When I Talk To Myself Like This, The SHIFT starts to HAPPEN - Louise Hay on The Law Of Attraction

the power of your spoken word every day declare for yourself what you want in life declare it as though you have it the law of mind there is a law of gravity and there are several other physical laws like physics and electricity most of which I don't understand there are also spiritual laws like the law of cause and effect what you give out comes back there is is also a law of mind I don't know how it works in much the same way that I don't know how electricity works I only know that when I

flick the switch the light comes on I believe that when we think a thought or when we speak a word or a sentence it somehow goes out from us into a law of mind and comes back to us as experience we are now beginning to learn the correlation between the mental and the physical we are beginning to understand how the mind works and that our thoughts are creative our thoughts speed through our minds very quickly so it is difficult to shape them at first our mouths on the other hand are slower so if we can

start editing our speech by listening to what we say and not letting negative things come out of our mouths then we can begin to shape and control our thoughts there is tremendous power in our spoken words and many of us are not aware just how important they are let us consider words as the foundation of what we continually create in our lives we use words all the time yet we Babble away seldom thinking about what we are truly saying or how we are saying it we pay very little attention to the selection of our words

in fact most of us speak in negatives as children we were taught grammar we were taught to select words according to these rules of grammar however I have always found that the rules of grammar continually change and what was improper at one time is proper at another time or vice versa what was slang in the past is considered common usage in the present however grammar does not take into consideration the meaning of words and how they affect our lives on the other hand I was not taught in school that my choice of words would have

anything to do with what I would experience in life no one taught me that my thoughts were creative or that they could literally shape my life nobody taught me that what I gave out in the form of words would return to me as experiences the purpose of the gold rule was to show us a very basic law of Life do unto others as you would have them do unto you or what you give out comes back to you it was never meant to cause guilt no one ever taught me that I was worth loving or

that I deserved good and nobody taught me that life was here to support me I remember that as children we would often call each other cruel and hurtful names and try to belittle one another but why did we do that where did we learn such Behavior look at what we were taught many of us were told repeatedly by our parents or teachers that we were stupid or dumb or lazy we were a nuisance and not good enough sometimes we heard our parents say that they wished we had never been born maybe we cringed when we

heard these words but little did we realize how deeply embedded the hurt and pain would become changing our selft talk too often we accepted the early messages that our parents gave us we heard Eat Your Spinach clean your room or make your bed in order to be loved you got the idea that you were only acceptable if you did certain things that acceptance and love were conditional however that was according to somebody idea of what was worthwhile and had nothing to do with your deep inner self-worth you got the idea that you could only exist

if you did these things to please others otherwise you did not have permission to even exist these early messages contribute to what I call our selft talk the way we talk to ourselves the way we talk to ourselves inwardly is really important because it becomes the basis of our spoken words it sets up the mental atmosphere in which we operate and which attracts to us our experiences if we belittle ourselves life is going to mean very little to us if we love and appreciate ourselves then life can be a wonderful joyous gift if our lives

are unhappy or if we are feeling unfulfilled it's very easy to blame our parents or them and say it's all their fault however if we do we stay stuck in our conditions our problems and our frustrations words of blame will not bring us freedom remember there is a power in our words again our power comes from taking responsibility for our lives I know it sounds scary to be responsible for our lives but we really are whether we accept it or not if we want to be responsible for our lives we've got to be responsible for

our mouths the words and phrases we say are only extensions of our thoughts start to listen to what you say if you hear yourself using negative or limiting words change them if I hear a negative story I don't go around repeating it to everyone I think it has gone far enough and I let it go if I hear a positive story however I will tell everyone when you are out with other people begin to listen to what they say and how they say it see if you can connect what they say with what they are

experiencing in life many many people live their lives in shoulds should is a word that my ear is very attuned to it is as if a bell goes off every time I hear it often I will hear people use a dozen shoulds in a paragraph these same people wonder why their lives are so rigid or why they can't move out of a situation they want a lot of control over things that they cannot control they are either making themselves wrong or making someone else wrong and then they question why they aren't living lives of Freedom

we can also remove the expression have to from our vocabulary and our thinking as well when we do we will release a lot of self-imposed pressure on ourselves we create tremendous pressure by saying I have to go to work I have to do this I have to I have to instead let's begin to say choose to I choose to go to work because it pays the rent right now or whatever come from Choice choose to puts a whole different perspective on our lives everything we do is by choice even though it may not seem to

