How to Know Your True Friends - Prof. Jordan Peterson

Well let's talk about friendships for a minute Here's how you know if someone's your friend a) You can tell them bad news and they'll listen they won't tell you why you know you're stupid and why that bad thing happened to you and how something worse happened to them once and you know derail the whole conversation You, can actually tell them bad news and they'll listen so that's a good thing and then this is a weirder thing you can tell them good news and they'll help you celebrate and that's a really good way of deciding who you should have around you because if you have someone around you you know something good happens to you you're kind of afraid to even admit it because you know god something good happen to you it's like that You let that be known and they'll certainly be taken away so you know you you come out and you sort of tell someone half-heartedly that something good happened to you and then they give you a whack and then talk about you know Some of the great thing that happened to them three years ago or worse the great thing that happened to someone that they knew three years ago You know it's like go away from that person, they're not helpful to you and they're not helpful to themselves either and so you want to surround yourself . . .

you've got to think about this You've got to surround yourself with people who want the best for the best part of you you can hang around with weasels and losers that are trying to pull you down To justify the fact that they're spiraling downhill as well and you know the upside of that is you don't have to have any responsibility you can all whine about how wretched life is you know so that's pretty attractive But I would say it's also a mid. . .

bad medium to long term plan and so it's it's acceptable and desirable to try to surround yourself, with people who are facilitating your development and you know you might say well i've got people around I know them well you know they're they're not doing that well and and they're and they don't fit into that category it's like what's your point? What are you going to do with them exactly if they'll if they'll listen and cooperate with you and move towards a better future Great If they don't pay any attention and they keep doing the same damn things over and over and they're not going anywhere and it's painful then maybe the proper thing to do is say "you just have your misery" I'll go off and have my life and maybe you'll wake up at some point in the future and think that's a better way of being because just putting up with it is almost. .

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