy and I actually felt bad for him knowing what kind of person Sandra really was Thomas was everything Sandra supposedly wanted in a partner he was successful good-looking and came from a wealthy family but more than that he was genuinely kind and thoughtful he always remembered everyone's birthdays was the first to offer help when

someone needed it and had a way of making people feel valued and heard I watched as Sandra paraded Thomas around like a trophy showing him off at family gatherings and on social media but I also saw the moments when she thought no one was looking the eye rolls when Thomas said something she deemed stupid the impatient size when he took too long to do something during this time I threw myself into my work I got a promotion started earning more money than I ever had before I even dated a bit but nothing serious I couldn't

bring myself to fully trust anyone after what happened with Kathy about 6 months ago I noticed Sandra started acting strange she was always on her phone smiling at texts and making excuses to go out alone it didn't take a genius to figure out what was going on she was having an affair I didn't confront her instead I started Gathering evidence I know it sounds creepy but I need proof I managed to get photos of her with another guy screenshots of their conversations turns out Sandra isn't great at hiding her phone passcode The Works the guy

she was cheating with was a colleague from work Robert he was everything Thomas wasn't Brash arrogant the type of guy who thought he was God's gift to women in their messages Sandra and Robert would mock Thomas calling him boring and predictable it made me sick to read last week Thomas told me he was planning to propose to Sandra he even showed me the ring it was beautiful a family heirloom that had belonged to his grandmother Thomas was so excited telling me all about his plans for the proposal and their future together that's when I knew

it was time to act the day of the proposal came Thomas had planned a big surprise party with all their friends and family he was going to propose in front of everyone just before he was about to get down on one knee I stood up and asked for everyone's attention I revealed everything I showed everyone the evidence of Sandra's Affair I explained how she'd ruined my relationship 3 years ago out of pure Spite and how this was karma coming back to bite her the the room went dead silent Thomas was shocked Sandra was crying screaming

at me to stop but I didn't stop until I'd laid out every single detail I showed them the photos of Sandra and Robert together leaving a hotel I read out some of their text messages including the ones where they mocked Thomas I even played a voicemail Sandra had left for Robert telling him how much better he was than Thomas after that Thomas left completely devastated Sandra was sobbing alternating between begging Thomas to come back and screaming at me our parents were trying to calm everyone down but it was useless in the aftermath Sandra came to

my apartment she was a mess crying and demanding that I fix things she said I'd ruined her life that Thomas was the best thing that ever happened to her I just laughed and told her now she knows how it feels how could you do this to me I'm your sister she kept saying this over and over how could I do this I repeated how could you ruin my relationship with Kathy how could you lie to her make her believe I was cheating Sandra had the audacity to look confused that was years ago she said I

thought you were over it that's when I lost it I told her exactly what I thought of her how she'd always been selfish and cruel how her parents favoritism had turned her into a monster I told her she deserved everything that was happening to her she left my apartment in tears and I haven't heard from her since our parents have been calling non-stop leaving voicemails about how I've torn the family apart they're demanding I apologized to Sandra try to fix things with Thomas it's been a few days now and I'm thinking back on everything Thomas

was a good guy and I did feel bad for him but at the same time I feel like Sandra got what she deserved update one it's been about a month since my last post and a lot has happened I want to thank everyone who commented and shared their thoughts reading through your responses made me realize that while many of you agreed Sandra deserved what she got some also pointed out that I might have gone too far by hurting thas in the process I've had time to reflect and here's an update on the situation first off

the Fallout from the failed proposal has been intense our family is in complete disarray my parents predictably are furious with me they've been calling and texting non-stop alternating between guilt tripping me and outright threatening to cut me off if I don't apologize to Sandra and try to fix things I've mostly been ignoring their messages but I did respond once to tell them that I had no intention of apologizing and that if they wanted to cut me off they should go ahead that shut them up for a while but they started up again after a few

days Sandra on the other hand has been quiet after her initial meltdown at my apartment she hasn't reached out to me directly I've heard from mutual friends that she's a mess barely leaving her apartment not showing up to work ignoring calls from from everyone any guilt I might have felt evaporates when I remember how she laughed when she told me she'd ruin my relationship with Cathy speaking of Kathy I received a surprising message from her about 2 weeks after the incident she'd heard about what happened through the people and she wanted to talk I agreed

