If you can spare me 4 minutes, you'll get 10 years of your life back

have you ever wondered what your future self might whisper to you from their deathbed it's a haunting question isn't it one that stopped me in my tracks 10 years ago when I discovered something that completely transformed how I approach life picture this you're sitting in a hospital room the walls are sterile white the clock ticks loudly a person lies there filled with regret over the life they didn't live now imagine that person is you 40 years from now a shocking study found that 76% of people on their deathbed wish they had the courage to live

a life true to themselves rather than meeting others expectations 3/4 of us are on track to die with our music Still inside us I call this the deathbed perspective however most of us only access it when it's too late I was browsing through a bookstore feeling stuck in a job I didn't love when a small paperback caught my eye it was written by bronny wear a paliative care nurse who had spent years with patients in their final weeks of Life what she documented changed everything for me you see when we're fac to face with our

mortality something profound happens The Masks Fall Away the things we pretended were important suddenly reveal themselves as distractions therefore what emerges are the raw honest regrets that haunt people in their final moments the number one regret I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself not the life others expected of me let that sink in for a moment not one person said I wish I'd gotten that corner office or I wish I'd made Senior manager not a single person mentioned wishing they'd accumulated more wealth or possessions instead they talked about moments

connections authenticity I wish I hadn't worked so hard I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings I wish I'd stayed in touch with my friends I wish I'd let myself be happier these Revelations hit me like a thunderbolt I realized I was building a life that my future self might deeply regret here's where most people get it completely wrong we think regret comes from actions we took that failed however the most painful regrets come from chances we never dared to take at all I'll tell you something I've never shared publicly before at 19

I was offered a chance to study abroad for a year I declined because I was afraid of falling behind my peers of missing out on campus opportunities today that decision haunts me more than any failure I've experienced the unknown what could have been lingers far longer than any known disappointment last year I met Sarah a successful executive who had postponed a dream of starting her own business for 15 years I kept waiting for the perfect moment she told me tears in her eyes however when I was diagnosed with cancer I realized that moment was never

going to arrive unless I created it her story isn't unique our lives are like books where we obsess over writing the perfect chapter ending but meanwhile the pages are turning whether we're writing our story or not but here's where it gets interesting what if everything we've been taught about success is backward what if waiting for Readiness is actually the riskiest move of all think about it when was the last time you called your parents just to catch up when did you last lose track of time doing something purely because it brought you Joy when did

you last tell someone how you really felt for me these questions exposed a painful truth I was postponing happiness storing it away for some future date I'll be happy when I reach that goal i' tell myself once I hit that Milestone therefore I can relax sound familiar I remember when I first considered pursuing my passion for years literally years I waited to feel ready I obsessed over preparation planning and Perfection but you know what that perfect moment never arrived when I finally took the plunge those early attempts were rough putting myself out there felt terrifying

however here's what surprised me the joy wasn't waiting at some distant Finish Line it appeared in unexpected places along the journey it was in that first moment someone told me I'd help them it was was in noticing my own tiny improvements day by day it was in the person I was becoming through the process as Mark Twain brilliantly put it 20 years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do I've developed what I call the leap method to break free from regret listen to

your deepest desires Embrace imperfection as part of the journey act before you feel completely ready prioritize experiences over achievements because that's where so many of us get trapped we wait we wait for the perfect timing the perfect circumstances the perfect feeling of Readiness that honestly rarely comes but Clarity doesn't emerge from waiting it comes from doing