OLD AGE REGRETS: Life Lessons So You Don't Screw Your Life Up Before It's Too Late

before you are old attend as many funerals as you can bear and listen nobody talks about the departed's achievements the only thing people will remember is what kind of person you were while you were achieving money can buy flatterers but not friends it can buy sexual favors but not love make more moves and less announcements get yourself together before you get any older the older you are the harder it is to change if you don't let go of the wrong people you'll never meet the right people hard work doesn't always pay off learn to stop

in time and understand whether you have turned into a slave take your financial life seriously money is a defense to a lot of challenges know your worth never put yourself in The Bargain Bin or that's where others will value you pay close attention to those who say they love you because so often they don't they only use you trust in yourself and your first instinct on decisions take care of your body remember health is another form of wealth stay away from people who make you feel lonely no company is better than a Bad Company it

is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for something you are not start saving your money don't spend it on homes you can't afford fancy cars and running your credit cards to the max in the end you'll be much happier when you get up in the morning remember what you promised yourself at night don't say yes to everyone to make them comfortable check with yourself too before you commit in the end we only regret the chances we didn't take the relationships we were too afraid to have and the decisions we

waited too long to make never take for granted the time you spend with the people you keep it could be over any day don't cling to a mistake just because you sp spent a lot of time making it you spend your first 20 years worrying what people think about you you spend your next 20 years swearing that you don't care what people think about you you spend the next 20 years realizing that they aren't thinking about you Time Heals almost everything give it time do not postpone joy for the sake of the future the tomorrow

is promised to no one life will separate you from your friends so appreciate each moment you have together make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present spend time with the elderly their wisdom and experiences are invaluable if you don't control your mind someone else will forget what hurts you but never forget what it taught you the family you create is more important than the family you come from time always exposes what you truly mean to someone stop telling people everything most people don't care and some secretly want you to fail your

friends want you to do good but not better than them rest don't care always move in your own Direction not according to society friends or family leave the house messy and the yard unmowed for the weekend you will remember the fun not the clean house or yard make time for fun keep to yourself stay away from idiots stupidity is contagious sometimes you have to let go of something good to make room for something better you will look back at your life with much more regret for the things that you didn't do than for the things

that you did time is what we want most but what we use worst one day you'll laugh at how much you let this matter be careful how you talk to yourself because you are listening sometimes times it's a blessing to not get what you want forgive your old self you've changed never take anything personally what others say and do is a projection of their own reality people will forget what you said people will forget what you did but people will never forget how you made them feel you can't start the next chapter of your life

if you keep rereading the last one the most valuable currency is not money but time spend it wisely an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure you can't change the past but can shape your future by learning from it when you stop chasing the wrong things the right ones catch up take time to enjoy life's Simple Pleasures it's in these moments that we often find the most Joy the best thing I ever did was stop telling people what's going on in my life depend on yourself never on others whoever brings you the most

peace should get the most time sometimes the things that break your heart end up fixing your vision what other people think of you is none of your business if you are a giver remember to learn your limits because the takers don't have any focus on you people come and go if you don't ask you don't get never tell your friends your plans stop putting too much trust in them don't let anyone know what you're doing until it's done lower your expectations having high expectations of yourself and of others is a recipe for chronic dissatisfaction in

life don't leave someone to teach them a lesson leave because you learned yours make and keep friends with the people you want to emulate not the people that you think will be most likely to accept you the people you associate with Will shape your future nothing is actually as bad as it seems or as great as you think it will be take good care of your health without Health nothing will matter no amount of money can bring you Joy if you are suffering stop wasting time on women don't chase women instead focus on your growth

values and cultivating kindness the right person will find their way to you at the perfect moment without the need for chasing it's not hard it's just new be kind to people without allowing them to take advantage of your good nature if you waste money you can earn it again if you miss the moment it can never be returned live life with opened eyes ears and heart the bad news is time flies the good news is you're the pilot the future that's when you'll be sorry for everything you could have done today but didn't you only

pass through this life once you don't come back for an encore the days are long but the years are short sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory the greatest risk is not taking one the first step to getting anywhere is deciding you're not willing to stay where you are the only person that cares about your hopes and dreams is you the only person that is going to make them happen is you normalize walking some paths alone because goals are personal last but not least you are here for

