There's no cheerleaders. There's no crowds cheering you on. That's what makes you powerful is when the only cheerleader is you by yourself. That's what forces you. It's not like, "Come on, man. You can do this." [music] And you got 20 people or the Boston Marathon with 26.2 miles of people cheering you on and you're bonking at mile 18. No, man. you alone on a onemile track and that onem track could be anything and there's no one there but you and then you have to do a live a live autopsy and dissect [music] and those demons
come out man we all got them whether you got childhood whether you're a bully whether you think that you're stupid whether your mom went there your dad went there whether you're [music] whatever the you're going through in your life that judgment's there [music] everything becomes so real and clear. You're talking to yourself so negatively and you're voices saying why the you doing this? [music] But if you get through it on the other side of that thing, man, is a whole another world that very few people know exist in your mind, [music] >> but it's there.
>> It's there. >> It's there. >> It's there. >> Just trust that that it's there and put in that pain and work. And there's only one person that knows if you did it. And >> that's right. And it's you. Why am I here? You know, I had to I had to find purpose. And my suffering, it had a purpose. It had a purpose. You have to go dark. And what I mean by that is you have to be quiet in your mind. Get away from people. We love being around people. We love talking. We love
We love parties. We love all that [ __ ] It's okay to be alone. It's also okay to be unhappy. It's okay to be unhappy sometimes, man. It's [music] okay to say, "You know what, man? I'm up. So, you got to go to the truth first. Who are you? Get get really accountable and say, "Okay, who am I? What's the truth about me?" Get to that dark place in your mind. Figure out, it may take months, may take years. Figure out your purpose. Figure out what you want to be in life. And then from there,
okay, I have my purpose. It may take a long time. No one knows their purpose because it's too loud. Finds your purpose from there. All right, you got to start planning. People love the planning phase because it's very comfortable. >> Then from the planning phase, you got to go to execution. So the execution phase where we all hate because that's where the real work begins and that's when the failure happens and the failure and the failure. But you know that's that that's kind of how you have to do it. Just shut up and let me
enjoy this pain. I don't want anything to numb it. I don't want anything right now. Because what I had done was I just in my mind and people will take this wrong and take it as wrong as you want to. I don't really care. I had just climbed a mental wall that was amazing and I didn't want anybody to take that pain away from me. I never want to feel it again. But what it did was it showed me what is possible. And that's what set the new stage for me. That's when I realized, oh
man, I've really been underachieving my entire life. When you when you take that road and you just don't want to just fit in, it's a lonely road. It's a lonely road and you get a lot of haters, man. Like I tell people all the time, man, if I can walk on water, mother would say because I couldn't swim. [laughter] Tell that right the >> Yeah. Yeah. >> Anything that makes me feel that fear feeling is going to get overcome. >> You go do it. >> It's going to get conquered. It it that is that's almost
like fear is my ultimate guide >> of where you're supposed to be. >> Where I'm supposed to be going. >> It's my ultimate guide. >> Those scars are real. Those scars are proof that, you know, your past is real. >> So, they're never going to go away. >> I I own them. But I'm I'm I'm proud of my childhood. I'm proud because without all of these lessons in life and everybody says this bull. I mean it. >> I mean it because I was able to look at my childhood and how I grew up as the
ultimate training ground for my life. I didn't care about losing weight. I didn't care about being the fastest person. I didn't care about I wasn't making the Olympics. I wasn't going to pros. I could barely read and write when I was in a junior in high school. I wasn't going anywhere. I saw working out as a way for me to build calluses on my mind. I had to callus over the victim's mentality. So, I watched these movies. I, you know, I talked about Rocket last time I was on here. I always equated training to mental
toughening. Like, it always looked brutal. People waking up early and doing all these things. It looked it looked horrible. I was like, "Wow, man. I got to start doing that." Not to get better, bigger, and stronger, but that is what's going to build me. That looks uncomfortable. That looks brutal. And getting up early, I don't want to do that. So, I made this long list of things I don't want to do. [music] And through that, I found myself. I started like I'm like, "You guys aren't doing high school. You guys aren't getting up at 5:00
in the morning running over here in this golf course." So, I started seeing myself very differently than the average human being. I was like, "Hang on a second. I have something they don't have." And that's when I started to develop these things through working out. It was this great neverending work ethic. And through work ethic, I developed self-esteem. It's all [ __ ] Just do your living. How do you want to live? How do you want to die? How do you want to be remembered? That's That's it. That's it. Period. You You want to be
in control of your mind. You want to be in control of your mind. Emotional people, [music] they're a wreck. >> They control that. Emotion controls your everything you do. >> Yeah. >> And what emotional people do is like for instance, I always say this, they can have a beautiful life, husband or wife, kids, everything, everything they want. But it's the one thing that they don't have that makes them emotional. So that emotion makes them focus on what they don't have. >> Emotion makes them focus on everything negative. Everything. Pity party. What was me? This didn't
happen. So your mind loves that. It loves talking to other people. Oh, this is all up, man. You know, think about it. People love to complain about everything. [music] So when you're sitting there, you may spend weeks, months, years about the same thing. So what have you done? Nothing. >> There's no solution in that. >> Yeah. >> But most of us live there. >> Oh, this other guy got the pay raise. Other guy got this, other guy got that. And we live in this emotional state of woe [music] was me. M >> nothing gets accomplished.
