What Your Body Language is Really Saying About Your Relationship | Linda Clemons

between your ears right now is a super new computer that weighs under five ounces maybe 3.4 ounces it's the thing called the brain the neural science that we have behind this it can lay all the way to the moon for every little fiber that's in your body that's super Neo computer is so powerful that once it's disconnected you can no longer survive because it sends signals to every part of the body this part of the brain can I touch you there and there are some of you who are kinesthetic and you move based on emotions

and if things don't feel right for you you have to go into your intuition you have to be aware of what's going on on the non-conscious subconscious and sometimes the conscious level your heart and you won't make a move when your heart gets broken and there's brain tissue in the heart as well [Music] can I touch you there [Music] so I got to tell you a couple things here before I get started I travel around the world as a sales and Body Language expert and it's fun because I had a chance to share the stage

with presidents Secretary of States politicians and as long as they're politicians around I'll probably be working forever and just wonderful people just like you and what's so interesting is that even though I work for lawyers and they bring me in to help them with jury selection and CEOs and c-suite my girlfriends and my guy friends call me all the time to take me out to dinner see I have not purchased groceries in over 15 years maybe I don't look at someone said lucky you well the reason why is this because a lot of my girlfriends

and my guy friends when they have someone new in their life they invite me out to dinner as their human lie detector so I got to tell you a quick story so one of my girlfriends she called me up and it's been a while and a conversation goes something like it's Linda I've just just some reason your mind and I was just thinking about you you were in my spirit and the first thing I said who is he who is he right now and I said now you know the deal you know the drill you

know the kind of places I like to eat I love to eat at shushu pupu restaurants I want the best and everything so if we're gonna go this is the third time that you've done this I hope this man is the one so I go to my favorite restaurant sitting near the bay window as a matter of fact I think there was a Picasso painting that was there she walks in with her new gentleman and she does this thing here now fellas I'm going to be sharing language with you that's Universal with the women around

the world so she walks in and goes like this you're here what a surprise why don't you join us and the poor guy is standing there like okay I thought this was you and I what's going on so I'm sitting at the table now here's your first lesson in non-verbal communication when you are at a dinner table or lunch table and you're excited and you're ready to eat here's your first question are you leaning in are you leaning back yes because you're looking at the menu and by the way because I knew she was taking

me to my shoes restaurant I fasted for three days I was going to eat everything on the menu so I'm leaning in and says oh my gosh the crab cakes they look good there's a special and this and all of a sudden you know he's sitting there nice looking gentleman and I decide to ask a few questions make a note of this please repeat this your answer is in the question okay this side is doing good this side I need to bring you in let's say it again your answer okay over here [Applause] okay very

good oh someone look excited over there okay all right so here's what took place you're gonna love this right so I could have asked him a question in a neutral tone but I didn't do that I did a eyebrow flash so I'm going to teach you one of their first moves here very important non-verbal communication the eyebrow flash so imagine you're in a networking room and you were invited to a special event and you really don't know anyone there and then all of a sudden you see a familiar face like I see I'll stay here

and I go hey the eyebrows go up eyebrows go up when you're excited surprise Intrigue are curious all right so so so set the tip so set the tone right there right eyebrows go up so it's called an eyebrow flash right so I did this watch watch watch so so okay see the tone so everybody do this with me go so okay so how long smile I'm using my zygomatic major muscles my bicular acrylic muscles right here at the eye by the way for some of you ladies you're very beautiful but some of you who

do Botox understand if you do Botox what's gonna happen it didn't the muscles that are right here we have 43 facial muscles we use every anywhere from 27 to 37 of them to make at least ten thousand different Expressions I believe women could make twenty thousand more that's just my opinion so here's what happens when you have the botox then you cannot get the animation that you need some actresses like Meryl Streep they don't want her to have any kind of surgery because they need that animation so just imagine if you just won ladies and