be so a lot of us also use the word but we make statements then we say but which heads Us in two different directions we give conflicting messages to ourselves listen to how you use the word but the next time you speak another expression we could be mindful of is don't forget we are so used to saying don't forget this or that and what happens we forget we really want to remember and instead we forget so we can begin to use the phrase please remember in place of don't forget or I will always remember instead

of I will never forget when you wake up in the morning do you curse the fact that you have to go to work do you complain about the weather do you Grumble that your back or your head hurts what is the second and third thing you think or say do you yell at the children to get up most people say more or less the same thing every morning how does what you say start your day is it positive and cheerful and wonderful or is it whining and condemning if you Grumble and complain and moan you're

setting yourself up for just such a day what are your last thoughts before going to bed are they powerful healing thoughts or poverty worry thoughts when I speak of poverty thoughts I don't mean only about the lack of money it can be a negative way of thinking about anything in your life any part of your life that is not flowing freely do you worry about tomorrow usually I will read something positive before I go to sleep I am aware that when I sleep I am doing a lot of clearing that will prepare me for the

next day I find it very helpful to turn over to my dreams any problems or questions I may have I know my dreams will help me take care of whatever is going on in my life I am the you're setting yourself up for just such a day what are your last thoughts before going to bed are they powerful healing thoughts or poverty worry thoughts when I speak of poverty thoughts I don't mean only about the lack of money it can be a negative way of thinking about anything in your life any part of your life

that is not flowing freely do you worry about tomorrow usually I will read something positive before I go to sleep I am aware that when I sleep I am doing a lot of clearing that will prepare me for the next day I find it very helpful to turn over to my dreams any problems or questions I may have I know my dreams will help me take care of whatever is going on in my life I am the only person who can think in my mind just like you are the only person who can think in

your mind no nobody can force us to think in a different way we choose our thoughts and these are the basis for our self talk as I experienced how this process worked more in my life I began to live more of what I was teaching others I really watched my words and my thoughts and I constantly forgave myself for not being perfect I allowed myself to be me rather rather than struggling to be a super person who may only be acceptable in others eyes when I began for the first time to trust life and to

see it as a friendly place I lightened up my humor became less biting and more truly funny I worked on releasing criticism and Judgment of myself and other people and I stopped telling disaster Stories We are so quick to spread bad news it's just a amazing I stopped reading the newspaper and gave up the 11:00 News at night because all the reports were concerned with disaster and violence and very little good news I realize that most people don't want to hear good news they love to hear bad news so that they have something to complain

about too many of us keep recycling the negative stories until we believe that there is only bad in the world for a while there was a radio station that broadcast only good news but it went out of business when I had my cancer I decided to stop gossiping and to my surprise I found I had nothing to say to anyone I became aware that whenever I met a friend I would immediately dish the latest dirt with them eventually I discovered there were other ways of talking although it wasn't an easy habit to break nonetheless if

I gossiped about other people then other people probably probably gossiped about me because what we give out we get back as I worked more and more with people I really began to listen to what they said I really began to hear the words not just get the general drift usually after 10 minutes with a new client I could tell exactly why they had a problem because I could hear the words they were using I could understand them by the way they were talking I knew that their words were contributing to their problems if they were

talking negatively imagine what their selft talk was like it must be more of the same negative programming poverty thinking as I called it a little exercise I suggest you do is to put a tape recorder by your telephone and every time you make or get a call Push the record button when the tape is full on both sides listen to what you've been saying and how you say it you will probably be amazed you will begin to hear the words you use and the inflection of your voice you will begin to become aware if you

find yourself saying something three times or more write it down because it is a pattern some of the patterns may be positive and supportive and you may also have some very negative patterns that you repeat over and over and over again the power of the subconscious mind in light of of what I've been speaking of I want to discuss the power of our subconscious Minds our subconscious Minds make no judgments the subconscious mind accepts everything we say and creates according to our beliefs it always says yes our subconscious minds love us enough to give us

what we declare we have choice though if we choose these poverty beliefs and Concepts then it is a assumed that we want them it will continue to give us these things until we are willing to change our thoughts and words and beliefs for the better we are never stuck because we can always choose again there are billions and billions of thoughts from which to choose our subconscious Minds don't know true from false or right from wrong we don't want to deprecate ourselves in any way we don't want to say something like oh stupid old me

because the subconscious mind will pick up this selft talk and after a while you will feel that way if you say it enough times it will become a belief in your subconscious the subconscious mind has no sense of humor and it is important for you to know and understand this concept you cannot make a joke about yourself and think it doesn't mean anything if it is a put down about yourself even if you're trying to be cute or funny about it the subconscious mind accepts it as true I don't let people tell put down jokes

