This Keeps Men Pathetic, Lazy & Poor - Embrace Suffering To Escape Mediocrity | David Goggins

i worked myself so hard that i turned a person this [ __ ] up into this [ __ ] right here not off of reading a [ __ ] book off a theorist off of going to work on myself and saying i don't know how to do this but i know that to get over there that [ __ ] side i gotta grind myself into a [ __ ] fine power and i did it hey everybody welcome to impact theory our goal with this show and company is to introduce you to the people and ideas

that will help you actually execute on your dreams all right today's guest is widely recognized as the toughest man alive the only member of the u.s armed forces to complete seal training the u.s army ranger school where he graduated as enlisted honor man and the air force tactical air controller training he entered bud's hell week three times in one year completing it twice despite a seriously damaged knee multiple stress fractures and a hernia he served in combat in iraq was the bodyguard for the iraqi prime minister completed an ultra marathon with pneumonia and once held

the guinness world record for most pull-ups in 24 hours with 4030. all in all he's completed over 60 endurance and ultra endurance events often winning or at least placing in the top five and when he was asked how he's been able to accomplish so much he says simply that he hated what he saw in the mirror enough to make a change having grown up bullied and abused both physically and mentally by the time he graduated high school he was by his own admission broken and weak but instead of accepting that he turned inward stop saying

woe is me and got to work becoming the man he wanted to be to do that he learned to embrace suffering and leverage pain as a way to toughen his mind and the resulting man that he has become and his indomitable spirit has so inspired the world that he has become the one that be driven among us hang on their mirrors as a reminder of just how much is possible as iconic nfl coach pete carroll said in my pursuit to understand and learn from the greatest competitors in the world he is the one that sets

the standard so please help me in welcoming the man who once ran 205 miles in 39 hours without stopping the author of can't hurt me the legend himself david goggins welcome back thank you thank you so i am beyond excited to be doing the second go-round with you the first one for me was utterly transformational just researching you and the way that your mind works i'm really i mean as evidenced by the show that i'm wearing i really am that guy that like put your picture up and it was just became this reminder of of

what we can all do if we're willing to push past that pain and all of that right but speaking of pain i want to know why is the book called can't hurt me there's some i guess some inside [ __ ] use to people in there but it's an overall message to people that we're all you know a lot of us are going through a hard time in life some people have been bullied some people are just stressed out some people are insecure some people are fat and overweight and the world puts a lot of

this [ __ ] in your mind it's not just you yeah you help it and my whole thing is about i had to develop a mindset a mindset that was indestructible i had to armor plate my mind and it's about what you're saying to yourself but it also comes at work so whenever i was getting beat down physically mentally spiritually whatever i was going through just saying you know i would put you know you can't hurt me can't hurt me just became a message i you know i would say to myself and that's just kind

of where it comes from what i find so interesting is your concept of the governor that basically out of the chills that an expert is somebody who's going to tell you what your limits are rather than the person that's out there practicing getting you beyond the limit so what is the governor and how do we strip it out of our lives i believe that most human beings are only living at about 40 of their capability so the mine has a governor like a car if you're driving a car and the car has a governor on

it the car may say 130 miles an hour but the governor set for 91. once that governor sets in you get to 91 that car starts doing this the car wants to go the car wants to go but that [ __ ] factory said uh-uh we're not going past 91 we have a factory a nice governor in our brain and it's a survival mechanism it protects us from pain and suffering the second we feel that [ __ ] our mind says oh no this isn't fun we should back off we should sit down find something

more comfortable and there's something about the mind the mind has the tactical advantage over you at all times at all times of your life the mind has a tactical advantage over you why is that it knows what you're afraid of it knows your insecurities it knows your deep dark lies and it starts to push you away from that [ __ ] it pushes you in a direction that is comfortable the mind controls everything so what i realized was that when i was growing up and i was 300 pounds and i got all fat and i

got all insecure i realized that my mind kept taking me in this direction when things got uncomfortable for me when i was facing my insecurities i was facing my fears my mind said oh no we have the tactical advantage we need to get you separate you from this feeling this feeling over your life's all about feelings we want the happy feeling we don't want that feeling of this sucks why am i here and you don't have any so you can't answer those questions so you leave i started realizing that if in that moment you can