a reason that you may not know but be patient you beat a billion odds by being here be grateful for the little things in life that others take for granted Ed don't tell your problems to everyone 80% don't care and the other 20% are glad you have them stop looking for the good in people start instead looking for good people you have to do what is right for you no one else is walking in your shoes the more thankful you are the more you attract things to be thankful for never let a bad day make

you feel like you have a bad life every second you spend comparing your life to someone else's is a second spent wasting yours you can lie down for people to walk on you and they will still complain that you are not flat enough when thinking about life remember this no amount of guilt can change the past and no amount of anxiety can change the future every person in your life is a teacher some bring lessons about love and support others teach you what to avoid you see a person's true colors when you are no longer

beneficial to their life don't get married because you think it's something you have to do you don't have as much time as you think tell those people you love that you love them and say it often if you've never questioned whether or not you made the right decision you haven't taken big enough risks not everyone is down for you like they say they are never trust what someone says watch what they do you can't love somebody enough to make them love you back be careful with your words once they are said they can be only

forgiven not forgotten don't let someone who did you wrong wrong make you think there's something wrong with you don't devalue yourself because they didn't value you know your worth even if they don't if you're willing to sacrifice what you want most for what you want now then your future will always be filled with disappointment be single with PE peace of mind is way better than having a relationship with someone who makes your life miserable sometimes you just have to say no and ignore the guilt trip that follows often the right thing and the hardest thing

are the same what you do today can improve all your tomorrows sometimes in life your situation will keep repeating itself until you learn your lesson you will not be punished for your anger you will be punished by your anger it doesn't matter if you're right sometimes the people you hang around will shape your life in more ways than you know sometimes there's no right decision to make in those cases first you make a decision and then you work to make it right the greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you

will make one learn to be content and happy by yourself if you need a company to be happy then it will make you weak you're not responsible for what other people expect from you not every thought needs to be expressed there are things in life we don't want to happen but have to accept things we don't want to know but have to learn and people we can't live without but have to let go no matter who tries to teach you lessons about life you won't understand it until you go through it on your own you

can you can start your life over any time you want you can start being the person you actually want to be today right now the people who ask the most from you are the people who do the least for [Music] you never sacrifice these three things your family your heart or your dignity always look at where you're going not where you've been sometimes it's not the people who change it's the mask that falls off show respect even to people who don't deserve it not as a reflection of their character but as a reflection of yours

when you find no solution to a problem it's probably not a problem to be solved but rather a truth to be accepted nothing ever goes away until it teaches us what we need to know don't make permanent decisions on temporary emotions sometimes it's best just to cut people off no matter how hard it is some people just aren't worth the effort to understand a person's character don't just look at their action observe their reaction it is harder to fake a reaction the way people treat you is a reflection of their character not yours mistakes are

proof that you're trying love is not enough to make a happy lasting relationship being open and unafraid to communicate is vastly important even if it's a difficult conversation everything in life teaches you a lesson you just have to be willing to learn the measure of a man is the way he Bears up under Misfortune if you put them on a pedestal they will have no choice but to look down on you each pain makes you more strong each betrayal more intelligent ENT every disappointment more skillful and each experience more wise when you get married everything

good about your relationship and everything bad about your relationship intensifies you teach people how to treat you things rarely change for the better in your life unless you change them hard times are often blessings in Disguise let go and let life strengthen you no matter how much it hurts hold your head up and keep going sometimes it's a blessing to not get what you want the more you like like yourself the less you'll need others and just because you're good at keeping other people's Secrets it doesn't mean that they will do the same for you

very often a change of self is needed more than a change of scene it is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose that is not a weakness that is life inner peace Begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions he who angers you conquers you there can be no progress no achievement without sacrifice and a man's worldly success will be in the measure that he sacrifices we advance in life when we let go of fear a man who wants something will find a way a man who

doesn't will find an excuse some people will not like you no matter how hard you try to win their favor you have to take chances sometimes and although it can be scary and outside your comfort zone you'll never know what could have been unless you go for it people give you advice based on their perspective the greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short but in setting our aim too low and achieving our Mark be a reflection of what you'd like to receive if you want love