in my workshops they can be runchy but not put Downs of a nationality or sex or whatever so don't joke about yourself and make derogatory remarks about yourself because they will not create good experiences for you don't belittle others either the subconscious mind doesn't distinguish between between you and the other person it hears the words and it believes you are talking about yourself the next time you want to criticize someone ask why you feel that way about yourself you only see in others what you see in yourself instead of criticizing others praise them and within

a month you will see enormous change within you our words are really a matter of approach and attitude notice the way that lonely unhappy poor sick people talk what words do they use what have they accepted as the truth for themselves how do they describe themselves how do they describe their work their lives their relationships what do they look forward to be aware of their words but please don't run around telling strangers that they are are ruining their lives by the way they talk don't do it to your family and friends either because the information

will not be appreciated instead use this information to begin to make the connection for yourself and practice it if you want your life to change because even on the smallest level if you change the way you talk your experiences are going to change if you are a person with an illness who believes that it is fatal and that you're going to die and that life is no good because nothing ever works for you then guess what you can choose to release your negative concept of Life start affirming for yourself that you are a person who

is lovable and that you are worth healing and that you attract everything you need on the physical level to contribute to your healing know that you are willing to get well and that it is safe for you to get well many people only feel safe when they are sick they are usually the kind that have difficulty saying the word no the only way they can say no is by saying I'm too sick to do it it's a perfect excuse I remember a woman at one of my workshops who had three cancer operations she couldn't say

no to anybody her father was a doctor and she was Daddy's good little girl so whatever daddy told her to do she did it was impossible for her to say no no matter what you asked her she had to say yes it took 4 days to get her to literally shriek no at the top of her lungs I had her do it while shaking her fist no no no and once she got into it she loved it I find that many women with breast cancer can't say no they nourish everybody except themselves one of the

things I recommend to a woman with breast cancer is that she must learn to say no no I don't want to do it no 2 or 3 months of saying no to everything and everyone will begin to turn things around she needs to nourish herself by saying this is what I want to do not what you want me to do when I used to work with clients privately I would hear them argue on behalf of their limitations and they would always want me to know why they were stuck because of one reason or another if

we believe we are stuck and accept that we are stuck then we are stuck we get stuck because our negative beliefs are being fulfilled instead let's begin to focus on our strengths many of you tell me that my tape saved your lives I want you to realize that no book or tape is going to save you a little piece of tape in a plastic box is not saving your life life what you are doing with the information is what matters I can give you plenty of ideas yet what you do with them is going to

count I suggest that you listen to a particular tape over and over again for a month or more so that the ideas become a new habit pattern I'm not your healer or savior the only person who's going to make a change in your life is you now what are the messages you want to hear I know I say this over and over again loving yourself is the most important thing you can do because when you love yourself you're not going to hurt yourself or anyone else it's my prescription for World Peace if I don't hurt

me and I don't hurt you how can we have War the more of us who can get to that place the better the planet will be let's begin to be conscious of what is going on by listening to the words we speak to ourselves and to others then we can begin to make the changes that will help heal ourselves as well as the rest of the planet chapter 4 reprogramming old tapes be willing to take the first step no matter how small it is concentrate on the fact that you are willing to learn absolute Miracles

will happen affirmations do work now that we understand a little bit more about how powerful our thoughts and words are we can choose to retrain our thinking and speaking into positive patterns if we're going to get beneficial results are you willing to change your selft talk into positive affirmations remember every time you think a thought and every time you speak a word you are saying an affirmation an affirmation is a beginning point point it opens the way to change in essence you are saying to your subconscious mind I am taking responsibility I am aware that

there is something I can do to change when I talk about doing affirmations I mean to cut on the fact that you are willing to learn absolute Miracles will happen affirmations do work now that we understand a little bit more about how powerful our thoughts and words are we can choose to retrain our thinking and speaking into positive patterns if we're going to get beneficial results are you willing to change your selft talk into positive affirmations remember every time you think a thought and every time you speak a word you are saying an affirmation an

affirmation is a beginning point it opens the way to change in essence you are saying to your subconscious mind I am taking responsibility I am aware that there is something I can do to change when I talk about doing affirmations I mean to consciously choose sentences or words that will either help to eliminate something from your life or help to create something new in your life and you do this in a positive way if you say I don't want to be sick anymore the subconscious mind hears sick more now you want to tell it clearly

what you do want that is say I am a healthy person I radiate good health the subconscious mind is very straightforward it has no strategy or designs what it hears is what it does if you say I hate this car it doesn't give you a wonderful new car because it doesn't know what you want even if you get a new car you will probably hate it soon because that is what you've been saying about it the subconscious only hears hate this car you need to clearly declare your desires in a positive way as in I