>> Everybody's afraid of failure. It's embarrassing as so how do you think I became successful when I failed every day of my life until I succeeded which took a long time. The first thing I did was I all of you in this room want to be successful as hell. But the journey to success comes with a lot of what? >> Failure. So why the don't you teach yourself like I taught myself is how to fail properly. It's not saying be a failure. When I was 300 lb people think oh you really thought you could be
a Navy Seal? No. I think I was going to lose the weight. But what it was was how I was able to get over all the failure and all the embarrassment of failing was I told myself, you are going to have to learn how to get up extremely fast because you are going to have a million setbacks on this journey. And that's how I literally taught myself how to fail first. Because I knew that if I was afraid of failure, I would have never been able to be a Navy Seal. I would have never been
able to get to where I'm at today. So, I went through and I literally at 300 lb or 297 to be exact. I sat back and I visualized how this journey is going to look in the first several months was nothing but failure. So, how am I going to get up the next morning when I failed the day before? How am I going to eat this meal when I failed and I got fries and a milkshake again when I was supposed to get grilled chicken and rice? So, I went through and I taught myself how
to fail. And when you do that, you're able to get up extremely fast and you no longer care about the end result because you know if I want to be way up here, it's going to take a bunch of small micro failures along the way. But you have to understand that that is part of the process. I made a decision and my decision was to be the best person I could. And I basically a lot of mornings I wake up and say feelings and that doesn't mean like you [music] know don't take it literally your
feelings but sometimes you have to go beyond what you're feeling and my knees were guess what I wanted to run and I knew that okay you can get knee replacements this and that. Like I said it wasn't because of I ran too much. People always want to say oh man you ran so much so you your body you know you don't want to be like David Gogggins. [music] I hear it all the time. You don't want to be like David Gogggins. I was in a spot that life forced me. I had a choice. I had
a choice to be this guy or the guy that's in front of you. I had choices. I chose this path. >> And you're still choosing [music] it. >> And I'm still choosing. >> You can go back to that guy at any moment >> cuz I found out I found out something with those stress fractures. I found out something through facing all these things. I found out a whole another world, which is why I walk around with all my stuff in a black backpack. >> Wow. >> I found out a whole another way. A whole another
way of no matter how far you get in life, you have to be able to go back to scratch in your mind at a moment's notice. You can [music] never get so far beyond scratch. M >> what that means is when you accomplish something in life, if you want to go back to scratch and go back to that $7 a month place where I once [music] lived and visit that place for a long period of time. If you were here when you went back to scratch, you would now be here. >> Scratch is what makes
you better. Scratch friction obstacles create growth. There's no friction when you're this far up in the game anymore. >> You think there is the real That's right. When you cheat so much, the friction is is [music] is minor. Cuz why? I'm sore. I'm going to get a massage today. >> Mhm. >> I'm hungry. I'm going to eat today. The refrigerator is always full. So your comforts are now So your discomfort is now very minuscule to your [music] discomfort back here in the $7 a month place. So you have to go back to the total discomfort
to then raise your level of where you're at now. >> I'm not saying stay there and stay there. visit >> visit it >> and then you raise your level. >> Take a day trip. >> That's right. >> Yeah. >> Always take day trips. >> Yeah. >> A lot of people that we see all day long, we see them. We don't have that hard conversation with we we [music] walk around. I rather you hate me and get better than like me and stay the same. [music] And that's how I feel about David Gogggins. Me hate I
hate you David man. I hate you David. [music] But I get better from it. I get better from it. And that's why when people see me and I know you, you're you're in my little foxhole. If you're in my foxhole and you become a piece of [ __ ] hey, come here, brother. Let me talk to you real quick, brother. People don't like that, man. But I'm not going to allow you to go to a place that's going to be hard to get out of. It's going to be hard if I allow you to gain
