HOW TO STOP OVERTHINKING | My Journey

So in today's video I'm going to tell you a story how all of this literally the entire video journal series what you are watching how it all came into existence . . .

. I'm gonna take you back to 2021 December . .

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. and this is when I'm coming back to the old type of Simmy who was very chaotic emotional anxious all of that, so I'm taking you back to that time when all of this was on peak I had this one friend . .

. I used to be regularly in touch with and we used to talk pretty much about everything discuss and I would feel light talking to this person that person was my getaway person okay? A friend and this one particular week I remember that this friend is not answering my calls not replying to my messages not .

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being responsive at all this one time I called again and he did not answer and in that moment I was just about to enter that zone of why did he not do it? taking everything personally what happened ? Last time I just said it jokingly.

Why is there a need to take it so seriously? And I was just entering that zone of being emotional and taking it very personally I was just entering it and even before this I'm gonna take you back and I'm gonna tell you that till before this any situation it used to be and something else too anything would have happened my first response used to be emotional the same response, right? that how did he do this or I am very angry I hate you or else judging people or whatever it was so that used to be an immediate almost a without thinking response my mind took me there I never thought about it just and I have no idea what clicked I have no idea what changed .

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. but right when I was getting down that . .

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that rabbit hole of taking it personally Why is he not picking up my phone? Why is he not replying to my memes? Why is he not replying to my messages?

Just when I was taking it personally I don't know what clicked and I'm like but yaar can he be busy also? There could be like a million reasons why this person is not answering my calls or not replying to my messages probably he's sick probably something wrong has happened or probably he's busy or probably this person just wants to take a break there are a million reasons Why this person is not answering my calls and out of those million reasons probably, none of them are attached to me and the minute I stopped myself . .

. I felt relaxed because when you are emotional the child's response to toh wo emotional response will it not affect anyone wo is affecting you be a family of emotions are you feeling it There will only be one display of that thing outside there will be a display of your anger will you fight or whatever you do but whatever you are feeling which will be your tightness the other uneasiness in your body feel it when you feel restless that energy feels cramped it seems you are not free you're bound by that energy that energy is controlling you and I had stopped that I stopped myself from going in that zone getting bound by that energy and thinking about it for days thinking about it and then making an impression I was going to make up a story in my mind, right? how is it like this?

now I will see Next time when his call comes then I will also not taken I will also have attitude so from that one little . . .

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episode I would've gone in a completely different direction jo mera normal route tha which would have been my normal direction which would have been my normal response an emotional response to any outcome to any decision to whatever it was to any situation my first without thought response would be emotion . . .

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. that I consciously stopped myself from going on an emotional road and I took a very rational approach and when I took a rational approach I dropped it Literally, that energy which was beginning it dropped and stopped and I felt free and if you remember about the home series this was just a feeling where I felt liberated and free I took it very seriously probably I keep asking myself why am I taking things so seriously? This is just another episode its just gone or whatever it is but me, as an individual I took that episode very seriously say for example you're in a dark pit like a well andhera hai, whatever it is and suddenly that one thought that rational thought it was like a rope and I took it and then I started climbing I did not leave that chain of thought I kept that thought in mind you know how they say - 'Meditate on it'.

You meditate on it. I didn't even know what "meditate on it" meant! I must have heard it before but never paid attention or I never tried never bothered but I kept that chain of thoughts captured because of how it made me feel because of merely that was an Eureka!

Moment you might call me silly about it or whatever but for me that was big . . .

uske pehle I've always felt like I need to rely on people I need to talk to people I need an emotional response or I need a getaway if you are feeling something then you need to plaster it immediately I need to go shopping I need to watch something I need to eat something I need to talk to somebody or whatever it is like, I need to feel okay right away because it was an immediate emotional response ka A solution which I knew at that time but because maine wo emotional response hee bandh kardia toh wo My body feels so light and I'm like Wow! This feels amazing So I'm holding to that rope and I'm climbing and I'm climbing and I'm climbing and I'm not leaving the chain of thought it took me about two days it took me about two days and suddenly things just started clicking things just started clicking about me about who I am about how I've been behaving about how rash I've been with myself about the emotional aspect of everything and from then on I kid you not! Within a week I I was just having these epiphanies after epiphanies and .