answer those [ __ ] up questions and you are now in charge of your brain versus your brain ruling you that's where all that stuff comes from so so the 40 rule is all of that you get to 40 your brain says we're done let's roll man this is starting to get painful this is uncomfortable so you sit down you have to figure out ways and everybody's different that's how the book kind of talks about like we all have these things about you know five steps to this and four steps to this it's it's a

lot more than that that's all [ __ ] it's it's a practice that you have to it's a habit so if you know that at 40 i'm still you know i'm feeling pain at 40 i'm feeling pain that's where the 40 rule kicks in now it starts okay i'm feeling pain my mind's saying all this [ __ ] to me is saying get out of here run flee the fight or flight kicks in okay we're done we're not good enough it starts telling you all these things you start to believe it because the mind controls

all this is the time where you have to gain control back of your mind it's okay let me see if i can go 45 and once you start giving yourself more and more hope and start realizing okay the mind starts to be okay what are you doing we're supposed to be going right and you're going left you start then controlling your mind start finding more in you know in yourself and it goes from 40 to a lot further than that but that's the start of it though get to get to the spot where your mind

is saying stop wherever that is gotta get there first and then that's when that [ __ ] starts to work for you you gotta control yourself in that moment dude we're gonna try to thread a really powerful needle right now so your response to all of that has been so incredible so all right mind has a governor it starts to kick in when you hit pain you're looking for areas of comfort most people then live their entire lives there they never try to get out of it but you had such a fascinating response you said

two things which i think need to be explored one is that you created this alter ego goggins which i think is insanely powerful and it reminds me of eminem talked about the same thing with creating slim shady was it was the way he once he had the persona he could face his fears and he could get up um and then the other thing was you said you need to shut the [ __ ] up and listen but talking about just to yourself like not to try to get a distraction not social media not tv nothing

like go in a room by yourself and really listen how do those two things the the creation of the alter ego and that listening to the the sort of dark hateful things that you're probably saying to yourself how do those work together so a lot of people can live with themselves that's the first thing a lot of people can live with themselves look in the mirror and say i'm okay with being afraid i'm okay with going on this easy highway over here the easy highway has all these [ __ ] signs and [ __ ]

directions how to get somewhere and you have to first be uncomfortable with how you feel about yourself with that voice that a lot of us like to run away from we all have it we all have that voice to say hey man you know you're you're kind of wimping out right now you're kind of being a little punk right now but a lot of us say okay that's okay it's okay to tell these little white lies to ourselves so we first have to face the real you the real me is david goggins the real me

is a guy looking at you right now saying i don't want to [ __ ] be on this show right now because i used to stutter as a kid and i'm afraid of that i'm afraid that here in a second i'm gonna start [ __ ] stammering and stuttering and the whole world's gonna know that i have all these issues but that's when i see right now okay goggins you gotta go on this [ __ ] show that's goggins goggins is saying okay david goggins you're a punk life made you this way we can't live

like this we can't live in fear we can't live in judgment we can't be afraid of what the [ __ ] people right now are looking at me saying about me we cannot be afraid of that that's goggins goggin's saying [ __ ] all of you who don't like me who don't want to and that person then comes in but you have to be david goggins and say man i'm afraid of this i'm [ __ ] up here life made me this way here i stutter i i have these issues with with uh reading and

writing and and i'm i'm fat and i'm insecure you have to face that in that dark room in that dark room is who you are but in that dark room is where you have to create another human being that walks out of that dark room to face who you are that's the only way you're going to get over all those things you have to create someone else not like you have two different personalities it is you but you have to find strength and that visualization of almost me cracking out goggins like almost like that superman

cape like i'm coming out a different person a person that doesn't give a [ __ ] about anything who doesn't care about being judged who knows i'm weak who knows i'm afraid who says whatever you think about me take it whatever i'm here that's goggins in the dark room you face yourself you realize you want to be better you realize you don't want to be this weak insecure person in the world who has all these problems that we all have we all have social media is a great platform to tell you who we want to

