“Be UnF*CkWithAble!” - Break These “Nice Girl” Habits to Master Confidence, Power, Love & Money

I used to be that girl I used to be that girl that let them say anything and do anything and then what I would do is beat myself up and I would treat myself like I was dirt and I realized no you can be the anomaly owning your power not being afraid to be confident not being afraid to be vulnerable either because whatever you tolerate will persist I'm a bad [ __ ] I'm a bad I'm beautiful I'm fly I'm unfuckwithable I'm unexplainable I don't tolerate or play with bullsh I have respect for myself I

have integrity I have character and a lot of people just can't take it how the hell from where you started from have you been able to build such damn resilient confidence I got to tell you you know I was tired of not having confidence I was tired of shrinking myself in the rooms that I will go to um as an entrepreneur I meet a lot of women and what I've noticed is that when women get around each other there's not a lot of love there's a lot of jealousy a lot of insecurities a lot of

backbiting and so I wanted to be the woman that maintained who I am like um when I used to be you know like on food stamps on Section 8 when I was you know in foster care as a young girl when I was growing up I didn't have a lot of support and a lot of friends and so I made up in my mind that once I you know got mature and grew up that I was going to be that person that embodied everything that I wish I got from other people so I play this

game with myself it's called observing myself so I kind of look at myself as as a second person so a stormy and then it's stormy so stormy watch is stormy so I'm aware of how I'm moving how I'm talking what I'm doing how I'm showing up and I remember that that wasn't always me and so being in rooms feeling like I I I don't want to you know let nobody see me because I don't want to intimidate her or I don't want her to judge me was really challenging for me but once I realized that

no you could be the anomaly owning your power not being afraid to be confident not being afraid to be vulnerable either not being afraid to be transparent that's a freaking superpower and so I know it and I know that captures a lot of people's attention so thank you for seeing me did I see you and let's talk about then in how you then created the anomaly because everything you just said is super freaking powerful but in all of that is the mess and it's the mess that people get lost in that they're not able to

then come out the other side and be fre can stormy so let's actually just go back to your childhood you your mom uh was trafficking drugs and you at the age of 13 mhm um found yourself in a house without a mother with no running water because it's in these stories that you were able I believe to cultivate a skill set that has allowed you to then take it into your adulthood my parents are Jamaican descent my mom didn't graduate from high school who never went to college my mom was a drug dealer at the

age of seven years old I knew what a key of cocaine looked like like I can still remember what it looked like what it smell like I could remember the people coming in out in out of the house I can see them right now as I'm talking about it and so as a young girl watching my mom I learned how to be a badass I learned how to be resilient but I also used to look at my mom and I used to say I don't want to be like her so at 13 years old my

mom went to Jamaica like normal to go get her drugs like normal and I thought she was coming back two months past my mom didn't come back three months past my mom didn't come back by three months she left us with her boyfriend her boyfriend Lisa was a freak her boyfriend was staying um the room all day watching porno and their door didn't have a knob so I remember being 13 years old and I would hear the the sound of the porn and sometime I would think my mom was home because the sound and I

look through the door and I'll see him in the room being a freak this is my memory as a child and then I wake up one day and we have no water so for about 3 weeks I would take baths with jugs of water I would go to friends houses and I would take baths and one of my good friends I never forget her name was Mona her mom was at work all the time she became a dancer and so Mona would come home with all of this money she dated my brother and she throw

all the money on a floor and she's 16 I'm 13 she was gorgeous beautiful skin long hair oh my God beautiful and I got goosebumps as I talk about it I was like where you get all this money from and she's like girl I work at the strip club I work at Rolex and I'm like but you 16 years old how you how you doing that and she like girl I got a fake ID that's easy and all I could think about was my water's off we need some water there's no food in the house

um my mom I don't know when she's comeing home she did not call I had no idea what was going on with my mom I till this day I still don't know what took her so long to come home and then one night this guy I was dating this guy and I always look more mature than I actually was so here I am 13 I probably L like I was about 19 and he invited me to go with him to his family strip club they owned a club called bootleggers and we went and he was

like stay in the car I'll be right back and I was like no I want to go in you know bring me in he thought I was like 19 years old so he bought me in and he leaves me in the common area while he goes in the office I had on a black suede skirt a black vest a white shirt again I remember like it was yesterday this guy walks up to me and he goes if you lift up your skirt I give $600 right now I'm 13 and my mind I'm like how dare

him like this is humiliating he walked off I saw him like 5 minutes later and I thought about my water being off at home the guy still was still in the office the date that I was on and I say give me the $600 he gave me $600 I didn't even lift up my skirt yet he gave it to me first I wanted my money first and I lift up my skirt and I was like dang that's all I had to do I went home the next day paid the w water bill I'm 13 PID

the water bill my mom's boyfriend is still in the room being a freak I pay the water bill I'm 13 Lisa I bought some groceries and the next day my friend goes ah how did you get the money to do this and I told her what happened she ended up getting me a fake ID so at 13 years old I became a stripper and then my mom finally came home and when she came home the home that we was in was in foreclosure so we had to move so I just went through like I mean

listen I could tell you from dropping out of school in 10th Grade I had my first child when I was 15 and the reality is that the reason why I had my son at 15 was because I wanted his dad to take care of me so I know like in in my community a lot of uh young girls have kids just so the man could provide for them because when you have the baby if you taking care of the baby that mean you got to take care of me so I end up having my first

child at 15 dropped out of school in the ninth 10th grade actually I just found out about a month ago I did make it to 10th grade I thought it was a ninth I made it to the 10th grade I stopped dancing for a while but then here I am with this baby got on food stamps um I applied for Section 8 got approved so I come from 10th grade education stripper um I was in foster care for like 3 years um I remember being 15 years old and having to fight men off me because

they to come in my room trying to molest me as a kid and finally my mom comes back home and we try to have a normal life but all my mom knew was drugs so I come from a background of my mom sold drugs drugs my dad sold drugs then my brother sold drugs so what you think happened every other week he's going to jail my brother end up doing 15 years in prison at the age of 17 he went to prison for a crime he didn't commit so what do you think happens after that

every weekend we're going back and forth to the prison to visit my brother so I grew up in a very uncommon but yet common circumstance because a lot of people from my community like that's normal being molested is normal for for my community having a child at 15 is normal really dropping out of high school is like normal I remember being 9 years old Lisa and I'm in a shower like an innocent kid taking a shower my brother comes in the shower jumps in the shower with me I see blood everywhere I look up my

brother's half his head is blown off I still to this day know what it looked like when I saw half my brother's head blown off these are the things that I experienced as a young kid but again here I am today as someone that you never would have thought that I seen experien half the things I experienced I became a stripper at 15 at 13 but I permanently thought that I was going to be a stripper at 15 the only reason why I stopped stripping was when I had my second child at 19 and I

gave birth to my daughter I said I don't want my daughter to think that being a stripper is cool and that's when I decided to make that switch to figure things out because I knew that I couldn't continue on living that fast life with with no with no opportunity for growth or change and I made a decision to change myself the thing that really freaking hit me where you said sexual abuse is just normal in my community all the things that you laid out stripping normal getting pregnant early normal and when I think about how

many people live their entire lives going this is just normal I can't make a change this is my life and one of my favorite quotes I've heard you say is I will is way more powerful than IQ exactly and I think that so many of us focus on the IQ or the the circum an around us means that we're going to inevitably lead a specific life Y and what is so powerful about you and while so excited to have you on and for us to talk about this is it that isn't where your story ended

no how the hell can you keep showing up confident badass hold yourself accountable of all of your own actions you never victimize yourself ever no you don't put blame on other people no the thing that you had said that really hit me as well was when I got pregnant at 15 I thought ah the guy has to now stay mhm what did you do from that idea of I've trapped him now now he can't leave where you felt like you had to trap a guy in order for you to have a future to then incremental

steps to be the person where you stand up for yourself you don't you know I've never heard you say I need a man I need this it's like you are your own person and you're open to whatever comes your way but you were very strong in your own conviction yes what did that first step look like assume someone's listening right now where they feel like their Future's been written for them and there's nothing they can do so I believe that things don't happen to you they happen for you and the minute you fall into victim

it's over because you think that it happened and it's over with so what I believe is don't allow yourself to go into that dark area don't allow yourself to go into that area of being victimized the minute something happens to you the minute I'm talking about stop and say okay what does this really mean and I learned that at at a very young age and I didn't know what I was doing but I knew that okay if I don't figure it out then it's going to kill me I'm going to I'm going to be here

with no water I'm going to be here trying to take care of this child I'm going to be here waiting on my mom to come home and I realized that what didn't kill me was truly making me stronger and so I actually would tell you this I dated this guy he was a football player and I don't know if you have ever experienced this but when you have a new boyfriend you tend to want to close to the family because you think that this is what we think when you're close to the family you're in

and I got close to his aunt and I read Think and Grow Rich at the age of 18 and I had never read a book from cover to cover in my life and the only reason why I read that book from cover the covers because she gave me accountability she told me okay every night we're going to debrief about each chapter so I knew I had to read it because I didn't want to sound stupid on the debrief that's another one that I tell you find some type of account ability because accountability helped you to

stay in alignment so after I read thinking Grow Rich it changed my life Lisa because I thought okay I'm a 10th grade you know High School Dropout um I wasn't that smart you know I didn't go to college nobody around me went to college nobody around me was doing anything legal either I only saw drugs scheming scamming stripping baby daddy baby mama fighting you know arguing my mom's boyfriend was a freak so I didn't have any signs of success of a beautiful life I didn't see it but when I read the book Think and Grow

Rich I started to get into my imagination I got out of my head and into my imagination and I didn't really understand the Dynamics of creative imagination and those type of things and at the time when I was reading it but something about reading that book helped me to broaden my future so I started to say to myself okay I'mma marry a rich man and I'mma Be a great baby mom I'mma take care of the husband I'mma take care of the house I'mma do all of those things but that didn't really work out because I

wasn't the woman that I needed to be to attract the right person so I became a notorious Relentless go-getter I took all my pain all my trauma all the things I had experienced and I said I'm going to be an entrepreneur because it didn't work out with my with my child's father as a matter of fact I couldn't wait to get rid of him cuz he cheated on me when you are depending on a man for everything then they don't respect you they don't they don't respect you they don't treat you like a queen because

they realize that you need them and that was very vulnerable very weak and I would never do that again and I don't encourage any woman to depend on a man for anything I think Partnerships are great collaboration is great but don't depend be a support and have your own and when I started to develop a sense of my own I started to make money I started to sell t-shirts as a young girl the first business that I had I saw t-shirts and I got to tell you the truth so first I used to steal them

out of the store I was a real and I love telling the story because how you start is not how you have to finish it's not how you have to finish but it's about for me seeing yourself in your imagination if you could take yourself I'm talking about you could be in the most impoverished most messed up situation but in that situation if you could see yourself forward like what do you really want your life to be like what do you really want your life to look like and just imagine that you would start doing

things differently because that imagination of yourself would make you move differently but at the time I needed money here I am with my my son I had him at 15 I wanted you know I wanted my Independence I didn't like knowing that the dad was cheating on me so how am I going to be independent I have a 10th grade education where am I going to work at MacDonald's Burger King no my friends were shoplifters and they were good I don't know if you know about this but back in the day we us to have

something called a buzzer bag have you ever heard of that no so let me tell you about it a buzzer bag is a bag that you make and it it it doesn't allow the alarm to trigger from the sensors on the clothes so it like muffles the sensor so when you walk out the store it won't go off I knew where the buzzer bag was I had one also I used to wear girdles I used to go to the store and now here I am 18 19 years old I'm 44 now but I would go

on the store with a gir lawn and I would look like a pregnant woman and I would literally steal clothes I Ste clothes I stole food I stole um Necessities I stole deodorant like I would steal and sell everything and then I realized after I would do those things that how long was that going to last and I also felt like this is not something that I want to be known for and that was when I started to change my environment I think people need to put more power on understanding how important it is to

get in the right environment exposure is everything so after I rethink and Grow Rich it changed my mindset I started to live in my imagination and I realized that I had to get around more successful people or successful people in general and so I started off just being a cheerleader I was a cheerleader and in the cheerleading environment you meet the cheerleading moms and my mom end up going back to prison Lisa when my mom went back to prison guess what end up happening I had nowhere to go but I end up living with one

of my cheerleading friends and her mom like brought me in as like I was her daughter and as I live with them I started to see the family Dynamic how families live together how to eat dinner together and so that exposure helped to you know cultivate my new way of thinking because I never seen I never seen a family eat at the dinner table like literally like that's normal for a lot of people but eating dinner at a dinner table I never experienced that at home with my mom not until I live with my friend

and so I love to get in the right environment I tell people right now today always find a way to get into in an environment that can increase your level of belief your level of confidence and your imagination okay there's so much there I want to make sure that I really get to this question CU wow in those steps I think they're super powerful but there's two types of people so there's the person that has never seen a family dinner and then just Echoes the life that they've seen right so it's kind of like have

you heard about the alcoholic so the alcoholic father has two children and they're Twins and one kid ends up being an alcoholic and they ask him why did you become an alcoholic because my father's an alcoholic they then ask the brother who never touches the drop out of alcohol and they say how come that you're you're not you don't touch alcohol he's like because my father's alcoholic so the same person in that same situation that you're in they most people Echo what they've seen they don't go out and search for something else exactly so what

do you think it was that gave you the idea to then Echo and find something else where most people don't because if we can even break that idea hopefully people can then start seeking things outside because here's the Trap go when you're part of a community you feel safe and so there's that part of if I leave I'm not going to feel safe because I don't know that I don't that the unknown is scary to me so let me just stay in the known even if it's toxic even if it's bad for me even if

it doesn't encourage me or keeps my mind small so how did you break free most people don't let me tell you something when I don't like something I get the hell out of it I did not like my life I never forget this and and it kind of makes me feel a little sad but I remember one day saying my mom telling my mom I'm so inspired by you and I my mom is deceased now and this day I said I'm so inspired by you and she was like yeah she was so excited she was

like tell me tell me I said I'm so inspired not to be like you and it broke her heart that day but that was the day that I realized that this is not cool like first of all I love I love my mom she is still to this day like one of my Inspirations I honor her with my life my mom did the best she could with the knowledge and the wisdom that she had access to my mom first started selling drugs I just found this out like a year ago because her mother gave her

drugs her mother said here's a pound of weed go sell it so that's all my mom was exposed to but that's not my case I didn't like my life I didn't like my the family dynamic DC I was like this is I don't like this I mean stealing scheming scamming no water watching my mom freaky boyfriend my mom never home me busy in prisons all the time I was like there's no way God loves me and this is going to be my reality so I started questioning God all right God you so God you so