. . I don't know if this is what you call a breakthrough .

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. where I said first, you're an adivasi then you find your home then now you've built your home and all of that it was literally a product of this one little incident now this one little incident can happen to you in different ways it happened to me in this way ,. .

. and what I learnt out of this was to not be emotional and this is what today's video is about to not be emotional and to have a rational mindset . .

. when you have a rational mindset when you have a logical approach to things I'm not saying ki bhai! A lot of people will like it yaar emotional you have to be emotional because you're human afterall NO.

Animals have emotions too but when you're constantly driven by emotions when you are constantly all about yourself your actions and all your thoughts and all your things is emotionally driven like anger, hate jealousy sadness, as I said these are all emotions and they drive you a certain way towards doing things or towards not doing things . . .

. but when you take a very logical approach . .

. which means that if any situation has arisen toh you don't immediately give a response because every situation does not require an immediate response from your end you can hold back you can pause take 3 seconds think does this situation really need an emotional response? Or am I just taking everything personally?

Because obviously, we have an ego self and then we have the soul Our ego wants to be always right and ego is something which drives all the emotions because how did Simmy become so bold? or how did you do this with Simmy? Or else Simmi doesn't like this or else Simmi doesn't like it that's your ego self my identity is my ego my thoughts are my ego and that is literally driving your emotions and emotional response I keep fluctuating I'm not saying I'm completely rational I keep fluctuating I keep going back I get pulled by emotions very strongly sometimes but I have to remind myself At least I'm aware that I'm being pulled and that's enough I know it isn't it yaar I'm being too emotional I'm being too angry and I'm being too whatever the emotion that you're feeling currently, aap you're being too emotional right now I'm being pulled and that's It is important to know this much I don't know it anymore you are just getting lost in that thing then toh you don't even know you have to bring yourself back you don't even know that brother from this I need to get out but when you get to know yes brother I am going in this direction then slowly you can bring yourself back .

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and when I say don't be emotional I don't mean that you didn't show your emotions at the right place . . .

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. bottom line we are all compassionate people if you from myself saare resistances nikaaldo whoever is emotional resistance is like anger jealousy, hate apathy whatever, this or that blah blah blah whenever you remove it all so in the end only love remains only compassion will save I mean try it do it and you'll realize that's the only thing that's binding all of us together . .

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. so when you become rational This does not mean that you should completely eliminate your emotions. .

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but you be more aware of how much your emotions are controlling you and you give responses according to it An emotional response is not necessary in everything that has come to my mind in every thing There is no need to make everything larger than life every thing with so much force on your it hits you like a truck, three times a way there is no need for it because when you go and talk to somebody third person or whoever they will give you a very rational answer but you don't feel it. You don't feel the rationality that they're trying to put in your head . .

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as easily as that I am dedicated to opening the situation that brother this is such a small thing Why are you taking it so seriously? Wow, you are not feeling it, it is happening because you are still angry still he is in an emotional state have you entered inside but how is that so? How did he do this?

Then you talk to another person then I have to go there and spread gossip because I have to go out somewhere and it grows, it develops it becomes something where that becomes your personality and specially I think I have done so much work for this reason because I am on social media my work is something that gives me immediate results immediate feedback the immediate feedback means I am putting myself in that emotional rollercoaster every single day of my life till the day I decide to do this every single day . . .

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meaning of if i have every thing I started getting so emotional toh I can't sustain this and it is not possible Imagine, how much can I sustain? . .

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. How much can I take it? Meaning, go back after lifting it hahaha huhuhu show it by doing it but I am checking it again .

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theekkai what is my rational mind telling me? That its okay Its not about the 1,2 or 3 day or 6 months response its about the longer response that I want to get so its okay even if it does not work Even Kohli doesn't get hit by a wheel every time! .