fellas two if you just won 10 million dollars and someone says are you excited if you have muscles that are dead in here it looks like this yes I'm excited I am it's trying to come out can you see Linda are you excited yes I can't come out Linda get back to the story some of us are analyticals and digitals get back to the story you're confusing us so I'm sitting at the table and I go like this so how long have you and my friend been dating and then he said well about two maybe

three months I said oh okay in a neutral voice okay then I went in for the second one a lot of control so they're tell so have you ever been married before crickets silence silence is an answer let it sink in silence is an answer so we get really silent a little awkward and then he made a comment and said sort of kind of if you ask me Linda are you African-American are you black am I going to say sort of kind of cafe latte no so next thing you know let's get fast forward to

the story she says you know what I've got to go to the ladies room see okay fellas are wondering like what is going on here I've got to go to the ladies room and I'm saying this upstairs around the corner just pass it take a short ride then all of a sudden she gives me this look that goes like this I've got to go to the ladies room ladies what does that mean universally it doesn't matter where you one like I don't ever say Yo Joe I got to go to the men's room come go

with me I know maybe some of you do that's a special signal so we go to the ladies room and then she says okay what do you think and I said to her you know you've only been together for a couple of months it's like not going down the aisle you know it's not that you're going to get married and it's not that you're planning to have kids you know so don't even think about the fact that he started to thigh cleanse when I started to ask him several other questions don't think anything about that

he was taken aback anybody know what thigh cleansing mean do you remember before everybody hold their hands up hands up everybody both hands both hands come on everyone bring both hands up both hands up put them on your thighs ah how many have you seen that before so when the fire cleansing chemicals are being released from the hands and you're being nervous and you're trying to self-soo cause pacifiers and I said there was a couple things that I noticed but don't worry there might have been signs of course infidelity there could be signs of deception

but you're not getting married and by the way the crab cakes are on sale let's go back to what's important and whatever you do don't say a word until after 24 to 48 hours because our emotions can get the best of us she goes back to the table and I'm hungry at this time and she locks and loads does anybody know what Lock and Load looks like you do let me see you demonstrate lock and loaded let me see you're sitting right there Lock and Load what does it look like that's open you're still open

who knows what lock and low you're close you're close Okay every woman in this room man you've seen it before okay look at Australia look at her fold your arms ladies every woman in this room fold your arms and cross your legs and what and now here is the message that you're sending I'm not coming out and you're definitely not coming in so next thing you know she gets this call called she leaves the restaurant she's sitting there he's gone she's she leaves the restaurant he and I are just sitting there looking at each other's

eyes and I'm hungry he's like going crazy figuring out what's going on the moral of the story don't ever tell your girlfriends or your guy friends anything until after dessert took a while all right all right so here's the deal I need you to do me a favor I want you to look to the person sitting beside you and say you are fantastic you are bold you are brilliant and I want you to tell the person right now as a matter of fact today you look good and tell them one last thing tell them one

last thing not as good as I do but I'm glad you tried all right okay so our subject is can I touch you there between your ears right now is a super Neo computer that weighs under five ounces maybe 3.4 ounces it's the thing called the brain the neural science that we have behind this it can lay all the way to the moon for every little fiber that's in your body that's super Neo computer is so powerful that once it's disconnected you can no longer survive because it sends signals to every part of the body

this part of the brain so if you are one of those individuals that need that stimulation that intellectual stimulation that's the thing that gets you excited in the words if you will that's your brain my permission if you will can I touch you there and there's some of you who are kinesthetic and you move based on emotions and if things don't feel right for you you have to go into your intuition you have to be aware of what's going on on the non-conscious subconscious and sometimes the conscious level your heart and you won't make a

move and your heart gets broken and there's brain tissue in the heart as well can I touch you there and there are some of you right now that are in relationships you need that special thing that special loved one right now that can connect with you in the way that allows you to surrender in a Sea of Love I know you want me to touch you there but you can have that with the right person so one of the things in the keys that I want to give you in communication is observation write that down

