Entitled Parents Refused To Pay For My College, But Happily Funded My Spoiled Brother's...

entitled parents refused to pay for my college but happily funded my spoiled brother's lazy lifestyle for years I finally exposed their lies at a family wedding so I 33m recently attended my cousin's wedding and there was an incident during the Afterparty with my parents my parents and I aren't on the best of terms and we try to avoid speaking to one another as much as we can the reason is my younger brother Jack 29m who is pretty much the golden child growing up nothing was ever his fault and he got whatever he asked for which

wasn't the case for me and the older he grew the more more entitled than brat he became so he and I aren't exactly in touch either I cut my parents out of my life after they told me that they wouldn't be paying for me to go to college and I had to arrange everything myself that was many years ago and in recent times we have been civil to each other at family gatherings but that's about it Jack and I don't speak at all even when we meet and I'm okay with that because I don't think

he is the kind of guy that I would want to be on speaking terms with either he is a grown man child who still lives with his parents and spends most of his weekends playing video games with his online friends while emptying canf Ken of be here now a couple of days ago I attended my cousin's wedding like I said and there my relatives and I were just sitting around chatting and drinking after the ceremony like one does out of nowhere my family came around and joined the conversation which I thought was a little strange

because they usually try to avoid me but I didn't think much of it and it wasn't as if I could tell them to leave me alone because a lot of people were sitting around us and it wasn't really a private conversation once they were seated the conversation suddenly turned to me when my dad asked me how my job was going I'm a banker and I recently recently received a significant raise along with my promotion I celebrated it with a couple of my friends by going out to a bar last weekend but that's none of my

family's business so I told him that it was going well and ended my sentence there but my parents were not willing to drop it so then my mother asked me if there was something more that I wanted to share with the family I said no so my dad told me to drop the act and said that he was aware of the promotion and the raise I was a little surprised but I wasn't comfortable discussing this with so many of my relatives sitting around us so I told him that I didn't think that it was any

of their business and tried to excuse myself so I could go to the L but I honestly just wanted to get the hell out of there however my father told me to sit back down so we could talk about this like a family when he said that I got annoyed because I didn't think of him as my family whatsoever and I am pretty sure that they didn't consider me family either and they proved me right when my father said that in spite of earning so much I couldn't contribute and give back to my parents who

had worked so hard to raise me and give me everything that I wanted as a child and now that they were on the brink of retirement I was turning my back on them and being incredibly ungrateful and selfish all my other relatives were either looking at their phones or at the floor because they knew that this wasn't a conversation that they were meant to be a part of it was a clear attempt by my parents to humiliate me and pressure me into giving them money and I knew why they needed the money as well you

see my brother doesn't have a job and is still relying on our parents to provide for him and his lifestyle is not one that's very affordable he wants to go out clubbing and drinking with his friends almost every other weekend and he wants to buy every new Gizmo because he fancies himself to be a tech geek or whatever and these things come at a cost which my parents are probably struggling with both of them are are close to retirement now and need to start thinking about life after that as well they can't exactly continue to

support my brother forever and I knew that they were trying to humiliate me in front of my relatives so that I would agree to send them money to save face in front of these people and then they would hold that against me and continue to enable The Golden Child but I wasn't going to let myself fall for that and even though I was pretty embarrassed I decided to retaliate and treat them the same way that they were treating me so I snapped at them and brought up the way they had laughed in my face all

those years ago when I had asked them to cover my college tuition they had told me back then that they only had enough funds for one kid to go to college and that was not going to be me so I had to look out for myself and I kid you not they had actually laughed when I brought it up with them as if I had cracked some joke but I guess it was fair because that's what I really was to them a joke however now that they could see that I was earning and my brother

was not they wanted me to contribute to the family and I knew that this was just a way for them to continue pouring money down my brother's throat so I brought up that incident and told them that they had not spent a single dollar more on me than whatever was necessary and it only let me live in their house and provided for me up until I turned 18 which was pretty much the bare minimum that they could do for me and they did it not because they wanted to but because it was required by the

law so they needed to stop acting like they did it out of kindness rather than obligation I didn't even realize it but I kind of got choked up while talking about it and had to rush to the L so I wouldn't break down in front of them I just didn't want to give them that satisfaction when I came back out the crowd had dissolved and nobody was sitting in that area anymore so I headed out and went back home I tried not to think about it for the next couple of days but then my brother

reached out to me me and told me something that blew my mind apparently the news of our confrontation at that wedding had been doing the rounds of Gossip among my relatives and unfortunately it had reached some people that my parents wouldn't want in on this huge secret about me having to cover my college expenses myself they had borrowed money in the past from a couple of their relatives and told them they needed it to cover my tuition as well as my brothers and had promised to return it in a couple of years but now several

years have passed and they still haven't return that money and whenever they were contacted by those relatives they claimed that they were still struggling financially even when they weren't and were actually pretty comfortable they would just be too stingy to return the money that they had borrowed and were using it all to fund my brother's lifestyle and now my brother told me that those people had found out about their lives because of what I said at the wedding and three people had filed a lawsuit against my parents demanding their money back they hadn't done that