to meet her for coffee seeing Kathy again after 3 years was strange she looked mostly the same I owe you an apology she said I should have listened to you back then I should have given you a chance to explain I was stunned Cathy sighed and explained that after hearing what happened with with Sandra and Thomas she remembered how Adam and Sandra was about my supposed cheating how she had all this evidence it never sat right with her but at the time she was too hurt and angry to question it now she realized Sandra was

capable of some pretty awful things we talked for hours Kathy told me about her life over the past 3 years she'd moved to a different hospital gotten a promotion and even dated a bit though nothing serious I filled her in on my life too avoiding any mention of how much her leaving had affected me as we were about to leave Kathy hesitated and asked if we could try again though part of me still cared for Cathy I knew it wasn't the right thing to do too much had changed I gently explained that it wasn't a

good idea and we parted ways with a hug and a promise to stay in touch though I'm not sure if we will now on to Thomas a week after the failed proposal I received a text from him asking if we could meet I was surprised but I agreed to meet him at a local bar when I arrived Thomas was already there drinking a beer he looked terrible dark circles under his eyes unkempt beard he barely looked up when I sat down I owe you a thank you he said and a punch in the face I

braced myself but he just sighed and took another Swig of his beer I'm grateful you told me about Sandra he continued I needed to know but man did you have to do it like that in front of everyone I apologized sincerely I was so focused on getting back at Sandra that I hadn't thought about how it would affect him Thomas accepted my apology and we sat in silence for a while both lost in our thoughts as the night wore on Thomas shared more about his relationship with Sandra how he'd been planning to propose for months

but kept putting it off because something felt wrong he admitted that part of him was relieved that he found out before going through with the proposal we talked more and Thomas even asked me about my history with Sandra I told him everything our parents favoritism and what she did to my relationship with Kathy Thomas was horrified realizing he had no idea who Sandra really was by the end of the night Thomas and I had formed an unlikely friendship we exchanged numbers and promis to keep in touch over the next few weeks Thomas and I started

hanging out regularly we'd meet up for drinks or to watch a game and we talked about everything one night Thomas showed up at my apartment looking agitated Sandra's been trying to contact me he said she'd been calling texting and even showed up at his work once begging for another chance I asked him what he planned to do Thomas admitted he was conflicted part of him wanted to hear her out they'd been together for 2 years after all but the other part of him knew he could never trust her again she'd lied to him for months

maybe even years the next day Thomas met Sandra for coffee he called me afterward to say he'd ended it for good he deserved better and he stood his ground telling Sandra that her cheating wasn't a mistake it was a choice she made repeatedly Sandra didn't take it well she alternated between sobbing and lashing out even trying to blame me saying I'd poison Thomas against her but Thomas stood his ground telling her that I had only revealed the truth after that Sandra spiraled even further she started posting cryptic attention seeking messages on social media clearly trying

to paint herself as the victim our parents predictably ate it up in pressured me to apologize to Sandra and help her win Thomas back when I refused they threatened to write me out of their will I told them to go ahead I'd rather have my Integrity than their money this situation has made me realize just how toxic my family are I've started seeing a therapist to work through these issues and it's been helpful I'm learning to set boundaries and deal with the guilt trips my parents try to lay on me work has been a welcome

distraction I threw myself into a big project working long hours to keep my mind off everything my boss noticed the extra effort and hinted at a promotion if I keep it up as for my love life it's been non-existent since all this went down a few friends have tried to set me up but I'm not ready I need to focus on myself for a while maybe someday I'll be ready to trust someone again but for now I'm okay being on my own Thomas seems to be doing better he started going to the gym regularly saying

he needs to work out his frustrations he's also signed up for cooking classes something he'd always wanted to do but Sandra discouraged it's good to see him focusing on himself and his own happiness as for the future my relationship with my parents is strained and I don't know if it will ever recover Sandra from what I hear is still a mess she's taken a leave of absence from work and there are rumors that she might lose her job I feel some satisfaction at that Thomas and I are planning a GU trip for next month it'll

