Avoiding Change Is Ruining Your Life

you need to change or something in your life needs to change you know it I know it you're probably going through it right now I'm going through it right now and as much as I want to help myself I can help somebody else so understand change is one of the hardest things in this lifetime that we will experience why is that because a lot of our identity as humans a a lot of it has to do with comfort and patterns we like to feel comfortable we like to be around people we like to feel welcome

we don't like to feel alone right we like to notice the similarities in people places and things we like to find these patterns and when things shift in the slightest bit it gets scary it's just the way we are hardwired it's how we survive noticing the changes and patterns it's what brings our antennas up right we're animals at the end of the day but also understand that life can't change without you changing if nothing changes nothing changes y'all know that you got to remember that you have to live life like you know that and understand

that your environment can't change for you people can't change for you you have to change for you now the thing is the things outside of you can influence the change inside of you your environment can affect you negatively and positively people can affect you the same way but you still have to change one of my favorite things to do when I get upset when I go in a dark place is clean my room throw out things I don't need throw out trash and you know stuff that's just in the way that I have no use

for I love to do that and it does help a little bit but I'm still making those decisions I'm actually getting up and doing the work and that influences me to keep going in this you know the situation this change you have to do it for you now change has a lot to to do with your identity it's a lot of letting go it's a lot of building a lot of people feel like they don't know themselves a lot of people think that things are just happening for no reason but they always have a reason

the reason why you are in the situation that you're in is because of your identity and this is going to hurt a lot of people but no matter what it is with the exception of a few things I'm going go ahead and preface cuz some people don't understand but with the exception of a few things wherever you are however you think it's all linked to your identity if you're broke it's because you're broke in the mind if you're sad it's because you're sad in the mind and you actually align with all of these identities most

people say well I'm broke it's not my fault X YZ yeah it may not be but that thought process is your fault because you have an opportunity to grow more than any rich person does because you're broke if you're at Rock Bottom there's no more going down you can only go up perspective is the key to life and it will change your life when you change the way you see things you have an opportunity to be great if you don't feel so great if you're sick you get to get well when we are well we

take it for granted and then we get sick we wish we're well again it's all about perspective it's all about perspective so think about the things you have manifested in your own life think about the things you continue to tell yourself continue to tell yourself I'm ugly I'll never have anybody I'll never get this job I'll never be successful everybody else is lucky and I'm unlucky and nothing's ever going to happen for me you're right that's what you manifest that's how you feel about yourself that's the identity that you align with so of course your

life is not going to change for the better because you're doing the same things you want different results out of life change who you are how do you do that Shan dismantle your identity we don't like to do that though because we come up with these identities even when we don't know oursel we come up with these identities and their coping mechanisms some of us we like to have this bravado and we walk around with our chest poked out and you know it's like big babies the moment you touch them they CED out it's that

fake armor people walk around they the biggest and they the baddest and they the loudest but they're the most insecure and for them to dismantle that they don't want to do that that's the ego death you don't want to let that go some people want to be this mysterious person and they don't want to tell anybody anything but they are dying to share who they are on the inside but you're afraid to let that go because it keeps you comfortable like I said comfort and patterns have a lot to do with who we are but

it all starts with you it all starts with you doing some very uncomfortable things you're going to have to step outside of your comfort zone you're going to have to change a lot of things in your life and you can't just change your haircut and and your cologne and your deodorant no no no no you're going to have to start changing the way you think what you tell yourself where you hang out what you eat all these things are going to have to change now don't change everything all at once because you're going to overwhelm

yourself and you'll be right back in the same situations that you've always been in start small that leads me to a great time to integrate what's behind me this is my new chair I got a new chair the chair that I usually sit in I've had it for the last 3 years I grew a bom with that chair it's seen me go through a lot of things I've had it for a long time I got it from one of my old jobs and it was something I did not want to let go I'm a Sentimental

hoarder I don't know if y'all can tell I got all types of stuff in my background if you seen my room you would probably freak out but I hold on to way too many things and my room influences all those things there's posan there's drums there's boxes there's all types of things everywhere and what it reflects is that I'm a person of many interest with a whole lot of baggage and the things that I love are often sometimes overcrowded by things I'm not willing to let go and sometimes it's better to let go things even

when we have strong deep connections with him so I was sent a chair and instead of me giving this chair away like I did the last one I gave my old chair away to a good friend of mine in this chair I like it a lot better and this is actually you know this video is sponsored by these people you know that sent me this chair but I wasn't going to just make a review video on a chair I was going to integrate it into a message that I wanted to give y'all and it happened