so far because they believed that my parents were struggling and didn't want to add to their troubles but now that they knew the truth there was nothing that was going to make them hold back but my brother wanted me to talk to them and convince them that I had just been lying to save face at the wedding because I didn't want to admit said I had been a bad son in front of so many of my relatives he wanted me to convince them to take back the lawsuits so our parents could think of something to

get them out of trouble I thought that it was a ridiculous idea and declined but now he and my parents are demanding that I get them out of trouble because I am the one who got them into the situation so Ida for telling my relatives the truth about how my parents hadn't paid for me to go to college update one so I blocked my brother and I decided to go ahead and post my side of the story online for everybody to see just in case they had any more tricks up their sleeve I had a

feeling that they would try to make them M themselves the same as the victims so I made my move first and I don't feel bad about it because I'm just telling people the truth they might have borrowed some more money from people who are not even related to us and they deserve to be in the loop as well in a way I'm just doing good for the world and looking out for other people my parents and my brother have each other to look out for them unlike me because I pretty much always had to look

out for myself in that household so now they'll know how I felt I can't even believe that my brother tried to guilt trip and manipulate me into lying to cover up for my parents and thought that it had work to be honest even while I was making that post I knew deep down that most people would agree I didn't do anything wrong and the responses to my post just reaffirmed what I already knew so thank you guys for being on my side and not letting me doubt myself and I'll also answer some of the very

common questions that people were asking in the comments for starters I'm not familiar with these relatives who my parents borrowed money from and neither have I ever even met them so I don't know why they decided to help my parents out but I guess they were just really kind people and my parents decided to take advantage of that that's the only possible explanation I can come up with and I don't think reaching out to them to figure out why they gave my parents the money right now is a good idea all I am hoping is

that these people have some paperwork or documents to show that my parents had borrowed that money and intended to return it or else I don't think they even have a case against them which would be a bummer for me some of you had also asked about my grandparents and I really don't know what to say about that I hadn't never really been close to any of my grandparents my mom's parents passed away a couple of years ago but my dad's parents are still alive it doesn't matter though because I have never been in touch with

them and even they considered my my brother to be the better siblings so they're just irrelevant they were not the ones who helped me pay for college contrary to popular belief no it was actually all just me and I worked through college to pay off my tuition Along With a Little Help From A couple of my friends and their parents I did return all the money to everybody that I had borrowed from eventually after I got my first job but I never asked for any help from my parents or my family so I made it

on my own and my parents had no part to play in it back then that was kind of disappointing for me but now I can proudly say that I accomplished it all myself and that something I'm really proud of so I hope that answers all the questions that you guys had about me in my life and clears up everything I don't know what's going to happen next with my parents and my brother but whatever happens I'm going to keep you guys in the loop I think you folks are pretty much a part of this now

ha update to okay it's been two weeks since my first post here and like I said a couple of my relatives are suing my parents for not returning their money and thankfully they did have proof according to what I heard so my parents are in big legal trouble right now but for some reason they are being idiots about it and in instead of focusing on their defense they think it's a good idea to come after me and try to harass me into taking their side and admitting that whatever I said at the wedding was a

huge lie that I made up to make them look bad they visited me along with my brother a couple of days ago probably to try and intimidate me or something equally ridiculous I can understand that desire to set everything right by scaring me into telling a lie about myself because they know that they are in a pretty screwed up situation right now and their only bet is to make me look like the bad guy so anyway they showed up and I almost didn't open my door because I could see that it was them but then

my brother kept knocking for several minutes and out of sheer annoyance I let them in but I told them to make it quick because I didn't want to waste my day on them my father was pretty Point Blank and told me that he needed me to lie to cover up for them because they couldn't afford to pay back everybody at once and needed me to buy them sometime obviously now that the cat was out of the bag it would be difficult to get it back in but he wanted me to at least try for the

sake of our family and our reputation I found it pretty ironic that they were talking about family and stuff like that when we didn't even speak to each other for so long and I'm pretty sure that in a real family people at least talk to each other and don't try to manipulate and use the others to their advantage I told them that I really didn't consider them family anymore and they needed to stop bringing that up again and again because it was painfully obvious to me what they were trying to do they couldn't emotionally manipulate

me into taking their side on this and they definitely were not going to try and Guild trip me anymore none of their mind games were going to work with me because so far I know what kind of people they are and I know that they will stop at nothing to get what they want so I wasn't falling for any of their little tricks and when the emotional manipulation didn't work my brother resorted to other means by that I mean that he tried to force me and threatened to put up dangerous posts to defend me and

get me fired from my hot shot job if I didn't comply with them it was a pretty pathetic attempt because I just told him that if he did any of that then they could add another lawsuit to their already ongoing list of troubles because I'd also be filing for a defamation lawsuit against them that shut him up but my mom got all defensive and told me that I had no right to try and scare him like this especially after everything that I had done to the family I didn't like that because I hadn't done anything