God why is my life like this and then I realized that it was the greatest gift he gave me he gave me the gift of all of these experiences because he made me I'm a warrior woman I tell people I am a warrior woman I may be a wounded warrior at times but I am very aware that everything that I experienced was building my character was building my fight was building my persistence and so I think that what people got to learn to do is if you don't like something Lisa why stay in it like

I'm talking about to this day I'm 44 if I don't like something like if I'm not like if I don't like how I'm sitting I'mma cross my leg and turn the other way I'm not g to stay there let it let let my leg hurt let my leg go to sleep so when you don't like something it's your responsibility to change it like if it's meant to be it's up to me I can't expect who's going to save me right and so I think we have to be more responsible you know as especially when you

become an adult like who you think going to save you like I hear people sometimes say I don't have nobody to help me okay so who's supposed to help you right your mom your dad you are an adult so that's been me for a very long time and even right now today if I don't like something like I'm going to find the means to get the money to get the knowledge to get the relationship you know know I believe in reciprocity I believe in karma I believe in I very much believe in principles I believe

what you make happen for somebody else God make happen for you and so I just operate in this very principle based spiritual realm and I just believe that there's nothing that I can't be do or have either if I want it I'm going to find the means to get it whether it's through a relationship whether it's through me finding out through a book whether it's through a mastermind and I talk I told this to my boyfriend yesterday I believe that one of my super Powers is I'm never going to stop trying never I don't care

even money you know I think it gets to a point where money is is powerful right but money isn't everything cuz I've been in a rich depression I've had millions of dollars in a bank I could have had a rollsroyce outside diamond jeury and I'm in the house depressed and so I realized that relationships are very important who who calls you not just who you call but who calls you to check on you you know what are the things you do for other people you know and so those are the things that I believe keeps

me going but also I just think that when you look at your life you have to decide what you want your life to look like I tell people that the vision for your life creates the discipline for your life have a vision where when there is no vision then you perish right so when you have a vision you know who you who you can hang out with what to eat what you can't eat what you can drink what you can't drink so I think a superpower as well is is for a person to see themselves

in their imagination have a vision and do every everything in your power to reach that Vision that you see for yourself building your confidence isn't easy but let me tell you it's freaking hard when your hair is falling out when your hormones are changing look I know you guys are used to seeing me with braids but right now I don't have them in because my hair is legitimately falling out I just got clumps of hair in my hand in the shower the other day and so in order for me to not succumb to feeling badly

about myself I'm making sure that I'm taking my bean minerals right here I'm putting them in my morning coffee every single day so that I can get the nutrients I need here we go mom mhm in my Wonder Woman mug cuz it does matter guys I'm having those every single morning in order to prevent my hair from still falling out and then also giving it the nutrients it needs in order so that it can grow back so that's what I'm doing and guys if you want to give be masot click the link below I'm telling

you you will not regret it it is my go-to thing right now as my hormones are changing and I need the nutrients I need you won't freaking regret it um give me an example of you had a vision and then what disciplines you had to put in place in order to serve that Vision because I want people to almost take the Templar because now this becomes like any Vision you have you can put it into action it just takes a structure and a strategy and that comes with discipline so if you can actually just like

take us step by step like give us an example AB absolutely so I'll tell you this I'm not very structured and um I think that is what scares away a lot of um entrepreneurs or aspiring entrepreneurs because you think that you got to wake up at 5:00 in the morning you have to have a blueprint you have to have Logistics you have to have a structure can you scale those type of words used to intimidate me right but I was a hustler with heart let me repeat that I was a hustler with some Heart It

wasn't until I got mentorship like I would tell anybody like find you a coach find you a mentor even if it's virtual because those people was served as a shortcut to succcess so I'll give you an example as a kid we was always moving from Pillar To Post like I could not get comfortable in school because we were moving to another school I couldn't get comfortable with my friends because I knew we was going to be moving soon it's like my mom will always have the money for the down payment and the closing she have

the money for the mortgage for maybe a year if that and then we were moving and then my mom learned how to trick the system so my mom will file bankruptcy all the time like chapter 13 chapter 7 chapter and so I watch this and I'm around her and it's not what taught it's was caught so here I am listening to my mom I didn't realize how much information I was accumulating from just being around so I bought my first house at 18 my first home I moved into this home it was two bedrooms it

was a nice little cute pool in the backyard only two bedrooms two baths but I was so proud that here I am 18y old with my own house and I remember in the back of my mind in the back of my mind saying if this doesn't work out I'll just F bankruptcy like my mom and I live here for free so bankruptcy for real was like a plan B for me my whole entire life bankruptcy was a plan B for me section 8 so my mom always taught me like government assistance is reparations so the

government is not giving you food stamps or Section 8 or Wick or a welfare check you're being robbed from them so all of these things was in my mind so I never wanted to be like a successful entrepreneur why the government going to take care of me that's my reparations that is my 40 acres in a mule like literally Lisa my mom would get her food stamps she would say give me my 40 acres in a mule you better give me my reparation so I grew up with that so here's how I use this Vision

process to change my life right so after a while I realized that I don't want to be like my mom wait a minute didn't you just say that you don't want to walk in her footsteps why are you using bankruptcy as an option and then now Bank Rey stays on your credit for what I think at the time it was 8 years M and so here I am 18 with a bankruptcy come on 18 19 I got to be 20 almost 25 before I could think about doing anything because now I have this thing over

my credit so I give you an example about n years ago I get into my network marketing company okay I was broke I was struggling and my best friend loan me the money to get in so I I she she loan me 15,000 I get into my network marketing company my number one thing of of everything was to buy a house now I have a lot of real estate friends that say buying a house is stupid don't buy a house you you you you loan you get the loan you just pay the mortgage and you

you diversify you do something else with the money but don't pay the house off that's stupid for me I grew up my whole entire childhood from pill the post and then I file bankruptcy so for me buying a house was like I did it paying it off was like I did it so I I I get into network marketing my credit is bad the Banky is still on my credit okay this is like 10 years ago Banky still on my credit my credit is like a 400 and I'm like I have my father to take

care of my mom passed away August 26 2011 I'm holding her hand and one of the things she asked me on her on her death bed and I didn't know she was dying by the way um was to take care of my dad and this is not even my biological dad this is my brother's Dad she says take care of your dad okay my mom passes away my mindset was uh just St me figure it out I got a hard money loan mind you Lisa my credit score is for something I had just got into

my network marketing company my first two months I went from zero broke to making $135,000 in two months so that's like yes what was my priority a house stormy because I was paying rent and I couldn't even pay the rent so when I took the hard money loan I put pressure on myself I had no choice stormy you have to find the money to pay for this house or you are going to be homeless so the vision of of me not being homeless the vision of me having to take care of my dad because my

mom told me that is what she wants me to do the vision of me not fing Bakery again the vision of me saying I have to bet on myself the vision of me seeing myself doing the work is when I took the loan I took the loan Lisa I bought the house for $750,000 right I paid the house off in 18 months wow but I saw the house I saw me with the house paid off I was willing to do the work I didn't want to be homeless and I purposely went into a hard money

deal because I didn't want to get comfortable I think a lot of people put themselves in positions where they could work and comfort but I think comfortable is actually the thief of Joy I believe Comfort is truly the thief of Joy so if you do things to make yourself comfortable you're never going to get to whatever that end result is that could have been greater than the comfort so I love to be uncomfortable like I love to do things that I'm scared to do I love to do things that I've never done before like I'm

not afraid to do something for the first time I actually completely agree part of my own story is that when we started Quest we put our house up for collateral and so if Quest went like went under then we lose our house so that uh real almost a consequence can be very powerful for some the pressure so so I totally understand so now now that you've laid out which thank you for doing that now that you've laid out the vision of what you had what did then that dis IPL look like so you've laid out

the the the vision right I don't want this because I do the same actually I do the things that I want but I also very much do the things that I don't want and I find it very powerful to actually do the things that I don't want first because it really does like put a bit of the healthy fear in me to make sure that I never get there so once you've painted the picture these are the things that I don't want this is what I do want now let's say you wake up the next

morning what does the discipline in actions and habits then look like I love that so I'll tell you I say pressure is a privilege okay people need to lean into the pressure like it is truly a privilege so once the decision is made now you do have to come up with the discipline so what is going to be the things that you maybe don't want to do but I tell people whatever you can't do you must do like that is one of my affirmations whatever I can't do I must do whatever I can't do I

must do so number one I do believe that when you are on a journey to accomplish something great you have to wake up in the morning you know you have some people that sleep till 2 and 1:00 in the afternoon like I don't understand that like no so number one I'm up by like 6 6:30 in the morning all right soon as I wake up first of all I check in with myself I ask myself stormmy how do you feel okay and I'm not in denial about how I feel I'm tired today okay well you

better get up and go get that money so you can pay that house off you better get up and do what you got to do so I honestly assess myself every day after that I say a quick little prayer it could just be God thank you for waking me up this morning okay I'm I'm not complaining I'm not whining I'm not asking for nothing just thank you for waking me up this morning I also I meditate every day every day I meditate with a group of women at 8:00 we have 8 o00 meditation if I'm

not able to make it and I've been doing this for six years wow okay my community right if I'm not able to make it I take time out for myself and I find time to go into my my visualization of what I got to do what I experienced that I didn't like um did I bite my tongue about something holding back on something like I'm always internalizing how is stormmy doing but also what can stormy do better too so I have a friend that owns a hospice facility and one of the top three things that

the dying people talk about is resentment I don't want to Harbor any resentment it's bad for your health it's bad for your heart and putting your body in disease forms disease in the body and so I don't want to be at disease I believe my mom died from a broken heart Lisa I believe my mom's heart was broken and for me when you hold yourself back from things that's bothering you you're harboring that really inside of your organs it could be your kidneys heartened it could be your your mind it could be your heart people

don't understand the adverse reactions that happen to us internally as we are internalizing things that we should have not internalized so I don't play about that the minute I I I really assess myself what should you have said to that person yesterday or what did you not say that you really wanted to say but you were afraid to say it and I'll I'll call the person or I'll send a video to the person but I find a nice way to say it cuz only reason why I held myself back was because I probably was afraid

of their response but I've learned that authenticity carries the highest frequency so why would I hold myself back so those are the things again that I feel like is a superpower so so anyway back to what I was saying so after my meditation I believe in moving my body every day every day I'm going to I'm going to do some type of workout whether it's I'm not going to the gym I love the outdoors I love going for walk I will go for a walk I call it you know I have my power time when