five more pounds or allow you to take four more days off of school or allow you to keep on procrastinating in your life. And I see it and I tell Jennifer behind your back, I'm doing you [music] no [ __ ] justice. >> Zero justice. So where this world is now, you can't say a mother thing. I do. [music] I still do and I always will. Don't like me. Don't like me. I'm good with that. [music] I'm the most peaceful person on the planet Earth. Even with like the conversation, I got to go to the
gym. I have to do this. I have to do that. Every day I'm winning. Every day I'm winning the uh the other voice in my head. So I'm I'm very I'm I'm at peace with myself. >> The things I do for fun are like me bettering myself. >> Yeah. >> I love sports. I love watching sports. But I also love accomplishing and overcoming myself every day because every day is a battle. Every day is a battle because your mind wants to choose the path of least resistance every day. But you don't become better by by
ever doing that. >> You become normal, and I don't want to be normal. >> So it may not be a life for everybody, but I find a lot of peace in not being normal in my life. My biggest advice to give everybody in the world is like I say, we live in an external world. Everything is is you got to see it, touch it. It's it's external. If you can for the rest of your life live inside of yourself, stop listening to people who are calling you fat, get [ __ ] everything that is makes
no sense. All these insecure people putting their insecurities on you, you got to flush it out. You got to just be whoever the hell God or whoever the hell you believe in. If you believe in nothing but yourself, I don't care what it is. You got to take everything and throw it away. You have to believe in one thing and that is yourself. I believe in quiet. There's no growth outside of quiet. The the world's too noisy. Your mind needs quiet for you to find who you are. People ask, "What's my purpose? Why am I
here?" You're not going to find it nowadays unless you lock yourself in a quiet room in your mind and find it. It's too noisy for me. I could be in a busy street in New York City, horns honking, >> and I'm walking around with like nothing. >> It's [clears throat] me and myself in a quiet spot. >> And when you are constantly reflecting on who you are, where you've been, the journey you've [music] gone through, the journey you're going to continue going through, the feeling is always there. You don't allow the world to pull you
so fast that you forget. You don't allow yourself to pull you so fast that you forget. It's not about staying in that moment. It's about you want to get to the point where that feeling follows you like breathing. It becomes a part of your life, part [clears throat] of your DNA. >> But it's made like these calluses on my hands right now. They're made. >> Yeah. >> They are now on my brain. This is now a part of me. >> Catch phrases. People always say, you know, failure is a part of life and failure is
[music] how you grow. I've said all that stuff before, but it really is a bunch of [ __ ] It really is, man. I'm going to be honest with you, man. I'm so tired of hearing all these [ __ ] cliche [ __ ] [music] you know, like goal setting posters and all that [ __ ] Half the people who write that aren't even doing the [ __ ] they're talking about. >> Half the people talk about failure, you know, they're millionaires sitting back in some nice house or whatever you're talking about. So, it it
just it it makes me The reason why I believe I can talk on failure is because I'm still failing today and I'm failing in a major way and I'm and I'm living when I'm talking. So many people who talk about all this there there has been there people who used to do back in the day not talk about it. Are you living it today? So for me failure is um is something that you should be afraid of. it should be afraid of. But that's why you should go out there and challenge yourself to fail because
if you're not failing at something, that means you've set your goals to pass, to succeed at everything you do, [music] which means you're not setting your goals high enough. So for me, okay, I'm going to go out and break the Guinnessburg world record for pull-ups. Lofty goal, which is why I failed it twice before I finally got it. I knew going into everything I've ever done in my life, Navy Seal training, three times before I got it. >> Everything I've ever done in my life took me three times before I got it. I knew that
there was a huge possibility of failure. >> But what I gained from failure is this. When you see a movie and you watch a movie about a person who keeps failing and at the end they [music] succeed, how do you feel after you watch that movie? >> Elated. Amazing, right? >> Yeah. >> I become the movie. >> I want to feel how I feel watching someone else in the movie. [music] >> When I watched Rocky get his ass kicked and I watched all these different things of failure, I was able to put myself there and
