hey secta-goers do you sometimes get scared that you're not being a good partner to your significant other or if you're not in a relationship maybe you don't want to start one out of fear that you won't be enough for them even though relationships can be a beautiful union between two loving people they're not easy it takes effort to create a bond with another person that will last through all the obstacles life puts in front of you being aware of your behavior could be the first step towards keeping your mind and relationship healthy here are some
common behaviors that kill relationships number one angrily reacting to criticism sometimes we feel the need to criticize the people we spend time with that critique doesn't need to be anything serious but the fact is we don't like everything about people 100 of the time so chances are your partner will sometimes criticize you too the way you handle that criticism is a key to a healthy relationship do you get offended and give them the silent treatment do you turn it around against them do you get angry and yell at them all of these behaviors could damage
your relationship in the long run it would send a message to your partner that you're not open for communication and accepting your own mistakes instead try to think about what your partner said and why take it as something that your partner finds important and try to find a solution together number two disrespecting your partner's privacy even if you're a couple you're still an individual as an individual you want to have your own private space for things you enjoy as a person your partner deserves that space too problems can arise if you overstep their boundaries this
could mean going through their phone demanding to see their messages or call logs not allowing them to see friends or family and demanding you go out with them every time everywhere this could make your partner feel suffocated and lose a sense of individuality it could feel like you're controlling them and become unhappy in a relationship if you feel this behavior is common for you it's likely there are some complex emotions underneath those actions feelings of inadequacy low self-esteem and attachment issues working out these problems in therapy could help you and your relationship number three bringing
yourself down even if you have a loving partner by your side sometimes you may get overwhelmed with feelings of insecurity it happens to many of us and it is totally okay to have those days every once in a while but if you're constantly feeling insecure and bringing yourself down in front of your partner you could unintentionally push them away they might be annoyed or frustrated that they can't help you with your self-image insecurity could lead to other behaviors like jealousy over analyzing your partner's words and needing constant reassurance this could drain the energy from both
of you and damage the relationship number four giving ultimatums sometimes giving an ultimatum is the only option you're left with to get the desired outcome or change someone's bad behavior for example if their behavior is putting you in a dangerous situation but for non-harmful mundane situations opt for a conversation rather than an ultimatum when you give an ultimatum you're trying to manipulate a person into doing what you want you may say something like if you go out with that friend i don't like i'll break up with you with this you're putting them in a position
where they're forced into a corner they have to choose between two people they love since they are pressured into doing something they don't want to do your partner could start feeling resentment towards you it could affect their self-esteem and destroy the trust you've built over time and consequently hurt your relationship and number five giving the silent treatment have you ever had an argument with your partner where you needed space afterwards it's okay to spend time alone to clear your head until you're ready to talk it out the silent treatment is different from this while giving
the silent treatment you're refusing to talk about a problem ignoring your partner and avoiding open communication giving them the silent treatment instead of expressing your worries may act as a way for you to avoid taking responsibility if you know you're in the wrong and it could also help you escape acknowledging or changing your behavior a partner who is on the receiving end of the silent treatment may feel confused ignored hurt angry unloved or unimportant they're left with no way to explain themselves offer an apology or find a compromise in the long run this could make
their feelings for you disappear and bring your relationship to the end did you recognize some of these behaviors in yourself if so it's okay as long as you're open to hearing it acknowledging it and changing it nobody is perfect and nobody can expect you to be perfect the beauty of being in a relationship after all is to be able to grow and change for the better one next to another and while you both work on yourselves your bond will grow stronger than ever did this video provide some insight let us know in the comments below
don't forget to leave a like as well and share it with a friend who you think may benefit from this video all references used are in the description until next time