give love if you want truth be truthful if you want respect give respect what you give out will always return never speak from a place of hate jealousy anger or insecurity evaluate your words before you let them leave your lips you only get one body take care of it you'll have it all your life and while it is incredibly resilient it can only give you what you put in if someone emphasizes that they are telling the truth you can be sure they are lying don't base your own selfworth on the opinions of others if you

don't like something about your life you have to change it it's not going to change for you when writing the story of your life don't let anyone else hold the pen don't do anything that you will have to lie about later making others look bad doesn't make you look better prioritizing yourself is not selfish light travels faster than sound that's why some people appear bright wait until you hear them speak sometimes you just need to relax and have faith that things will work out let go a little and just let life happen life is inherently

risky there is only one big risk you should avoid at all costs and that is the risk of doing nothing you the only person who has to be with yourself 100% of the time so start liking yourself and who you are overthinking ruins you it ruins the situation twists things around makes you worry about futile questions and makes everything much worse than it actually is don't worry about what people say behind your back they are the people who are always finding faults in your life instead of fixing the faults in their own life sometimes painful

things can teach us lessons that we didn't think we needed to know be happy on your own don't seek out someone else to validate Your Existence act like you have been there before you must welcome change as a rule but not as your ruler just because things could have been different doesn't mean they'd be better life doesn't get easier or more forgiving we get stronger and more [Music] resilient it's not the mistakes that Define one's character but the manner in which one responds to those mistakes people will disappoint you so never put all your trust

in anyone hard work doesn't always guarantee success but laziness almost certainly guarantees failure you'll never be truly happy if you constantly seek validation from others anything that you start to take a relaxed attitude towards stops controlling you the pursuit of perfection is futile aim for Progress instead your selfworth is non-negotiable never settle for anything or anyone that diminishes it be careful what you tolerate you are teaching people how to treat you you will never be 100% % sure about a decision but always make a decision because it's better to go back and fix it than

to never make it at all learn to say no without feeling guilty it protects your time and priorities chasing happiness will lead you to misery Until you realize that happiness is the way maybe you are not healing because you're trying to be who you were before that person doesn't exist anymore because there's a new you trying to be born breathe life into that person there will always be someone who can't see your worth don't let it be you you learn nothing from life if you think you're right all the time no one owes you anything

you have to work for what you want in life there are things we don't want to happen but have to accept things we don't want to know but have to learn and people we can't live without but have to let go what you want requires consistency and discipline your entire life can change in an instant so instead of passively taking what you have for granted be grateful for it and do whatever good you can with it the worst kinds of enemies are those those who pretend to be your friends the actions of men are the

best interpreters of their thoughts never decide what you can or cannot do based on your lowest points in life only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone [Music] the harder your life becomes the faster you will reach your goals excuses won't fix your problems take responsibility for your actions except that you will make mistakes and learn from them instead of dwelling on them befriend those who expand your thinking not just your circle avoid making decisions when you're angry and avoid making promises when you're happy you will never understand the

damage you did to someone until the same thing is done to you be careful who you let in your life people will come and drain the shift out out of you then leave and blame everything on you maturity is when you have the power to destroy someone who did you wrong but you just breathe walk away and let life take care of them you are the only person you can [Music] control be humble enough to know you can lose everything but be confident enough to know you can get it all back remember that every time

you try you're making progress spend so much time on self-improvement you have no time to criticize others smart people stop overthinking once they understand that the best decisions require more gut feeling than pure intellect it all begins and ends in your mind what you give power to has power over you work on mastering your mind excuses are always there and easy to make finding a way is what takes courage be smart enough to realize that life doesn't wait for you to be okay don't allow someone to treat you poorly just because you love them every

time you lie you are creating problems that you will have to deal with in the future do the right thing now one who believes in himself has no need to convince others learn to miss someone without wanting them back if life wasn't hard you would never grow sometimes you just have to accept that some people can only be in your heart not in your [Music] life the only way to feel better about yourself is to do things worth feeling good about sacrificing long-term joy for short-term pleasure is the easiest recipe for regret don't be scared

to set boundaries in your relationships if they walk away it means you're better off without them life becomes easier when you learn to accept the apology you never got the first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you're not going to stay where you are slow success builds character fast success builds ego if you don't separate yourself from your distractions your distractions will separate you from your goals by doing what everyone else does you guarantee average results Don't Lose Yourself by tolerating Too Much from the people you want to keep Focus your attention on creating