I walk it's like my spiritual time it's like I get so many downloads so much confirmations and so I I go for a walk and I'm big on supplements I take um different supplements every morning nutritional from um a product called nutraburst NRG I take my supplements and I go for a walk after my walk and I've had my downloads I stretch my body it's time to go to work I believe that you should touch new money every day I ask myself who got my money today yeah who got my who who who got my

money today yeah really like who got myone who got my money and who got my peace and where's my joy yeah who got my money who got my peace where is my joy and Stor me what is going to be your contribution today every single day my money my joy my peace my contribution and I believe in living in four domains respect Integrity character honor and that actually spells Rich so people ask me like how do you stay Rich cuz I have respect Integrity character honor all right I want to do you mind breaking down

each of those of how you actually make sure that you hold to those yes so number one respect means I'mma respect myself like not not holding my tongue about something not being afraid to express something not being afraid to make sure I'm respecting myself and it could be with the foods it could be did you drink water today stormy you know did you did you eat some fruits or some vegetables today stormy did you stay true to yourself today stormy so I believe before you can respect anybody else you have to have self-respect okay I

love that you've kind of broken down the respect even in different character categories in your life so like I will respect my body okay what does respect in my body look like feed it well fuel it well I want to respect my mind what does that mean have I given them space am I people pleasing and my setting boundaries and I not setting bound I freaking love that so let's say you disrespect Yourself by allowing someone to talk to in a manner that disrespects you how would you then handle it because the reason why I

want to ask is because a lot of my audience and myself included find it quite difficult sometimes to set boundaries stand up for ourselves and when you don't stand up for yourself what are you saying to yourself that you put yourself last that that person that's talking to you is actually takes priority over you and so I think that over time that feeling makes you feel like you're not priority so I love the self-care I love putting yourself first and making sure that you are respected so how do you if someone disrespects you how would

you approach it or or give us an example because this is literally the thing that I think most of us struggle with that stops us from becoming the freaking badass like you so let me tell you the truth yes first I curs myself out like really I'm talking about like I call myself every name that you could think of like what is wrong with you like are you stupid why did you allow that because whatever you tolerate will persist and if you allow one person to do it you will allow everybody to do it and

that's that lowers your vibration I am a badass and I am someone that treats other people with respect like I'm going to do my very best like I'mma say please I'm gonna say thank you if I ask you to hey grab me that water and I realized I didn't say please or thank you I would go back later on and say did I say please did I say thank you oh my God I didn't really mean that I'm so sorry and so I am very cognizant of how I show up and so for me it's

like if I allow you to treat me any kind of way that mean I'm opening the door for that treatment from everybody and I used to be that girl I used to be that girl that let them say anything and do anything and then what I would do is beat myself up and I would treat myself like I was dirt and I realize no but let me tell you something when you stand up for yourself you don't have to do it in a mean way I could I go hey how you doing yesterday you said

something to me and I really want to know did you what were you trying to say because it been bothering me and I and I I can't stop thinking about it and I don't want my mind to be occupied with the thought of what you said to me yesterday so I know that you love me I love you because if you if to me if we're in proximity I care about you and you care about me I don't just let anybody around so if you say something that's out of line or didn't sit well with

me I will ask so like my operation director she's a Latino woman and I love her the pieces she is amazing and sometime I remind her that you're a Latino but I'm a black girl and I would say to her if she say something that doesn't sit well I would say okay in my community you don't say those type of things let me explain to you what that meant and she'll say oh no didn't mean it like that I'm saying okay that's what it meant so communication words mean different things to different people you know

and so ask questions don't be afraid to ask questions and there's a lot of relationships I believe could have been Salvage to this very day if we just communicate like let's talk so I feel empowered Lisa when I when I defend myself when I respect myself and respecting yourself is I don't like what you said like I'm in a relationship if my guide to something I don't like I won't say it right on the spot will let some time pass because I don't want to sound like the aggressive woman I'll let some time pass and

then I'll say hey babe what did you mean by that I want I don't I know that you wouldn't say anything to hurt me intentionally but it's been on my mind and you'll be surprised how that alone would bring your relationship closer together and that person will respect you more because you have boundaries and you set you know uh respect for yourself so that's important and it's important more for you than it is for that person because it makes you realize that you not just taking anything and then you'll do this with your boss with

your friends with your co-workers with your man with your wife because you now know that it's okay just don't be confrontational I love that so much and the fact that you don't lower yourself to their level of so a actually in fact you give someone the grace like with your Latina friend where it's like give her the grace that she didn't necessarily mean it but let me teach her let me say it you didn't swallow your own opinions which I think is also powerful because again if you swallow it you're telling yourself that you're less

important so the fact that you vocalized it the fact that you gave her the grace to educate her was wonderful but then the other side of it is that you don't if someone did let's say even mean it and they they meant to disrespect you you don't lower yourself to their level and I think that that's the key because most people don't have the courage to speak up and when I personally Found the courage to speak up and set a boundary I sounded like the freaking chihuaha that was just barking because and it doesn't come

across well now you're the one that's emotional now you then get pige and emotional so the fact that you're able to do it with transparency honesty respect I think almost doesn't give really anyone else a place to go except for either greet you with the respect or push back listen let me tell you a great way too what did you mean by that I touched the person listen yesterday you really you really hurt my feelings and I know that you would never do that intentionally watch this even if I know know they did it intentionally

I would say what did you mean by that that really hurt my feelings and it gives you such this power so touch them because listen when you feel powerless you can't do anything and when you allow someone to make you feel powerless listen when your emotions is high your logic is low and so we don't have that type of time so when you are vulnerable with pain and vulnerable with something that offended you and you tell somebody else it also makes them look at you like wow she has feelings cuz sometime us strong women come

across like nothing bothers us nothing bothers us we're okay everything is just no problem no that hurt my feelings no that offended me and so respect starts with first respecting yourself right so Integrity Integrity is very high on my list I give you a good one you pee on the toilet seat by mistake wipe the toilet seat off like when we finish I got to flush the toilet upstairs I can't stop thinking about that no it automatically flushes okay well I can't thank you so I can get off my mind you see it's on my

mind like what's good it need to flush that's Integrity Integrity is I know I didn't flush the toilet I need to flush it Integrity is the paper dropped on the floor I dropped it pick it up back in the days I used to say you know when you when you liter you're giving somebody a job now I say no respect Mother Earth this is Mother Earth don't throw a paper on the floor so Integrity is saying what you mean meaning what you say and living your message your message I think the messenger has to become

the message and and a lot of people they talk talk talk but the message doesn't align with the messenger so Integrity for me is everything I believe that your character and integrity can take you places and keep you places that hustle and money can oh dude so the Integrity thing let's just talk about that for a second because I'd heard the word I kind of knew what it meant I us am I living in Integrity until one person made it so succinct almost like a math equation I was like that's super easy to remember how

you think does it Echo what you say and then what you say does it Echo what you act and so I now almost on a daily go Oh I thought this did I act in accordance and it's made me have some very uncomfortable conversations so I'm actually in this big text chain um with a lot of people a lot of people and it was just it started to feel out of alignment like people originally were like being there to support each other and then it just became like who's got the biggest following and you know

it just became very and I was like I don't feel like I'm in alignment anymore with how I feel about the Tex text chain and how I respond to the text chain and so I just very consciously had to say all right Lisa what does alignment look like to you and instead of beating myself up over the fact that I'm doing it just stop and pause and say what does it look like and then act in freaking accordance even if it's hard and so I said oh it just means being honest and not saying anything

that I really don't believe it's true and if this doesn't feel in alignment with me don't respond to the text chain and just you know silence the text chain and so that gave me the actions right so thinking about what integrity means then painting the picture of what Integrity looked like like looks like and then taking the action so that at the end of the day when you're by yourself you can be proud of yourself I was just going to say that to me people have to put more credit on being proud of yourself like

are you proud of yesterday if you're not proud of yesterday do something different today you know no matter what happens today know that tomorrow is coming so do everything today to make tomorrow better that's Integrity Integrity is I gained 30 pounds and I don't feel good about it let me let me do something about it for me Integrity is doing what you say you're going to do even when nobody is looking and so that for me I think has made me consistent because I don't ever want to be looked upon as a liar so I

purposely also let me tell you what I do I put things out there like for example the mission of my life is to be one of the most impactful women that ever lived you can't say that and then the minute you get an impact CU impact attracts attacks right so you can't say you're going to be impactful and somebody hurts your feelings and you quit or you're going to be so impactful but something didn't go your way and you quit you're fake so I talk to myself like that like I don't have to wait for

somebody to tell me you're fake no CU I would tell myself oh you're going to be the most impactful women that ever lived but you lazy oh no the impactful woman wakes up in the morning and and and and meditates so I also do personal development every morning I listen to some type of audio book on YouTube University so when I don't do what I'm supposed to do like let's say yesterday morning I slept in to like 7:30 I didn't do my personal development at 6:30 like normal but I still did it at 11 nobody

knew that's my own personal Integrity measure okay character that's everything character is why I'm sitting here with you if I didn't have good character when I saw you I met you almost three years ago I could have been a bitc and you could like who is that lady I don't care if she's the best Network marketer who cares it's something about my countenance and my character and how I showed up that made you say bring her over here let me let me let interview her so I'm big on character I think that character shows up

when you're not even talking character is your body language character is the things you also say you know character is can you be trusted you know with with your blessings that's big to me you know a lot of people start having success and they you can't be trusted anymore they have nasty attitudes they treat people mean I'mma treat the bus boy like I treat the owner of the building I'm going to say please thank you I appreciate you I try to look people in the eyes all the time like my character to me is why

I continue to elevate did you write that out before or did that evolve over time because I don't think people have utter awareness of how they show up and how their character is like it's almost like people just I think have the idea that my character is who I show up to be but it seems like just so damn deliberate so how did you become so deliberate in your character so I believe that man is maker of himself okay man is made and unmade by his daily choices actions and decisions I tell you you know

there was a time where a lot of people said a lot of things about me that I didn't like and so I started to observe okay it's a lot of people saying things that I don't like do you mind sharing what they were yeah like I tell you like I am a very aggressive businesswoman like in my network marketing company people call me like a drill sergeant right and I don't think I'm a drill sergeant I just think I don't want to be broken other day in my life and if you know if I meet

you and I'm working with you we have work to do right but I also don't like how that feels I didn't like how that felt I didn't like how people would say that and I started to realize stormy be a drill sergeant for you be your drill sergeant if she doesn't want to be pushed that aggressively don't do it so when I kept hearing like J sergeant she's mean she's mean and I'm not mean I'm just direct so I said okay I don't like that 20 people are saying the same things about me something has

to be true about it I take responsibility too many people are saying these things about me okay stormy so what are you going to do about it so I read this book called the uh the untethered soul and it's really about observing yourself so I said I looked at myself I said okay stormy that is a little aggressive like at one point I I wouldn't eat on Mondays just wouldn't eat no food on Mondays and that was my belief but I kind of when I want to do something I don't I want you to do

it too so everybody around me nobody eats on Mondays that's not character that's not Integrity I don't want to eat on Monday that don't have nothing to do with you if you don't want to eat on Mondays if you want to eat on Monday eat so I observ myself and I realized that stormy pushed them to the level that they want to be pushed I I realized like okay I may not eat fried chicken but that ain't got nothing to do with you if you want to eat popey chicken by all means I'm not going

to tell you what to do so as I started to observe myself up against the thing people would say about me even when I would go back and watch my lives I would notice like when I would do a live certain lives sound like I'm mad or I'm mean or I'm cursing somebody out and I'm like oh I don't like how that look or I would get into somebody's energy or I'll come around somebody and I'll be like oh I don't like how she she acts I don't like how she makes people feel and so

I would say to myself I don't want to be like that I don't want to show up like that and so I really design myself to be exactly who and how I am like I designed myself it's not like a default and I watch myself and let me tell you what I do this is I don't know if you do this but I want to share this with all of you all when you're growing and you start like reading books getting around new people you start to hear what you would have said versus what you

say does that happen to you yes yes oh the time really I got gooseb so like I would have been like [ __ ] [ __ ] but then I'd be like hey girl how you doing and i' be like Wild Storm and I celebrate myself internally at the moment so if somebody does something to offend me I hear what I would have did but then the new me says what did you mean by that so I really observe myself it's like I hear the other voice and then I hear the a new voice yes

does it happen to you yes in fact it happened fairly recently I was watching some sort of TV show or something I hadn't seen some actor or something in a long time and immediately as soon as I saw them they put on a lot of weight and so immediately in my head I was like ohoo they've put on weight and I caught my thoughts and I was like how judgmental are you Lisa and in that moment I was like how often did I do it in the past and didn't realized so the fact that I

caught myself I caught the judgment and then I processed why in that real real time and I was like why do you do this I was like oh because it makes you feel better about yourself when you're feeling badly wow and so having that acknowledgement then made me go why do you feel badly about yourself so the thought before would have just been an external thing that I'm thinking to judge someone else but in real time I caught the thought I acknowledged the thought I processed the thought I identified the thought and then came to

my own sensitive conclusion of like oh right now you don't feel good about yourself amazing so what are you going to do to feel good about yourself instead of commenting about poor person on you know some poor woman who's put on weight on camera it's like well you know stop judging so it really helped me but I love that you said that because I think that does come with the growth is that you go from thinking it and never even realize you're thinking it to then acknowledge than think and it actually influences you to act

differently exactly so good I feel good about myself so I do that all the time and then H is honor I believe thank you for taking us through the rich I'm not going to forget I believe your life truly becomes a manifestation of the people the things that you honor and that you dishonor meaning a lot of people don't honor people that's been good to them like never forget those that helped you in your time of need those that hurt you in your time of need and those that left you in your time of need

like so I name my years right so this year and last year is I'm bad b a d b a a d bold aligned ascending and debt free and debt free doesn't mean money debt free mean stormy don't forget everything you said you was going to do don't forget everybody that helped you along the way so like I tell you about three weeks ago I went to the next level Mastermind that Eric and Marina War had love them so much big shout out to the I love them I love them and when they saw me