say, "God, man, how much do you feel now that you finally got there?" That's what failure has done to me. I've watched so many things and watch someone succeed at the end of it. It's like, God, I want to feel like that. But failure causes that one feeling. >> Without that failure involved, you don't have that feeling. >> If you just pass and you succeed and you're great, >> that feeling, yeah, okay, I'm good. >> What takes you years, months, years to accomplish because you just can't get over the hump, but you continue going back
to the drawing board. You're looking for those few seconds after you finally figure out the equation, whatever the equation may be to get you to finally pass, to succeed. >> I live for that feeling. >> But I can't get that feeling without going through, I failed this equation. I failed this one. I failed this one. I failed this one. Oh, I'm figuring it out. M >> so you start to feel it before you even pass before you even get to to to the success part and then once you succeed the feeling is unbelievable and you
take that feeling of success through failure and you put it in your cookie jar and you say I I'll come back and get you again I'm going to need you again down the road in my life. This is why I say stay hard because when you weren't given the gifts, the only thing you can do in life is stay hard. And I know people cannot stand me. They can't stand this talk. This is all you can do. There's no magic pill or a magic potion. All you can do is outwork [music] the man that God
created or woman in you. And what that looks like [music] is unfun. That's why I said do not do a documentary on me because people will not see the truth. They will see what they want to see is I don't want to live like that. Good. Good. And you will live exactly the way you live now. Questioning who you are, wondering what is possible, wondering what you are capable of doing. That's how that looks. me. [music] [music] Heat. >> [music] >> I'm all of this. Yeah. It's It's empowering. It's very empowering. If you want to
be great, you want to be badass mother ever at what you do, you're going to be misunderstood by everybody because you're going to be so [ __ ] obsessed and so driven to get there. That's what it takes. >> That's the truth. >> Takes every second of your life. Anybody says balance. Yeah. Balance is important for a lot of people. It is. But if you want to go to that edge where people do not like you, don't understand you, question everything you do, you you've arrived. When you are misunderstood to the point where people think
you're psycho and you're nuts and you're this and that, why are you in the gym at 1:00 in the [ __ ] morning? You just got through doing a OP for 13, 14 hours after Ranger School, man. at the gym. What is wrong? You will never understand what is wrong with me. And that's why I'm so glad you don't cuz I'm in the right spot. When people don't understand you anymore, you're in that spot of obsession and drive where people like, "What the is wrong with this guy? I don't want to talk to you, man,
cuz you're not going to get it. [laughter] You're not going to get it." >> Boom. >> Don't want you to get it. >> Yeah. >> Don't want you to get it. I hate this interview right now. Not because of you. I'm uncomfortable. I'm uncomfortable because for [music] several years growing up, I stuttered. So, I'm nervous around people. I still battle these demons every day. They're still there, man. I'm still that guy that lives in a $7 a month place. Just because I'm not living there anymore, I'm [music] scarred. Scars remind you that your past is
real. It's real, man. Can't run away from it. It's a part of me. I carry that where I go. It's not It doesn't define who I am. But it's a scar. All these things scarred me. But [music] that's why people connect with me. We all have mental scars, physical scars. [music] Our scars remind us that the past is so very real. >> [music] >> So, I'm a teacher saying that it's okay, man. The scars are real, but you can [music] still be a bad mother. You can still be a very, very dangerous mother. The one
thing that made me who I am today is being vulnerable. It's breaking myself down to the absolute rock bottom and being able to tell people who I am. And that's how I fixed it. Literally being able to look somebody in the eye and say, "You know what, man? I have a whole bunch of character problems, character flaws. I've lied about this. I've cheated here. I'm I'm insecure here. This isn't the real me. I lied to you about that. I wanted your acceptance in life. All those things happen. But the thing about it is that we