to align but what's going on in my life so look if y'all will excuse me we're going to do a quick break I'm going let y'all see the specs on this chair you might want this shair but we're going to get right back to the real message so let's take a quick break this video is sponsored by flexi spot they decided not to send me this this is for somebody else um but they decided to send me a chair and it came in a very large box which is always cool there wasn't very many pieces

in it at all it was very easy to put together very convenient for me and as you can see by the time I recorded this I had already given my chair away to my good friend which gave me some space to record this peacefully so let's get to the details this chair it locks at a 93 degree angle which is good for your posture and there's no need for extra pad because it has one that is stiff that is very firm and you can also hit the lever and make it all flexible and stuff so

you can move around you can get a little crazy if you need to also this is not one of those chairs with that stiff head rest this bad boy allows you to sleep comfortably and sit comfortably as well the cushion is pretty wide and adjustable itself the armrest probably my favorite feature you can spin them you can flip them you can turn them you can lick them you can do all types of things with them and when you combine that with these footrests right here it gives you the perfect opportunity to sleep and to actually

play the guitar and just relax so definitely check out this chair I have a code for you good people and let's get right back to the video so change I've been doing things in this last week to encourage the need for change that I've been feeling and me wanting more things in life or different things different feelings I knew that I needed a change so I've been trying to do things in this past week to encourage that like I mentioned I gave away my old chair many people will look at this video and say oh

this is just a ad or it was just a chair it was a lot deeper than that that chair has seen me through my highs and lows seen me through a few heartbreaks you know what I'm saying a lot of them caused by myself it seen me be consistent while doing my um my my creation seen me be not so consistent seen me cry seen me angry seen me play guitar seen me neglect my guitar I neglected my damn chair I neglected my room I've neglected my family the chair has seen everything and I never

really wanted to part with it obviously it was going to break one day I was going to have to get rid of it one day but it wasn't just a chair but it felt good to let it go it felt good to give it to somebody who could actually use it more than I could and I got a new chair that I actually like better but I also got up this morning and I went to the bathroom and wash my face and brush my teeth and I looked myself in the mirror and I talked to

myself I talked about how I felt and what I wanted from life and how great today was going to be and today has been a great day and literally as I was talking to myself in the mirror I started to feel better I started to look better that sleepy face that I had starting to Bright brighten up and I just felt a lot better but it's all because of the energy that I'm cultivating for myself the energy that I'm encouraging to come into my life from what I'm doing and one thing that has changed my

life is understanding that energy is the only currency in this world and this is the world this is not the world this is just somewhere we just hanging around right CU you got to pay for things with money I'm not stupid right but energy is the real currency the way you treat people that's how you'll get treated what you put out into this world you shall receive you shall receive who you are if you want something becoming if you want somebody become them you will get who you are you will get what you are that's

just the way energy works so I understood that if I want to make changes in my life if I want anything in my life I need to align my energy towards that if I want to be successful I have to align with the energy of discipline if I want happiness I have to align with that energy of Joy I have to align with what I want and there's no other way if you want to be rich align with the energy of being rich it is the only way and people still may not understand that and

that's why I always you know clear it up but when you go through your day-to-day activ ities in life put the energies on a scale all right I'm going to the gym today let's weigh that on the energy scale that is a positive thing all right I'm going to play video games all day and I'm going to watch pornography that's not going good on that scale you weigh your decisions you weigh your thoughts on this energy scale and at the end of it you just want to do enough things in your life or you want

to do more things in your life that do more good to you and bad and when you cultivate that energy you start to cultivate this identity of who you are and who you want to be the person who has everything you want in life what do they look like what do they smell like what do they walk like what do they do on a day-to-day basis to get what they want what do they do a lot of people take the victim mindset well I'm ugly and I'll never get this and I'll never get that you're

right you're right because that's what you believe that's the energy you're cultivating but I guarantee that somebody that looks like you that looks worse than you that smells worse than you that's not as tall as you don't have what you have but they are crushing life because they have cultivated the the energy to change their life they're doing something you're afraid to do you're doing something you're not willing to do but you're willing to complain you're willing to take that cycle that you're in and make it repeat repeat repeat and repeat and what do you

do to change that nothing you do exactly what you've been doing the same thing that keeps sabotaging your life and I'm guilty too that's why I'm changing my life has changed in the past year y'all heard me mention that a lot but I don't think y'all get it it is like the polar opposite of life from last year to this year my actions my decisions my thoughts it's all different some similarities but the way I move is different the way I feel is different what I am is different I put myself first I changed myself