write that down you were here at mind Valley take notes take notes you may have a good memory so do I but it's short sometimes take notes and my granny would say faded ink is better than a good memory anytime anything is observation so with that being said I need you to stand up find your partner stand up give you your first exercise okay find your partner okay I want you to look at your partner okay all right look them over really good okay now turn back to back put your back towards them back to

back where you can feel their back okay now I want to ask you do you know the color of your partner's eyes do you know what they're wearing you're sitting beside someone and you don't know what they look like what if we need evidence all right turn back around look at them again see if you've got the eyes right okay now for some of you you have minimum things on so here's what I want you to do listen up here's your exercise I want you to change one thing of your person simply means take off

your glasses do something different turn back around turn back around back to back back to back turn around and change something on you they can't see it change one thing on you okay everybody did it everybody did it okay change one thing on you turn back around see if you noticed it what did they change all right all right turn back around again this is important turn back around again I want you to change something else so you have two changes I want you to change something else if you possibly can use your creativity you're

not supposed to be looking at each other okay change something else change something else change something else how difficult is it change right change is difficult right turn back around see if you noticed all right turn back around okay it's getting crazy right for the third time I need to change one more thing oh okay back to back okay I need you to change one more thing one more thing and I want to see if you notice it's the little changes that take place in our life it's a little changes you are here for growth

expansion [Music] sometimes we have to get out of our comfort zone okay now turn back around Sarah oh my God all right all right how many of you noticed the changes did you notice the changes okay good you did very good you followed directions now have a seat have a seat have a seat have a seat okay quick question here because I'm watching you and observing you how many of you you made three changes show a hands okay Power Three create great how many of you when I said okay you follow great directions you felt

good when I said good you felt a good direction show hands good good good okay now how many of you when you turn back around you start putting things back in place so help me with this all this wonderful information you're learning here at mind Valley are we going to implement a change or are we going to go back to our old ways oh [Music] see how quick that was automatically you made three changes first of all you didn't even know who you were sitting next to the person could be the person of your dreams

the person could be the answer to the piece of your puzzle that's missing that person could be someone you need the most at that particular moment that person could be a sociopath or a psychopath do me a favor look at the person right beside you and say are you a little psycho now the person back there just said now there was one person back there just said how'd you know oh my God so the question is we're learning all these great things all these thought leaders all this wonderful information but how committed are you to

the change how committed are you it just took a Split Second for you to go back to the old way because it felt uncomfortable to have your glasses and your pants it felt uncomfortable to have one shoe off it felt uncomfortable it felt uncomfortable for some of you that took off your underwear it felt uncomfortable it felt uncomfortable but you automatically went back to the old ways that if we cannot accept change then we're gonna have a hard time with growth let's change so the thing of the subject today can I touch you there I

want to Encompass all the things that's going to help you grow you only have one opportunity here in this earth some of you may believe in reincarnation but you only have one opportunity in this earth to live your best life and that's what I want to help you with is that okay are we going to take notes are we going to take notes okay so good they look at her she says I got my notes I don't know about rest of the role but I got mine all right so here's one of the things I

want to talk to you about is the power of communication study done well over 50 years ago by Dr maharabian and the study says that our words are seven percent of our communication someone say seven percent seven percent so the question I want to ask you the words that are coming out of your mouth are they powerful or powerless poison or potent passionate or passive the words one of the most feared words in the world is death one of the most revered words in the world is Mother and one of the most isolated words in

the world is alone the words that are coming out of your mouth met someone early today just saying the word cancer is feared in over 12 languages the words that are coming out of your mouth every actor and actress in Hollywood is waiting for that script with the right words when you wake up every morning what words are you using are you using them to uplift to motivate to transform to destroy your words once they are out you cannot retrieve them your words seven percent according to the study tonality is 38 of your communication 38

there's a saying that goes it's not just what you say but remix it's not just what you say and how you say it it's what they hear [Music] foreign