There are NO Justified Resentments - Wayne Dyer

I was in a group one time of uh drug addicts and alcoholics and I was one of the people that was a sponsor and leading this group and the sign on the wall said there are no Justified resentments in this group and what I said to that group that that night was no matter what anybody says to you here no matter what kind of anger comes directed towards you no matter how much hate you may encounter showing up in your life there are no Justified resentments meaning that if you carry around resentment inside of you

about anything or about anyone and I'm talking about the person that you lent money to and hasn't paid you back I'm talking about the person in your life that you feel was abusive I'm talking about the person who walked out on you and left you for somebody else I'm talking about all of the things that you have justified in your heart and in your life that you have the right to be resentful about and I'm suggesting to you that those resentments will always end up harming you and creating in you a sense of Despair I've

often said that no one ever dies from a snake bite the snake bite will never kill you you cannot be unbitten once you're bitten you're bitten but it's the Venom that continues to pour through your system after the bite that will end up destroying you so now you have to take a look at all of the resentments that you may have in your life and I'd like to suggest to you that I think there is a Wonder wonderful metaphor for this that I have created in my life for how to make this work there's a

show called uh Who Wants To Be A Millionaire and basically this show has two levels that you have to get to now the first level is the $1,000 level and at the $1,000 level you basically have to answer a question like on your hand you have some digits those digits on your hand are called your feet your nose your ears your fingers uh and everybody whoever goes on the show has this horrible dread that they're going to go out on one of those questions right so basically in order to get to the Thousand level all

you have to do is answer five pretty simple questions in order to uh to get to the th000 level now the th000 level for you in this metaphor means that you will leave with something if you get this at least get this this is the Thousand level you must send blame out of your life for any conditions of your life blame has to go all right now blame means if you're sitting there with a disease you say without guilt it's mine I take responsibility for it this means that if you have been through any tough

circumstances in your life this means if you have a minimal amount of Financial Security in your life this means if your children don't get along with you this means that uh if your neighbors are having taking up a petition to get you out of the neighborhood whatever it might be that's going on in your life you name it and everybody has a series of these things that you're willing to say I am here because of the choices that I have made right now I'm willing to say that even though it's difficult and we know it's

really not your fault we know really there's a lot of people out there who are really bad all right but but you're willing to say no blame that's the first level all right that's where you understand no Justified resentments and then on the uh Who Wants To Be A Millionaire show there is what is called the $32,000 level and the $32,000 level is not only an opportunity for you to walk away with a sizable amount of goodies but it also is the door opener to multi- wealth but you got to get to this in order

to have an opportunity to move into these Transcendent levels all right millionaire spiritual status all right you got to get through these next five questions and this $32,000 question or level rather comes to this and it came to me from a quotation that I use in the writing of a spiritual solution to every problem I read the uh a book that was written a couple of thousand years ago by pangali the yoga sutras the aphorisms of patang and one of those sutras one of those aphorisms observations that This brilliant man made almost 2,000 years ago

was this he said if you become steadfast in your exensions of thoughts of harm directed towards others all living creatures will cease to feel enmity in your presence now this translates to blame pretty basic no more blame I'm just not going to assign responsibility to other people for where I am because now I have an opportunity to get rid of it if I think someone else CAU it then I've got to wait for somebody else to change in order for me to get rid of it and you might wait forever for that but if I

take responsibility for it I can do something including move on which might be the most important thing to do but at the higher level when there are no Justified resentments what you are doing is you are at a place where you are sending love in response to hate you are literally saying no matter what comes my way I am going to be steadfast in my exstension of thoughts of harm directed toward others I'm going to work hard at no matter what comes my way having it come out of me what I want to come out

of me and that is love and that is a higher energy and if you can get to that level patanjali said all living creatures will cease to feel enmity in your presence I have a little girl a precious little girl I have six precious girls and two precious Sons but I have a a little girl who is almost 12 and she loves animals like no one I've ever met in my life I mean her whole life revolves around animals and when we walk in the woods butterflies avoid me fly away from people around and they

