Marie Forleo’s 3 Steps to Create the Life You Want

you do not have to settle for the status quo that business that career that life you've been dreaming of it's all possible for you and then some in fact did you know there's a three-step formula that can help any of us turn our dreams into reality and have a damn good time along the way hey there I'm Marie forio founder of B school time genius and author of the number one New York Times bestseller everything is figureoutable and in this video we're going to break down a very simple but very powerful formula to turning our

dream lives into our real lives and I got to say anytime I have found myself lost or frustrated or feeling stuck or in just some way not living into my fullest potential it's because I fell off the damn wagon with one or more of these steps and it's important to remember these steps they're really a process right turning our dreams into reality it doesn't happen overnight of course it doesn't it takes work and effort and time and there's always going to be twists and turns as we go however after practicing and tinkering with these tools

for the past few decades and I still am and after working with hundreds of thousands of people let me tell you this framework is the most reliable thing I found yet so grab yourself a pen a notebook and let's Dive In Step number one in our formula is have the courage to be super super honest with yourself about what you really want so this is especially true if maybe what you want during this season of your life looks a whole lot different than what other people around around you want or think you should want I'm

going to give you some examples in a moment but first what we're really saying here is that step number one to turning your dream life into your real life is you have to clarify exactly what your unique dream is you got to name it and claim it and once it's Crystal Clear for you you got to get Unapologetic and playfully ambitious about the fact that you are going to make that dream come true so let me give you an example from my life especially if your dream go goes against the grain like M did so

I remember when I was just getting started in my career I had lots of different romantic relationships before I met Josh and all the men I dated wanted to eventually get married they wanted to go live in the suburbs and they wanted to have me pop out a bunch of kids I was like nope nope and more nope not one part of me wants any part of that I never fantasized about a wedding dress or a wedding day that just wasn't my dream and I've always known that I never wanted to have biological kids and

so many people probably for like 15 years or so said oh Marie you're going to change your mind or you're going to regret this or this is just a phrase and some people were even like what is wrong with you and I was like what's wrong with me what's wrong with you thinking that you know my dream life better than I do that is some arrogant and honestly I've done the same thing with my business you know for years I had people saying hey your first book was really great but you need to write another

book like where's the next book why aren't you writing another book and and I was like y'all I am on my own Divine timeline not your timeline or society's timeline when my next book is ready when it's my dream to bring it to life you're going to be the first to know and when everything is figure out but was ready to come to life it debuted at number one you know when I work with people I always say as your coach I'm here to help you get virtually anything you want but first you got to

tell me what that is and you would be shocked by how many people can't say exactly what their biggest dream is is I mean right now if I asked you what's the single most important project or goal or dream that you're making a reality could you tell me if I asked you what are five goals that you are so freaking excited about getting accomplished over the next 6 months could you name them like boom boom boom boom boom right off the top of your head most people would have a little trouble and that's okay because

if you do the following exercises you're going to start to find that Clarity right and it's going to feel so good and here's the best part none of your answers got to be perfect and they are certainly not permanent everybody's goals change and evolve over time but the point here is we want to get you aimed in the right direction we want to unearth what you really want in your heart what is your dream career your dream business your dream life actually look like not what your family or your friends or Society has programmed you

to want but what do you want in your heart and soul sound good okay so here's prompt number one this is one of my favorites what would your life be like if it were exactly the way that you wanted to be today what would you change what would you enhance what would you give more energy to what would you do differently what would you appreciate more I want you to spend some time just answering those questions right after you watch this video now the reason that I love this prompt so much is because it instantly

fires up our imagination and quickly helps us envision our dream life and from there you start to tease out right some little very specific and actionable goals to get you closer to that Vision so this prompt helps you think big it's broad it's fun it's like a blue sky type of experience and personally I believe most of us we just don't do that enough now once you've played around in that zone there's another prompt that you can experiment with if you want to come at this from a completely different perspective so here's prompt number two

start thinking about what you don't want in your life so what are you no longer willing to tolerate or put up with or accept now you might be saying to yourself wait wait hold up Marie like you want me to focus on all the negative stuff in my life and list all the things I don't want yes I do and here's why you see most of us are super clear about the things that make us feel stressed out or frustrated on a consistent basis and sticking our heads in the sand when it comes to our

problems that doesn't solve them at all at all plus it's often the inverse of those things that lead us to our dream life but first you have to be honest with yourself about what's not working so for instance I remember there was this one time when Josh and I were both working from our tiny little home and even though we love spending time together we were on top of each other and it was awful there was no privacy we couldn't think straight it was just not good all around and then we figured hey well what

