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welcome to the effortless English show with the world's number one English teacher AJ Hogue where AJ's more than 40 million students worldwide finally learn English once and for all without the boring textbooks classrooms and grammar drills here's AJ with a quick piece to help you learn to speak fluent English effortlessly how to feel more confidence when speaking English feel more confidence when speaking English this is important in many situations you have an English speaking test coming you're very nervous might be the oet might be TOEFL might be IELTS maybe something else and if you don't speak confidently you might fail or you have a job interview a job opportunity in English but for this job this better job you want you have to do a job interview in English again you're probably going to feel very nervous and what happens when you feel nervous your speaking ability actually drops right you know this right so you need to feel confident when you feel confident the words come out more easily whatever your level you'll speak better when you feel confident and you'll speak worse when you're feeling nervous not confident right so very important presentations job interviews English speaking tests even sometimes just talking to a native speaker might or you know just or just a business meeting in English all these things can make people feel nervous and then you think well I know I know more English but I can't seem to use it every time I try to speak I don't feel confident and of course you need confidence just for good communication even in your own language more confidence means better communication people will listen to you more they respect you more they'll actually listen to your ideas you'll be more persuasive if you're trying to get people to do something you're more likely to succeed when you are communicating confidently so how this is the question right because we all know this everybody knows that confidence is important but the question is well I don't feel confident so how can I do it how do I change my feelings I feel nervous I feel afraid I just feel like I'm not excuse me I feel like I'm not very good you know we have all these negative feelings and you want to feel confident you're like ah I should feel confident I should feel confident but you don't you want to but you don't how do you change that I have two methods two methods there's an instant method and there's a long-term method the instant method we can some people call it fake it till you make it which is a nice little idiom fake it until you make it fake it means pretend until you make it until you succeed pretend until you succeed and it's actually a little more than pretending but it is using the instant method meaning right now immediately the instant method is powerful it works it will help you a lot and it's using actually a lot of techniques that come from well NLP neuro-linguistic programming and also that actors use professional actors movie actors stage actors quite similar the way you know they can do a great job of pretending right so you might have for example an actor who's actually kind of weak and uh you know not not tough at all in real life right but you know in front of the camera they can play like a super tough gangster and they seem so confident and strong maybe even mean and terrible right maybe they're playing a bad guy and uh yeah you know everybody watching thinks oh wow this guy this guy is so scary so tough but in real life actually not right so what is the actor doing and women do this too so actor actress what are they doing they are um you know using different techniques to appear they appear to be super confident super tough super strong right and of course this is their job as actors to be really good at that and not just confidence they of course they can do all different lots of different emotions so we can do that you basically become an actor you see it as a performance your job interview is a performance your English test doesn't matter oet tofu whatever IELTS it's a performance like an actor on a stage right it's a performance a speech a presentation is a performance it doesn't matter how big the audience is you might give a presentation to four people in a small business meeting you might give a presentation to 30 people at a conference you might give a presentation a speech to you know thousands of people at a big seminar okay but it's still a performance you're performing and so you can use these tricks instant so let's talk about this first and then we'll talk about long term instant what do we do how do you change or at least pretend to have confidence when inside you're feeling nervous or something else you're not feeling strong okay and the first thing we got to do is basic NLP and this is also something actors do is you you work with your body okay your emotions are not cooperating they're not helping you you're not feeling good so what you do is you focus on your body and you start to move your body make your body into positions that look confident what does that mean so an actor might you know they bring their shoulders back and they put their head up maybe they push their chest out they might exaggerate especially uh if an actor is on a stage and the audience might be farther away then they have to do big movements right so they'll they'll put their chest really up you'll see Tony Robbins does this you can tell he's exaggerating when he's doing a speech a presentation a seminar you know it's like very exaggerated just as always out really really big and he's always shoulders back and oh you know he looks like he's like really really like a gorilla right oh big and strong well you can do this right so you start doing this and you study how do confident people move well confident people don't move quickly usually they actually have very slow movements right they move they're not boring they're not just if they're speaking giving a speech they're not just you know uh dad and not moving but they kind of they move calmly so this is the second thing you do first you put yourself in a you know a power posture some people call it you know you're this is why in power English I teach you in my course power English in my VIP program I teach you again and again I like every lesson I tell you shoulders back head up chest up right I'm training you every day to get into this confident position and when you do this you actually will begin to feel stronger the physical body affects your mind it affects your emotions this is a cool little trick because it's hard to just change your emotions directly it's hard to just say ah feel confident feel confident feel confident it doesn't work you've probably tried it it doesn't work you're like ah but I don't feel it I'm just I still feel nervous so forget them forget the emotion part focus on the body change the body first that will then start to change the emotions and you can do this with your face too you can you smile if you don't feel like smiling you're super scared and nervous but I don't care even a fake smile is better than nothing so you put on your best fake big smile and you start changing your body so you start with just the position the posture and how your face looks right and then you focus on movement how do you move how do confident people move generally more slowly and calmly they're calm because they're confident and how the nervous people move quickly right like the worst a