be not who we are so that's where that dark room is i didn't know if you were going to be able to surprise me today because i i know you so well from sitting across from you from researching you as much as i have but i just really got emotional as you were going through that because it's so tempting to make you extraordinary as a way to not have to live up to your standard like even now and i don't do it on purpose because i know better than that and i want to be extraordinary

myself but even i like i find myself getting caught up in that and hearing you just now talk about still being nervous that you're gonna start stammering like if if people really hear that you're the way that you are now not because you pretend like you don't have those things but because you face them so fully and that you're able to like look at that be accountable and and talk so raw to yourself like dude that's when like again i have the [ __ ] chills because when you think about what your what any of

us are going to be able to achieve in our lives it's because we finally get willing to look in the mirror and say you're dumb you're fat and i know right now people are freaking out when they hear me say that but talk to me about raw talk talk to me about how you started talking to yourself in the mirror because if they get this david like this is the transformational moment so in my book i talk about a lot is my junior year in high school and i fell back a lot i fell back

in this [ __ ] whole of life the second you think that you've overcome it you climbed everest you're on that last hold and life will say not today [ __ ] and it'll push you down and my junior year in high school i uh missed a whole bunch of school was lying to my mom had like a one point something gpa i was just jacked up i mean it was i was in one one of the worst spots in my life and my mom was going with a lot of [ __ ] too and

she didn't have time to sit back and baby me and it was me against me my parents were down to my knees i was just i was not whatever was going on i wasn't in bad shape so i went to the bathroom and i had this weird haircut because i wanted attention i was an attention getter i went to all white school pretty much some of the kids liked me a lot of them didn't like me whatever didn't [ __ ] matter i was looking for something so i was dressed differently crazy haircuts and i

went to the mirror and the reflection in it revealed a lot of bad things a lot of things that i was hiding behind the saggy pants and i'm looking at myself in the mirror going like god dawg dude you gotta you are something else man like you have created a character i want to be the cool guy table and whatever i could do to to get attention i did it wasn't me it wasn't who i was inside but i was scared for anybody to know who i was inside so in that accountability mirror i call

it i got real myself i said you have a third grade reading level which is hard to admit when you're a junior in high school that you copied on every single thing you did because of fear they're gonna put me in a special school we all know what special means i'm gonna have a title on myself the rest of my life and being cool you don't have a title on yourself so i started cheating i was dumb and people say oh you know you're a learning disability out of learning disability but i realized i was

lazy so um i called myself out there i called myself out every which way possible i didn't call myself i was just honest i was honest look at yourself man look at yourself and it was that day in a couple of days after that i just got real with myself and every day i came home i called the accountability mirror what am i going to do today to change what i see in this mirror what am i going to do today and a lot of it was i stopped sitting with the cool guys i actually

took my shirt and went to school looking like hey man this i'm gonna look if you don't like it so be it i had to really wear this this this layer of skin i had to develop a really callous skin on me to take whatever you're gonna call me you're gonna call me whatever i'm going to be you know i want a geek but whoever i am you're going to see me you're going to see me for who i am because i need to change who i'm not and that accountability just became raw and i

became fat over the years because i fell back in the hole i called myself fat because i was fat and people don't want to do that they want to say oh don't call yourself fat don't call yourself dumb if you're not real and wrong with who the [ __ ] you are nothing's going to change and in this nice new world that we live in we want to hear you're just a little big no man you might be fat and it's okay to hear that from yourself infamous so that's where it started at and it's

raw it gets ugly sometimes with me in that mirror but i'm also proud of myself to be able to tell myself that and then fix what's in that mirror that that's what hits me and that's what i really want people to hear is that you can say those things a because they're true and b because you can fix them right and your whole life has been about addressing those things so walk us through how in the book do you help people start addressing it because that's what i think so powerful about your book so the

first thing about it is once you realize it and you have to realize you got to call yourself out addressing it is very small it's like it doesn't go from like one morning um this way next time i wake up and presto the you know five steps to greatness no it ain't that brother you read my book this is hard work it's every day like right now i had to be honest with you man i'm even shaking right now being on this show i'm a big time introvert how you address it is you face it

you face it every day you face it every single day of your life where you say okay like if you're fat you need to lose weight it's patience it's patience in this fact of accepting who you are right now i'm fat i don't like myself except in fact if you lose three or four pounds that's a huge accomplishment you have to live in your own [ __ ] world you cannot judge yourself that's why social media all these things are horrible you can't judge yourself off of the so-called competition that we have made up in