to the family they had brought this all on themselves by lying to people and borrowing money from relatives to fund and enable their Golden Child I had no part to play in any of this and for her to make it sound like I was the one responsible for this was just wrong because I didn't make them take money from their relatives never return it and then come up with stupid excuses to avoid paying them back for years I didn't raise my little brother to be an entitled Manchild with no passion or goals capable of doing

literally nothing that was all on them so if they wanted to Pat somebody on the back for that they could do it to themselves and keep me out of it I actually said all of this to my parents and then I told told them to get the hell out of my house because they were wasting my day off and I had more productive and fun things to do my brother registered at first and got all up in my face trying to intimidate me and said that I wasn't going to get away with this and he

was going to make sure of that which was totally hilarious to me because what was he even going to do throw his video game controller at me or get his 20-year-old online weirdos to cyber bully me that really ticked him off and when I told him to brush his teeth more often if he was going to get so close to people to intimidate them he went completely red in the face and my mom had to drag him away but it was pretty satisfying for me to watch him struggle to hold back because I knew that

he was powerless here and so were my parents and it felt like just a huge Victory to me because after years of being targeted by them I finally had them begging for help but I was not going to help them so they were going to feel exactly the way I had felt when I asked them to pay for me to go to college and they laughed in my face update three hey so it's been a couple of weeks since my parents visited me and from what I've been hearing things haven't been going well for them

my relatives have been saying that they have been going around and telling literally everyone they meet about how they are struggling to keep up with the bills as well as paying the lawyer and now they also have to worry about how they are going to pay these people back especially as they are about to retire in a couple of years and this is just coming at the wrong time of course the easiest solution for them would be to just make their younger son get a real job and do something with his life so he can

contribute to the household expenses but they are not going to do that because they want to spoil him rotten and they're succeeding at that job because he most certainly is pretty rotten on the inside they have also been telling people that I felt bad about what I did at the wedding and how I created so much trouble for them especially after the wonderful childhood that they had given me and out of guilt I had apparently offered to pay for the lawyer for them but my parents had rejected it because they had felt very insulted by

me at the wedding and they bragged about how I couldn't buy them out a couple of my relatives talked to me about it and told me that while they were impressed by how mature and generous I was they weren't sure if trying to help my parents out was the best thing to do because they weren't exactly trustworthy I had to reassure them that my parents had been lying and I had done no such thing as they were claiming anytime any of my relatives talked to me about this I clarified to them that whatever my parents

told them was a complete and total lie then I told them the real version of what happened where my family approached me and started begging me to help them out by lying and taking back what I said so it could buy them some time and then my brother tried to threaten me or whatever it is that he was trying to do I'm still not sure and that makes a lot more sense to them than whatever nonsense story my parents had fed them so they don't come out looking bad it's amazing to me how they still

care so much about how their relatives perceive them they are in so much legal trouble but they're still trying to portray me as the villain in their story even when nobody's buying it I guess their priorities are pretty clear literally nothing is more important to them than making me look bad LOL update four okay so I recently learned that my parents lost all three cases against them and they have to pay back the people they had borrowed money from within the next couple of months which sucks for them I guess but it's great for me

I was really happy when I heard that of course my relatives were the ones who told me about this and they found out because my parents started whining almost immediately about how I had absolutely ruined them and now they would never have any money left after they retired even now they are blaming me for this instead of acknowledging and accepting that this is just the consequence of their own actions I can't even begin to imagine the mental gymnastics that it would require to come to a conclusion like this after everything that has taken place it's

not surprising though because I always knew that their life practically revolved around me even though my brother was The Golden Child it was always me who they wanted to put down and portray as the villain in all their stories so I guess they're making the most of this opportunity to be the Talk of the Town for all the wrong reasons Unfortunately they don't realize that this is not a good thing and nobody has anybody's sympathy for them whatsoever they just want attention and that's it they don't care where it comes from and for what reasons

they receive it as long as people are talking to them and about them they just want an opportunity to whine to people about how difficult their life is because of me and it's more evident now than ever update 5 so I have great news and I can't wait to share it with you guys and I hope that it brings as much joy to you as it did to me are you guys ready for it my brother had to get a job that's right I actually feel like the king of the world right now because this

is a day that I've been been waiting for for most of my adult life the day that I would see my brother pushed into actually working instead of just sitting at home and playing games I had to work my way through college and make my own path myself while my brother never had to worry about any of it because he had my parents backing him up but now it feels like the universe has brought Justice to our family in the most beautiful and poetic way possible when I was in college I had to work as

a cashier at the diner to be able to pay for stuff and I recently learned that my brother has had to get a job as a cashier at the video game store because revenge is a dish best served coal I couldn't believe it when I heard it so I had to drive all the way to where he works I even sacrificed my lunch for it but it was completely worth it when I saw the look on his face as soon as I walked into the store and I relished the opportunity to walk around and make

him uncomfortable and angry it was a petty thing to do but boy did I enjoy myself before I left I even asked him if our parents cried on his first day of work like they had on his first day of school and he just flipped me off and told me to leave but I just loved the sight of that and I really don't think that this year could get any better