have a beautiful new car that suits all my needs or I always have a car that I love if there is something in your life that you really dislike I have found one of the quickest ways to release it is to bless it with love I bless you with love and I release you and let you go this works for people situations objects and living quarters you could even try it on a habit you would like to be free of and see what happens I knew one man who said I bless you with love and

release you from my life to every cigarette he smoked after a few days his desire for smoking was considerably less and in a few weeks The Habit was gone you deserve good think for a moment what is it you really want right now what is it you want today in your life think about it and then say I accept for myself whatever it is that you want this is where I find that most of us get stuck the bottom line is the belief that we don't deserve to have what we want our personal power lies

in the way we perceive our deserv ability our not deserving comes from childhood messages again we don't have to feel that we cannot change because of these messages often people will come to me and say Louise affirmations don't work it really has nothing to do with affirmations it is the fact that we don't believe we deserve the good the way to find out if you believe that you deserve something is to say an affirmation and notice the thoughts that come up as you say it then write them down because when you see these thoughts on

paper they will be very clear to you the only thing that keeps you from deserving or loving yourself or whatever is someone else's belief or opinion that you have accepted as truth when we don't believe that we deserve good we will knock the pinnings out from under ourselves which we can do in a variety of ways we can create chaos we can lose things we can hurt ourselves or have physical problems like falling or have accidents we want to start believing that we deserve all the good that life has to offer in order to reprogram

the false or negative belief what would be the first thought that you would need to begin to create this new whatever in your life what would be the building block or the foundation that you would need to stand on what would be the sort of thing that you would need to know for yourself to believe to accept some good thoughts to start with could be I am worthwhile I am deserving I love myself I allow myself to be fulfilled Etc these Concepts form the very basis of beliefs on which you can build do your affirmations

on top of these building blocks to create what you want whenever I speak somewhere someone will come up to me at the end of the lecture or will write me a letter and tell me that he or she has had a healing take place while they were in the room sometimes it's very minor and sometimes it's quite dramatic a woman came up to me once and told me that she had had a lump in her breast and it literally disappeared during the lecture she heard something and she decided to let something go this is a

good example of how powerful we are when we are not ready to let something go when we really want to hold on to something because it's serving Us in some way it doesn't matter what we do it probably won't work however when we are ready to let it go as this woman was it's amazing how the smallest circumstance can help us release it if you still have a habit that you haven't released ask yourself how it serves you what do you get out of it if you can't get an answer ask in a different way

if if I no longer had this happen What would happen very often the answer is my life would be better so it comes back to the fact that we believe we don't deserve a better life in some way ordering from the cosmic kitchen when you first say an affirmation it may not seem true but remember affirmations are like planting seeds in the ground when you put a seed in the ground you don't get a full grown plant the next day we need to be patient during the growing season as you continue to say the affirmation

either you will be ready to release whatever you don't want and the affirmation will become true or it will open a new Avenue to you or you may get a brilliant brainstorm or a friend may call you and say have you tried this you will be led to the next step that will help you keep your affirmations in the present tense you can sing them and make a jingle out of them so that they repeat over and over in your head remember that you cannot affect a specific person's actions with your affirmations to affirm that

Jon is now in love with me is a form of manipulation and it is trying to have control over another person's life it will usually have a boomerang effect on you you will become very unhappy when you don't get what you want you can say I am now loved by a wonderful man who is and list the qualities that you want in the relationship that way you allow the power within you to bring to you the perfect person to fill that bill who may possibly be John you don't know what another person's spiritual lesson is

and you don't have a right to interfere in their life process you certainly wouldn't want someone else doing it to you if someone is ill bless them and send them love and peace but don't demand that they get well I like to think of doing affirmations as placing our order in the cosmic kitchen if you go to a restaurant and the waiter or waitress comes and takes your order you don't follow them into the kitchen to see if the chef got the order or how he's going to prepare the food you sit and drink water

or coffee or tea or you talk to your friend and maybe eat your roll you assume assume that your food is being prepared and will be out when it's ready it's the same when we begin to do affirmations when we put our order into the cosmic kitchen the great chef our higher power is working on it so you go on with your life and know that it is being taken care of it's on order it's happening now if the food comes out and it isn't exactly what you ordered and if you have self-esteem you will

