How to have EFFORTLESS RELATIONSHIPS with women: the advice you wish your dad gave you

I'm Dr Orion taraban and this is psycax Better Living Through psychology and the topic of today's short talk is how to have effortless relationships with women people often say that relationships take work so many will find this hard to believe but it is actually possible to have an effortless relationship and let me tell you once you have one you will never want to go back to the old model consider that it takes no effort for water to flow downhill seeking the lowest point is what water does naturally you can make water flow uphill but it

will require continuous energy and effort to do so and this is what happens when you try to have the relationship you want with anyone this is tantamount to taking on a second unpaid job on the other hand if you really understand yourself and if you know how to vet a woman appropriately then you can have an effortless relationship in which love affection and sex flow as naturally as water flows downhill that said while selection is a big part of this outcome it's not the whole story fortunately assuming that selection isn't an issue there's really only

one thing you need to understand to have an effortless relationship with a woman and that's what I'm here to talk about today however before I reveal this understanding please remember to like this episode And subscribe to this channel it takes less than a second costs you nothing and it's a way for you to help spread this message to more people so if you like what you're hearing then please do the thing also if you're thinking about going to grad school then check out stellar gre.com and you can use the coupon code psych for 10 off

all membership plans so what is it that you have to understand in order to enjoy an effortless relationship with a woman at this point it may be useful if you haven't done so already to check out my episode women treat men the way men treat jobs because it's within this framework that I will be discussing this understanding as I said there's only one thing you need to understand to have an effortless relationship with a woman and here it is all you need to do is to be her perceived best option that's it if it sounds

simple it's because it is however that doesn't necessarily mean that it's easy since as we've previously discussed on this channel women want it all now why does this work okay women treat men the way men treat jobs right so men think about all the professional experiences that you've had in your life you've probably had several different jobs which is generally enough experience to know that it's hard to get a good job if you've worked for several years you've probably encountered insufferable bosses incompetent colleagues demanding work schedules useless obligations frustrating bureaucracy low compensation feeling unappreciated feeling

disrespected feeling burnt out feeling like you're giving more than you're getting these are all fairly common experiences as you make your way through the professional Arena especially at the beginning because you tend to have the worst jobs when you're first starting out so let's say that you've had these kinds of experiences over the past five or ten years and that you may even have begun to despair of the possibility of ever finding a job that you don't hate let alone a job that you love and you finally land this fantastic job it pays three times

as much as you've ever been paid before it gives you a flexible schedule with unlimited paid time off it allows you freedom and control over your various projects and responsibilities it provides excellent benefits and you feel appreciated and respected by your colleagues and supervisors now if you land this job are you going to do anything whatsoever to jeopardize this position absolutely not you are going to be on your very best behavior and why are you going to be on your very best behavior because you know what else is out there you understand that all other

things being equal If this job doesn't work out it's going to be a step down for you it won't be as good as you've got them you'll be paid less for more work you might have to relocate and at the very least you'll have to go through the whole interview process again which is a real pain in the ass I've never met anyone who says he likes interviewing for jobs and that's kind of what dating feels like to women in many respects so if you've previously had challenging or unfulfilling experiences in the professional Arena once

you find an interesting meaningful high-paying job with great benefits you are going to be Employee of the Month the same is true in relationships even a woman with limited dating experience has a pretty decent idea of what is out there dating a narcissist or a stoner with no ambition or an angry controlling guy is kind of like working one of those jobs in your past and if she's lucky enough to land a relationship with you if you have an emotionally compelling lifestyle if you know how to maintain high levels of Attraction if you're interesting and

fun and fit and can provide her with high value experiences that she may not be able to find anywhere else trust me she is not going to do anything to rock the boat and why is that because she knows what else is out there man she understands that all other things being equal If this relationship doesn't work out it's gonna be a step down for her one of the things that I tell my clients is that other guys make me look good I have nothing to fear from other guys because I've seen the competition and

if you can't yet authentically endorse that belief yourself then you've got some work to do your work is to level up your life by investing in yourself to the point that you can legitimately be perceived as the best option by the caliber of women to whom you are attracted and this really shouldn't be that tough of a cell as most of this work directly benefits you anyway and once you succeed in doing so you'll have other work to do because the work never stops however let's just take this one step at a time also if

you're a woman's perceived best option then most of the tricks of control and manipulation that guys are subject to using to secure love affection and sex become increasingly irrelevant you don't need them you don't need to try to control your partner or convince her that she should be there or mess with her emotions you can be like an employer at a fantastic company that's in high demand we'd love to have you but we're not going to force you to stay and you're free to leave at any time there's the door if you are a woman's

best option she is going to be sweet as pie she is going to be putting an effort she is going to be sexually available she's going to be gentle and patient and easy going this is the type of relationship that a lot of guys are looking for and it does not require work on the other hand if she is difficult or distant or inconsistent or impatient or demanding or whatever it's almost always because she believes that she could do better maybe she had a better option in the past who may not have wanted the kind

of relationship that she did maybe she is comparing herself to her friends or social media or maybe she's just delusional about her value and expectations the reason doesn't really matter the upshot is that you're not going to have a good time and you'll be putting in more and more effort for smaller and smaller returns the smart move is to select women who understand that they're lucky to be there anything less is a job what do you think have you experienced this yourself let me know in the comments below thank you for listening