really nervous person shakes and they're moving very very quickly right quickly and suddenly right this is what a nervous person looks like right like a super scared person right that I'm exaggerating but you you get the idea you can even see in like my old old videos from uh YouTube look at my oldest ones I'm I'm kind of moving too much and too fast so you can kind of see some of the nervousness there now I don't feel any nervous so I'm I move more slowly more calmly okay so you focus on how you move the next thing you focus on is you're breathing confident people calm people relaxed people breathe more deeply and more slowly so again we're focusing on something physical we're not trying to directly change the emotion that's very difficult instead you just focus on something physical now you've got the body position you've got your movements are slower now you want to breathe more slowly and deeply now this is hard to do in the middle of a job interview or the middle of a speech it's hard to focus on your breathing while you're talking and doing that but this is easy to do before so before you go on to Stage to speak before you sit down for the test right before you start your presentation you can just focus and just very consciously you can even hold your breath every breath you hold your breath for like four or five seconds so you breathe in deeply and really focus on thinking big exaggerated large breaths and then hold it for a few seconds and then focus on letting the breath out exhaling means the breathing out more slowly exaggerate it make it super slow and then you do it again of course slow long breaths in hold slow long breaths out this will help to calm your body a little bit and adjust again you do this with all the other things they all work together you have to do all of these things in a in a tough situation but if when you do all of these things you will start to feel more confident you might still feel nervousness but very importantly you will look confident you might still feel nervous inside but people outside they won't notice they won't realize if you tell them afterwards oh I was so nervous so scared they'll say oh really oh wow you seem so confident you seem you seem fine you seem really relaxed okay so you're being an actor here we are faking it a little bit we're pretending a little bit but hey that's okay just realize it's a performance job interview is a performance a speaking task the IELTS speaking test the oet speaking test it's a performance it's just your it doesn't matter how you feel inside just be a good actor okay and then finally you might focus on your voice and your speaking speed two problems happen when we feel nervous with speaking one problem is some people will speed up and they'll talk too fast right and so you can hear it it's unnaturally fast you know someone's nervous and they start really talking fast and quickly and uh again this is a problem I had in the past like well I got nervous and I start I would speed up speed up speed up and it's obvious you start to and when you speed up your speaking then you start speeding up your uh you know your uh your your movements your face everything starts getting faster and you start to look kind of weird and and you know crazy so this is a problem so you want to try to slow your speaking down and this is you know this is funny because a lot of people think especially you know English Learners they think I need to speak fast so then it looks like I'm fluent but no you just need to speak clearly and correctly and of course you need to speak fast enough but speaking a little slowly is actually better this brings me to the second problem of speaking speed other people when they get nervous what happens is they can't like it's not just they speak slowly it's they start saying [Music] they start taking these weird breaks and they're looking down and they and they're constantly thinking and trying to find the perfect word and then this also it looks terrible right it's not confident so I'll give you a tip about this and this if this is a habit you must break that if you need a break to think of something or you need to pause it's totally fine just don't make any sounds So Silent pauses silent pauses look confident might be kind of long you're thinking of your answer you can even look away while you think hmm right but see that noise I made hmm no good when you make sounds like um uh well uh the that sounds nervous it start you start to sound and look nervous but if you train yourself for silent pauses it looks confident even if it's quite long it's okay to have long pauses to think there's no need for super fast speech not for tests not for interviews not for presentations and in fact when you pause silently it can actually add some a little bit of drama a little bit of power to your speaking you'll notice that some very top level speakers do this a lot they'll make these long pauses but it must be silent okay if you you've so I just did some pauses there now listen to again if I'll do it again but so you take some long pauses um uh and uh uh and then you know you keep talking again um you know um and that's totally different isn't it you feel the difference when I start adding in the sounds or the filler words um yeah you know uh well then it kills it then it does sound terrible and it looks very nervous okay and then you feel a little nervous too so I think you're getting the idea right so now you change all of these things your posture the way you move the way you breathe the speed of your speaking including pauses and when you put all this together you will appear very confident your speaking will sound very confident and actually you will feel more confident you might it's not a hundred percent okay you might still feel some nervousness but no one will notice your nervousness okay and that's the most important thing in these kind of situations so that's the instant approach and you need this because you know you might have a job interview coming in a few months or or tomorrow maybe you're taking the IELTS test in three weeks okay you don't have time to do any kind of long-term thing you need something that works immediately right now so all of these things will help you and will work right now in any situation you can do them in just a five minutes and this is going to help just practice these things so this is the instant this is the first thing you should do this is going to help your English speaking your Communication in general even your own language sound much stronger more confident you will appear more confident and you will feel more confident too it will change your feeling when you change your body you change your energy and that does change how you feel and when you do this a lot this is the fake it till you make it it actually can become real you practice it so much you practice the postures and the way of speaking and moving it becomes part of you becomes a habit you actually then do start to feel much more confident and much less nervous because all these physical habits change you over time and the changes become permanent so this is a great way to do it okay highly recommend it now the second way the long-term way to feel more confidence is to just be better success is to succeed succeed and you will feel more confident right success Bree we could say success breeds confidence success creates confidence so this is obvious right if you uh if you give a speech and everybody at the end cheers yeah