watch this if you're an introvert

ladies and gentlemen if you're an introvert this is going to be the most valuable video you're going to watch today my name is Colin and I'm student at Yale University studying computer science and in this video I'm going to give you the dark confidence aesthetic that you can easily use to become more attractive as an introvert if you look at people like James Bond Bruce Wayne or Ryan Reynolds they're all confident introverts they all have this dark confidence and this mysterious Charisma that's so attractive so if you're an introvert let me tell you right now

you can use it to your advantage and in this video I'll teach you exactly how so the first thing you want to do is change your mindset on what an introvert is most people think that introverts are just shy people that's completely wrong being an introvert simply means that you recharge your energy being alone and that you're comfortable being alone guys confidence isn't I know they'll like me it's I'm okay if they don't you got to have that self-belief and purpose where you don't have to say a lot in social interactions but you like your

actions speak for themselves you ask more questions you listen more and you just naturally radiate that inner confidence also if you're an introvert you're probably introspective you probably think about a lot of things while you're taking a shower or while you're walking and most likely you know what you want whether that be to Ace an exam in school or getting a strong aesthetic body or building a personal brand online this is good that kind of self-awareness and intelligence is just super super attractive so if you're an introvert you absolutely should be confident in yourself and

once you change your mindset you'll just become much more powerful so the next thing you want to do is learn some social game guys being social is not an exclusive personality trade for extroverts that is a complete lie being social is a skill that you can learn as an introvert so the main thing you want to do is learn how to network with people and provide value in Social Circles and there are three really easy and effective ways you can do this the first thing you want to do is compliment people without any hidden ask

this is one of the best pieces of advice I got on networking when you like someone's stuff maybe it's a book they wrote or maybe it's a YouTube video they posted tell them immediately DM them instantly and don't ask for anything or if you're if you're in class and you really like your friend's outfit for the day say to them nowadays it's very rare to just be appreciated without a hidden ask and if you do this over time of course has to be genuine and real you'll have a huge social network without even trying now

the second thing you want to do is become a good listener if you're an introvert this is easier for you to do people like to talk about themselves and they like to be heard so when it comes to social interactions you want to be the type of person who asks more question and who listen you want to try to get in that other person's spirit so for example when I want to date with the girl I'm probably speaking 20 to 30% of the time I'm more laidback chill and I let her invest more this is

something that I don't hear a lot of people talking about but it's so so powerful and you also get to build a deeper connection with that person where you can understand their struggles you can understand their goals and aspirations also you don't have to force any interaction or conversation like even sometimes that tension and silence is attractive now the third thing you want to do is guard your attention yes you want to be a good listener but it doesn't mean that you should just listen to everyone want so for example I'm very particular in where

I put my energy I place a lot of value in my personal attention because I know it's limited and valuable so if you're in an interaction and you don't see it going anywhere you feel like it's a waste of your time be willing to walk away you know what Sarah honestly is very nice to meet you but I don't think this is going to work I kind of know what I want and I don't want to waste your time be a little bit more nonchalant and relaxed just like that guys keeping your frame is very

very powerful you don't have to please everyone but at the very least be real be authentic because that's what makes you look more mysterious and it's very attractive now the next thing you want to do is fix your body language a couple of easy things you can do here the first one is to be chill and non-reactive the reason why James Bond for example is very attractive is because he's witty and he controls his sense of emotions he has that cheeky self assured smile that just exudes confidence and makes other people lean into him so

you want to relax yourself now the next thing you want to do is stand up straight and make sure your shoulders are relaxed you need to start walking like you're a man like you're on a mission now one more thing when you're speaking speak clearly maybe speak a little bit slower and I guarantee if you follow these body language tips you'll radiate that inner dark confidence so the final thing you want to do is build abundance and Mastery in a skill guys you don't want to fake confidence it has to be real and the way

you get real confidence is through competence it's through the ability to say you know what I have an undeniable proof that I am who I say I am it is through having that abundance in your life whether that be having a body you're proud of getting amazing grades in school or just smashing your personal goals goals and projects that you build that real confidence now you also want to build momentum so how do you build momentum by far the easiest way to do this is by mastering one area of your life so for example if

you have an exam coming up and you study smart and Ace your exam you build confidence in academics you build confidence in school and naturally when you build confidence in one area of your life you have more confidence in other areas like for example Fitness that small win will Ripple your confidence in every single area of your life and of course it comes from putting in the effort and work every single day because ladies and gentlemen effort compounds it comes from committing to going to the gym three times a week consistently it comes from committing

to reading 10 minutes every single day and through your everyday habits that is where you can build abundance and once you build that sort of abundance people will just naturally come to you success will naturally come to you you attract success and that's one of the most beautiful things I hope you guys can experience in your life so I hope you guys got lots of value from this video if you did make sure to smash that like button And subscribe to be part of the family God bless the hustle we're all going to win one

day and I'll see you in the next one