get judged so quickly by who we are. We don't know. We don't go to the to where it happened. You know, life created this person me. Life life created me to be this person that I was back in the day. And I had to realize, man, that's okay, man. It's not my fault. Now I got to go back and fix this, [music] though. >> So, a lot of this isn't your fault why you do some things you do, why you feel the way you feel. But no one's coming back to save your ass. You have
to go back to where this started, wherever that place is for everybody, and had the courage to go back there and start fixing what broke you. >> Mhm. >> And that's and that's why I was like, "Hey, I'm [ __ ] up. I'm going go back and fix this stuff. When you look in the mirror, that's the one person you can't lie to. >> So, every morning I would shave my head thinking, God, I would reflect back on some of the lies I may have told somebody or some of the ways I acted I didn't
feel comfortable doing. And I did it to impress other normal people. The key word there is normal. Everyday people, I was trying to make other people like me. How pathetic is that? So I [music] this mirror would always tell me my like my reflection would say, "God, you are a pathetic man. How did I feel every day to be this way?" So I would just start having myself accountable. How how did I attack today? How did I attack yesterday? And if I didn't do something I was proud of, I write down a sticky note and
I would fix it. Most people who are failing are trying their [music] off. >> Yeah. Most people who are failing are being criticized by people who haven't attempted what you're even trying to fail at. So what I'm failing at, so after I did 2500 pull-ups my first time going for the record, >> I mean, people were criticizing me. >> People sitting there eating chips on the couch. >> Do a pull-up. >> Exactly. >> Look at your audience who's criticizing you. First of all, they're not even in your world. >> Yes. [music] >> You don't even
talk to me. >> Yep. >> Block them out. That's the first thing. >> Yep. The second thing is through failure you get all the answers. >> You get all the lessons. >> All of them. They're all there. >> Yes. >> So I was able to go back through and say, "Okay, this happened. This happened. This was wrong. This was wrong. This is wrong." So I don't even look at failure like I don't even call it failure. >> Yeah. >> I I I don't because I don't look at like, "My god, I failed." No, I look
at Okay. [music] Like trying to invent the light bulb. I'm afraid to know what what's failure. I'm trying to invent a light bulb. >> Yeah. I'm trying to break 4,020 pull-ups. >> That's failure. >> Yeah. >> Anything you do along that way is amazing. >> Yeah. >> That's how you got to look at failure. >> Yeah. >> Got to look at it very differently. So for me, I have a scrap piece of paper and I'm going back through this stuff. I Okay, check. I didn't make the goal. >> Yeah. >> Okay. Boom. Boom. Boom. The
next time I went, I did I did 3200 pull-ups. Okay. I'm still 800 shy of the record. I [music] I remember this in the book when you did it. >> 800 shy of the record now. So I went from 25 >> to 3,200 >> and I got to get to 4,020. >> Yeah. 21. >> Yeah. 21. That's a long way away. >> But your body's breaking down. >> Breaking down left and right. >> But I got that white board out [music] again. >> Yeah. >> And I started writing down, okay, what did I do wrong
this time? What I did wrong this time? You cannot look at it as failure. [music] Even though you didn't get what you wanted, all you're doing is examining ways to become successful at this particular thing. You're trying to master something. It's not failure. You're trying to become the master of a particular thing. >> Y >> it's not failing. >> Yeah. >> Whenever you're trying to master something, there's a process. >> There's a process. And the process may take you a year >> and it's not always winning. >> No, you have to want it. You have
to want to be better. And it starts off with you have to have pride in yourself. You You have to have pride in yourself. You have to have there's something about you. Whether it's your last name, [music] whether it's just the smallest thing, you have to be proud of yourself. And if you have no pride in yourself, I can't give it to you >> because you're always going to compromise. You're always going to fold. >> Always. I'm very proud of myself. That's why when people said you no way you can do better than can't hurt
me. Roger that. We'll see. It's that pride that wakes you up. And I'm not talking about bad pride. I I'm a the attention to detail for the human being. I want to do I call this thing like I want to be the standard. I want to be that guy. Like every place I went in the military, there was this ethos about how this place is, how we're going to live, how we're going to represent ourselves. And I walked around and I saw that most people didn't live up to that ethos. People go, "My god, like
