[Music] it's a cold and foggy winter morning and I'm standing on the world's tallest bunge platform the platform I'm standing on is so tiny that I have to stand on my toes and balance myself against the wind the operator ties one end of the bungee cord to my ankle and throws a slack in the air I can feel the weight of the Rope on my ankle slowly dragging me down I look down all the buildings and roads are buried in heavy fog there is only one voice in my head I can't do this so I
turn around and tell them that I want to quit and then I see a huge quote printed on the glass window right next to me life begins at the edge of your comfort zone I don't know why but this short yet powerful sentence gives me the final push and before I realize it I walk straight back to the platform and jump off the world's highest bungee platform during the 5 seconds of freef fall I remember thinking to myself it's not as scary as it looks and that thought led to A Whole New World every time
I hear the voice of fear in my head I can't leave this job because I'm not going to find anything better I'm scared of entering a new relationship because I don't want to be hurt again and even a minute ago before I walked onto the stage the voice was repeating in my head every time I hear that voice I take a deep breath and tell myself it's never as scary as it looks let me take you back to the summer of 2007 a remote Village in Cambodia a small room in the domestic violence victim center
it's my first day of work I walked into room and was introduced to an 18-year-old girl her name was Chia Chia was so emotionally physically abused that she was trembling all the time and she couldn't even look at me in the eyes and on her face I saw fear anxiety and shame and that day Chia refused to take our help and went back to her husband and in the course of next few months she would do that again and again only come back with more bruises and cuts Chia knew that she should leave her husband
but she was scared to because she had been married to her him since 14 depended on him for survival and did not know that she could live a life on her own to help Chia and thousands of other girls like Chia I started a vocational skill training program after three months of training magic happened Chia regained confidence and dignity stepped out of the fear of failure found a new job in local hotel and separated with her husband she started a new chapter of life at the edge of her comfort zone sheia might be an extreme
example but I can see myself in her and maybe you can too what is it that you're not doing because of fear or failure finding a new job starting a new company or asking someone out for a date for me it was the fear of public speaking whatever it is I encourage you to try it because as Chia found and I found and and I think you will find too it's never as scary as it looks and you're stronger and more capable than you thought the second story is about embracing uncertainty my friend John lives
an extremely comfortable life in Hong Kong he works from 9 to 5 and receives a very good pay but he's dispassionate about his job and life and he's constantly complaining he has lived his whole life with certainty that the fear of losing what he had is stopping him from pursuing his passion until one morning I got a call from him hi iin I went to a positive psychology class last quarter got so inspired I quit my job today and I'm moving to Australia you what what are you going to do with your life I asked
he said this is the first time in life that I don't have a plan and I feel every bit as scared as I'm excited the next time I saw him was 6 months later he just got back from Australia a licensed hypnotherapist from a traitor to a hypnotherapist I was shocked when I saw him again his face was pink eyes glittering his whole body was just glowing he is living his dream right now traveling around the world giving workshops and therapy sessions for thousands of people to find happiness in life and as with cheer I
I could see myself in John and maybe you can too we're all scared of uncertainty giving up all you have to pursue a dream that may or may not work out loving someone with whole heart without guarantee it's incredibly hard but as John found and I found and I think you will find too it's never as scary as it looks and it leads to more possibilities and happiness in life the last story is about vulnerability and the last story is about me my love for my parents is the strongest emotion in my life but in
Asian culture love is seldom expressed in words it makes me feel extremely uncomfortable to tell them I love you or to even share my feelings with them our daily conversation is a combination of what I had for lunch and what they had for dinner the word courage came from Latin roote C which means heart and the original meaning of Courage is to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart I don't know why I have the courage to stand here today and share my story with you but I don't have the courage
to tell my parents I love you they raised me with love so much love they made me believe I'm worthy of love not because of what I achieve but because of who I am yet I so desperately want to be this perfect child for them I share my happiness and achievements and withhold my struggles and failures and as I'm proud of my achievements I didn't know that this created a huge emotional gap between us and we no longer share the Joy and Pain of each other's life Journey I've been experiencing a tough time recently a
heartbroken ending of three-year relationship many questions about friendship and deep insecurity about future a couple of weeks ago I came back from an exhausting recruiting trip from New York the moment I walked in my room in darkness I experienced an emotional breakdown I called my mom and burst into tears the moment I heard her voice and for the next hour and the first time in my life I shared my struggles with her and even though she hasn't been with me in this journey for so long she understands exactly what I've been going through the feeling
of reconnection after so many years is like magic in the end I told her I love you and she said I love you too it's the first time remember either of us has said that I didn't expect what felt so uncomfortable previously came so natural and peacefully in the end I see Life as a constant fight against your comfort zone you push it it pushes back what's the fear that's holding you back what are you not saying or doing because it's out outside your comfort zone I challenge you to find that comfort zone today bravely
step out of it and as you get comfortable again push it even further don't try to get rid of fear accept that you will be afraid and then go do it anyway as the word said high on the bunge platform life begins at the edge of your comfort zone thank you