be good to get away from the drama for a while in the end I don't regret exposing Sandra's Affair thank you all for listening to my story if anything significant happens I'll update you but for now I'm signing off to live my life on my own terms free from Sandra's Shadow at last final update it's been a year since my last update and I felt it was time to give you all a final update on how things have turned out a lot has changed and I'm finally ready to close this chapter of my life first

let's talk about Sandra after the exposure of her Affair and the end of her relationship with Thomas things got worse before they got better she lost her job partly due to her extended absence and partly due to the rumors about her personal life affecting her professional reputation for a while she moved back in with our parents they coddled her treating her like a victim and blaming me for ruining her life but even Sandra couldn't maintain the charade forever about 3 months after moving back home she had a massive blowout with our parents she finally snapped

under the pressure of their expectations and confessed to everything what she'd done to me and Kathy years ago our parents were shocked forced to see Sandra for who she really was it wasn't pretty there was a lot of yelling a lot of tears and in the end Sandra moved out last I heard she's living in a small apartment on the other side of the city working a retail job and attending therapy regularly as for my parents after Sandra's confession they tried to reach out to me at first I ignored them still hurt and angry about

being treated as second best for years but eventually after encouragement from my therapist I agreed to meet with them it was awkward meeting there were apologies tears and uncomfortable silences they admitted they'd been wrong about a lot of things that they'd failed me as parents in many ways I appreciated their honesty but I also made it clear that it would take more than one conversation to repair our relationship over the past year we've been slowly rebuilding it's not perfect there are still moments and old habits resurface but we're trying they've started showing a genuine interest

in my life and career and I'm learning to open up to them again it's a work in progress but it's progress nonetheless now on to Thomas we went through with that camping trip we were planning and it was exactly what we both needed a week in the wilderness away from cell phones and internet gave us both a chance to clear our heads Thomas is doing well now he threw himself into those cooking classes I mentioned and it turns out he has a real talent for it he's even talking about opening his own restaurant someday as

for his love life he started dating again about 6 months ago the new girl Lisa seems really nice down to earth and genuinely kind I'm happy for him Thomas and I are still good friends we get together regularly for beers and to watch sports it's nice having a friend who knows the whole story who I can be completely honest with he's become like a brother to me the sibling relationship I always wished I had with Sandra as for my career I got that promotion my boss hinted at the extra responsibility has been challenging but in

a good way it's forced me to grow and push myself out of my comfort zone I'm proud of what I've accomplished and excited about where my career is heading now about my love life after taking time to focus on myself and healing I've started dating again I met a woman named Nora at a work conference about 4 months ago we hit it off immediately bonding over our shared love of obscure sci-fi novels and terrible puns Nora knows about my history with Sandra and Cathy I was nervous about telling her worried she'd think I came with

too much baggage but she's been incredibly understanding she's helped me see that what happened wasn't my fault and that I deserve love and happiness just as much as anyone else it's still early days but things with Nora are going well we're taking it slow building a foundation of trust and open communication as for Kathy we've maintained a friendly but distant relationship we'll occasionally like each other's posts on social media or exchange a quick happy birthday text but that's about it I think we've both accepted that our time as a couple has passed but I'm glad

we were able to clear the air and find some closure Sandra well Sandra and I haven't spoken directly in months the last time was at a family dinner our parents insisted on having it was awkward and tense with Sandra alternating between trying too hard to act normal and shooting me resentful looks in the end we both agreed it was better to keep our distance at least for now maybe someday we'll be able to have a real conversation about everything that happened but we're not there yet looking back on everything that's happened over the past 4

years it's hard to believe how much has changed the anger and bitterness that drove me for so long have faded I still think Sandra's actions were terrible and I don't regret exposing her Affair as I write this final update I'm sitting in my new apartment I finally moved out of that place with all the memories of Sandra's betrayal looking out at the sunset nor is coming over later for a movie night and tomorrow I'm meeting Thomas and Emma for brunch life isn't perfect it never is but it's good really good to those of you who

followed my story from the beginning thank you your support your advice even your criticisms all of it helped me navigate this difficult period in my life I hope that by sharing my story I've maybe helped some of you too if nothing else I hope it's shown that even when things seem darkest there's always hope for a better tomorrow