The Psychological Hack to Make People OBSESSED With You

what do Marilyn Monroe Sabrina Carpenter The Rock and Adele all have in common it's not just that they're famous it's not just that they're attractive and it's definitely not because they have some secret cheat code that the rest of us don't and yet people are kind of obsessed with them all in their own way Marilyn Monroe she's just a straightup icon and decades later we're still talking about her Sabrina Carpenter recently dropped a best-selling album just one at the Grammys and at one point you literally couldn't scroll Tik Tok without seeing her performances The Rock

one of the most followed people on in Instagram and Adele she can disappear for 6 years come back with one song and suddenly the whole world is belting her music again there is a psychological reason why we are so drawn to these people and it's what makes them Unforgettable so in today's video we're going to talk about exactly what that is and how you can tap into it hey friend welcome back if you're new here my name's jills and I help women step into their power tap into their divine feminine and become their best self

their most magnetic self live their dream life so if that's something you want to do you should subscribe and stick around and in case you want more from me besides just my YouTube videos you can also check out my deep dive feminine energy course or any of my other digital products they are always linked down below okay so what actually makes someone Unforgettable why do certain people stick in your mind while others can kind of fade in the background why do some people get hooked to someone's energy and some other people not so much think

about the most iconic celebrities movie characters TV personalities that you can name the ones that people can't stop talking about even years later it's not just that they're talented it's not just that they have a big personality it's something deeper let's go back to Marilyn Monroe because she was captivating for both men and women and it wasn't just because she was beautiful yes she had that old Hollywood glamour but what really made people obsessed with her was the contrast in her energy she had this soft sweet almost Girl Next Door type of Innocence but yet

at the same time she was also seductive she was confident she was mysterious and this is what made her so hard to look away from she was never just one thing and you can literally see this contrast in the way she carries herself one second her voice is soft and Airy and high-pitched it made her seem delicate and sweet and innocent and soft how many times have you crossed this is my uh don't you feel alone I just to door A conversation don't you and then the next it was slow deliberate sultry I prefer a

man who lives and gives expensive one moment she'd look at you with those big D eyes she'd giggle she'd tilt her head she'd draw you in with her playful innocent energy but then you'd see her move her body with confidence and presence she knew how to swing her hips she knew how to let her presence linger in movies she'd play this dumb blonde but You' realized that she wasn't dumb at all she was actually pretty smart and she was always in control of what was going on and that's the thing Marilyn's magnetism wasn't just about

beauty it was about the fact that she knew how to blend opposites in a way that made people addicted to her presence soft and strong sweet and seductive playful and confident innocent and yet completely aware now how does this tie into someone like the rock because let's be honest he's about as far from Marilyn Monroe as you can get he's this bald dude who's completely jacked he was a pro wrestler he's this big tough guy he's in all these action movies you see him jumping off of skyscrapers in movies and yet he has that same

magnetic effect people love him he's one of the most followed people on Instagram and Brand's literally throw millions of dollars to have him represent their company it's because he's not just this tough guy he also loves pancakes he's funny and light-hearted and he posts wholesome dad content you think he's this big tough guy but then you see his daughters putting makeup on his face and see him singing in Moana what I say except it's that mix that unexpected contrast that makes him Unforgettable Sabrina Carpenter she's girly and feminine and looks like a little poly pocket

yet she's also sarcastic and witty and Saucy and singing about not so subtle innuendos and then there's Adele she'll have you sobbing over lost love one moment and the next she's cracking jokes and swearing like a sailor it's an absolute honor to be here today in full Glam at 8:00 a.m. on a Thursday morning she's elegant dramatic the queen of heartbreak anthems yet she's also loud and hilarious and could absolutely have a side career in standup comedy you Spirit as if I've been on a Spirit flight I that of experience all of these people have

one thing in common contrast and that is what makes them Unforgettable and this isn't just some random coincidence the media does this all the time on purpose to make certain characters Unforgettable if you've ever found yourself completely hooked on a character in a TV show or a movie it's because they were designed that way producers and writers know that contrast keeps people obsessed think about some of the most legendary TV and movie characters why do we love them it's because they're never just one thing they have layers to them they have depth to them there's