our mind the things that how people look how people act how smart someone is this is a race that you run completely alone and you're all by yourself i had tons of sticky notes all over my mirror it wasn't like be better than john or be as fast as whoever okay david yesterday you did this today our next goal for the week is this so i had a year goal weekly goals daily goals hourly goals and the big goal was i lied a lot growing up i wanted to be accepted one goal was let's go

one day without lying let's go one day and then when i would lie to somebody i would say hey man now go i had to go back now and apologize hey man i lied to you you know hard it is to go back somebody say i lied to you hey man you know what back there i lied to you dude i was really jacked up so i figured out these ways of total total accountability like right now i had to run this morning before i talk to you because why that's what i'm about i'm about

mind mad body fitness a lot of folks talk so much [ __ ] about hey i'm gonna change your life i'm gonna do so i'm gonna do that are you accountable for what you're doing are you accountable and i mean to the t for what you're saying i am and that's where it started it started with that total total accountability of let's not lie today let's tell people the truth about who you are and when you can get on and tell someone like i'm doing right now exactly how [ __ ] up you are that's

the goal in life to put your life on a billboard on the busiest road in the busiest highway in the world and say this is how [ __ ] up i used to be take it or leave it the first time we talked i didn't really understand um why the um being called a niger on your book and you said that was one of the best things that ever happened to me because the principal told me oh they're just ignorant and you said that in that moment i realized nobody was coming to save me and

it hit me right i didn't really understand until i read the book and in reading the book really understanding how one thing after another from the abuse from your father to fleeing that to your mom being m.i.a and then thinking she's finally found love and then the [ __ ] guy gets murdered the day after christmas i was like did that really no one came to save you no and seeing that now and hearing you tell these stories i realize like that's the crux of the power but how did you stop feeling sorry for yourself

when you really sit back at your life and you in that dark room and you're looking at where you started from and you tell yourself god dawg man my mom is this way my stepdad got murdered my dad beat the [ __ ] out of me i can't read and write to say my [ __ ] soul i've lied about it to everybody i've cheated on all these tests my god man and then you put a goal in your mind how are you gonna feel man when you accomplish this goal coming from that [ __

] coming from the [ __ ] hell you came from a lot of people start from a good starting point they have a good foundation what if you can surpass all these [ __ ] we have everybody who was [ __ ] way up here started up here and you had you started with no legs you had to grow [ __ ] legs to even start walking and then crawling and then running and then you start passing people and all that's given to them i had to use all this negative [ __ ] that was

making me weak and horrible as a person i had to use this as the power that now fueled me had to flip it on his head and say hold up this might be exactly what i need the darkness is exactly what i need it's how you look at your situation and i was looking at it all [ __ ] up in the book you tell people to make a list of everything working against them every real valid excuse right why do you have them do that there's a lot of power in that list so in

that list of who you are what makes you [ __ ] up all these other things it goes back to once again accepting you have to first accept it before you can fix it a lot of people walk around oh man i'm good i'm good no you're not you have to accept what you're not you have to and people don't want to do that and that's the only way you can fix it you have to accept it first before you can go on the journey a lot of folks never even start the journey man they

never start to join because they live in this fake life that who they want to be they act like they are but they're not because they haven't fixed all this stuff yet you got to fix this first before we can start our journey in life so that's why i haven't make this list you fix these problems now your journey can begin because you no longer care about how people are judging you when when you care more about how someone's judging you you're going to stay right there there's no forward momentum so that's that's the thing

about that list all right speaking of making that list accepting where you're at so that you can address it in the book you talk about like what the things are that you're going to be doing you're going to be putting the list together how do people go about using i don't know if it's the accountability mirror how do they go about addressing each of those issues okay so let's say the first one is you're not the smartest person in school i had that issue so my big thing was how i addressed that problem was i

had to sit down each thing that is wrong with you has to be a focal point you can't look at this gigantic list and say i gotta change all this [ __ ] my god this is crazy no you take off the first one i want to be smarter for me that was my thing i have to i have to become more intelligent i have such a severe learning disability i can't retain [ __ ] i had to now get that one thing and then strategize in that one problem how can i do this i'm