I saw Marina get a little her eyes got a little teary and I could tell she didn't think like they were surprised I was there I could I got goosebumps like y'all changed my life how could I not be here like if I'm not here you you first of all you would know you're not going to look up and and you're like where stormmy I honor them I honor the role they played in my life so not only did I need the wisdom but I also need y'all to know that I'm going to be the

person that you are going to know that you could rely on to always be there I just take pride in knowing that I'm making somebody else feel good about their contribution to my life you know so honor to me is everything be care of who you dishonor I do I still believe in honor your mother and the father I still believe in that I still believe in honoring and respecting people that are older than you that are more smarter than you that are more wiser than you I still believe in the honor System I believe

that a part of why I'm so blessed like last week I bought my dad a new car my dad is 76 every three years he gets a new Range Rover right and last week he goes by himself to trade it in and he was going to get a black Range Rover with a black top with no sunroof right and I don't know why he was afraid to tell me but my best friend was at my house and she goes I need to tell you something I said what's wrong she said your dad doesn't want that

Range Rover he's getting I'm like well why would he so apparently the salesman was moving fast and just wanted to get him in the car so I said first of all thank you for telling me so we went to the carine and I said Dad listen to me I'm getting this car for you because it makes me proud to know that as your daughter I could afford to do these things for you but it also makes me feel good to know that you are happy with what you got dad what do you want I said

tell me exactly what you want cuz that's what I want to get for you he said I want a white Range Rover I want beige seats I want a sunroof and I want a baseboard I turned to the salesman and I said you heard what he said Lisa we went upstairs it was one car the exact one that my dad wanted and I said Dad this is what I'm talking about it's not the money I want you to be proud he's 76 years old he's on zero medication and I want to tell you I could

see his new life now he goes go he gets dressed up he feels like a like a kid in his new car so for me that's my dad I messed up his credit when I was 15 years old uh well not 15 when I was 18 years old he bought a car for me and his credit score was 850 I messed up his credit he never ridiculed me for it I could never forget that he taught me how to drive when I opened up my first business he gave me money and I mentioned to him

Dad I said dad I remember what I did he was like you remember that I said dad you know why I take care of you you think I for I you think I'm going forget and this is not my biological dad my biological dad is around but my stepdad which is my brother's dad which is my dad is the one who taught me everything so I love my dad but I do treat my other dad a little different because he's the one who was there for me and for me Lisa that's honor my mom is

deceased if you walk into my house I have an altar or her picture I have some of her favorite snacks there I have I put candles there I buy fresh flowers every week she passed away in 201 11 wow I have a picture of her outside I talk to the picture I believe she's here with me right now she probably sitting right here right now that's honor you know my mom never had a chance to become a millionaire my mom never drove a rose Ro my mom never had millions of dollars in the bank my

mom never made an impact like I've been able to impact so for me my life is honoring my mom and I would live like that till the day I die and I think that's a part of why I stay disciplined because I have to honor the people that help me in my time of need the owner of my company help me in my time of need I remind him all the time you're always going to have me to count on I know people left you I know people you know mimicked your company and left but

because I am a woman of integrity and good character I am going to continue to be here and so I think that that keeps me disciplined my level of honor even to the public I would tell the public something just because I know once I tell them I'm not going to take it back I'm never going to take back something I said my goal is a th000 million before I die I've coached 139 First generational millionaires wow and I am not going to stop until there a thousand millionaires even if I do it at the

age of 100 I am never going to stop working and that keeps me disciplined God girl the level of um attention and emotional soberness is the word that came to mind where it's like you're able to see all of these areas of how it's important for you to show up and as you breaking down like for your mom and for your dad like it everything seems very deliberate in the sense of you know that this helps you with your mindset with your confidence with how you show up and so even when it's tough you hold

to true to it and I think that that's the point is that most people when it isn't easy is when we end up not doing it right so because like anything it's easy to do something when the you know things are going well and you know so it's easy to honor someone when they honor you it's hard to Hon someone when they're disrespecting you it's hard to show up with Integrity when you've got other people trying to rip you down so the rich acronym that you just broke down is very hard to do but even

harder when you've got push back all along the way so how do you start setting boundaries to make sure that you're able to show up with Integrity character and honor all right so not to get to to uh like I'm not religious I'm very spiritual but you know as uh Jesus was being crucified he prayed a prayer he said father forgive them for they know not what they do right for me anytime somebody tries to go against me I know it has nothing to do with me because I am a woman of respect Integrity character

and honor why would you treat me that way why would you talk to me that way why would you not be fair with me I am very I'm not going to cheat you I'm not going to steal I'm not going to lie I'm not going to gossip I'mma Be everything that I say that I'm going to be and that I'm supp to be and when people don't do what they're supposed to do I don't take it personal I actually feel sorry for them I actually P them have you always done that because it's so freaking

hard to not take it per all right so so let's break that down because this is again I'm always trying to think about right when I'm sitting with uh amazing women like where do we get so trapped so much that you become the anomaly right because it's like ideally we're not the anomaly and most women are able to take these actions so when I think about what holds us back it's the fact that we don't set boundaries people do act a certain way we do take it personally we go internal we think it means that

we're bad we're stupid we're dumb we're incompetent we're ugly we're you know fill in the blank how the hell then knowing that that that's probably something that holds us a lot of us back where we then don't live in Rich you know we don't live in the Integrity the character and the honor and the respect how have you gone then from someone that would have taken it personally once upon a time that can be so emotionally sober to say I don't take it personally so I'll tell you the truth I am a black woman I'm

a very black woman when I say very black I do a lot of black stuff what does that mean um like how what does that mean I tell you so I get in a lot of rooms like I have a lot of white friends a lot of different Co Asian friends Chinese friends Japanese friends and one of the things that's important to me is to hold my identity as a black woman let me tell you what that means I've seen and I don't know if you have ever heard this have you ever heard of Uncle

Tom yes it's an American phrase but for those people that not in America watching if you don't mind explaining I'll tell you so for us an uncle time for us it's like a black person that acts white that they're they're black but they try to talk white they try to act white they try to they disconnect from black stuff right like I really kind of want to stop cursing right sometimes it helps me to express myself and and this could be a limiting belief I don't know but for me it just for me I feel

like that's a part of my blackness you know like [ __ ] you know I'm G say a little curse word every now and then but [ __ ] means p h u c k that's how I spell it it means people hate you can't create I love that's what it really means and create spelled with the K means to forge your own history for your own good so good I want to be in the rooms with other ethnic backgrounds and I am in a lot of those rooms Lisa and I got to tell you

the truth when I get in those rooms there's no black people and I used to be like taking it personal like why no black people here but I know why because somebody got to bring them me I feel like I am responsible for elevating economically the culture and ele economic elevation everywhere for me is not just money because money is really last I'm talking about real money I'm talking about semi- passive passive income being able to do what you want when you want and and have the money to do it it's a mindset I think

that people don't have money problem you have a mindset problem so so I've helped and I need you to hear this right I've helped in my 16e career as a Network marketer 139 different individuals become the first generational millionaires in their family a lot of them we I don't talk to them anymore and I'll tell you why I took a lot of stuff personal and so did they if I could go back I would have been a little different I wouldn't have toen taken things personal I wouldn't push you as hard as I did like

I don't regret it because I know for sure the reason why a lot of them had the success that they've had is because the type of leader I was you go check back with those people now they were doing better when they had me in their life and I don't say that to be condescending or cocky it's the truth um mentorship is amazing especially the right mentorship aligned mentorship so when I look back at what I used to do and how I used to show up very emotional my feelings hurt I used I would curse

you out in a New York Minute okay I was the one that oh you want to talk crazy to me I'mma show you but you ever saw someone that you looked at as as a giant and they act like a child you ever seen somebody have a lot of light and then they lose it like they were winning they were on top of their game and then you're like what happened to her I believe it's because they fell out of respect Integrity character honor I believe that you're supposed to practice the principles to participate in

the promise and I look at how it I look at how you look when you act unprofessional or when you're judgmental and I've seen it in action and I don't want to be that person you know I've had some amazing mentors that lost touch with reality I never forget this I was in this company and I was a top earner in this company the top earning female and I got pregnant and I got sick and when I got sick I couldn't work and I was told that you know they were supportting me they'll have my

back like it was a whole like a we had a community when when you hit the top leadership rank in that company you would get protected and you would get support and allegedly you'll never be broken other day in your life so I really believe that but then what I needed the support from them they were gone and so when I experienced that that really changed everything for me I said I would never be the person to say something and show up as the opposite like with me what you see is what you get would

I cuss somebody out right now probably not but the old me I I was ready but I don't want my daughter to see that I definitely don't want people who look at me as a woman with the utmost Integrity to see me do do those type of things so I think about the aftermath of my actions all the time I think about the effect of my actions all the time and I believe that I rather be the example than the excuse so because that is my belief and it I could be wrong but it just

keeps me aligned it keeps me disciplined I'm you're never going to look at me and say she's a liar you're never going to make me a liar because I'm never going to be that if I said I'm going to do it if I started it I'm going to finish it no matter how hard it gets no matter how challenging it gets I'm never going to be the person that you're going to say is a liar you can't make me a liar because I said it I'm going to do it I respect that so much how

do you like then separate the two where it's like okay this this action where I'm cursing someone out and actually I'm not proud of it I need to change this versus someone else saying to you you know it's not very professional that you show up and you swear right like where they're trying to change the fundamental person of who you are versus characteristics that maybe show up that don't serve you in your future self that you're trying to the person you're trying to become I'll tell you this and um I learned this and it changed

my life I believe we listen in three ways we listen number one to judge we listen to understand or we listen to defend and I feel that more people need to learn how to listen to understand never judge a man by his success but by what he had to overcome to be successful like I purposely like have this tattoo on my leg I love it why I want you to see me coming I want you to know that I'm Different tattoos give you a different energy it makes you look like a badass I know that

I could have wore a long skirt or some pants and hid my tattoo no but I want people to see my tattoo so they could tune in and they can not judge so don't think I'm something that I'm not when you judge you are now held to that judgment as well nobody wants that right like who wants to walk around in every room they walk in and every door they walk through they're judging oh she must be this because look at her hair she must be that look at that big old watch who do she

think she is oh look at that big old necklace who is this lady I do get that comments though but that's so ignorant and I want people to learn to understand Lisa why understand me why am I the way I am find out to me if if you see now granted if you just just unprofessional ghetto and just crazy and just like ignorant that's different right but if you see a other side to me learn learn a little bit more why don't you take the time to find out okay what is it about Lisa that

why Lisa like those big watches there's a reason there's a story behind the big watch it's like my cuffs Wonder Woman see see it makes you feel like a superhero right there's a story behind your hair yeah right um I was sick and um I've had massive health issues for nine years my hair started falling out so the hair that I used to hate that was really frizzy and big and Greek that I used to get teased over now I was losing it and I wished I had honored my hair more so and so it

gave me um an opportunity to them just play with it and being like well you hate your hair anyway Lisa just you may as well have fun with it and it was in the fun that I shaved the back and I felt so empowered by it and then the braids ended up being like yeah I feel like a [ __ ] badass I'm going to keep it so you're de you see what mean so I I believe that in order for you to be interesting people have to be interested in you if you was regular

boring I'mma tell you what attracted me to you at first was like was your look yeah you too me too when I saw you yeah I'm like who is this lady like she is a badass I know it I could feel it like if you just would had on a long dress and some curls and nothing none of this like oh she's another regular but your look attracted me I was like okay I want to I want to I want to see more I want to know more about the story behind all of this uniqueness