something that keeps you hooked Jack Sparrow and Pirates of the Caribbean he is an iconic movie character and he is this chaotic drunken mess yet also intelligent and always five steps ahead this is the Madness or Brilliance it's remarkable how often those two traits coincide L Woods and Legally Blonde always an icon right she's this blonde bubbly pink wearing Sorority Girl we see her in the beginning as this typical dumb blonde yet she studies her butt off she gets into Harvard what like it's hard and outsmarts everyone in her class at the end of the

day and solves the big case that no one else could oh my God oh my God oh my God how did you know that chatney was lying cuz she's brilant of course and this contrast is why we love her it's because she doesn't fit the mold of what we initially expect Blair Waldorf and Gossip Girl she's elegant polished always in control but also ruthless when she needs to be you need to be cold to be Queen you can't make people love you but you can make them fear you she can be cold calculating completely cutthoat

yet at her core she's the biggest romantic three words eight letters say it and I'm Yours she's loyal to the people she loves but if you betray her she will destroy you she's both a queen and a dreamer ruthless and deeply emotional that contrast draws us to her and what makes her fascinating to watch these iconic characters are never just one thing and there is a psychological reason why we as humans can't resist people with emotional contrast and it all comes down to how our brains process information and emotions so let's break down the science

and psychology behind all this as we go about life we are constantly receiving massive amounts of information and stimuli and our brain has to act like a giant filter sorting through all of this information every second and this is all happening subconsciously but to make it easier though we use shortcuts and we tend to put people in these mental boxes kind serious funny shy confident but when someone doesn't fit neatly into a little box our brain notices we all of a sudden pay extra attention because they break the expected path this is why people with

unexpected layers like Blair Waldorf being both elegant and ruthless or the rock being both a tough musly action star and a wholesome pancake loving dad stand out more than people who are just one thing they break the pattern and that makes our brains kind of wake up and pay attention and when we wake up and experience something new or surprising or unpredictable we release dopamine that Feelgood chemical that we all love this means that people who keep us guessing and who show different sides to themselves natur natur make us more engaged if someone is too

predictable our brain gets bored and kind of starts to tune them out a little bit but if they surprise us even in small tiny ways we can start to get hooked or at least we notice and that is why certain celebrities and TV characters are so addictive to watch they constantly challenge our expectations and our brain loves that and when someone has these contrasting traits it almost creates this sort of mental puzzle that we want to solve how can someone be both Ultra feminine and fiercely ambitious sweet and sharp innocent and seductive because it doesn't

immediately make sense our brain keeps thinking about them making them Unforgettable this is why Marilyn Monroe wasn't just pretty if she were just beautiful then eventually she would be forgettable but because she was both innocent and seductive playful and mysterious people couldn't stop trying to understand her our brains were hooked on that contrast and we all know that we naturally value things that are rare and the same goes for people someone who Blends contrast and has layers and has depth they feel unique and therefore valuable Angelina Jolie plays these fatel roles and looks totally intimidating

yet she's super nurturing she's adopted multiple children and she devotes her life to humanitarian work Princess Diana a beautiful softspoken Royal but who also did things her own way and wasn't afraid to break the rules ke Reeves I love this one why do so many people randomly Love Kiana reev well he's this action hero in all these movies but at the same time in real life he takes the subway he donates Millions to Charities and he won't even touch a woman in a photograph so he can be a respectful King in one moment we watched

this man take down an entire Mafia because they killed his dog but now yeah I'm thinking I'm back and then in real life he's just vibing and wholesome and being everyone's favorite introvert there are plenty of nice guys and cool girls but the people you remember have an edge they feel unique and they naturally Embrace contrast now that we know why contrast makes someone Unforgettable let's talk about how this plays out in Romance and dating and love and relationships because whether we realize it or not we are naturally romantically drawn to people who have emotional

contrast too this is why women are not very attracted to the nice guy but love the gentleman similar but different the nice guy is always nice always accommodating and because he's nice and that's all there is he's also passive and he tends to lack that edge the gentleman on the other hand is a protector a provider he can be tough and assertive when needed but also opens the door for you and buys you flowers and loves to hold your hand and is nice the nice guy is onedimensional the gentleman has depth to him he has

contrast and we are drawn to that energy it's interesting right a man who is confident but never cocky kind but never a pushover strong but still emotionally present that contrast draws Us in like imagine you meet this super tough masculine guy he has big muscles and he's 6'3 and he goes to the gym all the time and he works in finance and he drives a truck and he loves sports but also you find out he rescued a Labrador Retriever from the pound named Lucy and he takes her to the dog park every single day after