not gonna learn like you i'm not gonna learn like anybody else how am i gonna figure this out so i then figured out okay where are my strengths here where my weaknesses in learning all right man how am i going to do this and i figured out a way to do it but it's strategizing so how i learn to this day if i have a big manual to study i will have to get a bunch of spiral notebooks from the from the daggone store and each page i have to write each page out maybe 10

times so there was a thousand page dive manual that i got 18 months before i went to dive school most people i'm not smart i'm gonna go see if i can pass this test i realized hang on a second i'm not smart how can i get past this how can i get through this obstacle i need to get i need to acquire this book 18 months in advance because it could take me 18 months to write down each page over and over again to then put it to memory so when the question came up i

had written that question so many times down in that in on you know on paper that i can recall okay page 71 was where i remember seeing this and i can recall it that way and that's how i did it so you got to strategize on each problem you have in life slowly break down that problem don't think about all the problems you have just one at a time and before you know it you fix all these problems but you cannot focus on all of them just on the one thing at a time there's a

concept in your book that permeates the whole book and i think really is one of the most important things for people to understand in their own life certainly to understand you and it's the notion of detesting mediocrity talk to me about that how do you how did you instill it in your life how can other people instill it in theirs it's one of the biggest things in the world a lot of us mediocrity is everywhere right now and we're all trying to find an easy way out and we're judging ourselves let's say there's 10 people

in this room and we're all mediocre but i'm the best of the mediocre people i now think i'm great i'm great we surround ourselves around people that make us feel great they tell us what we want to hear the second we put ourselves amongst the uncommon people we don't like that feeling that challenge and feeling that of of that person's breakup at 3 30 in the morning hey push your [ __ ] on we're going for a run we don't like that challenge we like that person who says hey you know what man i don't

feel good today man and they say oh it's okay brother we'll take a day off maybe we'll get a pizza and [ __ ] watch the game we like that we we love that feeling why because you understand man we're good bro we don't want that [ __ ] like this hey man no bro get your [ __ ] [ __ ] on man stop being a punk we don't want that in our lives we don't want that person who's constantly challenging our weaknesses we want that process constantly you know making us feel nice and

good and secure in ours that's the mediocrity of life we want to be the best amongst the average people people wonder how do you stay hungry all the time because after i accomplish something i don't sit back like a lot of guys who graduate buzz graduate this graduate that they get comfortable they wonder why i'm getting weak man i don't know i lost my edge what's going on because once you hit the top of the [ __ ] mountain guess what happened i'm good i'm good so you wonder why you're falling down now because once

you be top of the mountain you gotta build a [ __ ] another one that's mediocrity there's a lot of people in mediocrity who have a nice resume but they're one-timers man they hit they hit a one-time deal they busted it open got a lot of money but they're good you're mediocre now man what are you [ __ ] doing today tomorrow the next [ __ ] day that's why i'm listening to theorists i don't listen all that [ __ ] i listen to a [ __ ] who's like this man what's wrong man i'm

[ __ ] tired dude why are you tired because tomorrow i gotta do the [ __ ] [ __ ] again man whatever the [ __ ] is that made me [ __ ] nauseous and sick to my stomach it made me hurt there's no ending and that's the person i listen to that's the person who's gained knowledge you gain knowledge through suffering and on the other end of suffering is a world that very few very few have ever seen it's a beautiful world because that's where you find yourself you don't find yourself in over

here you find yourself on the other end like the 100 mile race i was on i ran it for 24 hours i found myself on the other end of that [ __ ] race that 19 hours i found wow there's a whole nother [ __ ] world out here that never even saw that the world is in your mind and that's what all that mediocrity is about mediocre is contagious talk to me about not getting civilized not giving civilized is about having a savage mentality civilized is something where people um it's it's a comfortable world

a lot of us say you know like for instance i see these athletes right now who retire you know i'm 38 you know i'm 39 i did 20 years at the top of my game and i'm chilling out now you see them a year later and how they look what the hell just happened to you dude what the hell you're one of the greatest athletes of all time kids looked up to you women men of all ages looked up to you and they hit the pinnacle where it's time to retire and their mind says i'm