the life you want instead of distracting yourself from your current life when your motives are sincere it's not you who loses anyone rather it's others who lose you when you know yourself you stop fearing Miss missing out on things that are not meant for you the easiest way to destroy your self-confidence is to constantly break the promises you make to yourself stop cheating on your future with your past you grow as much as the amount of truth you're willing to accept about yourself without running away all failures are temporary when you keep trying when you

blame someone else for your problems you're giving them power over you you're allowing them to Define and dictate your happiness and well-being trusting blindly often leads to betray Trail the only person who needs to understand is you life gets better once you stop assuming you will always have more time later be proactive each day should be a step forward the first to apologize is the bravest the first to forgive is the strongest the first to forget is the happiest no single thing will solve all your problems no goal no achievement no relationship no one will

ever fix you show respect even to people who don't deserve it not as a reflection of the their character but as a reflection of yours whatever you do winning isn't everything but you always win if you're satisfied that you put in the best performance you could you set your own [Music] standards find your why your why is the foundation of your goals and provides meaning to your action it's the deep personal reason that drives your Ambitions taking responsibility for all of your problems alleviates more suffering than it creates be who you are and say what

you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind when you talk you only repeat what you already know if you listen you may learn something never date a person you wouldn't also be friends with the more hard lessons you can learn vicariously rather than through your own hard experience the better healing also means taking an honest look at the role you play in your own suffering challenge yourself it's the only path to growth ignoring red flags because you want to see the good in people will cost you later peace does

not mean being in a place where there is no noise trouble or hard work it means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart avoid people who use their pain as an excuse to hurt you don't let people know too much about you most people don't care and some secretly want you to fail when you react you lose power perfectionism is a disease procrastination is a disease action is the cure go where you are appreciated not just was tolerated fix your body before you fix anything else having a

weak body is a reflection of your broken mind it is a reflection of your lack of willpower discipline and your piss poor Life Choices some disconnections will bless your life true success doesn't depend on seeking validation from others it stems from seizing opportunities proving what you're capable of and accomplishing your goals despite challenges when you find someone smarter than you work with them don't get intimidated by them never expect to get what you give not everyone has a heart like you your mental state determines your experience of Life prioritize your mental health like you would

your physical health exercise your mind with new challenges and positive selft talk life is difficult because we don't appreciate the things that come easily don't let loneliness drive you to make temporary decisions with long-term consequences once you are in the right direction in life you stop getting offended and angry all the time because you have so much better to do with your time your growth depends on your willingness to keep learning even when it's boring keep your personal life private and not telling everyone everything even when you have a lot to say is top tier

self-care find a relationship where you naturally being you make the other person happy one of the most dangerous things you can do is compare your life to somebody else's it's not a race it's your journey don't give up after the first failure failure is not the end it's just a detour on the road to success just because you can't see the point behind a challenging time time doesn't mean there isn't one when you believe your mind finds a way to do embrace the long game patience is the ultimate competitive advantage in The Game of [Music]

Life your future needs you your past doesn't being true to yourself may lead to loneliness but it's worth it you will be pulled down out of jealousy don't get surprised it's normal it's scary when things change but it's even scarier when they don't the truth is everyone is going to hurt you you just have to find the ones worth suffering for on a day when you don't come across any problems you can be sure that you are traveling in the wrong path the magic you are looking for is in the work you are avoiding you

must discipline yourself carefully you must keep the promises you make to yourself and reward yourself so that you can trust and motivate yourself our lives are defined by opportunities even the ones we miss when you build in silence no one knows where to attack pain only leaves you when it teaches you something some lessons have to be learned twice being cool calm and collected in a stressful situation is extremely important this doesn't mean you need to suppress your emotions just don't let them get the better of you the more you spend clinging to the past

the less likely your future will be any brighter the only failure is not trying the only rejection is not asking the only mistake is not not risking anything if you can't say no then your Yes means nothing people want you to succeed but often no more than they want to succeed for themselves stop overestimating others and underestimating yourself you give power to someone you blame for your problems life has a way of working out even when it seems impossible you should never sacrifice what you could be for what you are you don't have to prove