send it back if not you will leave need it you also have a right to do that with the cosmic kitchen if you don't get exactly what you want you can say no that's not quite it this is what I want perhaps you weren't clear in your ordering the idea here too is to let go at the end of my treatments and meditations I use the words and so it is it's a way of saying higher power it's in your hands now I release it to you reprogramming the subconscious mind the thoughts we think accumulate

and when we are unaware the old thought resurfaces when we are reprogramming our minds it is normal and natural that we go a little forward we come a little back and we go a little forward again it's part of practicing I don't think there is any new skill that you can learn absolutely 100% in the first few minutes do you remember when you first learned how to use a computer how frustrating it was it took practice you had to learn how it worked to learn its laws and systems I called my first computer my magic

lady for when I mastered her rules she did indeed deliver what seemed like magic to me yet while I was learning the way she would teach me I was off track or going in the wrong direction was to devour p of work that I would then have to do all over again out of all the mistakes I learned how to flow with the system to flow with the system of life you want to become aware that your subconscious mind is like a computer garbage in garbage out if you put negative thoughts in then negative experiences

come out yes it takes time and practice to learn the new ways of thinking be patient with yourself when you are learning something new and the old pattern returns are you going to say oh I didn't learn anything or are you going to say okay that's all right come on let's do it again the new way or say you cleared an issue and think you'll never have to deal with it again how do you know if you've really worked it through unless you test yourself so you bring up the Old Situation one more time and

watch watch how you react if you jump right back into the old way of reacting to it then you know you haven't really learned that particular lesson and you need to do more work on it that's all it means you want to realize it's only a little test to see how far you've come if you begin to repeat your affirmations the new statements of truth about yourself you give yourself an opportunity to react differently whether it's a health problem a financial one or a relationship difficulty if you react in a new way to the situation

then you're on your way to having another issue handled and you can move on to other areas remember too that we work on layers at a time you can reach a plateau and think I've done it and then later on some old issue resurfaces and you may injure yourself or get sick and you don't get better for some time look to see what the underlying beliefs are it may mean that you have some more work to do because you are going to the next deeper layer don't feel that you're not good enough because something you've

worked to clear comes up again when I discovered that I was not a bad person because once again I was facing an old issue it became much easier for me to keep going I learned to say to myself Louise you're doing very well look how far you you have come you just need more practice and I love you evolutionary pathway one of the ways to allow the process of life to unfold for you in a positive healthy way is to declare your own personal truths choose to move away from the limiting beliefs that have been

denying you the benefits you so desire declare that your negative thoughts patterns will be erased from your mind let go of your fears and burdens for a long time now I have been believing the following ideas and they have worked for me everything I need to know is revealed to me everything I need an old issue it became much easier for me to keep going I learned to say to myself Louise you're doing very well look how far you have come you just need more PR practice and I love you evolutionary pathway one of the

ways to allow the process of life to unfold for you in a positive healthy way is to declare your own personal truths choose to move away from the limiting beliefs that have been denying you the benefits you so desire declare that your negative thought patterns will be erased from your your mind let go of your fears and burdens for a long time now I have been believing the following ideas and they have worked for me everything I need to know is revealed to me everything I need comes to me in the perfect time space sequence

life is a joy and filled with love I am loving and lovable and loved I am healthy and filled with energy I Prosper wherever I turn I am willing to change and to grow and all is well in my world I have learned that we don't always stay positive 100% of the time and I include myself in this knowledge as much as possible I see Life as a wonderful joyous experience I believe that I am safe I have made it a personal law for me I believe that everything I need to know is revealed to

me so I need to keep my eyes and ears open when I had cancer I remember thinking that a foot reflexologist would be very helpful to me one evening I went to a lecture of some sort usually I sit in the front row because I like being close to the speaker however that night I was compelled to sit in the back row and right after I sat down a foot reflexologist sat next to me we began to talk and I learned that he even made house calls I didn't have to look for him he came

to me I also believe that whatever I need comes to me in the perfect time space sequence when something goes wrong in my life I immediately start to think all is well it's okay I know that this is all right it's a lesson it's an experience and I'll pass through it there is something here that is for my highest good all is well just breathe it's okay and I do the best I can to calm myself so I can think rationally about whatever is going on and of course I do work through everything it may

take a little time but sometimes things that seem to be great disasters really turn out to be quite good in the end or at least not the disaster ERS that they seem to be in the beginning every event is a learning experience I do a lot of positive selft talk morning noon and night I come from a loving space of the heart and I practice loving myself and others as much as I possibly can my capacity to love expands all the time what I do today is much more than I was doing 6 months or