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you're a black woman who carries herself with confidence and doesn't pretend to be anyone else and I find that extremely attractive because I as like the little girl really wanted that like I was um very in I was in admiration a lot when I was younger of seeing women that carried themselves in a way where they make no apologies and when I saw you I was like oh you make no apologies and it isn't just that you make no apologies is that you own who you are so like you said with your tat and now

you put it together with what we've traditionally been taught of women with tattoos and they act like this and they got jewelry about how you perceive them to the reality and I'm like wow you're this incredibly successful woman who doesn't take [ __ ] who has respect for others like I saw all of this in the moment that I met you how you were interacting with Marina how much you showed your respect I saw you with the your fans how much grace you gave them so I was like it was interesting that you didn't fit

into a bucket and the idea that you didn't fit into a bucket was attractive to me CU I want to keep being that person wow so I think to the same point if if you had tried to minimize who you were if you tried to cover up if you try to be your inauthentic self that isn't the true you know um woman that shows up today tat jewelry and all I wouldn't have been as um attracted to you exactly you know what's so interesting I I had that question come up the other day like why

do you do it and you just hit it on the head and you gave me thank you you gave me confirmation because I want to be different I don't want to blend in and for a long time Lisa I was afraid of myself I didn't want you to see me I didn't want you to ask me no questions because what if I didn't know the answer that's why I tell people the greatest project you could work on is yourself you should always work on two projects yourself as a project and a project because I want

to be ready when people like you approach me like you got to stay ready so you don't have to get ready so the only way that you stay ready so you don't have to get ready is if you always in preparation mode right so for me I want to be that person that you number one you see right and it sometime it may be the jeury like normally like this is very light but you know honestly I think that as I grow more mature too my energy enters the room before I even enter the room

and and that's important and I think that most people need to understand that for me do whatever you got to do to get attention Money Follows attention do whatever you got to do to have to get attention just make sure when the spotlight is on you you're ready you know judge mats do you know judge Mattis no okay judge Mattis okay is the longest standing judge that's been on TV so I know if you ever seen a judge show yeah I love those okay so judge Mattis was on for like 35 years whoa and he

was uh someone that I you know connected with and I never forget he says stormy let me tell you something as you evolve and you get around this is his exact words those white people they're going to tell you to calm down don't be so this don't be so that he said let me tell you something the reason why I've been on TV for so long is because I stay authentically me however grow in your authenticity but don't change that little spiciness you got that little Edge that is what makes you separate from everybody else

he said I'm begging you he said I know you're going to go on to do great things he said don't lose that little spice you have That's What Makes You unique and that's what's going to give you longevity so that's why I'm always learning new things I I I I read something recently about and I know you heard about the eeky guy right you know about the Blue Zone yes the blue zones are where they live till over 100 so do you know the four things they live on the four philosophies no it's called the

icky guy and the four philosophies they live on is number one do only what you're good at do only what you love do what makes you money and find your way of contributing to humanity that's how they live they don't believe in anything else but those four philosophies and for me like once I understood that too it took me to a whole another level because like I try to hire my weaknesses if I don't like to do it I'm not going to do it because I understand that to stay elevated you have to do your

very best in everything and I'm very big on um working in the spirit of excellence and even though I'm not perfect none of us are perfect my goal is to try to be as excellent as I can so that when I do show up with the tattoo when I do show up with the the diamonds they're like oh I love when people say you're not what I thought you were and I list let me tell something Lisa I've had people can I give you a hug why because I want to apologize to you I'm like

why I judged you I misunderstood you and I want to say thank you and I just want to hug you everywhere I go people say can I please give you a hug because they they they've judged me some way or another and they just want to tell me sorry and I always say keep that keep that energy don't judge anybody because you never judge a man by his success but what he had to overcome I man listen I was in the foster care at seven years old like can you give me some Grace for that

I was molested at 9 my my mom's boyfriend she left us with her boyfriend to this very day this man stayed in the room and played with himself all day every day the water was off I had to go turn the water back on I'm 13 I had to pay the water bill I had my first child at 15 I was a stripper at at 13 I had two kids by the age of 19 I had my third child married I was married and divorced I've been through there was days I L literally Le I

wanted to kill myself the only reason why I'm still here honestly is because I was afraid that I was not going to succeed at my suicidal attempt that's the only reason why I have not tried to actually do it every time I was there with the pills I was like what if it doesn't work and now here I am messed up or crazy or whatever so I know what it feel like to be suppressed depressed and suppressed and suicidal and I was told I had ADHD you know and all these negative things so I could

relate to everybody and so being a woman I am today for me people should be proud be proud that here's a a woman forget black here's a woman that have become something against every every odd was stacked against her I watched my mom take her last breath I thought she was having an anxiety attack I never forget this that that that visual like I see her eyes rolling I see what her body did I'll never forget at 9 years old I'm taking a shower and my brother jumps in and and and I'm thinking he had

a fight cuz he was a fighter he always had fights but I look up and half his skull is gone to this very day my brother has a half a head like I didn't have therapy I never saw a psychiatrist and I'm not asking people to be me but don't even judge yourself know that everything you went through was for a purpose and do not under no circumstances fall into Victim Because when you fall into victim is over you're basically saying this happened to me not for me and there's nothing I could do about it

instead take those situations take those obstacles take those things that you've experienced and allow them to be a bridge that take you to somewhere greater than you currently are and that's just my story and I feel like when I tell my story my goal is for other people to look at me and be like either I'm playing too small when you look at me I want you to say either I'm playing too small or if she can do it I can do it too so I show up I'm very transparent I don't know if you

know um May 4th May 4th last year I had butt shots removed so literally that was going to be my next question because I want to tie everything together so you even say right you get people that are just like you know hey you should be a bit less like don't be too much when you've got goals and dreams I think we often will just go oh okay you want me to do that to get my goal and dream cool I love that you had just laid out what you've been through where you are now

what you didn't succumb to how you held strong and now part of the journey that I think a lot of us go on is we get out of the you know we fall to our knees and we've just got them back up and now we're damn proud phew I've got them back up I'm finally here okay I'm never going to get back there again and then something happens again when that SEC second something happens we either Retreat back go into shame guilt and we just hide everything cuz we're like now people see us in a

certain light they see me as confident they see me as badass the last thing I want is to then change anyone's idea of how they see me because I've worked really hard to get here so then what people do is on the way up they then hide themselves more because they're protecting all the things they've built y so now going to the fact that you got butt injections and you are so open and honest about it that I'd love for you to a share the story about what happened and then how the hell you had

the confidence to share the story because if someone's listening at home how do we make sure that when they get back up they don't feel like they keep falling back down again I think this is the perfect story to Showcase how you don't have to keep falling back down so good so I'm a stripper at 19 right I go to work and this is a true story and I go to work one day I work at this famous club it's called Club Rolex this was the popping Club in Miami and I go to to work

one day and all the girls got big booties I'm like wait a minute Saturday y' butts wasn't this big like I'm like I'm like wait a minute everybody's Lisa I'm talking about beautiful round butts and I'm I mean all the girls and they working all the guys are dancing the girls and I'm standing there nobody wants to dance me and I was I was popular in the club like I made great money I I would make you know three 4,000 5,000 a night you know a night in a strip club and so I go to

work one day everybody's fine I'm not making no money day one go by I'm not making no money day two go by I'm not making no money week one go by I'm like wait a minute I'm you you have to pay like 150 bucks it's called tip out or DJ fee to dance so I'm not even Mak that's a stupid you have to pay yes what yeah it's called DJ fee so you got to pay like 150 I don't know what it is now but you got to pay so I'm not even making my money

back I'm like this is not this is crazy and I found out that there was these these uh transexuals doing butt shots like you you literally call them at your house and they bring the stuff and they do the booty shots and you could go back to work the same day back then there wasn't no bbls there was no doctor doing booty nothing it was just lipos suction breast augmentation that's it and I'm like I'm not doing that I'm sorry I'm never doing that but I got bills to pay so week one week two week

three I'm not doing it but I'm literally Lisa I'm going broke like I can't pay my bills I can't take care my kids um my kid I didn't have a daughter then I went to my gay friend's house one day and this is like my best friend and he walking around with this cotton on his butt his butt big I'm like what did you do he said girl I got some so she could she could do you I'm like I'm not doing that and she was like girl I called him she girl your booty is

flat you going to be Pok if you don't figure it out you better figure it out and I said you know what you're right that peer pressure got me I lay I never forget this Lisa it was in his on his couch I laid on his couch Lisa I probably got three three shots each cheek I said stop mind you this is this is deep they inject they said it was um medical grade silicone they Clos it with Crazy Glue listen listen oh my God no I want you to hear this this is what I

did I did this at 19 years old they shoot the allegedly medical grade silicone they put the crazy glue and then they put cotton on top of it and then like an hour later oh my God an hour later you soak in tub with baby oil and as you soak in the tub the cotton falls off [ __ ] I did it oh my God Lisa when I got out the tub I was fine I couldn't wait to go to work I went to work I made so much money baby I was in business my

butt was fine everything was fine soft beautiful nice everything perfect round like the perfect I mean picture the perfect butt 10 years later ugly it turns black it's like this lumpy wow it's it's deformed I go to doctors they're like 19 this I did the shot at 19 it didn't start deforming until about 30 30 doctors like leave it alone leave along people started dying I started hearing about people dying from it the lady uh the transexual who did my injection she's in jail she killed people like I'm like oh my God God that's want

to live and um last year last year my 43rd birthday I got in contact with a doctor in Columbia it it wasn't hurting me I didn't have any pain he was like I'm willing to I'll do it for you I'll do it he treated me so amazingly well I did all the blood work I did everything I did the scans and I got it removed and I'mma tell you something I read this book called becoming like God and the book was talking about the number one way that you step out of the roomm of God

is ego like ego is deep ego has its own mind if you could kill your ego you could become like Unstoppable and it's crazy because I read that book before the the surgery and I was embarrassed like there's not nothing you want to brag about I got butt shots it it affected my relationships I would date guys and I would be embarrassed to take my clothes off I would be embarrassed to turn around because it started to deform but let me tell you something when I did the removal I said this is my greatest way

to make sure that I remove my ego if you're willing to tell the world and to show the world like I don't know if you know I posted it on social media like they literally cut my butt open and peeled it back did you see it I didn't know I can't see things like that I'm so squish listen they they literally they cut it like this they peeled it back like peeled it like a peeled it like a banana took everything out for two months I healed for two months if it wasn't for my support

team Vanessa and my my spiritual practices I could not um hardly walk I had to do everything standing up number one number two standing up um I couldn't really take showers I had to have it bandaged and I purposely put it out there for two reasons number one I wanted to kill my ego I don't have no pride no shame no guilt none of that and I wanted to do that like that was I was so excited to let the world know and number two I wanted to help other women like that's very big in

the black and Latino Community getting bipolymers and butt shots is very serious and a lot of women have had it and they're going to need a place to get it removed and I trust the doctor that I went to so I did it number one to to number one help other women but also I don't have an ego and now I'm natural and it's healed I could do everything you could do let me just say actually thank you for sharing that because I know that a lot of women were like we almost admire the story

but then would fear doing it ourselves right and so for me it's always like anytime I'm fear of saying something out loud it means I have to say it that's right um because it's my ego speaking and my ego is trying to protect me from being embarrassed feeling the shame and so I'm like okay well this just means I need to do it in order to get over it because I think one or two things would have happen a is exactly what you did you let go of your ego which I'd love to know how

that now Echoes the rest of your life and everything in future and then B it almost tells shows yourself well look if you're willing to say this then this other thing can't be so bad so anytime you have a a problem it almost like you just put it into perspective was like it showed your ass and all the problems with your ass so this isn't a big deal so it kind of gives you that free pass to do it again and again where you may in the past have been triggered or felt the shame to

then Retreat um so yeah tell me how did that then potentially echo in other places of your life now that you've done that and it's always been like that chip of like yes you let go of your ego you know what you just said it like it has translated in every area of my life to the point where I don't care what people think about me Lisa like and I mean like really like if you like me good if you don't like me good if you think I'm cute good if you think I'm ugly good

I used to try to be what other people wanted me to be especially in business you know like in my network marketing company or network marketing period you're supposed to dress a certain kind of way let me tell you something like what I have on right now I would wear to the meeting hell yeah I would literally wearther to the meeting and I will I would get in front of the room and I would say I know y'all don't think I'm supposed to wear this I know y' probably think this is UN professional but the

reason why I wear it because I want you to know over here you could be your authentic self you could wear whatever you choose to wear we want you to come by yourself and be in business with us regardless of how you dress what you look like so for me I think it has opened me up to not care so much about what people think about me um I used to get calls girl soone so said this and I cannot tell you the last time somebody called me with any negative energy people don't call me

and tell me negative stuff people know that I'm like I think they know I'm unpenetrable you cannot pen Pate me you you could say something on a post that I put up and sometimes I read my post just for fun like and they can say the most meanest stuff and I laugh so I literally have and I don't think we ever get 100% ego killed um but I don't care long as I have respect Integrity character honor as long as I do what I say and I live on principles for me nothing else matters and

