5 Rules on How To Emotionally DETACH from Someone - Neville Goddard Motivation

before we delve into these rules let us first understand the nature of attachment itself in the world of Caesar we are taught from an early age that our happiness our very sense of self is dependent on others we are conditioned to believe that our worth is measured by the affection and approval of those around us this my dear friends is the great illusion that keeps us bound to a life of limitation and suffering but I say unto you true Freedom lies not in clinging to others but in recognizing the Divinity within yourself for you are

God made manifest the very essence of creation expressing itself in human form and in this realization lies the power to detach from all external sources of validation and love now let us turn our attention to the first rule of emotional Detachment recognize the I within this rule my beloved listeners is the foundation upon which all else is built for until you truly understand and embody the I am presence within you you will forever be at the mercy of external circumstances and relationships the I am is not some Distant unknowable Force it is the very core

of your being the Divine spark that animates Your Existence it is the God within the source of all creation and the Wellspring of infinite possibility when you say I am you are invoking the name of God for did not the scriptures tell us I am that I am this is the name by which the Divine identified itself to Moses and it is the name by which you must identify yourself in every moment of your existence to emotionally detach from someone you must first attach yourself holy and completely to the I am am within this is

not a rejection of Love or connection but rather a recognition that all love all connection all fulfillment comes from within imagine if you will a beautiful oak tree its branches reach towards the heavens it leads dance in the sunlight but what gives this tree its strength its very life is it not the roots hidden beneath the Earth drawing nourishment from the soil so too must you be rooted in the I am drawing your strength and sustenance not from the feeding affections of others but from the Eternal Wellspring of divinity within practice this my dear friends

in every moment of your day affirm the I am am say to yourself I am love I am peace I am fulfillment feel the power of these words resonating through every cell of your being for in doing so you are aligning yourself with the creative force of the universe as you strengthen your connection to the IM am you will find that your need for emotional validation from others begins to diminish like a candle whose flame grows ever brighter you will become a source of light unto yourself and others but remember this is not a practice

of isolation or disconnection rather it is the foundation for true unconditional love for when you are firmly rooted in the IM am you can extend love to others without expectation or attachment you become a channel for divine love allowing it to flow through you freely unobstructed by fear or need now let us move on to the second rule of emotional Detachment Le in the end this rule my dear listeners is the the very essence of creation for what you experience in your physical reality is but a shadow a reflection of what you have already accepted

as true in your imagination to emotionally detach from someone you must live in the end of complete emotional freedom and self-sufficiency you must see yourself in your mind's eye as one who is whole complete and fulfilled independent of any external relationship or circumstance close your eyes for a moment if you will and imagine yourself Standing Tall radiating confidence and inner peace see yourself moving through your day with Grace and ease unaffected by the opinions of actions of others feel the joy and contentment that comes from knowing that you are the source of your own happiness

this my friends is living in the end it is not a denial of your current circumstances but rather a recognition of the power of your imagination to shape your reality for as you persist in this vision of emotional Freedom you will find that your outer world begins to conform to this inner truth remember the world is yourself pushed out what you hold is true in your imagination must by the very laws of creation manifest in your experience therefore if you continue to imagine yourself as emotionally dependent on another you will continue to experience that dependency

in your life but if you dare to imagine yourself as emotionally free as one who is complete unto themselves then that is what you shall become the person from whom you wish to detach will either fall away naturally from your life or your relationship with them will transform into one of mutual respect and freedom practice this living in the end daily before you sleep at night and as you wake in the morning spend a few moments in quiet contemplation experiencing the feeling of being emotionally detached and self-sufficient feel the relief the likeness the joy that

comes with this state of being as you persist in this practice you will find that your emotional reactions to the person begin to change where once there was attachment and need there will be understanding and compassion where once there was fear of loss there will be an unshakable knowing of your own completeness now let us explore the third rule of emotional Detachment assume the state of the wish fulfilled this rule my dear friends is closely related to living in the end but it goes a step further it asks you not only to imagine the end