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iss particular episode se what I learnt what I took back that I'm implementing since two years to not be controlled by my emotions . . .

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I can't always have a fight or flight mode on it is not needed when I give a reaction to something I'm either fighting it or either I'm trying to run away from it and that takes a lot of energy wo constantly is a push and pull game its a push and pull game that is stopping my actions that is controlling who I am that's controlling my thoughts that's controlling every little aspect of my life before giving that sort of a reaction before I know ki yahape my mind is going to go haywire toh do I really need to think it that way or can I look at it from a different perspective which is more logical that yes brother he also did the same I did the same let's go, it's okay it is nobody's fault because its never anyone's fault its no one's fault it is what it is 2 people have reacted out of their understanding out of their awareness of whatever they know in life and if there's a conflict it is because of that because it did not align somewhere theekkai? so that is what has happened if I start thinking like this toh life just becomes easy life becomes easy I can apply it to different aspects of my life my work where theekai work is where majorly I get emotionally trapped yahape I need a lot more rational walls around me I need to really be grounded in myself with rationality so that has major mail har major fast on mai aise I can't take a slap or I cannot fall every time how will I get back again? And even if I have to get back how many times will I get up & get back again?

brother if one day it is going very well toh I'm happy I'm extremely elated life is good Wow! La la la. .

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usdin I'm down . . .

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but why not bring myself back to a rational point where even if it goes up doesn't matter its great. Wow! Amazing!

If it goes down nothing matters . . .

. also good because this is my work 1-2 it is not 1-2 I'm toh looking at the larger picture so its okay I don't want to hit a wheel on every ball not every ball will be hit by a wheel because I don't have some things in my hands I don't have many things in my hand what I have in my hand is it that's it, that's it that's how I started thinking I think ummm this is also when I started reading about stoicism and everything Although I don't think I can call myself a stoic because. .

I'm still not there yet but I pick up certain things about it that yes brother, there is so much in everything What is the need to give an emotional response? in every thing I can't have a fight or flight mode I can't always be under attack . .

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. I need to take control of things I need to be bigger than my emotions Yahape emotions are bigger than me like something big and then there's this one little Simmy who's getting attacked . .

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. but in reality I am bigger than my emotions I have a brain, right? I have a brain I have a consciousness I have awareness I have logic That is what differentiates me from animals that is what makes us humans that we can think that we are aware that we are conscious beings and if I'm not using that consciousness to my advantage to live a fulfilled life then I'm nothing better than an animal who's just reacting out of whatever little situation they're in a flight or a fight response so this is something I implement every single day I wake up with a lot of positivity I wake up with a lot of grace A lot of saying thanks to God and not taking things personally taking my time to react and sometimes I don't give any reaction sometimes I just mind my business most of the times now I just mind my business most of the times I'm not interested in other people's business because I know what's the reaction going to be so why do I even need to go there?

Most of the times I'm just I'm just and I think from then you just you start shaping a different personality a different life which is calmer which is quieter, which is peaceful so the next conflict situation you're in or the next situation you're in which is pulling you in emotionally and you start feeling anger, hate, jealousy you're being pulled in different directions sadness or whatever it is stop yourself right there and take a step back be the devil's advocate for that person or that situation also There is no need to take your side every time being rational does not mean that you're only rational for yourself you cannot be rational without seeing both the sides of the coin you have to create like an argument for both the sides . . .

for example, you're in the court you're the lawyer, you're the judge you're the jury and the executioner you have to play all the parts see what is working see how this thing is affecting you and this is your main motto how to save yourself from the situation where you lie What can be the best outcome through this? That is the whole argument about And it has to happen quick Sometimes it has to happen quick sometimes you have time but once you start developing this habit that is when dheere-dheere this becomes your personality it doesn't take that much time a little bit. .

. sometimes you will be attracted by these emotions sometimes sometimes but then you can bring yourself out of it you can be like that, it doesn't matter (smiles softly) so that is what today's video is about and I hope the next crisis moment happens you're able to pull yourself out of it with rationality and certain logic and, also be kind & compassionate .