speaker you're gonna like oh wow you're gonna feel some more confidence then you give another speech and the same thing happens ah everyone's jumping and clapping and going crazy you're the best speaker oh my God you're great you're fantastic oh we want to hire you we want you to come back and speak again well this happens three four or five times and you're gonna be like I'm a good speaker you are going to feel much more confident right because this is based on real world skill real world real world feedback real world success right it's the same I think someone in the comments just mentioned like girl talking to girls a guy wants to go up and talk to girls right single guy and he's trying to get dates well again if you uh if you for the long term if you go up to girl a girl and you say hey you want to go to dinner with me and she's like oh yes oh please yes right and then uh and then two days later you see another girl you walk up hey you want to go to dinner with me yes yes oh my God you're great please let's go to dinner if this happens five or six times you're gonna be like yeah oh my God I'm confident with women uh women love me right so that's the per that's the dream situation but the problem is you probably are not at that point yet that takes a long time you need a lot of skills a lot of practice a lot of experience to get those successes right it doesn't matter in any situation that takes a lot of time so that's why the instant techniques are so important because I think most people are thinking well AJ yeah that sounds great but how do I get success how do I get the first success I'm so nervous that I always fail I go talk to a girl oh man and then she just like is like huh no thanks so get away from me right and then I talk to another girl get away so you just have failure failure failure and this starts to destroy your confidence and your confidence gets lower and lower and lower that's why you need the instant methods that's why you need to do in some ways some acting some pretending using you know specific techniques so that you appear very strong and confident you feel a bit more confident but there's still a lot of nervousness inside that is normal and that's you know for quite a while you need that you need these techniques these instant techniques these pretend these acting techniques you need them so that you will get some success and then you get the success ah now that adds to your confidence now you feel a little more confident and then you use the techniques again and you get another success okay now you've got the techniques you're getting better at those you're feeling more confident but you also have two successes and this is more of that deep level of confidence and so you can see they start to work together and then eventually you feel super confident in this area whatever it is speaking English job interviews presentations talking to a girl taking an English test they become like you know there's nothing and I'm so confident I know I can do it right so that's how you do it the instant technique and the long term deeper method let's get in some quick comments and questions and then I gotta go I got about I've got a few minutes so Jonathan osanaga says how you speak to a girl because it's different when you speak to a girl in another language well indeed right so this this is the problem with English for you not obviously not for me but for you uh is that everything becomes more difficult when you are doing it in a foreign language so these situations are all already stressful they're already difficult even in your own language taking a test is still stressful for a lot of people even in your own language job interviews are stressful for most people presentations are stressful for most people right speaking in a meeting can be very stressful for most people so they're already stressful situations then you add the the foreign language and now it becomes super stressful right so this is again this is why you need to use these techniques because you're right of course Amina good to see you as always and Amina just says how are you doing how are your kids I'm doing well starting to feel better I was sick taking various medicines right now and slowly getting better I went back to Jujitsu yesterday for the I I was off for a few weeks it felt weird but went back and had a great day training yesterday so feeling good kids are doing fine too Alejandro Esparza says hi from San Francisco place I used to live hello Vernier says you're the best teacher with the most beautiful accent that's very nice thank you this person says uh how much will all of your lessons cost to me I want them all at once um well right now we don't have like a Bund actually you can get a discount what you can do is buy one of the courses let's say power English buy it then what's going to happen is after you buy power English you'll get an offer like immediately 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com I'll go with the last question why not Amina says uh how many hours do you sleep in a day kids it's been about six hours a day last night was six if I'm lucky on a good day if I excuse me if I can manage to get to bed early and the kids if I'm looking and the kids sleep in a little later then I might get seven hours a night and if I'm super lucky on a magical day I'll get eight but that doesn't happen much usually six to seven hours a night all right that's it so let's just summarize very quickly um hey what's going on with money there we go uh sorry I just had a little problem with my screen there all right to summarize how to feel more confident there are two basic methods strategies the one that's probably most useful to you right now it's the instant method these are this method uses acting techniques where you you first focus on changing your posture right your body position shoulders back heads up anyone with power English my course you know that phrase because I say it constantly in the course right in vip2 shoulders back heads up shoulders back head up right chest out right all these things you're just you're gonna put your body into a confident position and you're gonna focus on your breathing slowing your breathing down slowing down your movements a little bit you know not too much right you don't want to be Frozen that looks weird but just don't instead of moving quickly which looks nervous yeah move just more slowly and more smoothly then you actually slow down your speaking again not too much obviously but be careful don't speak too fast most people when they get nervous speak too fast now doing it as a with a foreign language like English for you maybe that's not a problem but it still can be focus on your pauses when you pause be silent no sounds and no words to fill up the space none of that silent pauses and of course good eye contact these things are all great so start combining all those things you will feel more confident most importantly you will look confident even if you feel nervous and nobody will know and the second thing is long term of course is just get more successes as you start to succeed more and more just naturally at a deep level you'll start to feel much more confident but that takes time so the instant methods are probably the most useful for you now all right get my book for free effortless English learn to speak English like a native the entire book free for you learn my whole system enter your email at effortlessenglishclub. com effortless English Club .