a year ago I know know a year from now my Consciousness and my heart will have expanded and I'll be doing even more I know that what I believe about myself becomes true for me so I choose to believe wonderful things about myself there was a time when I didn't so I know I have grown and I continue to work on myself I also believe in meditation to me meditation is when we sit down and turn off our dialogue long enough to hear hear our own inner wisdom when I meditate I usually close my eyes

take a deep breath and ask what is it I need to know I sit and listen I might also ask what is it I need to learn or what is the lesson in this sometimes we think we're supposed to fix everything in our lives and maybe we're really only supposed to learn something from the situation I remember when I first began to meditate I had violent headaches for the first 3 weeks meditation was so unfamiliar and against all my usual inner programming nevertheless I hung in there and the headaches eventually disappeared if you are constantly

coming up with a tremendous amount of negativity when you meditate it may mean that it needs to come up and when you quiet yourself it starts to flow to the surface simply see the negative it being released try not to fight it allow it to continue as long as it needs to if you fall asleep when you meditate that's all right too let the body do what it needs to do it will balance out in time reprogramming your negative beliefs is very powerful a good way to do it is by making a tape with your

own voice saying your affirmations play it as you go to sleep it will have a great deal of value for you because you will be listening to your own voice an even more powerful tape would be your mother's voice telling you how wonderful you are and how much she loves you once you have the tape it's good to relax the body before you begin reprogramming some people like to start with the tips of their toes and move to the top of their head tensing and relaxing however you do it breathe and release the tension let

the emotions go get to a state of openness and receptivity the more relaxed you are the easier it is to receive the new information remember you are always in charge and you are always safe it's wonderful to listen to tapes or read self-awareness books and do your affirmations but what are you doing for the other 23 hours or so a day you see that is what really matters if you sit down and meditate and then get up and rush to work and scream at somebody that counts too meditations and affirmations are wonderful yet what you

do at other times are just as important treat doubt as a friendly reminder I'm often asked questions about whether people are doing affirmations correctly or whether they are even working and about doubt I'd like you to think of Doubt a little differently than you may have been I believe that the subconscious mind resides in the solar plexus area of the body where you carry those gut feelings when something sudden happens don't you immediately get a strong feeling in your gut it is where you take everything in and store it ever since we were little children

every message we have received everything we have done all the the experiences we have had all that we have said have all gone into the filing cabinets right there in the solar plexus area I like to think that there are little Messengers in there and when we think thoughts or have experiences the messages go in and The Messengers file them in the appropriate files for many of us we have been building up files labeled I'm not good enough I'll never make it I don't do it right we have gotten absolutely buried under these files suddenly

we do a few affirmations such as I'm wonderful and I love myself and The Messengers pick them up and say what's this where does it go we've never seen this one before so The Messengers call doubt doubt come over here and see what's going on so doubt picks up the message and asks the conscious mind what's this you've always been saying the other things and on a conscious level we can react in two ways we can say oh you're right I'm terrible I'm no good I'm sorry that's not the right message and go back to

our old ways or we can say to doubt that was the old message I have no need for it now this is the new message tell doubt to start a new file because there will be lots of these loving messages coming through from now on learn to treat doubt as a friend not the enemy and thank it for questioning you use it to strengthen your new beliefs it doesn't matter what work you do in this world doesn't matter if you are a bank president or a dishwasher a housewife or a sailor you have wisdom inside

of you that is connected to universal truth when you are willing to look within and ask a simple question such as what is this experience trying to teach me and if you are willing to listen then you will have the answer most of us are so busy running around creating the soap opera and drama we call Our Lives that we don't hear anything don't give your power over to other people's pictures of right and wrong they only have power over us when we give our power to them groups of people give their power over to

others it happens in a lot of cultures women in our culture often give their power to men they say things like my husband won't allow me to well that's certainly giving your power away if you believe it you box yourself into a place where you can't do anything unless you are given permission by another person who do you give your power to the more open-minded you are the more you learn and the more you can grow and change a woman once shared with me that when she got married she was very unassertive because that was

the way she was brought up it took years for her to realize that her conditioning kept her locked in a corner she blamed everyone her husband and her in-laws for her problems eventually she divorced her husband however she still blamed him for so many things that were not right in her life it took her 10 years to relearn her patterns and to to take her power back in hindsight she realized that she was responsible for not speaking up and for not standing up for herself not her husband or her in-laws they were there to reflect

back to her what she felt inside a sense of powerlessness don't give your power away based on what you read either I remember years ago I read some articles in a well-known magazine and I happened to know something about each subject described in the Articles and in my opinion the information was totally erroneous the magazine lost all credibility for me and I didn't read it again for many years you are the authority in your life so don't think that because something is in print that it's always the truth inspirational speaker Terry Cole Whitaker wrote a

