The Power Of NOT Reacting (How To Regulate Emotions)

there is a power in your silence and restraint this is not a weakness it is an unquantifiable expression of strength one powerful show of character and strength is not giving into every word or action thrown your way to be a person of this nature you must Master the skill of not reacting why is this important why must it be mastered continue watching this video to find out to harness this power of not reacting you first have to recognize extreme emotions and delay impulsive reactions when they come to the surface here are some tips to help

you become more reserved chemical countdowns the first step to be more reserved is just being at the moment by taking slow breaths there is a tendency to go with a rush of the emotions that flood our minds upon hearing certain words or receiving certain actions but taking a second to have a countdown in our minds goes a long way psychologists refer to this as a chemical countdown from 1 to 10 from 10 to 1 again as based as it sounds practicing chemical countdowns helps you calm your nerves and remain in control of your impulses find

your roots ask yourself the right questions identify what is really triggering you sometimes when someone does or says something to provoke a reaction out of you most times it's not what they said or did sometimes it's not even the how or why but rather something else entirely that has to do more within us than them when next you're offended ask yourself is this really a valid reason to cause me to act out of character or am I just looking for an excuse to vent inner resentment if you're finding this video helpful please give it a

like and a thumbs up let go of reserved anger or stress according to Sarah Lindberg for Healthline pent up anger or anger that's been withheld and not expressed can affect your mental and physical health that's why it's important to identify address validate and move past these feelings the longer we bottle up stress anger or resentment the more chances it emerges in moments we don't expect I know you're hurt it's okay to be tired but it serves you more to release your emotions in a fruitful and productive manner this can be letting it out through working

out running or having a conversation with whoever caused you hurt if it's safe for you if not distance yourself but talk to a third party you both respect the goal is to be in control of the negative emotions and not allow them to grow within you to the extent they control you know the consequences the huge reason many don't know the power of reservation is that they can't see nor understand the consequences of uncalculated reactions when you take a moment to discern the results of a sudden reaction you might just prefer to stay calm and

rise above the situation for example if reacting would only make matters worse or drag you into a messy situation perhaps that was the intention to bring you down you wouldn't want to give someone or something beneath you more power would you have empathy an ultimate technique to help you master the art of not reacting is to be full of love and empathy when your heart is abundant with love and empathy it will be difficult to take offense because you see beyond their actions and see the hearts intentions behind them when you see their heart instead

of being hurt by their actions you see things from their point of view you see their pain and not get cut up in your feelings benefits of not reacting why should you master the art of not reacting being Invincible if someone is deliberately provoking you to elicit a reaction for their own benefit mastering the art of not reacting becomes even more crucial the more composed and unbothered you remain the less likely they are to continue using that tactic against you better decisions imagine how much more peaceful and fulfilling your life could be with clearer more

thoughtful choices when you're calm you can make better decisions these decisions result in a better quality of life a St stud by the University of California San Diego found that self-control significantly contributes to gaining and maintaining power which is vital for effective leadership your ability to manage impulses and stay focused on long-term goals makes you the leader you are deep within strong relationships John gotman an expert in couple therapy highlights the negative communication patterns during conflicts can deeply hurt relationships if not addressed harsh words and criticism can ES escalate conflicts fostering resentment and defensiveness by

being Mindful and compassionate in our communication you can nurture stronger more resilient relationships if your important relationships must last as much as there has to be transparency there has to be gentless during heated conversations more Focus taking your attention from a necessary thing shifts your side to the things that truly matter for example let's say someone runs into you without apologizing or someone's trolling your content in the comment section you can react in attack or defense better still you can just resume your journey and not let people's negativity distract you from your momentum you're not

a robot you're human with feelings and impulses it is okay to feel but you don't always have to give power to those feelings because in the end feelings may fade but the words or actions that spur us on impulsively will stick with us by utilizing these tips you will Master a super trait that makes you a leader in a situation want to learn more about habits that build confidence and self-esteem watch this video and as always thank you for watching [Music]