civilized the worst thing that could ever happen to any human being is they become civilized it's that total accountability like even when you retire there's a [ __ ] looking at me and judging me right now man i'm i was the baddest person to ever live it doesn't go away man you gotta wake up even though you retired you're never retired you're setting the example every single day of your life and being civilized feels so good i'm sorry man once you get to the top you may retire but you ain't never coming back home man

because now you're judged people see you falling off you want to be that guy who knows i may be retired from the sport or forever i did but i'd be damned if you ever see me looking like [ __ ] feeling like [ __ ] not arriving people i've arrived i've arrived mentality you're always setting the example civilization feels so good these comfortable feelings are what people want they want retirement they want that they need that they it's a it's a yearning feeling i want it too people love putting a label on me about my

god man you're just wired different not [ __ ] wired different dude i'm thinking right now after i got past my stuttering thing now i'm on a roll i'm good now you know what i'm thinking about right now i gotta [ __ ] wake up tomorrow and do the same [ __ ] again i gotta leave this [ __ ] interview and go stretch out for two and a half hours i hate that [ __ ] but guess what it does though i'm constantly callousing over my victim's mentality that i once had growing up every

day you have to do this [ __ ] because why when you stop doing it you don't just maintain it if you stop shooting a gun you're not gonna be a great shot if you pick a gun up a year from now the only way to keep from getting rusty is to constantly owe that [ __ ] machine the machine is this you got to keep challenging it every day the way that i think about that is very very similar and i've got to imagine this is one of the things that makes you one of

the most misunderstood humans on the planet is to me driving that hard being that hungry pushing long after everybody stops has nothing to do with anybody but myself and what i my drug of choice is how i feel about myself when i'm by myself like nobody knows how hard i work and nobody's ever going to know not even my wife is up enough to see how much i really work right but it doesn't matter because the way that it makes me feel like in this moment right now where i get to say ah the world

doesn't know i could be lying but i would know and the way that i feel right now because i know how true it is that nobody's outworking me [Music] that to me is the juice and when people understand that what you're fighting to build the reason that i'm wearing a shirt that says what would goggins do the reason that i chant goggins like the crowd before he started rolling the camera was chanting goggins the reason that's so resonant is because they want to do something for themselves they want to feel some kind of way about

themselves [Music] now that you've become like this big ass speaker what do people come up to you and ask you the most how do i do it how am i able to do what i do on a daily basis you know how do i fight the demons because they hear me speak and i'm very raw and real how do you fight my insecurities all these things and uh they're there every day the day every day like you said i'm in a search for a feeling i'm not in the search for a trophy i'm not in

search for love not so much for more followers on instagram or social media when i started this journey years ago and i realized that i'm going to be somebody and i'm searching for a feeling a feeling of true victory for myself and only myself the second i shut out the whole world and realize that one thing that i am in this world alone i'm fighting in this race by myself yeah i'm all about people i'm all about team i'm all about that [ __ ] but i'm really all about right now and in my life

just like you said no one knows the real truth about me how hard i really go i don't care if anybody knows i don't want anybody to know i'm an introvert i live an introverted life and i love that about me it that right there is my fuel is i know that there's really no one out there grinding like me and if they are so be it if i know about you i'll make sure that up my gang that's what the mentality is all about my whole thing is a mentality thing like i told you

the last times on the show i viewed myself as the weakest person on the planet earth my goal in life was to in my mind believe i'm the hardest man alive and that's why the whole thing is can't hurt me that's what it's about it's about whatever you think you are you have to make that dream a reality but that's where the hard part is is making that dream reality that's where the hard work comes that's where people know how do you keep grinding every day you have to make those insecurities those fears like when

i was 300 pounds i didn't have any drive i'm going to be a navy seal what kind of stupid [ __ ] is that 300 pounds there wasn't like a drive to go be a navy seal i was an insecure lying kid afraid i had to look in my insecurities and in my fear and find drive in that we're all looking for passion passions all around you you have a whole a whole [ __ ] stack of it all around you it's your insecurities all that [ __ ] you gotta dive deep in that [