I also know that people like to use your story against you right I'm the type of person that I would do something I say yeah I did that yeah I know y proba didn't like it but this is me this is this is this is my personality I tell you something I did that people probably was like wait a minute when I spoke at growthcon I spoke in front of that was my first time speaking to a very large white audience I was so scared this is when I thought that black people and white people

are just different like and we are but I realized that white trauma black trauma when it boil down that's probably the one thing we have in common our traumas it's the same traumas except obviously white people didn't go through slavery but we have a lot of the same things in common like you have insecurities your mom was on drugs your so when I went to growth con I don't know if you you saw the message but I spoke for like 45 minutes on stage and Grant comes out in the middle of me talking he's like

keep going keep going I was doing so good I end up making them close to a million dollars on the stage that day cuz my delivery and my message was so good he was like he didn't want me to get off the stage and one of the things I talked about as a Jamaican woman right I grew up where marijuana smoking weed is normal for us like that's what we do and when I got on the stage I talked about that I talked about it I talked about how that's something I grew up I grew

up doing in my family like I was 13 years old my mom would be like you you need you need to smoke this joint you need to calm down as a Jamaican woman that's where I come from oh yeah and I thought people were going to shy away and it made people be like listen when I first started talking Lisa I spoke for 45 minutes I'm not making this up nobody sat down I did a 45 minute speech I never asked them to stand up they would not sit down and when I got off the

stage they put a survey out tdjs came in number one as the best speaker and I came in number two as the second best speaker and to this very day people ask are you coming make the growth con every I go every year and they're like we need we need Grant to put you back on stage and I'm talking about an audience of white Norwegian Asian Japanese and it's because of my authenticity and I don't mind being vulnerable and being transparent and telling you listen I think everybody has shortcomings you may not tell me about

yours the difference between me and you is you don't have to look for m i put mine out for everybody to see and if you don't like me hurry up figure out now so you can go find somebody you like you don't have to like me but go find somebody that you like cuz there's someone out there for everybody and if I'm not your cup of tea so that's fine and if I am your cup of te that's fine too so I don't try to please people I think the number one issue that a lot

of people have is trying to conform to the world and please people and then you lose your identity trying to please people or you lose your identity being worried about what people are going to think about you it's like damn if you do damn if you don't just find your authenticity grow in your authenticity and know that your Vibe will attract your tribe who you are will eventually attract everything that you need and if you could get to that Space Magic your life will feel like it's almost magical like listen to me me being here

with you today nobody can't tell me nothing like I saw this a long time ago I did like I'm not surprised that I'm here I put it in my imagination I put it in my creative imagination and I believe that whatever you think about with Deep Emotions will suddenly appear so whatever I want I just add a deep emotional thought to it and I make sure it's fair cuz reciprocity is very important but it's about understanding that and having that in your imagination and showing up with respect Integrity character honor always dude that's what I

was going to say is that because you've got that grounding of the respect uh Integrity honor it grounds you and I think that when I when I think about how do I keep showing up it's I have a value system that I don't negotiate with and because I have a value system that I've written out in my emotionally sober moments when nothing's going wrong I'm like okay what's going to make me feel proud about myself when I go to bed at night and that's kind of my North start and so anytime something difficult comes along

my way a person who's difficult comes along my way I just go by my value system and it really helps me stay aligned because I am easily swayed to be light so like you when you were saying um you know you can like me you can like I don't care I realized that I really do care and this was like I tried to pretend I didn't care and my biggest Enlightenment was Lisa you actually do care but here's the caveat you cannot not you cannot let you caring dictate your actions so I had to separate

the fact that I would care with how I would then act in accordance so it's like okay I really care that I really want this person to like me so let's take my show for instance I've had comments where it's was like who the hell is she look at her hair oh the thing that I've got a lot actually is I nod a lot you nod a lot yeah when then when the guest is talking I nod a lot I've had comments where they're like you're too distract and leer with your nodding you need to

like tone down your body language so there was a moment where I was like I really care that I want people to like me I really want people to like my content because I want to make an impact and so I was like do I just should I just nod less and then that was the moment where I'm like okay what does live in Integrity what are your values my value is is that I'm in this conversation yeah I address my audience but I forget the cameras like if we literally look this way for a

second we've got multiple people sitting here we've got offices and desks and like that we forget because I'm just in the zone so the truth is is that my nodding and my hand expressions and my is all because I'm in it so I'm like okay what's my value system never fake anything yes so now I go to my value system my value system says never fake anything you always have to show up to be your authentic self cool what does that mean when I get this NE negative comment value yourself show up authentic or make

this person happy I go with my value system so even though I care that I want to make this person happy this viewer or this person that's commented I stick to my value system and so for you I really think that's what you do is that you have this moment of these values that you go am I living in Integrity am I address like am I true to my character and so every single time there are moments where other people may lead astray because they want to people please they want to feel good about themselves

they want to get the validation from other people you're able to stay firm on your path because of these things that You' I love thank you there was something actually though that you did say ear that I didn't want to interrupt but You' mentioned that you've been divorced yes so if you don't mind let's actually talk about being a freaking badass being a strong Confident Woman and then finding a guy that I don't want to say can handle you but that can keep up with you so that you don't ever dim your own light so

a if you don't mind explaining what actually happened in your marriage if it's not too sensitive and then how you make sure that freaking stormy never ever dims her light even if she's looking for romance and love wow so let me ask you this is your mom still alive yes okay so to anyone that have lost their mother I send you love I understand the feeling of feeling like you're in the world alone so let me tell you grateful that your mom is alive when you lose your mom you feel like nobody in the world

loves you like it's it is the most unexplainable thing you feel like you're in the world by yourself so all you want is for someone to love and protect you so I met my he's my son's father and my ex-husband my mom died August oh my God August 26 2011 I met him in September so I was very vulnerable and then he came perfectly packaged super fine very built military man he was making 130 150,000 a year um he told me that he had saw me before and he's so happy I was his dream girl

all of this stuff so I thought I had the perfect guy he will open the door for me he will hold my hand he'll kiss me on the forehead he was into church I was like all right he got benefits he got a nice car I'm like yes and uh man Lisa let me tell you something no first of all he didn't know me he met emotionally distraught stormmy he met stormy who I would wear skirts down to my knees I would never show my little cleavage I would I was very I had got into

very into church I would go to church every day I wouldn't listen to rap music I wouldn't curse I was like I wasn't going to get no money I wasn't waking up saying who got my money who got my Peas I was just this girl that felt like this Damsel in Distress with no Mom so he never knew me and then I met this Prophet that's why you got to be careful who comes into your life I met this Prophet that told me that's your husband he literally told me if you don't marry him you're

going to die oh God and let me tell you why I know you're like why would you believe that I believe this particular Prophet because everything he told me he knew people he knew my sister name he knew my mom name like I never experienced that before so I believe that he was accurate and so it was so serious to the point where I married my my ex-husband December 31st of 2012 because he told me if you don't marry him this year you're going to die so that's why I waited till the last day so

we get married and I don't know why this has happened to me in the past men would come around and that's not the case now and they'll feel like she got it so they would stop all of the things that they did to make money does that make sense okay so like he went from being this guy to like not doing any of the thing that I respected him for and I found myself like we moved in together we did everything super fast we moved in together September we got married in December you know and

I lost myself I lost myself and I went from being this big badass Superwoman hardworking woman to I was depressed Lisa for three and a half years I was about 50 pounds heavier I had no friend I called it the NFL I had no friends and no family left it was just me and and finally I woke up one day like literally woke up and I would read The Book of Proverbs every day cuz I needed something I didn't have nobody nobody was telling me that I was acting weird like everybody was gone it was

just literally me and him and I felt comfort in him until I woke up broke I woke up fat I Woke Up 3 years in with a husband and a new baby I'm like where did this baby come from I went through postpartum depression like it was times that I I I you don't even want me to talk about it I went through real bad postpartum depression I used to tell my sister hey come in here and make me laugh every day because I'm about to do something to me and this baby do you mind

sharing that and if you don't obviously I want to only is like if there's any woman God forbid listening right now that are like that maybe we can reach I think that would be very powerful let me tell you postpartum depression and and and here's the thing like I had three kids right I had two kids probably into my last one I never experienced postpartum depression I do believe that people could s word seeds into your mind I had a friend that had postpartum depression and she used to call me and she used to say

I hope you don't have postpartum depression like me and I think that that seed started to grow and when I had my son interestingly enough the prophet was still in my life the prophet told me that I used to have I used to send this Prophet money every other day because he'll tell me God said send me $622 29 if you don't your child's going to come out still born it was so bad Lisa to the point where I send this Prophet my debit card and I was already going broke right I sent him my

debit card because he would tell me if you don't sow the seed by 7:00 this is going to happen that's going to happen you're going to get in a car accident so it was so bad and this was back when we didn't have cash app brael so I would run to Western Union to send him the $672 and22 this is how crazy it was so listen to this when I went and got my ultrasound the doctor and I never told a story I don't even know why I'm saying this I think some woman needs this

they told me my son was a girl so when I go and I tell my h hband my son my husband at the time had two daughters he wanted his son so bad so imagine me getting in the car telling him here's the ultrasound and it's a girl he's angry he was mad with me I'm talking about for months treating me like he actually wanted me to have an abortion so anyway I give birth to my son I thought it was a girl so when he came out I'm I'm happy he the dad ends up

going back overseas because he worked overseas and that's when it all started I went through the very serious emotional and just mental trauma I felt ugly I felt like I wasn't good enough the baby any any little movement any little cry got on my nerves I used to want to throw him across the room I didn't I didn't like myself I didn't like him I was broke I lived in this very dark at this point I'm broke I lived in this very dark townhouse I had to sell my stuff on eBay I went broke so

imagine me selling my Louis Vuitton bags my Rolex watches proud that you've been everything I went to the pawn shop Lisa and I pawned $50,000 worth of jewelry for less than $4,000 that's how broke I was on a day where it was almost 100 degrees outside so imagine it's hot I just went through it and here I am with this little baby and I I thank God for my sister my sister was living with me at the time I would tell her hey I need you to make me laugh every day like this is not

good that's when I started to learn about AFF formations and affirmations and at the time and even now I didn't have a woman that could speak into my life so I started this call called wake up and win I still do it right now at every morning I used to do it at 9 o' in the morning Lisa and I used to do this call and it's like I turn into this new person when I'm doing my business I would do the call finish the call record it and call back and listen to the call

and hear it and listen to myself like a third party so 3 and a half years I'm depressed I finally woke up and realized this isn't normal I'm fat I'm broke I'm drinking a lot I used to drink strawberita beers I used to eat all kind of you know uh fried chicken and stuff that I wouldn't do my house was dirty so when I woke up this day I call it the mirror technique I would read The Book of Proverbs and I finally it's like I don't know what it was it broke I woke up

one day I was like this is something wrong with me like I admitted that something is wrong this is not normal and I read about the signs of postpartum depression and that's when I learned that you're in postpartum depression and so I I didn't go to a psychiatrist or a therapist I went to the mirror it's called The Mirror Technique basically you go into a mirror and you literally stare in the mirror until your eyes become like one with yourself it's like if you do it it's going to make you cry like anybody can do

this you stare in the mirror so long until it's like you see your soul and then you just talk to yourself and I did it and I went in the mirror and first I'm looking at my myself and I'm like first of all who are you I didn't even know who I was and I started crying tears just started I mean and I started crying like snot coming out my nose like a cry like a baby and I curse myself out like I'm talking about I call myself I mean you stupid you're stormy Nicole Wellington

what has happened to you you have lost yourself how did you give up on yourself how did you become this woman and I looked around and my house was dirty I had old refrigerator uh food sandwiches in the refrigerator baloney I don't even eat baloney and it's like the house was dark I started going around the house ripping open the blinds I went to my car it was smash I had a porsch it was smashed on the side it was dirty the cup holder was dirty it's like I woke up and I was like who

I'm not this girl I don't eat baloney I don't drink straw burritas I don't have a dirty car I wouldn't dare drive around with the car dented in and I came back to the memory of myself I found myself again and I said I gotta get out of this house that's why environments are everything and that's when I did what I needed to do I came up with some money and I moved to Miami and when I moved to Miami I purposely said I need to move somewhere that the sun sets a certain way that

the sunlight come into my house I'm going to rebuild myself and that's what I did but it was after I confronted my truth stormy who are you like who is this lady you would first of all I wouldn't have married this guy he's not even he wasn't even my type that's how I knew I lost myself you got remember I had already became stormy Welling I was already stormy Welling before but when I lost my mom I lost me too and then I got married then take them this baby so all of this stuff and

mom dead lost my mom I saw that visual in my my my eyes I marry this guy I have this baby I live in this depressing house and this guy no longer works we're broke together so now who's going to help me nobody helps you when you have a husband cuz why you and him broke together so I literally had to put the pieces of my life back together and it started with me saying this is not you three and a half years later after the mirror technique I realized that okay write out your affirmations

write out your goals I would write a 100 times a day I am so happy and so grateful now that I stor Nicole Wellington I wi again I just started writing writing and I end up moving to Miami when I got to Miami it's like things started to open up for me I started to get this energy back and I got back into business my best that's when she loan me the money and I got back into network marketing and I worked that thing let me tell you Lisa like my life depended on it and