they say, what did you say in the accountability mirror [music] when you started changing?" I I called myself fat. I called myself dumb. I called myself whatever the hell the truth was. It wasn't pretty. And a lot of us want to make this this this thing look like a nice rose garden. You don't fix problems that way. You don't fix problems by [music] making yourself feel better by talking to yourself in the way. No, be real with what you are and who you are and what's going on in your life. And that's how you fix
problems. It's okay. If you're fat, you're fat. I was once there. Fix it. It can be fixed. You're not You're not You're not being down on yourself. You're not being hard on yourself. You're calling yourself what it is. It's the reality of what you are. What are you going to do with the reality of what you are if you give yourself this get out of jail free card of oh, you know what? It really isn't that bad. You know, it it really is. It really is. And it's okay to say that. And that's how you
start to fix it. That's the accountability merit right there. [music] >> Even though I made it, I went back to that [ __ ] start line after I made it 100 more times. That's real life. Real life is you get to the start line, you think you see the finish line and something happens, man. Life happens and you go right back to the [ __ ] start line again. You say, "Fuck." And sometimes you get pushed way back in that start line when you have a real fear of dying and being just another person that
I live to pay the bills. I made $1,000 a month. This is my life. I pray for cockroaches, man. If if that makes you feel good, that's great. It didn't make me feel good. I wanted to the first time in my life after 26 years or 24, 25, wherever I was, [music] I wanted to feel good about myself. What the I didn't teach. >> [music] [music] [music] [music] [music] [music] [music] [music] [music] [music] [music] [music] [music] [music] >> A lot of people, you know, [music] wonder how did you become this? How did you become so
vulnerable? How did you be how are you doing a podcast now when you were this kid? You overcame things. You fought them. [music] And now this is what happens. This is on the other side of overcoming. It becomes you become very very powerful when you overcome yourself. All those things you once cowed from, you were afraid of. When you face them eye to eye every day, you now become a person who has a great podcast. >> Yeah. When someone's lacking confidence in themselves, what's what's [music] the answer you would give them? If they're like, "How
do I gain more confidence?" >> It starts with yourself, man. You got to start diving into those things that you are afraid of. [music] You don't gain confidence by going to the spot that makes you feel good. It could be a false reality. [music] And the second life gives you that challenge. All you want to do is go back to what made you confidence or or or what gave you confidence is that happy spot. No. What gives you confidence? What gave me confidence was spending years at a kitchen table trying to learn how to read
and write on my own. Realizing I can't learn the way you learn. >> I can't. But I can learn. What gives you confidence? Not being afraid. It's overcoming the fear. I used to stutter severely bad. So right now I don't know how many people are going to watch this. You know what gives me confidence is knowing I no longer care. if I sit here and start stuttering to you. >> Yeah, >> that's what gives me confidence is facing these things, overcoming them. And maybe not overcoming them every day, but facing them and facing them and
facing pretty soon like this. You know what, man? This is where it's at. >> It's not in that comfort zone. It's in the discomfort zone [music] is where my confidence is getting built. >> Mhm. >> That's where it's getting built. But people want to and they want an easier answer. >> Yeah. >> There has to be an easier way. There's not. I'm sorry. I searched for it my entire life. >> You cheated. You lied. >> I lied. I did everything. And I still felt empty. >> I coach a lot of people nowadays, billionaires, who call
me on the phone and say, "Man, I'm still missing something." It's because they did what they were good at and they had this beautiful family, two, three houses, cars, everything. Has everything in the world on the outside looking in like, "My god, man. How can you be unhappy? I walk around with the backpack with all my stuff in it and no [clears throat] car, right? >> And I walk [music] around happiest person in the world, have nothing, happy as hell. It's because I found out the whole key to life. It's [music] not in all that.