if we kept our cute little house but we build out these two separate workspaces on the property so everybody gets the peace and the quiet that they need now of course this didn't happen instantly but by being honest about that frustration point it helped us create our Dream solution and we are so much happier these days so I think it's useful take a few minutes after this video and just make that list what are the things that you deal with that leave you frustrated or stressed or embarrassed or unhappy on a regular basis and nobody's

got to see this list but you but you have to have the courage to be honest with yourself about what's not working in your life and then what's the inverse of those things here's what's cool there's a good chance you are going to uncover some very worthy goals that'll help you start living your dream life faster than you can imagine now of course we could go on and on and on with all different kinds of prompts to help you tap into your heart and unearth what you really want but I think you get the idea

here so let's move on to step number two in our formula of turning our dreams into reality which is this WR down your top goals daily now I'm going to explain that daily piece in a sec but first did you know that people who write down their goals are 42% more likely to achieve them than those who don't 42 freaking per. that's a whole lot of percent and this is all based on solid research done by Dr Gail Matthews at the Dominican University in California now look I know this sounds really basic and you've probably

heard this before but let's take this one step further okay because even for people who do write down their goals from what I've seen the vast majority do not look at them enough for instance most people will sit down and they'll do a big goal setting session in January right they write everything down but then they stick it in the journal and they put it in a drawer and they don't look at it again until December at which point they're like well wait a minute how' everything get so off track that my friends is why

I write my goals down every single day I know my top 10 goals by heart and I write them down every morning it takes me less than 2 minutes and it helps me keep this wild brain super focused and on track and actually I do something else I created called the midyear reset and I do it around June where I go through this very full and detailed process to re-evaluate and realign my goals and my dreams so that I am current and on track as I head into the second half of the year in fact

this year I'm going to take a special group of people through my midyear reset process personally so if you're interested in that I'll tell you more about it in just a few minutes but first let's keep going onto our last and final step of the formula which is to get at least one person on your dream team look there is not one meaningful thing in my business or my life that I've created or accomplished solely on my own I mean sure the inspiration the vision the energy the drive the work ethic I bring all that

to the table every day but every step of the way besides believing in myself which is key there's always been at least one other person who not only believed in me but encouraged me or taught me something I didn't know or introduce me to a book or an idea or another person or a possibility that helped me keep going and let's be honest for those of us who are wildly ambitious and creative it can get lonely sometimes can't it I mean we need other people to connect with and to brainstorm with and to talk with

we need other people that really get us and get the unique challenges that we face and we need people to turn to when things go sideways or we start doubting ourselves or we just hit a big roadblock so how does connecting with others relate to turning our dreams into reality the science actually backs this up big time in that same study by Dr Gail Matthews she found that if you share your written goals with a supportive friend and check in on each other's progress your chances for Success Skyrocket in fact 76% of the group that

did all those things they wrote down their goals they shared it with a supportive friend and they shared their progress either totally reached their goals or were well on their way and here's the best part not one part of this formula is rocket science right it's all super doable it's simple it's science backed and it works so I want you to think about this in your own world for a minute do you have at least one person that can be on your dream team is there someone who believes in you and who you can connect

with and share your progress with on a regular basis and if we just broaden out a little bit do you have trusted people that you can talk to when you need to make a smart decision in your business or your life or people that you can call upon when you hit a Health crisis or a family crisis or a relationship crisis because we all hit those points if not now is the time for you to go find those people and look if you want me to be a part of your dream team and you want

to connect with my team and my most trusted friends and colleagues this is your chance I am launching one of my personal dreams it's actually been something that I've been journaling about and talking about and noodling on for years it's called dream club and it is this extraordinary six-month live coaching and Community experience where you get access to me to my team and to my nearest and dearest friends and collaborators like never before and you get to connect with other dream clubbers all all around the world so there's going to be goal setting and live

workshops and co-working sessions and beauty throwdowns and dance sessions all designed to help you set and reach your most important goals and have a damn good time along the way now dream Club is invite only if I personally sent you an email with a link to this video today then your dream Club invitation is already on the way to your inbox now if you're not subscribe to my emails but you're interested in dream Club cuz it's going to be bananas go to secret dream club.com now and request an invitation that's secret dream club.com and request

that invite then keep an eye on your inbox because official invites start rolling out this week I got to say dream Club is something that I have wanted to create for years and it's something I am so beyond excited about if it's the right fit for you I really hope I get to see you in the club but no matter what make yourself a promise right now to use this simple three-step formula to bring your most important goals and dreams dreams to life because guess what you would not have those dreams in your heart unless

you already had the goods to make them happen thank you so much for watching and until next time stay on your game and keep going for your Big Dreams because the world really does need that very special gift that only you have [Music]