work oh and also he cooks all of a sudden that man is intriguing once you add in that contrast you're fascinated and the women that men tend to be the most enamored with also have that depth and that contrast to them too for example you're nice but not too nice meaning you have kind warm energy but you also have a little bit of sass a little bit of playfulness a little Edge you're soft but not passive you can be nurturing and receptive but you also still have your own thoughts opinions and boundaries you're mysterious but

also inviting you let him in emotionally you're not cold and aloof but he also feels like there's always more to learn about you you still have your own life and still do your own thing sometimes you're feminine but also independent you love receiving you love having a partner you love love you love having him take care of you but you don't need him to complete you contrast and when you have this contrast you are no longer predictable you are no longer boring and you will draw him in the girl who's effortlessly kind and grounded but

still sassy and playful the girl who sweet but never lets you walk all over her you better believe that she will be noticed the truth is is that depth is interesting having contrast in layers to you is interesting we fall for people who keep us engaged who make us feel something and who aren't just one thing all the time so with all that said let's talk about how to tap into this energy yourself and become Unforgettable now I want to be abundantly clear this is not about pretending to be someone you're not this is not

about pretending to be a little quirky so that he'll like you more no but here's the thing many people try to fit into a single box because they feel like they have to or they feel like it makes them more likable but this actually makes you more forgettable the truth is is that you are already multifaceted you already have depth you already have contrast every human being naturally has different size to themselves but most people suppress parts of themselves because it doesn't fit into this nice little neat tidy box so you don't have to to

create contrast or fake it it's already there inside you think about it you might be both deeply kind and Incredibly sharp witted you might be naturally nurturing but also fiercely ambitious for me I'm naturally very feminine and soft in many ways but also in other ways I can very much be a tomboy I love deep conversations and can be super introspective but at the same time I also love to laugh I can be quick witted and sarcastic and I don't really see the point in doing life if you can't make things at least a little

bit funny this was actually something that my husband told me once he like really got to know me he was like you're very shy and quiet and soft but also you have the most quote Epic on liners and you're secretly really funny that contrast surprised him and made me more interesting to him I think now I'm not saying that I have this perfect magnetic energy but what I do know is that embracing all the different parts of myself instead of suppressing parts of myself has made me feel more authentic more confident and has helped me

be more captivating the problem is is most people suppress one side of themselves because they think that they have to pick a lane but the most unforgettable people they don't choose they embrace all of it and they do so confidently they just own it oh I want to be an elegant woman so that means I can't do woodworking oh I love to be funny and make people laugh so that means that I can't ever get serious and show real emotion I just can't go there a lot of people dim parts of their personality because they're

afraid of being seen as inconsistent but one day you might feel light and soft and playful and Airy and the other day you might feel serious and introspective both are valid and both are part of what makes you unique and the more that you try to stick to one version of yourself the more you suppress your natural magnetism so instead of thinking what type of person should I be start asking what parts of me have I been holding back and how can I embrace the natural contrast that's already within me think about two qualities that

seem opposite in you how can you own both instead of suppressing one so what I am trying to say is that we are all naturally multifaced we all naturally have contrast but we suppress it and you want to know one of my favorite ways to bring all of you to life and to be your most magnetic self you do the inner work because when you do the inner work you heal the stuff that's stopping you from owning 100% of all that you are you let go of all of the insecurities holding you back you stop

filtering yourself to fit into this perfect box because you're so afraid of being wrong or being disliked and if you like my channel for the feminine energy content then you're going to appreciate this this is all about just bringing your light and dark feminine energy to life when you do the inner work to feel comfortable and both your light and dark feminine energy that is when you just naturally just naturally and effortlessly become a woman of contrast and Intrigue that light feminine energy is your soft side your nurturing side your playful side It's Kind it's

warm it's open it's receptive it loves Beauty and Aesthetics that dark feminine energy is your Saucy side it's your mystery your seduction your confidence your boundaries your power your Edge it's the part of you that is Untamed the most captivating women Embrace both and once you learn how to own all of the different parts of yourself confidently you become Unforgettable now if you want to take this even deeper and learn more specifically about light or dark feminine energy this video is more about light feminine energy and this video is all about dark feminine energy so

take your pick maybe watch both but I think that they'll both be incredibly helpful so I'll see you in one of these or I'll just see you next time thank you so much for watching bye