I tell you something I want to tell this to whoever watching me today there are things that happen that activate you on a whole another level and that depression and that that that that um postpartum depression it changed me but when I moved to Miami my ex-husband came with me we were still married at the time because I didn't know I remember I used to fear God so much I was told that you never get a divorce when man find a wife he find a good thing and so I'm like I don't want to be

known for getting a divorce but when we got to Miami it just it changed so drastically that I started to really learn who I am all over again I wasn't the old me cuz I got a new baby and a husband so I had to redefine stormmy Wellington but let me tell you one of the things that I feel led to tell this the audience today my ex-husband at the time he was married he bought a TV and a console imagine my daughter was 12 and my sister I don't know how old she was maybe

60 years old no 55 they're watching the the television this is when we're starting the divorce process now he comes in the house while they're watching the TV my daughter my son his son and my sister he unplugged the TV that he bought and he took the console so I come back home and there's no TV there's no console what happened your husband took it to this very day my daughter's 24 she was 12 when it happens she would never forget that her stepdad took the TV but let me tell you something that was the

best thing he could have ever done for me because I went to work and I said never again will anybody take me into that dark place and put me in a position that I think I can't get myself out of no I'm going to show you who I really am and I rebuilt myself back I made a million dollars in seven months in seven months got rid paid him to leave and this is something that people may not know like there are certain States that's a family state that if you have more money than the

the baby daddy or the baby mom so to speak you have to pay child support so I'm literally going through a case right now I go to court on June 28th oh God he's trying to get my son and child support so this is my first time talking about it so y'all pray for me wish me the best how are you able to do that with a smile on your face cuz I I'm a great person great things happen for great people if I was a bad person I would be worried there's no way God

going to let him my son does A and B's he's a great kid he's so smart he needs the support in the Dynamic that he has I I want him to have a relationship with his dad but you don't take a kid away from his mom unless the mom can't be there you know so I have a smile on my face because I know that we deserve the best and my son deserves the best and God is not going to do what I don't deserve see I believe that believe that you deserve it in the

universe will serve it so I'm not worried it's just another part of my story that I get to tell to empower another woman and remember whatever you think about with deep emotion will suddenly appear so if I think that he's gonna win guess what's gonna happen he's going to win he's not going to win he would never win this is just another feather in my cap another part of my story but also this is why we got to be careful of decisions that we make because some decisions cannot get fixed immediately like I got 18

years my son is only 10 I got eight more years to deal with this guy but God is going to make sure everything works out there's so much complexity in the story with that guy especially because you found yourself you came out of it and then you find a guy and you lose yourself again and this is where cuz you know me and my show is all about how do women have the confidence to have the life they actually want yes period that's it so for me when I think about this it's like a lot

of us will build our confidence and we think oh once we got the confidence we're good to go and sometimes it can be even worse when we have the confidence and then get knocked down because then we start to second guess ourselves well maybe I'm not good enough maybe I should just stay here and there's another world where stormmy Wellington stays in that relationship there's another world where stormmy didn't find herself that didn't realize that she was worth more and make that change and so your story and even how you got out of it hopefully

that someone can then adopt that technique because I think a lot of people do stay there and we stay in the relationship that doesn't serve us because one of the um stories that I've shared in the past is before I met Tom I was with a guy and he was extremely verbally abusive and manipulative to me and every time I would find the courage to leave his words to me were you're never going to find someone that loves you as much as I do now when you're insecure you believe him exactly and that's exactly what

I did so this relationship that I had Looking Back Now shouldn't have lasted more than 6 months I was with him for almost four years what would have happened if I didn't leave man and so when I think about you I wouldn't know you thank you right yeah I mean thank you but I wouldn't have known I be here today I won't be doing what I'm doing and I feel the same about you so explaining how you get out of that type of dynamic it's super important but now there's this second part to this story

of now how do you make sure a you never go back there B that you still leave yourself open to trust and love because a lot of people to make sure you never go back there they shut themselves down I'm never going to trust someone again I'm never going to give myself over to someone again so how do you make sure that you don't and then third how do you make sure that you maintain your confidence even when things may get difficult in a relationship especially when I'm going to assume you love Alpha men mhm

so how do you make sure that you don't allow any person to ever make you turn down your dial again wow so good so good so I would say this when you experience stuff one of the greatest gifts that I've discovered is knowing what it feels like in your body when you're mad what does it feel like like there's a feeling that your body gets when you're sad when you're happy when you're discouraged when you're not proud when you're depressed when you're confused like it is so important that we Embrace those emotions but we pay

attention to what does that feel like in your body so to me that's a blessing I know what all of it feels like so when I feel it coming when I feel like like right now I'm very happy I'm very happy like I'm happy being here I'm happy with this conversation I'm happy with what I know this talk is going to do for the world I feel like people are going to watch this and they're going to be sending it to their daughters and their friends like I know that we had a very serious conversation

today that's going to make an impact so that's number one being grateful for your experiences because you know what it feels like now so the next time you feel something I don't care what it is is even if you got to write it down oh my God I'm sad this is what it feels like you know I'm mad this is what it feels like you know like my boyfriend just left me he spent like two weeks with me how long have you guys been together now a year and like a month and he's a alpha

male and I'm G get there in a minute but let me tell you but like I miss him he just left yesterday he was with me for two weeks and I'm like wow this is pretty cool I miss somebody I'm happy it's a great thing and I'm paying attention to what it feels like I know what this feel feels like this is a beautiful sensation and I also know what the love felt like that's a beautiful sensation so we have to be cognite of how things make us feel and how I feel about something is

not how Lisa feels about something how I feel about something is not how you feel about something but Define it and and put a word to it so you can know the sensation and so that's the beauty of it all but let me tell you what I didn't know I used to think CU I am very Alpha I thought I liked feminine men I thought Alpha females need men that's not as Alpha so I literally literally dated a lot of men that their dominant energy was feminine not masculine CU I thought that I needed a

more feminine type of man because you know we both we have feminine and masculine we both have it everybody has it that's how God made us but the truth is I need a Alpha Man a alpha man is not afraid of me a alpha man thinks I'm cute thinks that my confidence and my posture is so attractive we need to know that we are a mixture of feminine and masculine energy nobody really talks about that that is how we were made we have both but I need a man who is a man meaning you know

that you're supposed to take out the trash like it it makes you feel less of a man if I'm taking out my trash I've dated men that would let me take out the trash to me that's a problem I don't care if I want to take out the trash you should be like no I'm taking out the trash putting gas in the car I think that that's not a woman's job but I used to be the woman that didn't have a problem putting gas in the car but I did have a problem I act like

I would do it I could do it I could take out the trash no I don't want to take out the TR I would do it and I like it now I was like babe you take out the trash for me please I love it when you take out the trash you know I think that really comes with confidence and not to feel like you're less than and I think that that's like I literally was just talking to my sister in fact about this where she came to visit and she she she's like oh yeah

I used to be the one my sister used to see herself as a very hardcore feminist and hardcore feminist growing up was like [ __ ] the men I don't need a man that's me growing up I understand it isn't how we perceive feminism now but it definitely wasn't like growing up so my sister was like I would never let a guy take my suitcase if I was traveling I could handle it myself and now she's like girl when I see a guy and I'm trying to put my luggage up the first thing I do

is turn to them say like do you mind helping exactly and I think that that's a sign of confidence because you know it doesn't make you feel seem weak thank you I didn't Define it as that but I love that so do you go I I used to do it because I wanted to feel powerful yeah but it really looks stupid being the woman that pays all the bills being a woman that has all the answers like something as small as um we're going somewhere he's driving I'm saying turn right turn left go straight no

I'm the queen I want to sit back I want to find the music for us to listen to you get the address you put it in your GPS and you find the location before I would just do it and it would annoy the heck out of me now I let my guy know baby I don't want to be telling you to turn right that feel like I'm telling you what to do sweetheart so can you please put the address in your phone please simple so now I know the type of man and I tell you

you're G to love this I have obviously a list I think people need to write their list of the non-negotiables and my list is is considered an acronym again I love acronyms Chris c h r i s y'all are going to love this I want a man that has credit he has to have good credit and care about his credit he doesn't have a have have to have 800 score but his credit should matter to him that used to not be a criteria of mine the H is Health you have to care about your health

I used to not think about that and then I would date you in no disrespect but like I'm in health and wellness industry I can't date a guide is O overweight it doesn't go with my vision it doesn't match and then I'm dating you and then you know I look at you in my mind I'm saying I used to do that why would I date somebody and then do that to them the r is real estate you may not know this but a lot of men don't have their own place these days they live with

somebody they live with a friend they live with a brother they live with a cousin they have a roommate no I need a man that has his own place women need to know that be careful a lot of men want to spend a night CU they have no place to live [Music] M you don't know that huh yeah no yeah these guys they want to spend a night because they don't have a place or they have a place in somebody else's name it's a lot going on out here Lisa you're blessed to have a husband

I was going to say for 23 years I've been with my hband about this world honey do not know about I means Investments as an adult you should have some ways of making passive income like I discovered like I can't date a man has a job because what happens when I want to go somewhere or I'm always going somewhere you can never go because you got to ask your boss and I'm not saying nothing is wrong with having a job I respect it but for me for us to vibrate high and for us to progress

and I'll tell you about that in a minute you need to have some type of passive income or semi- passive income that you don't have to report somewhere that's the I and the S I just told this to my guy yesterday which may not seem like a big deal but I promise you ladies it's going to help you out a lot support systems I used to date men that didn't have no type of support I want a man that has a mentor that has somebody that they can look up to someone that they could reason

with I've dated men that they have no friends and and now I realized like how are you 45 50 with no friends what did you do your entire life that nobody cares to be your friend so those are things that that now is very important to me and I have a mantra in my relationship with me and my guy you're going to love this progress is the key to happiness and the glue that makes happiness stick so we're always measuring our progress like how much better are we doing am I treating you right am I

doing the things you am I making you feel good am I growing do you like how I'm showing up like we have relationship meetings and we Teck in with each other and we tell each other I didn't like what you did or I wish you would have did this or I think you should do this so you know having that progress as the Cornerstone of our relationship helps us to continue to progress cuz we want to impress each other mhm and I love the way you really break down the Cris because as you were explaining

it it made me realize these are all value systems they all go to okay these are the things that I value and so if you align with them then no matter how much we grow and change our value will be still aligned and so even with like the health thing let's talk about for me I joke but I'm not actually joking stormy I want to live till over 100 wow okay like I've actually said it I interviewed a woman that was 103 years old wow she just wrote a book and is completely cognitively there so

now I've seen that it's possible wow so I go Lisa she lives still 103 because obviously I don't want to live that long if I've got dementia and things like that I want to be very clear so I see it's possible how the hell do I get there because I've got so much work to do girl I'm 44 years old if I live till over a 100 I've got like 56 years still in me to create impact it's like oh my God that's incredible so I've got the goal now imagine my husband doesn't give a

[ __ ] now imagine what he values is the now and so what he does is he eats ice cream every day he sits on his ass he doesn't watch his you know glucose levels and so on and so forth you can see how the health thing we have a different value system around how we show up in our health so now when we get to 50 and 60 you can imagine we're not going to be aligned at all because I'm still at 60 I'm like I'm still freaking young I still got another 40 years

but if he doesn't care about health in his 60s his joints are going to hurt he doesn't feel good about himself he's leic and now in our 60s we've got a very different vision of Our Lives that's not going to work it's not going to work so I love how you really identify the things that matter to you in order to give you an accurate North Star so that you never change yourself again you never find yourself back in that position where you meet a guy and you blink and three and a half years later

you're wondering how the hell did I get here thank you I didn't even look at it like that and it it is for me what I realized one of the most important things that I did not do up until I just I just met him a year ago like literally the last guy I dated didn't have c h r i or S so I know like Why didn't it work because he didn't have the value system that I was looking for thank you for giving me that new understanding every woman should know what she wants

every man should know what they want so we don't waste our time cuz time wor Wast of time is worse than wasted money okay well now so we're both 44 we realized that when we met earlier today um Health in women as we age I'm finding stats girl that are horrifying tell me horrifying so now I'm paying attention so the highest rate of suicide between with women is between 45 and 55 wow during our per menopause and menopause years because our estrogen plummets so we start to um doubt Our Lives we start to feel badly

about ourselves the rate of divorce skyrockets that's initiated by women goes up to 70% of divorces are initiated by women between the ages of 45 and 55 hormone change wow that's not okay one in five women will quit their jobs because of menopause really because of the symptoms that come with it brain fog forgetfulness tired and so what happens is Imagine you've been in the workforce imagine you've been busting your ass you've got got this career you're working on the ladder maybe you're CEO you got top title and now you start forgetting [ __ ]