You have to face yourself. So many people live to be 100 years old and they die miserable having everything because they never examined. I call it my live autopsy. M >> you never [music] examine this happiness, peace, enlightenment, it's all up here, man. It's all up here. If I start talking like this, people go, "Man, you know, [music] no, it's the truth, man." >> Yeah, there is truth. >> It's all up here. You just got to be willing to go and face it. >> Well, I believe that you have to build belief. belief is like
there's an after school special belief where the mom says believe in yourself and that's all great but there's also a built belief and the built belief is one where you are constantly like for me I came from a bad place how I build belief is through the the daunting tasks I put myself through so that's proof positive that I can so it correlates ates and that's how this piece of kid I once thought I was built belief by saying hm I was in three hell weeks I went to ranger school I tried out for delta
selection >> undeniable stack of proof >> that is proof so whenever you think whenever you think you can't confidence comes from the thing that you [music] built you must build belief you must build confidence it can't be like hey Um, I'm going to go knock that out. You got to look over here and say, I can knock out. It's a belief and it's built on what you put in to yourself. So, think about it. When I say suffering, people cringe. People, that's the that's the one word whenever I post about it, people cringe. It's not
about [music] suffering. how people may look at suffering like you have to just go to a place that just every day of your life is suffering. You have to tap into suffering every day of your life because we have so much scarring that we have to clean up. You have to look at suffering as almost like I look at failure to succeed you must fail. In failure and in suffering all the answers are in there. All the answers to all the test questions. The test is your life. All the answers are in there. You don't
have to live in suffering and pain and failure all the time. You have to learn. I need to visit it. Like people hate working out. You're only going to visit working out maybe an hour a day. 23 other hours of the day you're not in it. >> But how you become in shape is you must visit suffering. Visit working out one hour a day. Visit suffering one hour a day. Visit your past failures one hour a day. The relationship with it is the answers are in there. They they are in there within the suffering. Go
in there and I call it the live autopsy. The live autopsy. How you find out someone died? They crack you open after you're dead. How you can live is do it while you're alive. >> Go back in your brain. Crack it open while you're alive. Don't wait until you're dead to figure out why you died. Do it while you are living. Go in there. Go into the suffering. Go into the pain of your life and say, "Why does this suck for me so bad? Why am I afraid of all this stuff? Why have I shut
down the whole world?" I guarantee I'll tell you why you shut down the whole world. It's in these nooks of the suffering within your brain. in the scarring are all the answers to why you are on the couch feeling sorry for yourself. They lie within the scars. Visit them for at least an hour a day. Study them and then you'll find out more about yourself. You will then grow. So don't look at as every day I suffer. Go into it an hour a day. Learn from yourself. Learn from life. Learn from your failures. Learn from
your insecurities. Learn from your self-doubt. Think about this. Is kind kindness to yourself. Do you think if I taught myself kindness? And I agree with it. God, so many people so many people take me out of context. It's ridiculous. Take it however you want to take it. When I was 300 lb, where you think that conversation would have got me if I spoke kindness to myself? I tell you where it gets me. Right back to 71. Another box [music] of mini chocolate donuts and a chocolate milkshake. That's the one voice. That's the one voice that
most of us have that you're talking about. If you want to have a conversation in there, the other voice that you create that says, "Okay, how does this look? looks very ugly. That kind conversation for me went away a long time ago. Which is why the dialogue is now which you see a lot of action because most people have [music] inaction cuz there's one person talking and that one person is always leading you down the same path. The path that makes you feel [music] very comfortable and happy with yourself. The second you create the other
voice, there's conflict. There's battles, there's wars, there's defeat. What I realized, I had this voice. We all have this voice in our head. Whether you believe in God or whether whatever the hell you believe in or don't believe in, whether you believe in yourself, there's always this voice in our head telling us different things. And the voice in my head, it kept on calling me like, you know, you're just a man. You are a big [ __ ] and you're scared of all this over here. You're scared of this big laundry list of stuff, man.