come and they land right on her arm and it happens all the time all living creatur she couldn't have a thought of harm directed towards any living creature and patang said to us all living creatures will cease to feel fear or enmity or anger in the presence of those who can send love in response to hate that's what I mean when I say there are no Justified resentments what I'd like to do I'd like to share a little story here with you it's a very tender story it was sent to me by someone who sends

me beautiful things in the mail and I call it the teddy story and I'd like to read this to you if I can do it without tearing up and this story illustrates this as well as anything I've ever seen there's a story many years ago of an elementary school teacher her name was Mrs Thompson as she stood in front of her fifth grade class on the very first day of school she told the children a lie like most teachers she looked at her students and said that she loved them all the same but that was

impossible because there in the front row slumped in his seat was a little boy named Teddy Stoddard Mrs Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and noticed that he didn't play well with the other children that his clothes were messy and that he constantly needed a bath Teddy could be unpleasant had got to the point where Mrs Thompson would actually take Delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen and making bold x's and then putting a big F at the top of his papers at the school where Mrs Thompson taught she was required

to review each child's past records and she put Teddy's off until last however when she reviewed his file she was in for a surprise Teddy's first grade teacher wrote Teddy is a bright child with a ready laugh he does his work neatly and he has good manners he's a joy to be around his second grade teacher wrote Teddy's an excellent student well-liked by his classmates but he's troubled because his mother has a terminal illness and life at home must be a struggle his third grade teacher wrote his mother's death has been hard on him he

tries to do his best but his father doesn't show much interest and his home life will soon affect him if steps aren't taken Teddy's fourth grade teacher wrote Teddy's withdrawn and doesn't show up much interest in school he doesn't have many friends and sometimes he even sleeps in class by now Mrs Thompson realized the problem and she was ashamed of herself she felt even worse when her students brought her Christmas presents wrapped in beautiful ribbons and bright paper except for Teddy's his present was clumsily wrapped in his heavy brown paper that he got from the

grocery bag Mrs Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other present some of the children started the when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing and a bottle that was one qu full of perfume but she stifled her children's laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was putting it on and dabbing some of the perfume on her wrist Teddy Stoddard stayed after school that day just long enough to say Mrs Thompson today you smell just like my mom used to after the children left she cried for

at least an hour on the very day she quit teaching Reading Writing and arithmetic and instead she began to teach children Mrs Thompson paid particular attention to Teddy as she worked with him and his mind seemed to come alive the more she encouraged him the faster he responded by the end of the year Teddy had become one of the smartest children in the class and despite her lie became one of her teachers pets a year later she found a note under the door from Teddy telling her that she was still the best teacher he ever

had in his whole life six years went by before she got another note from Teddy he then wrote that he had finished High School third in his class and she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life four years after that she got another letter saying that while things had been tough at times he stayed in school and stuck with it and would soon graduate from college with the highest of honors he assured Mrs Thompson that she was still the very best and favorite teacher he ever had in his whole life

then four more years passed and yet another letter came this time he explained that after he got his bachelor's degree he decided to go a little further the letter explained that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had but now his name was a little longer the letter was signed Theodore F Stoddard MD but the story doesn't end there you see there was yet another letter that spring Teddy said he'd met this girl and was going to be married he explained that his father had died a couple of years ago and he

was wondering if Mrs Thompson might agree to sit in the place at the wedding that was usually reserved for the mother of the groom of course Mrs Thompson did and guess what she wore that bracelet the one with the several rhinestones missing and she made sure she was wearing the perfume that Teddy remembered his mother wearing on their last Christmas together they hugged each other and Dr Stoddard whispered in Mrs Thompson's ear thank you so much for making me feel important and showing me that I could make a difference Mrs Thompson came with tears in

her eyes and whispered back Teddy you have it all wrong you were the one who taught me that I could make a difference I didn't know how to teach until I met you isn't that a beautiful story that symbolizes there are no Justified resentments work at reaching that $32,000 level the place where the only thing you have to send is love because that's what's inside and that's the message of our greatest spiritual teachers that's all they ever had to give [Music] [Music] away [Music]