so what do you like in a person many of us would initially respond with things like someone tall or i like green eyes well what about those times you look at people you've liked in the past and thought to yourself but they don't all look alike or you've encountered someone who seems to be your ideal in every single way on paper but you meet them and wonder who are you the answer to that mystery is that attraction is based on three things you consider them approachable believe in positive factoids about them and if they make
you feel good if the trifecta is incomplete this could lead to not being attracted to the person no matter how hollywood-esque that smile is here are six psychological things that make you less attractive number one being sleep deprived no matter how much caffeine you swell sleep deprivation takes a toll on everything this could ruin the first impression meeting with someone when you first meet someone you have a limited amount of information to decide your next steps should you get closer or should you back away slowly as humans we rely on sight initially to give us
that quick initial assessment so if you show up looking like a haggard potato your selfie or instagram buddy potential isn't the only thing that's less than stellar other attraction factors like the appearance of health and trustworthiness also take a hit number two body smell fabio is one thing and there are plenty of products and methods to avoid it but ever think about a similar body odor this goes deep and comes from your dna we have something called a major histocompatibility complex or mhc they're a group of genes that do coding to help out the immune
system and they influence body odor so bathing yourself in cologne doesn't change anything studies have found that women were more attracted to men with dissimilar mhcs to their own this is hypothesized to encourage gene variability thus a stronger immune system number three excessive focus on appearance hey we're all into looking good and feeling good you do you and love yourself for it just don't let it go overboard sure initial encounters are strongly influenced by physical attractiveness but that's fleeting no matter how much of a hottie they appear to be if all they care about is
their self-image that becomes a repulsing factor it's true that in the end we need substance and if all we're getting is air where howdy number four not being humble when you get a win do you crow that it was all you that you're just legendary and single-handedly did it all or do you credit those who helped you like friends teachers family and maybe even that one cashier who would stay five minutes late every shift just to make sure you could get some food at the end of the night humility also known as a modest view
of oneself was found to help not only start but maintain romantic relationships with humble partners being scored as more attractive than arrogant ones so although we like to contribute for the good of the cause we still want to be acknowledged for our part whether it be a project or a partnership if that recognition is usurped where it's only their name on the credit reel we tend to feel cheated betrayed or used number five overly smiley or too proud related to the previous point this is all about how you hold yourself or appear in pictures if
you look pompous puffed out and arrogant or over smiley it gives the same vibe as not being humble this type of nonverbal expression implies that perhaps that smile can't be trusted and that pride may override the well-being of anyone other than themselves and number six contractive body language turtles are cute but it's because they're turtles you're a human don't try to turtle yourself it was found in a study between several universities that people become more attractive when their posture and bodily display are more expansive like open arms and a non-hunched back it singles welcome the
opposite of that contractual body language like crossing your arms and legs and hunching over decreases desirability this is conveying a message of don't come close i'm closing myself off from you so if you want to welcome people in go ahead and put your body into it we used to think attraction equals physical beauty but we know now that attraction is a complex thing involving the whole person inside and out flaws and all which of these things have you noticed in yourself or others have you tried changing anything and how did it work out we'd love
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