state but to fully assume it has your current reality this is the art of what I call thinking from the end rather than thinking of the end to emotionally detach from someone you must assume the state of one who is already detached this is not a matter of pretending or forcing yourself to feel a certain way rather it is about stepping into a new State of Consciousness a new self-concept imagine if you will that you are an actor on a stage up until now you have been playing the role of someone emotionally attached and dependent

but now you are given a new role that of someone who is emotionally free and self-sufficient your task is to fully embody this new character to think feel and act as they would how would this emotionally detached version of yourself move through the world how would they speak How would how would they react to situations how would they feel about themselves and others assume these qualities fully not as something to be achieved in the future but as your present reality this Assumption of the wish fulfilled is not about denial or suppression of your current feelings

it is about shifting your focus and your energy to a new state of being it is about choosing Moment by moment to align yourself with the version of you that is already emotionally detached as you assume this state you may find that your thoughts and feelings towards the person begin to shift naturally where once there was a constant preoccupation with their actions and reactions there is now a calm IND difference where once there was a need for their approval or affection there is now a deep sense of self-approval and self-love remember my dear listeners that

your assumption if persisted in will harden into fact therefore guard your assumptions carefully do not allow yourself to slip back into the Old State of attachment if you find your thoughts drifting towards dependency or need gently but firmly bring them back to the state of the wish fulfilled this practice may feel challenging ing at first especially if you have been in a state of emotional attachment for a long time but I assure you with persistence and faith it will become more natural for you are not creating a new reality but simply aligning yourself with the

truth of your being a being that is whole complete and free as you continue to assume the state of emotional Detachment you will find that your interactions with the person begin to change you may notice that you no longer react to their words or actions with the same intensity you may find that you can engage with them from a place of calm neutrality free from the need to control or change them this my friends is the power of assumption it is the key to not only emotional Detachment but to all creation for as you assume

so shall it be done unto you now let us turn our attention to the fourth rule of emotional Detachment release all resistance this rule my beloved listeners may seem paradoxical at first for in your desire to detach you may find yourself resisting the very feelings and thoughts you wish to release but I say unto you what you resist persists the key to True Detachment lies not in fighting against your attachment but in releasing all resistance to what is consider if you will the nature of a river it flows effortlessly towards the sea not by pushing

against the rocks in its path but by flowing around them so too much you learn to flow around the obstacles of attachment rather than struggling against them resistance often manifests as judgment Judgment of yourself or feeling attached Judgment of the other person for their actions Judgment of the situation itself but judgment my dear friends is the antithesis of Detachment it keeps you bound to the very thing you wish to release instead practice acceptance accept your feelings of attachment without condemnation accept the other person exactly as they are without trying to change them accept the situation

as it is without wishing it were different this acceptance is not resignation or passivity it is not about liking or approving of everything rather it is about acknowledging what is without adding the extra layer of emotional resistance it is about saying yes to the present moment even as you work towards creating a different future as you release resistance you may find that many of the painful emotions associated with attachment begin to dissolve naturally for it is not the attachment itself that causes suffering but your resistance to it when you cease to fight against what is

you open yourself to the floow of life allowing transformation to occur effortlessly practice this release of resistance in every moment when you notice yourself tensing up emotionally whether in thought of the person or in their presence consciously relax let go of the need to control the situation or the other person's Behavior allow yourself to Simply Be Without judgment or expectation this practice of non-resistance extends to your thoughts as well when thoughts of attachment arise do not try to push them away or replace them with positive thoughts instead observe them with detached awareness watch them arrive

and pass away like clouds in the sky without getting caught up in their story as you cultivate this attitude of non-resistance you will find that your emotional energy begins to shift the intensity of your attachment will begin to dissolve not through force or will power but through the gentle power of acceptance and allowing remember my dear friends that emotional Detachment is not about becoming cold or unfeeling it is about freeing yourself from the compulsive need for external validation and control it is about creating space for true love to flourish love that is given freely without

