WHEN YOU FEEL LOST IN LIFE | Powerful Motivation Speech on NOT GIVING UP

there's a saying don't worry about losing other people worry about losing yourself while trying to please other people [Music] and see holding on to our authentic selves not always easy in fact emerson said to be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment and that holds true and especially in our fast-paced world shiny objects constantly buzzing around us sometimes it seems like the only way to see with clarity is to keep our eyes closed i was in the car the other day had spotify on shuffle and

a jason aldean song came on it's called better at being who i am and it's essentially about a guy who loses himself in a relationship a little bit at a time and the chorus is basically him sharing his epiphany looking around and going whoa what the hell happened and it was laid out in a way that wasn't sort of the obvious blatant you know be yourself i mean sure part of the theme was how important being yourself is but the emphasis was on how fragile of a thing that can be he put a spotlight on

the idea that he got good at forgetting he was in a place that he knew he didn't belong how we can become masters of forgetting that champions of rationalization and that was his message being that he has somehow somewhere lost himself along the way that concession after concession can ultimately put you in a place where you don't know who you are where you can know something isn't quite right and still slowly and subtly it creeps in it can consume your reality and that's what cut through me not simply because it occurred it wasn't so much

the epiphany itself but more so that he showed how easily the erosion of the self can occur in our lives how easily we lose ourselves how sneaky the whole thing can be and this particular example is pointing to a relationship with his girlfriend and it certainly can be this but it doesn't have to be and often it's not it can be a job you don't want to do but hanging in there just one more day you know turns into more days than you can count it can be time with the wrong people doing the wrong

thing going against your best judgment it can be the business decision for short-term gain that ultimately points you in a direction you don't want to go right before giving life to that convenient phrase well i've come too far to turn back now life is like a small child always gently tugging on his mom's sleeve to get her to stop doing what she's doing and go get ice cream right it's the temptation to move away from the task at hand to abandon the principles just slightly the objectives just enough that they'll be pulled off track right

that that's always there and to reiterate because this nuance is why i think the idea is so important the message is not simply about being authentic i think we all understand the value and necessity of authenticity or at least i hope your value is in who you are the things that make you unique are the gateway to a life of fulfillment what makes you you and how can you delve into that share it with the world that's the good stuff okay so let's presume we know this my fascination and goal is to point out the

fact that so much around us is looking to take that authenticity and subtly over time transform it that if we are not aware of what we are we will lose who we are and that's where you end up in those wrong relationships wrong places doing the wrong things a lot of times it wasn't deliberate or conscious it wasn't one swing of the axe it was letting yourself slip away one day at a time it's the pressure of an infinite number of things right the the billion choices you have pulling you in all different directions it's

the people in your life that may have different incentives than you it's that deep biological tendency to want to appear like you're winning now it's your brain telling you to do what the crowd does because the alternative creates pain it's not wanting to let others down because you want to be their source of happiness completely forgetting that an empty cup has nothing to offer it's the deception online the highlight reels filtered pictures humble brags and exaggerated success stories all prompting us to say well then i must have miscalculated my path must be the wrong path

and maybe we don't come to this realization and immediately jump ship but we take in a little water every day [Music] every time we open the app and feel lesser because of an impossible standard every time we put the thing that meant something to us on hold for someone else every time we chase that shiny object in exchange for what we expect will be short-term validation but here's the crazy part it's like when i shut everything off when it's just me and my thoughts no distraction i have a very good sense of who i am

and what i want just in my gut i know what feels right to me and it's only when the chaos comes in that the target can get blurry and the goal seems to live a little further away and maybe that's why that song had an impact why the light bulb went off the idea that something so obvious so powerful so important can elude us and deceive us there's something to that i'm better at being who i am of course i am and so are you so why don't we why isn't there an emphasis there why

is that something that doesn't get our thought and attention we can't afford to forfeit that instinct and so this is the part where i remind myself and everyone listening that you get nothing in life without some semblance of self-trust [Music] you have to take the time to understand who you are and trust yourself to build that from the ground up without that you'll get swept up by the currents of everyday life [Music] but to know what matters in your world and to hold on to it with conviction that's what it's all about and then yes

you'll have success letting people into your life when they contribute to who you are as a person when they align with your values when they feel like wind on your sails and yeah of course take the proven paths and utilize the beneficial tactics but only when they align with what you are building if not you know walking away is the best option wandering around until you find alignment now that brings more value than a toolbox of the wrong tools and sure sometimes you have to do things you don't want to do i get that that's

called being responsible but those things as annoying as they are should be contributing to something that does matter to you the building's foundation is not fun or sexy but it's necessary just make sure you believe in what will ultimately be built on top of it otherwise you are most certainly wasting your time [Music] your gift is you you have something to share something to explore nurture and grow stand in front of that never hide behind it protect it it's the benchmark against which all other things should be measured we're all better at being ourselves than

some impersonation of what we think the world wants us to be [Music] i think the question comes down to will you allow that greatness for yourself will you be courageous enough to keep the spotlight on what matters most will you maintain the awareness that when you're walking down a path that doesn't align with who you want to be you can self-correct turn around put emphasis on that part of you that lights you up [Music] because that will not only benefit you but it will benefit everyone around you and ultimately benefit the world [Music] you