__ ] all this it's all in there all the energy and fuel you need is right in yourself it's all there you got a lot of stuff to do to overcome and you know that's where i found it i found it right there among insecurities i found drive in my own insecurities and that's that's the most powerful thing in the world when you can find drive in your own doubt fear insecurities you become very unstoppable you may have just changed me at a deep and fundamental level i've never thought about it like that so the

number one question i get asked is how do i find my passion to which the answer is very rudimentary and maybe ultimately not as true and powerful as what you just said which is there's another thing i need to tie this to that you talk about in the book which is people have lost touch with their bodies and you always tell people if you want to change go do something physically [ __ ] demanding like go find yourself in the suffering and in the pain of doing something with your body yes it is utterly fascinating

to me it's just hitting me now i'd never heard you say that before so i i'll reserve final judgment for round three when we come back together but the thought of you feel lost you feel insecure you don't have a passion you don't know what to do you're reaching out to somebody you need that help you know you could do more be more and the answer is you in the last interview we did you called it the bag of [ __ ] if i remember right yes you reach in to the bag of [ __

] and start changing those one by one that may be the most extraordinary piece of advice i've ever heard in fact i will say the way it's hitting me right now that's the single most extraordinary piece of advice for self-transformation i've ever heard it's the truth who is sitting here right now today this is the real me obviously but um i'm gonna go kind of i'm a very philosophical person and i'm gonna go there with you real quick i believe in a higher power don't know the name don't know where it's coming from don't anything

like that but i believe that this power and visualizing real quick let's say it's a man up there or a woman whatever and they have a chart and when you're born they say david goggins born february 17 1975 at 6 00 am they write the chart down because they can see everything they know exactly what you're so [ __ ] supposed to be they know what you're supposed to be you die you go to so-called heaven you arrive at heaven i'm 300 pounds i retired as an eco-lab guy which is okay just a job whatever

i go up there and god looks at me and he shows me my chart and my chart on there says you were supposed to be a navy seal you're supposed to weigh 185 pounds you're supposed to be one of the smartest people on the planet this this all this you see this and now you're in heaven you made it to heaven but you're like god i was supposed to live that life i was supposed to live that life and then you find out that the reason why because we all think that if we pray on

it if we do this if we do that whatever if we don't work we just whatever it could magically happen for us no i believe that when i'm all said and done with my whole job is to outwork the chart whatever the [ __ ] chart says about me the all-knowing power up there i want to get up there and say him look at me and say i know everything i didn't [ __ ] see this i didn't [ __ ] see this i want to feel that i want to get to the other end

of this [ __ ] world and however i'm being judged whoever's judging me to look at me and say i did not [ __ ] know i had you at 185 had you did this but all this other [ __ ] i was riding as you were living it i want to i want to find more all i can and in that [ __ ] sack of [ __ ] you have to dive in that to find more because if you're not willing to go in there and face yourself you're not gonna find anything you're

gonna live right here on surface man right here on surface so there is an ending to this world and there is somewhere to go and there's a judgment you're going to get there and you might see a chart and that chart may tell you who the [ __ ] you should have been and now you get to rest your life to think about that man i could have lived a much better life if i just would have just suffered a little bit more if i just would have went in that [ __ ] and realized

i had so much more but fear in the 40 and living here versus living here being afraid stop me so that's i i'm a big guy in visualizing i'm a big guy in making a world it may not exist to me it does to me it does and i'm overpowering myself every day and you got to find tools to do that that's the tool that i use so that's what it's all about god damn you said in the book that the only thing to fear is the man staring back at you in the mirror i

thought that was insanely powerful and seems tied to this is there something else to that or is is that what you're talking about that's all i'm talking about like your your biggest enemy your biggest the most important conversation you will ever have in your [ __ ] life is the one you have with yourself you wake up with it you walk around with it you go to bed with it eventually you're going to act on it whether you're good or bad you have to that's why the whole thing about this book i have it's about

you it is about you it's strictly about you finding who you are so many people die live a hundred years never [ __ ] know who they are never know who they are you have to look in that mirror and know this there's so much more in here man because i can literally right now be a 300 pound guy spraying for cockroaches still to this day if i did not look in that mirror and say there has to be more to this this can't be it and then willing to go into it dive deep into