expectation or attachment now let us explore the fifth and final rule of emotional Detachment cultivate inner Stillness this rule my beloved listeners is the culmination of all that we have discussed for it is in the depths of inner Stillness that true Detachment is realized not as a concept or a practice but as your very nature inner Stillness is not the absence of thought or emotion it is the presence of awareness pure unbounded and eternally free it is the discovery of your true self beyond all attachments and identifications to cultivate inner Stillness you must learn to

step back from the constant chatter of your mind you must create space between your thoughts between your breaths between your heartbeats in this space lies the key to emotional Freedom Begin by setting aside time each day for quiet contemplation find a comfortable place where you will not be disturbed close your eyes and turn your attention inward focus on your breath feeling the gentle rise and fall of your chest as thoughts arise and they will for that is the nature of the Mind simply observe them without judgment do not try to stop your thoughts or change

them instead watch them come and go like waves on the ocean of your Consciousness as you continue this practice you may begin to notice moments of profound Stillness moments when the chatter of your mind subsides and you are left with a deep sense of peace and presence these moments however brief are glimpses of your true nature the unchanging awareness that that underlies all experience from this place of inner Stillness emotional Detachment arises naturally for in the depths of your being you recognize that you are not your thoughts not your emotions not your attachments you are

the awareness in which all these arise and pass away as you cultivate this inner Stillness you will find that your emotional reactions begin to lose their grip the person from whom you wish to detach no longer has the power to disturb your peace their words and actions may still create ripples on the surface of your mind but they cannot touch the depths of your being this inner Stillness becomes your Refuge a place of peace and Clarity to which you can return at any moment when you feel yourself becoming entangled in attachment or emotional reactivity simply

take a deep breath and reconnect with this still Center within you from this place of Stillness you can engage with the world and with the person from whom you're detaching with Grace and Equanimity you can love without attachment care without dependency and relate without losing yourself remember my dear friends that this inner Stillness is not something you need to create or achieve it is already present within you waiting to be recognized your task is simply to remove the obstacles the mental and emotional noise that obscure its presence as you practice these five rules recognizing the

I am within living in the end assuming the state of the wish fulfilled releasing all resistance and cultivating inner Stillness you will find that emotional Detachment becomes not just a goal to be achieved but a natural expression of your true self now my beloved listeners I want you to understand that this journey of emotional Detachment is not a linear process it is not something that happens overnight or in a steady predictable progression rather it is a Dance a beautiful sometimes challenging dance between your habitual patterns of attachment and your growing awareness of your true detached

nature there will be moments of profound Clarity and freedom where you feel completely detached and at peace cherish these moments for they are GL of your true potential but do not become attached to them for attachment to Detachment is still attachment there will also be moments when you feel as though you'd slipped back into Old patterns of emotional dependency do not judge yourself for these moments there are not failures but opportunities for deeper understanding and growth each time you notice yourself becoming entangled in attachment it is an invitation to practice these principles a new remember

emotional Detachment is not about suppressing your feelings or becoming indifferent to others it is about freeing yourself from the compulsive need for external validation and control it is about creating space for true love to flourish love that is given freely without expectation or attachment as you continue on this journey you may find that your relationship with the person from whom you're detaching begins to transform without the weight of your emotional expectations and needs they may feel free to be themselves you may discover a new kind of relationship emerging one based on mutual respect and genuine

care rather than than dependency and fear or you may find that as you detach emotionally the relationship naturally Falls away for relationships buil solely on attachment and need cannot survive in the light of true emotional Freedom trust in this process for it is the natural unfolding of your alignment with your true self throughout this journey be gentle with yourself emotional Detachment is not about forcing yourself to feel or not feel certain thingss it is about allowing yourself to be exactly as you are in each moment while holding the vision of your emotionally free self practice