first I changed what I did first I changed the way I thought first I changed how people thought about me I changed how people talked to me I changed it all but it started with me I changed my life y'all supported me through that so I want to return the favor I want to return the inspiration the motivation the influence for you to change your life my whole channel is literally an example of a person healing themselves in real time y'all seen it all y'all used to see wom when my eyes was red and yellow

and I look dead inside my hair was all over the place y'all seen it all it only takes a few months it only takes a year you can turn your entire life around my room didn't look like this a year ago it was still purple still had lights didn't have that plaque didn't have that picture didn't have that picture it didn't have that paper life is waiting on you to change now I also understand too during this period of time when you are changing things get difficult the smallest mistakes that you make in a period

of change are Amplified the smallest mistakes but why is that that's that other Force is trying to pull you to stay where you are if you're religious you know people call it the devil spiritual people just call it opposing energy whatever it doesn't matter it's all the same energy energy energy it doesn't matter when you're making changes in your life there's another Force out there that wants you to do exactly what you're doing when you're trying to break through of your addiction you went a month without having anything and then you slip up one day

and now you beating down on yourself saying you'll never be anything you just went a month without doing the thing that's been killing you for the last 10 years can you pat yourself on the back the smallest mistakes get Amplified when you make change you have to have the courage to keep going to push through and see life change for you it don't feel like it when you in it things move a little bit slow that first step even though it's the smallest it feels so large but it is the smallest step in the right

direction is usually the biggest step you'll ever take in your entire life because you can change and you will you just got to keep pushing you got to have that courage to never quit you got to have that that optimism to see that things will get better it will be delusional at first tell yourself lies they'll come true eventually they will but you got to believe you got to see those changes you have to improve for you it's called self-help self-improvement self-concepts whatever it's all self for a reason because you have to do it for

you you watch these videos you read these books but you're not doing anything for you you're just taking in information use these things as true in inspiration motivation don't just watch actually do it create more that you consume people think well I don't want to create content I'm not talking about content talking about energy influence Improvement create more than you consume create more than you consume and your life will change one of the hardest things about it it [Music] don't is he going to be lonely at times when your life is changing if you don't

believe me think about it you get those memories on Snapchat on Instagram on Tik Tok when you used to go out with your certain friends you used to be cool with certain people you used to listen to certain songs you don't anymore you creep up on that playlist that you used to listen to every day in 2016 when you used to say I'll never stop listening to this music this is my favorite music all the time now you don't even like it anymore a lot of it sounds like trash a lot of us still do

like it we like the Nostalgia of it you can't listen to it you know for more than 30 seconds but you have changed life changes when you change everything changes around you when you change everything does but you got to get used to that isolation you got to get used to that Solitude I'm not telling you to stay there forever I'm not tell telling you to use it as some coping mechanism learn to use it what it's for it has a purpose you have to get comfortable in it but don't get addicted to it a

lot of us want to be seen you want to be heard a lot of you are familiar you know where that came from but when you overcome the desire to be seen and heard that's that's when the truth growth happens how many times have you heard a tree grow never but there's no mistaking the sound of a tree falling growth is always silent but it hurts because in order for something to grow something must die and as things die they scream and they cry and they [Music] hurt hurt so it is understandable why you feel

the way you do I understand your pain I understand why you feel the way you do but I need you to understand that you will always feel the way you do unless you do something to change the way you feel the way you are and what you do in this lifetime there's people all around you who think the way you do that do what you do there's people all around you that think the way you want to think and that do what you want to do examine them examine yourself see what separates you from these

people see what they do see what they think as different from what you're doing and find the things in life that you are missing to get to where you want to be don't take this the wrong way you're not less than you are enough you are valuable you are special but you also have a choice you also have a conscience you also have desires and aspirations and an identity [Music] you also have experiences to gain you have a life to live but you also get to choose how that life turns out so hey I'm just

a messenger please don't shoot me and uh accept these changes in your life and if you have to run and go get them cuz life is going to change regardless you can either find a way to change with it or let it change you the choice is [Music] yours that's all I have to say I thank you I appreciate you for listening always I have some things to change in my life I have some things to change in my mind I'm excited for the future I appreciate the present and I'm thankful for the past so

let's go get them no more videos today no more social media today let's make some changes in our life let's go to the gym let's go for a walk let's go for a run let's draw those business plans let's paint let's draw let's play the guitar let's play the piano we can do handstands cartwheels skyd whatever let's go make some changes let's have some respect for ourselves let's be loyal to ourselves don't end the day without doing something for you the ya is over I love you you take care of yourself I see you soon

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