it and give all i have to find it so that's what is that's what all that's about and all that you've done and all that you've been through help me understand when you were given the you did not have a happy childhood i think that would be very fair to say when you were given the vfw award recently and you were listening to people that had impacted you and you got to your mom you couldn't even speak yeah uh it almost chokes me up now um so i got the vfw award for the for the

um americanism award for military service and giving back i'm as human as human can be that's why what you see is what you get um at that moment when i was giving my speech and i thank my uncle for being there and i got to my mom it wasn't just about her it was i i i know what she went through i know what i went through and we got knocked down so much i had a moment in front of all these great american heroes where i had a chance it was like so fast it

went through me like like lightning of i can't believe i'm here i can't believe i'm getting an award like this that that kid who was in the fetal position the majority of his life and so much the fact that my body my hip flexors are tight to this day that even though i was standing erect my mind was in the fetal position and when i looked out amongst all those people it was a sense of pride that i can't even i can't even explain it's the moments of three hell weeks it's the moments of in

that room by myself studying for hours and hours and i was trying to catch up with all the kids who are above me it's just those moments like the real raw moments of life that was like boom hit me and we're gone but i was like i did that i overcame that [ __ ] you know it's like this is power behind all that [ __ ] and that's the feeling i was looking for in my life i found it wasn't money it wasn't fame it wasn't awards it was it was that feeling i have

right now that feels i'm about to break down but it's not of like oh my god i'm upset it's like i worked myself so hard that i turned a person this [ __ ] up into this [ __ ] right here not off of reading a [ __ ] book off a theorist off of going to work on myself and saying i don't know how to do this but i know that to get over there that [ __ ] side i gotta grind myself into a [ __ ] fine power and i did it i

did it all for sure will and very few people will know how that feels very few i love that more than you could possibly know before i ask my last question tell these guys where they can find the book so the book right now is called can't hurt me but by david goggins and it's on amazon right now it's a raw real book it's not a five-step book it's a real book about developing habits on how to overcome yourself and i believe all of us humans have an equation like you know pi is 3.14 that's

how you solve for that equation every human being has a different equation and there's not like some cookie-cutter book of hey read this book and you'll be fixed no you gotta figure out your own personal equation and once you figure out that equation you now become a mathematical [ __ ] genius about yourself and that's what this book does it makes you a [ __ ] genius about who the [ __ ] you are and then from there once you realize 3.14 is pi you can solve any [ __ ] equation in the world that's

what it's about i love that all right my last question what's the impact that you want to have on the world the impact i want to have in the world is for everybody to be able to face who they are i want to have that kind of impact where you can go on tv you can put your life on a billboard you're not ashamed of who the [ __ ] you are you're not ashamed of what life made you what you helped life make you all that [ __ ] all that bad [ __ ]

that's now in this big pot that's stirring you're no longer ashamed of it you realize we're all [ __ ] up stop judging yourself against other [ __ ] up people who have hidden it better than you that's all they've done they've mastered [ __ ] better than you have and now they're flipping it back on you and saying you're [ __ ] up i want you to realize that this world life is one big head game and once you learn to play the [ __ ] head game it's no longer a game anymore at

all you can start living your life i love that david thank you so much [Applause] buy this book i read it it is extraordinary it is one of the most amazing manuals for how to change your life ever and just this interview i think could be transformative for some people and the book goes into so much more detail and really reaches into you and shows you how to do it in your own life he helps you find that 3.14 for you so that you can go out and do the things that you need to do

but the things that i hope that you take away from him be honest with yourself be raw but understand that you can fix it stop tolerating mediocrity you have to detest mediocrity in your life and you have to understand the only way you're going to meet yourself is through pain and suffering and if you can become a master of suffering the things that you can do with your life are truly unlimited you can truly break free of all of the limiting beliefs that you've put on yourself your circumstances put on you your family has put

on you experts have put on you whoever it is you can get rid of all of that and completely blow your own mind with what you're capable of and one day you will have a shirt that instead of saying what would goggins do you'll be asking what would i do because you're the right person to ask and when you get to that point nothing will ever be the same get the book all right guys if you haven't already be sure to subscribe and until next time my friends be legendary take care david [ __ ]

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