anything to anyone including yourself luck comes to those who work hard good things do not come to those who wait don't make one person the center of all your happiness don't make them the reason why you are happy because once that person walks away from your life you're left with nothing when you feel like giving up remember why you held on for so long in the first place never put relationships before your goals you may lose them both you can fall in love more than once you don't need to worry much when someone you love

leaves you most of the time it's for the good you will have to make very practical decisions about what you want from life and what you're willing to give up and if you don't make them then life will make them for you changes happen when we go against everything we're used to doing failure shows us the way Way by showing us what isn't the way it's normal to feel bad after making the right decision no matter how nice and friendly you are some people will dislike you no matter what you do don't waste your time

on them later often means never bad times are actually a boon because they wake you up to the good things you never paid attention to never try to gain somebody's sympathy the people who care about you will be there for you when you need them you don't need to show them that you are their best friend you can't make someone love you by giving them more of what they already don't appreciate most of the time you have to swallow the pain and learn to grow up by yourself money doesn't guarantee happiness but poverty can bring

significant challenges hiding from your your problems won't make them disappear facing them is the only way to grow regrets can linger for a lifetime if you don't learn to forgive yourself and others time spent comparing yourself to others is time spent on wasteful thoughts people will often take advantage of your kindness if you let them problems are rarely as bad as we think or rather they are precisely as bad as we think your obsession with finding happiness is what prevents its attainment treat yourself like like someone you are responsible for helping if you are in

your 20s many relationships will fail and not work but function as learning exercises because of this don't stress so much it's all just practice until you're married your friends and family do not always know what is is best for you the greatest sin is to think of yourself as weak don't allow anyone to treat you badly just because you love them knowing when to mind your own business and when to speak up is a life lesson that takes time but once you know when to react or retract life flows much more smoothly you have to

take chances sometimes and although it can be scary and outside your comfort zone you'll never know what could have been unless you go for it the big secret in life is that there is no big secret whatever you're going goal you can get there if you're willing to work if you do not make yourself indispensable you will be unemployed soon never let yourself become completely dependent on anyone always be able to support yourself financially mentally and physically a wise man can learn more from his enemies than a fool from his friends we walk away from

our dreams afraid we may fail or worse yet afraid we may succeed you can't expect everyone to be good to you and at the same time you can't be good to everyone it is during the worst times of your life that you will get to see the true colors of the people who say they care for you if you never heal from what hurt you you'll bleed on people who didn't cut you never expect and never put too much trust in anyone don't stick with bad friends just because you've known them for a long time

our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us usually people only want to hear the good not the bad so if you have have issues it'll be hard to find people to confide in numbing the pain for a while will make it worse when you finally feel it when a defining moment comes along you can do one of two things Define the moment or let the moment Define you stay away from narcissists they don't play by any rules they will suck the life out of you slowly you need to

learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select your clothes every day this is a power you can cultivate if you want to control things in your life so badly work on the mind that's the only thing you should be trying to control no matter what good you do to people they will only remember your mistakes in every situation life is asking us a question and our actions are the answer our job is simply to answer well say no to your desire to be perfect otherwise you won't be able to improve further

the regret of putting first those who don't put you first makes your life painful you must determine where you are going in your life because you cannot get there unless you move in that direction random wandering will not move you forward it will instead disappoint and frustrate you and make you anxious and unhappy and hard to get along with dreams without goals are just dreams the second you feel like you're hanging on by a thread let go you shouldn't be holding on to something that makes you feel that way in the first place the truth

is the bad things don't affect us as profoundly as we expect them to that's true of good things too we adapt very quickly to either never Overlook contempt when someone views you with contempt and talks to you like you're beneath them they will likely do you harm whether relationally socially or physically remove that person from your life even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness you can't be happy with someone else if you aren't happy with yourself self

Be not Afraid Of Life believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact holding grudges will never harm people you hate only you there is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve the fear of failure you don't realize the true value of a moment until it becomes a memory emotion which is suffering ceases to be suffering as soon as we form a clear and precise picture of it people's actions tell the truth about them not their words real growth is when you start checking and correcting yourself instead

of blaming others you take your power back by being responsible for your life if you can't understand why someone is doing something look at the consequences of their actions whatever they might be and then infer the motivations from their consequences the biggest risk is not taking any risk in a world that is changing really quickly the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks Tomorrow Never Comes because it's always today