wonderful book called what you think of me is none of my business it's true what you think of me is none of my business it's your business in the end what you think of me is going out from you in vibrations and will come back to you when we have illumination when we become conscious of what we are doing we can begin to change our lives life is really here for you you need only ask tell life what you want and then allow the good to happen part two dissolving the barriers you are the authority

in your life so don't think that because something is in print that it's always the truth inspirational speaker Terry Cole Whitaker wrote a wonderful book called what you think of me is none of my business it's true what you think of me is none of my business it's your business in the end what you think of me is going out from you in vibrations and will come back to you when we have illumination when we become conscious of what we are doing we can begin to change our lives life is really here for you you

need only ask tell life what you want and then allow the good to happen part two dissolving the barriers we want to know what what is going on inside us so we can know what to let go instead of hiding our pain we can release it totally chapter 5 understanding the blocks that bind you chronic patterns of self-hate guilt and self-criticism raise the body's stress levels and weaken the immune system now that we understand a little more about the power that we have within us let's take a look at what keeps us from using it

I think that almost all of us have barriers of some kind or another even when we do a lot of work on ourselves and clear out the blocks new layers of old barriers still keep coming up many of us feel so flawed that we believe that we are not good enough and never will be again if we find something wrong with us then we are going to find something wrong with other people as well if we are still continuing to say I can't do this because my mother said or my father did then we have

not yet grown up so now you want to let your barriers go and perhaps learn something different that you didn't know before now perhaps one sentence here will trigger a new thought can you imagine how wonderful it would be if every day you learned a new idea that would help you let go of the past and create Harmony in your life when you become aware and understand the individual process of life you will know what direction to take if you put your energies into learning something about yourself you will eventually see those problems and issues

that you need to dissolve we all have challenges in life everybody does nobody goes through life without them otherwise what would be the purpose of coming to this particular school called Earth for some there are health challenges and for other people there are relationship challenges or career or financial challenges some have a little or a lot of everything I think one of our biggest problems is that most of us haven't the faith faintest idea of what it is we want to let go we know that it's not working and we know what we want in

our life yet we don't know what's holding us back so let's take time to look at the blocks that bind us if you think for a moment about your own patterns and problems and the things that hold you back which categories do they fall into criticism fear guilt or resentment I call these categories the big four which is your favorite one mine was a combination of criticism and resentment maybe you are like me and have two or three is it fear that always comes up or guilt are you very very critical or resentful let me

point out that resentment is anger that is stuffed down so if you believe you are not allowed to express your anger then you have stored a lot of resentment we cannot deny our feelings we cannot conveniently ignore them when I had my cancer diagnosis I had to look very clearly at myself I had to acknowledge some nonsense that I didn't want to admit about myself for instance I was a very resentful person and I carried a lot of bitterness from the past I said Louise you have no time to indulge in that anymore you really

must change or as Peter McWilliams says you can no longer afford the luxury of a negative thought your experiences always reflect your inner beliefs you can literally look at your experiences and determine what your beliefs are maybe it's disturbing to consider but if you look at the people in your life they are all all mirroring some belief you have about yourself if you are always being criticized at work it is probably because you are critical and have become the parent who once criticized the child everything in our lives is a mirror of who we are

when something is happening out there that is not comfortable we have an opportunity to look inside and say how am I contributing in to this experience what is it within me that believes I deserve this we all have family patterns and it is very easy for us to blame our parents or our childhood or our environment but that keeps us stuck we don't become free we remain victims and we perpetrate the same problems over and over again so it really doesn't matter what anybody else did to you or what they taught you in the past

today is a new day you are now in charge now is the moment in which you are creating the future in your life and your world it really doesn't matter what I say either because only you can do the work only you can change the way you think and feel and act I'm just saying saying that you can you definitely can because you have a higher power within you that can help you break free from these patterns if you allow it you can remind yourself that when you were a little baby you loved yourself for

who you were there is not one little baby who criticizes its body and thinks oh my hips are too big babies are thrilled and delighted just because they have bodies they express their feelings when a baby is happy you know it and when a baby is angry the whole neighborhood knows it they are never afraid to let people know how they feel they live in the moment and you were like that once as you grew up you listened to people around you and you learned about fear and guilt and criticism from them if you grew