Dam and now you got brain fog because of what it does to our confidence and our emotions women are just quitting wow I don't know this so now I'm learning all about this I'm 44 and I'm like there's no way of bypassing at Lisa you want to live to your 100 you're going to have to go through menopause so what is changing what's happening in my body and how is it going to affect my confidence that I don't realize so I'm trying to pay attention now so that I can kind of like preempt all the

things that I'm going to go through as as older and the reason why I bring this up is As women as we've tried to build right the entire interview you've just shared how much you've consciously changed how you show up in order for you to consciously change the trajectory of your future yes thank you now what happens when you've done all that work you start to get in your mid 40s your hormones Chang and you don't realize and now you start to go I'm L confident I'm actually really tired even though I just got a

ton of sleep it starts to almost unwire your confidence that you've rebuilt wow so this is kind of just something that I'm talking about with a lot of women of like how do we help each other how do we share this type of information and then in real time how do we keep showing up especially if you're in business and you're freaking badass and you want to be confident and you want to you know like really have that self-esteem that can allow you to take things to the next level how do we start to navigate

it so I I I hear you but for me that makes me even more excited because all I'm going to do is get more focused now I'm going to talk about it and let people know hey if you are around this age this is why this is happening so I thank you for those stats so now you must take control of your health because at the end of the day I believe it doesn't have to happen to you why there's so much technology so much things you could do if you just a regular citizen eating

and drinking water and doing basic stuff then I'm sorry yeah you may have to cumb to that but for me you know what now I'm going to be even more cognizant of what I put in my mouth I'm going to be more conent of the things I say I'm going to work to counteract what you just said I love I'm going stay not on my watch that's what I'm going to say ex not my watch I'm going to get my adequate rest I'm going to meditate even more I'm going to get adequate adequate sleep I'm

not going to let nobody tell me nothing to stress me out I'm not going to that's not going to happen to me how about that I love that freaking and I'm going to take some and some nrgs and some Nutra bursts and all the stuff I need to take because that's not going to happen to me I'm not committing suicide I'm not going backwards I'm going to live even more between 45 and 55 how about that [ __ ] yeah girl what I'm going to do that's it thank you for that cuz now I'm going

be more mindful of it because now listen you know they they say people perish for lack of knowledge so guess what when you have knowledge you don't have to perish so now that I know you made me get I'm going to be more doubt in more than ever cuz I refuse to live like that I want to live longer and stronger longer well let me give you one more piece of information then CU I'm learn literally in real time I'm learning this I'm just trying to share with as many people as possible is that um

the symptoms that come with it aren't always obvious and the only one symptom that can universally be uh pointed at your hormones is if you've get hot flushes and that's the only way doctors will actually start to take you seriously because the only way you can get your body uh temperature to be that hot is if you have a Fe which means that you've just got an infection or you're in menopause it's the only two but now imagine a woman goes into the doctors says she's got a headach says she's got brain fog says that

she's got stress she's put on belly weight and she doesn't actually understand why because she's never changed anything and the doctor turns around to you and says put down the fork and just rest that's some of the doctor's advice now the thing that I really want to share is I just found out Medicare doesn't cover your first menopause uh appointment oh so now and as a doctor they don't consider you in menopause unless you've gone an entire year without getting your period but here's the thing your symptoms can happen up to 10 years before your

period stops is so sad so not to like depress everybody but like the information is power right so if I can keep sharing it maybe you can then do that like I'm trying to do something how do I change my hormones how do I Medicare doesn't cover it that's so that this Health Care system it's so scary that's so sad thank you for telling me that that's why we need multiple streams of income yes so we could afford to do what we got to do because the system is not here to protect us thank you

for that yeah so what are they supposed to do yeah I mean this is the thing so I'm just trying to to so to your point like I just go that's not okay the second I say something's not okay it means I have to do something about it because otherwise I'm looking to everyone else like oh what are you going to do what are you going to do doctor what are you going to do it's like that doesn't help so you feel responsible I feel responsible so now when I heard you were 44 I was

all right me and Stor we got to talk about our hormones because like I am very aware that in a year I may have a little less confidence than I do today did you get your blood work taken off so yeah so I've done everything I'm literally in the process of getting my blood work down I actually took it off yesterday but had a continuous glucose monitor so I can see how my sugar levels are responding um temperature I'm now taking my temperature every morning jotting it down telling my doctor because your body temperature fluctuates

um have you any signs at all yeah absolutely brain fog forgetfulness really yeah and so this is also why I bring it up is I do interviews and there I found moments in the middle of an interview guest is in front of me and I think I've done it a couple of times today I'm like oh God what was I going to say that never used to happen so now imagine I feel my skill set I feel my confidence to be freaking bassed get in front of the camera when I used to be completely petrified

and insecure to ever get in front of the camera I've been doing this now for like 6 years and then all of a sudden I can't remember my [ __ ] it's like what is happening asking myself what is happening makes me feel less confident it does I'm sure and so now that less confidence messes with my head right so it has this uh this spiral in this cycle so I'm just like I'm I'm just showing up in true authentic me I'm being very honest about what's happening and then I want to talk to women

who are at that age so that maybe we can start to share the knowledge start to talk about what's happening so that now like aging has this like really weird NE negative connotation and right now menopause is like a death sentence do are they saying that there's any type of pills or anything that you could do so there's definitely like different types of diet sometimes fasting can help lowering your sugar getting your sleep prioritizing yourself getting PL uh in environments that are less stressful vitamin D vitamin C um I just realized in my in blood

test that I'm low in selenium and so selenium yeah what is that I can't remember what selenium do [ __ ] I should probably know that so um ax is a powerful antioxidant it can reduce your risk of cancer it can protect against heart disease it helps prevent mental decline I mean the list goes on boosts your immune system your thyroid health so because of the selenium WoW instead of taking okay supplements are amazing definitely take supplements if you can't but where can I find it in Foods Brazil nuts so every bloody day okay now

without fail i e six Brazil nuts you feel different not really but I feel like it it's a stacking effect right so it's like oh see where your levels are see what you need I got high levels of uh heavy metals in my blood so I'm working to eliminate those so I'm oxygenating my BL so like I geek out just like you like I love doing all of that stuff but the point being is once I understand what is happening to my body once I have the knowledge once I understand what is happening this like

what why do women live past being able to give birth like let's just actually be honest from a biological standpoint we are here to procreate which is why we will have periods like as early as 9 years old right so our bodies as women were meant to procreate but why do we live on after we've had our perod because we're wise so now we can take the wisdom and help the Next Generation from a biological if you you know like I very much believe in biology and there's a lot of less to uh find in

biology so when you process why on Earth would we live beyond our means to be able to procreate okay well we've got wisdom we can warn people about when you hear the rustle in the woods it could be danger right like from caveman days so now going through wisdom cool women are here to be wise teach me so now I'm really looking at the older generation and being like please teach me all of your knowledge so that I can help myself as I go through it and then I can potenti potentially help the younger generation

but if we're not talking about it because back in the day I mean women's periods were seen as dirty we would put in The Red Tent right you know because it was like you can't be with the rest of the people and I know we're kind of derailing here but the importance of Aging hormones our health taking ownership over it I think is so imperative and I would love to know what has in you taking your health seriously in what did that do for your confidence because I don't think we take our health seriously enough

that's true okay so my mom died at 64 that's young and you know I love my mom but my mom looked like she was 74 when she died and I'm aware that obesity runs rampid in my family my mom was on anti-depressant my mom had a pacemaker my mom would smoke a pack of cigarettes a day and let me tell you something my sister is a spitting image of my mom and she's still alive my sister's o overweight uh obese my sister has a pacemaker my sister smokes a pack of cigarettes a day my sister

on anti-depressant I mean again whatever I don't like Lisa I fix it I do something about it I am inspired to be the opposite of what I don't like so what's the opposite of unhealthy healthy so I first of all I'm very big on looking good like I like to look good like I love my hair done I love my my my makeup lightly done I love beautiful skin I have a skin care line lip gloss thank you I love my lip gloss I love to smile I love to feel good I believe feeling good

is a strategy so I am big on looking like I'm 44 you know when I have a daughter she's 24 I have a son 27 when I hang out with my daughter they're like okay is that your sister I love oh yeah I was going to say guarantee they think I love it I love that and I love feeling good I love Vitality I love energy and I think that it's not hard to take care of yourself simple things like I don't know if you know this but one of the leading causes of in cancer

is coloral cancer for example that's one of the top three cancers that people are dying from so that's why I'm in the health and wellness space so I'm a Serial entrepreneur but my network marketing company we sell affordable nutritional supplements and so if I could get it I have access to it why not so I I have my affordable nutrition that comes from my network marketing company but I also I got a little money so I go get my blood work and I believe in IVs and I believe in you know finding out what is

your cortisol levels and do you have uh are you borderline diabetic are you BL blood pressure so prevention is better than cure so right now I'm about to get on a real protocol that's a little more of a level up so right now my nutrition with my company cost me $200 a month but I'm about to dial in and spend like 5,000 a month I got to tell you about it so it's this doctor who does like the superhero protocol he takes your blood he tells you exactly precisely what your blood work is telling you

that need and you just got to take a lot of supplements so for me it's like you know what who wants to have a lot of money and be dying because they're unhealthy and and I I definitely don't want to be in the middle of a conversation and and that has happened to me before I hope that don't mean nothing I hope that just was the time I forgot what I was about to say you know mean but I've forgotten things mid sentence too and I don't want to know that and not do nothing about

it so I think that now we know I'm aware I'm about to dial in even more see see this see these type of for me they're not debilitating for me they're like empowering why because now I get to go home and say hey you know what hey Doc my friend just told me about this this this I'm 44 let's make sure I'm not pre- this let's make sure I'm not pre that and if I got to take 20 pills a day I'm the girl that is say bring them on you know so I'm going to

continue checking in dialing in and even more now because I have never had a hot flash I I'm I'm normally cold all the time so I don't want that and I also know that you know I have a woman Community right so how can I represent something and not represent what I represent you know what I mean so even more now that you're talking about it I'mma dial in even more and even as you were talking what was interesting is like oh yeah like it almost like instead of allowing your health and the aging and

your hormone change to negatively impact your confidence which I think it can for a lot of women and has in the way that you broke it down and taken the ownership it allows you to actually lean into the confidence more because when you believe you can do something about it I think that it builds you confidence when you don't when you feel helpless when you feel like the victim I think that's when you don't have the confidence so even thinking about taking the ownership over okay well if this is true how do I show up

um even in that thought process is what helps you build the confidence exactly so it's not just the ACT it's the thought process as well um yeah like so the hormone thing I mean it's just it's breaking my heart that so many women have gone through it and it also breaks my heart that I wasn't empathetic to my own mother going through it and that's the thing so one of my friends is actually a doctor and she's Mindy pel she's actually very prominent in the hormone space and she turned to me and her daughter's just

learning things and so her daughter recently turned around to her and was like Mama I just want to apologize that I wasn't there for you more so even this is something you can maybe teach your daughter exactly so that when she gets to the age she doesn't see it as negative she actually can have empathy for you and if we can also see other women so like the thing that I'm talking about in my business is like if women are going through it what are the things that we can do to support them and so

there are certain times where it's like maybe you should do less Zoom calls in a day where depending on where your hormone Zoom calls yeah like depending on where your hormone levels at because the stress of the blue light like it's like it can compound it so yeah as I was talking to you I was like okay what are all the things that can help your confidence help build it or help unfortunately knock it I think it feels good good to take care of yourself too like knowing that I meditate knowing that I I detox

every day knowing that I take supplements knowing that I'm going to go for a walk like knowing that I'm not going to eat anything you know I think it makes me feel like I love myself and I think a lot of people say they love themselves but do you do the things that shows yourself the act of love loving yourself is not just getting your your hair done and getting your nails done and putting on some makeup like what are you eating what are you drinking what are you consuming what conversations are you allowing in

your ear gate you know one of my favorite prayers is uh God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change courage to change the things that I can and the wisdom to know the difference today here we go again women are going to be able to watch this and they're going to know okay oh maybe that's what I'm going through because the worst thing is to think that you're not in control of something that you actually can be in control of so I think that is so amazing that you bring that up

because I didn't even know this this is a whole new knowingness for me and as an alpha woman that idea of like what the hell is happening to me you know I'm finding myself more emotional now where it's like I used to be able to easily handle my emotions really yeah like I cry more I never cry like I'm just crying like you know there's like puppy in commercials I'm like puppy like and that never used to be me and I used to judge myself it Lisa freaking suck it up what's wrong with you wow

talking about the negative voice that was it once I started to understand hormones aging I was like a Lisa bless you take hormones are just changing but you see the knowingness so I'm going to talk about it even more because if you didn't know that could have put you on a dial one spiral thank you you are empowering me Lisa us thank you let's say Thank you Lisa my girl this has been so freaking empowering and enjoyable where can people find you and uh all the amazing things that you're up to so we can follow

along your journey this is what I would say you can find me on Instagram at coach Stormy with a Y I love Instagram that is my home I dominate and I rock on Instagram and you can find me at stormy wellington.com or just Google me I'm all over the Internet oh yeah if you want to learn how to finally ditch those nice girl habits and master your confidence then click here right now future of if I continue to go down this road if I gain twice the weight if I get arrested twice the times right

if I have twice the bad friends like what my life looks like it was unacceptable to me I don't want to