self-compassion as you navigate this path when you notice yourself slipping into all patterns of attachment rather than berating yourself offer yourself the same kindness and understanding you would offer a dear friend speak to yourself with words of encouragement and love remember also to celebrate your progress no matter how small it may seem each moment of awareness each choice to align with your detached self is a victory acknowledge these moments for they are the building blocks of your transformation As you move through your days practicing these five rules of emotional Detachment you may begin to notice

changes not just in your relationship with the specific person you're detaching from but in all your relationships and interactions you may find yourself becoming less reactive in general less easily swayed by the opinions and actions of others you may discover a new sense of inner peace and stability that remains constant regardless of external circumstances this my dear friends is the true gift of emotional attachment it is not just about freeing yourself from one specific attachment but about realizing your inherent freedom in all situations as you continue to practice you may find that the very concept

of Detachment begins to shift what once seemed like a goal to be achieved becomes simply your natural state of being you realize that you were never truly attached in the first place that attachment was merely a story you were telling yourself in this realization Lies True freedom for when you know yourself as the unchanging awareness beneath all thoughts and emotions what is there to attach to or detach from you are already complete already whole already free from this place of inner Freedom you can engage fully with life without becoming entangled you can love deeply without

losing yourself you can care profoundly without being controlled by your caring this my beloved listeners is the promise of emotional Detachment it is not a dry intellectual concept but a living reality that you can embody in every moment of your existence as we near the end of our exploration I want to remind you that the power to emotionally detach lies entirely within you it is not dependent on the actions or reactions of others it does not require the cooperation or understanding of the person from whom you're detaching it is a choice that you make Moment

by moment to align with your true free nature in every interaction in every thought of the person you have the opportunity to practice these principles each moment is a new beginning a fresh chance to choose Detachment over attachment Freedom over dependency remember the world around you is a reflection of your inner State as you cultivate emotional Detachment within yourself you will find that your outer world begins to mirror this inner Freedom relationships have once sources of pain and struggle May transform into sources of joy and mutual growth or they may fall away entirely making space

for new more aligned connections to enter your life trust in this process my dear friends trust in the wisdom of your own being for as you align yourself with the truth of who you are a Divine infinite being complete unto yourself all things must rearrange themselves to match this inner knowing and so as we come to the close of this discourse I invite you to take a moment to reflect on what you've heard feel the truth of these words resonating within you know that the power to emotionally detach to free yourself from all limiting attachments

is already within you waiting you be recognized and expressed go forth from this place with a renewed commitment to your emotional Freedom practice these five rules d ly recognize the I am am within live in the end assume the state of the wish fulfilled release all resistance and cultivate inner Stillness but above all remember that you are already that which you seek to become you are already detached already free already complete your task is simply to remove the veils of Illusion that obscure this truth in every moment you have a choice you can choose to

identify with your attachments and dependencies or you can choose to align with your true free nature make this Choice consciously make it with love and make it again and again until it becomes your natural state of being and know my beloved friends that as you walk this path of emotional Detachment You Are Not Alone the entire universe conspires to support you in your journey towards freedom for in freeing yourself you contribute to the freedom of all beings may you go forth in peace in love and in the unshakable knowing of your own Divine completeness may

you find the strength to detached from all that no longer serves you and the courage to embrace the fullness of your true liberated self remember you are the creator of your reality you are the author of your story write a story of freedom of joy of unconditional love for that is your Birthright and it is within your power to claim it go now and be the embodiment of emotional Freedom be the living proof that true love needs no attachment that true strength comes from within that true pieces your very nature and as you do know

that you are fulfilling your highest purpose for INF freeing yourself you like the way for others in detaching from your own limitations you help to liberate the world this my dear friends is The Ultimate Gift of emotional Detachment it is not just a personal practice but a service to all of humanity for as you free yourself you create a ripple effect that touches all those around you inviting them to recognize their own inherent Freedom so go forth with courage with faith and with the unwavering conviction that emotional Detachment is not just possible but inevitable for

it is the truth of your being waiting to be realized may you be blessed on your journey may you find the strength to persist in these practices and may you come to know beyond all doubt the joy and peace that comes from True emotional freedom