Because your dad beat you and this happened and this happened. All these things that happened in my life, I wasn't facing them. Even though I didn't cause a lot of them, they're they're mine to own now. And the one thing that I really realized was for me to become a tough guy, and that's what I wanted to be. I I saw myself as a very weak man. And for me to be hard and be tough, I had to start going over to that list, that scary list, to start facing that because I knew over there,
I was going to find a whole new person. Cuz if I kept on doing the things that made me feel comfortable, I was going to continue being that same person. I always was, the lying, insecure, fearful person living this nice, comfortable life of mine. So I just designed a very uncomfortable world for David Gogggins and in that world I found a whole new different you know that's where I created Gogggins. So there's David Gogggins and there's Gogggins. I created Gogggins in that world over there of mine. A human being is not so human anymore. We
have the ability to go in such [music] a space if you're willing to suffer and I mean suffer your brain and your body once connected together can do anything. I believe in patience. I'm a patient dude. I can watch a piece of grass grow for 20 years [music] because I know that it is how you get somewhere in life by being that [music] monklike mentality and being able to watch something grow very calmly, patiently. Don't open. [music] [music] [music] >> [music] [music] [music] >> You have all the water. >> [music] >> I used to look
at my life from a different vantage point. And when you're when you're in all the muck and you're just walking in muck and walking in muck and walking in muck, you don't see that. If you look off to the left of the muck, there's a sidewalk, brother. Get off. Get off of it. You You have your head down looking in this muck. Once I saw the sidewalk, off the sidewalk, I got a little break and I got a different vantage point. [music] And then from the sidewalk, I found a cliff. Then I found a mountain.
I got way up high on top of my life and look back down on it and said, "Okay, I got to figure this out, man. I'm not going anywhere. I'm starting to lie. I'm starting like so when you have a messed up foundation, I started lying about everything. I wanted people to like me. I wanted to be accepted in some society of life, some social society." And I I said, "Man, this isn't the right way. I messed up here. I messed up here. I messed up everywhere. And so I realized the worst thing that happened
to me is I lost myself. I never had myself. I never found myself. I had no self-esteem. So I knew through working out and through learning cuz I it it took a lot for me to learn also. I started finding self-esteem. Once I found that that's when doors started open. I started I stopped caring about people that what they thought being judged. Wow. If I say this, if I started right now, are you going to make fun of me? I stopped caring about that. And that's when my life started really changing for me slowly but
[music] surely. >> Hope is [ __ ] When I was going through seal training, a lot of people hoped that they would pull us from that cold water. Man, hope ain't going to get you because you It's not in your hands. Hope is not in your hands. You can't control hope, man. You can't. It's just some hopefully this thing happens. But when you get belief, when you start to create belief, and belief isn't like an afterchool special, most people think, "Oh man, like your mom and dad, you know, you need to believe in yourself. You
know, Sesame Street when I was growing up and [ __ ] you know, you need to believe in yourself." That's not the belief I'm talking about. It's the belief that you harness through hard work and dedication. And it's something that you know what you are capable of because you've gone there several times in those dark times. So my belief why I kept on going back to Navy Seal training and going back to all these different things not because I hoped training would get easier. It's because I believed I could make it through the training I
put myself through. I just wasn't doing and executing as I should and I knew that it was all on me. So then when I put that belief into work and that hard work came to fruition, everything happened for me. We we keep everything at such a surface level but through failure is great success. For those people who are willing to stay the journey and stay the the long long long journey at the end of that becomes a very sharp sword, a very very sharp sword. If you can I mean if you continue to beat that
thing in the ground and beat it and beat it and beat it and throw it in the fire and throw it in the fire. I'm talking about us as humans. And if we can always come out of the fire and come out of the fire, pretty soon, if you look at that fire the right way, you will be as sharp as a sword. And it's the honest God's truth. Your mind will gain strength through the hell you've been through. Everything I didn't want to do is what got me to where I'm at today. >> Interesting.
>> Every single thing. So, where we find comfort. >> Yeah. >> That's where I started getting scared. [music] >> Yeah. >> When I started saying, "Oh, it's raining. I'm not going out there." No, you cannot say that. You cannot do that. You you have got to do this >> the other. So whatever my brain thought, I did the opposite. >> Whatever the comfort was, I went the opposite direction. And over a period of time, boy, it calluses just >> Mhm. >> out of your mind. You have to want it. You have to want to be
a stronger version of yourself. I can't give you that. That's something that you have to want. You have to have a desire and a hunger and a dog in you that wants to become a stronger human