up in a family where criticism was the norm then you are going to be critical as an adult if you grew up in a family where you were not allowed to express anger then you are probably terrified of anger and confrontation and you swallow it and let it reside in your body if you were raised in a family where everybody was manipulated by guilt and you are probably going to be the same way as an adult you are probably a person who runs around saying I'm sorry all the time and can never ask for anything

outright you feel you have to be manipulative in some way in order to get what you want as we grow up we begin to pick up these false ideas and lose touch with our inner wisdom so we really need to release these ideas and return if you were raised in a family where everybody was manipulated by guilt then you are probably going to be the same way as an adult you are probably a person who runs around saying I'm sorry all the time and can never ask for anything outright you feel you have to be

manipulative in some way in order to get what you want as we grow up we begin to pick up these false ideas and lose touch with our inner wisdom so we really need to release these ideas and return to the purity of spirit where we truly love ourselves we need to reestablish the wonderful innocence of life and the moment by moment Joy of existence the same joy that a baby feels in its Blissful State of Wonder think of what you want to become true for yourself State them in positive not negative affirmations now go to

the mirror look in your eyes and repeat your affirmations see what obstacles are in your way when you begin to State an affirmation like I love and approve of myself really pay attention to what negative messages come up because as you recognize them they become the treasures that will unlock the door to your freedom usually the messages are one of the four I mentioned earlier criticism fear guilt or resentment and most likely you learn these messages from people back there some of you have chosen some difficult tasks to handle in this lifetime and it is

my belief that we really come here to love ourselves in spite of what they say or do we can always go beyond our parents or our friends limitations if you were a good little girl or boy you learned your parents limited way of looking at life you see you're not bad you are good children you learned exactly what your parents taught you now that you are grown up you're doing the same thing how many of you hear yourself saying what your parents used to say congratulations they were very good teachers and you were very good

students but now now it is time for you to begin to think for yourself a lot of us may face resistance when we look in the mirror and repeat our affirmations however resistance is the first step to change most of us want our lives to change but when we are told that we have to do something different we say who me oh I don't want to do that others may experience feelings of Despair often if you look in the mirror and say I love you the little child inside says where have you been all this

time I've been waiting for you to notice me and waves of sadness come up because you've been rejecting the little child for a long long time when I did this exercise in one of my workshops a woman said she was very very scared I asked her what frightened her and she shared the fact that she was an incest Survivor many of us have had this experience called incest and we are learning to come through it it's interesting that it occurs so often on our planet we read so much about incest these days yet I don't

think it is happening anym now than it ever did we have advanced to a state where we now feel that children have rights and we are allowing ourselves to see this ugly sore in society in order to release the the problem we have to first recognize it and then we can work through it therapy is so important for incest survivors we need a safe space where we can work through these feelings when we have let the anger and the rage and the shame out then we can move to the space where we can love ourselves

no matter what we are working on we want to remember that the feelings that come up are just feelings we are not in the experience anymore we need to work on making the inner child feel safe we want to thank ourselves for having had the courage to survive this experience sometimes when we're dealing with an issue such as incest it's difficult to accept that the other person was doing the best he or she could at the time with the understanding and awareness and knowledge that they had acts of violence always come from people who are

violated themselves we all need healing when we learn to love and cherish who we are we will no longer harm anyone stop all criticism when we are dealing with criticism we are usually criticizing ourselves all the time for the same things over and over when are are we going to wake up and learn that criticism doesn't work let's try another tactic let's approve of ourselves as we are right now critical people often attract a lot of criticism because it is their pattern to criticize what we give out we get back they may also need to

be perfect at all times who's perfect have you ever met a perfect person I haven't If We complain about another person we are really complaining about some aspect of ourselves everyone is a reflection of us and what we see in another person we see in ourselves many times we don't want to accept parts of who we are we abuse ourselves with alcohol or drugs or cigarettes or overeating or whatever these are ways of beating up on ourselves for not being perfect but being perfect for who whose early demands and expectations are we still trying to

meet be willing to let that go just be you will find that you are wonderful just as you are this very moment if you have always been a critical person who sees life through very negative eyes it is going to take time for you to turn yourself around to to be more loving and accepting you will learn to be patient with yourself as you practice letting go of the criticism which is only a habit not the reality of your being can you imagine how wonderful it would be if we could live our lives without ever

being criticized by anyone we would feel totally at ease totally comfortable every morning would be a wonderful new day because everyone would love you and accept you and nobody would criticize you or put you down you can give this happiness to yourself by becoming more accepting of the things that make you unique and special the experience of living with yourself can be the most wonderful experience imaginable you can wake up in the morning and feel the joy of spending another day with you when you love who you are you automatically bring out the best in

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